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my dad and my life
Okay I am a christian and I want to go to a christian college, but my dad dosn't believe in God and he knows I want to go to the college and tonight he told me that I should forget about it. He said that if I go there I will get married and marry a someone from there and he isn't gonna like my dad because he isn't a christian or something like that. I know they aren't like that. He thinks all of this is dumb. He said that his daughter is going to grow up and become a pastor's wife. When I go to college he isn't gonna feel great like my daughter went to this college! My mom will but my dad won't. I was crying today since he said that today and I hate it! Please help me and I'm sorry it was so long.
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Your answer really is not that difficult, You need to chose who you are going to serve, the Flesh or God. Yes as christians we are to repect our parents but that only goes so far, after salvation we reach an age where we are responsible for our choices.
What means more to you doing God's will or doing your fathers.
Yes, that could mean your relationship with him could be hurt for some time by your choice but even Christ says that we as chistians will be persecuted for our beliefs.
I can see where He would feel like he would be disliked by a christian son-in-law but isn't he getting way ahead of himself?
I see that as just an excuse, becauase then he might have to admit that he really feels lost.
Lots of prayers
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your dad needs to get over it you can go to any college you want and your dad should support you because not everybody goes to college so explain to your dad that you love him and it hurts you for him to discourge you you dont have to go the same college he went to you have your own dreams to fufull not his you know i hope i helped remeber stay strong hes the wrong one here not you
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Forget him, when it comes time to go to college you will be an adult. He will no longer have "control" over you, and you can go to whatever college you want. I say-- go for it!
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Well, honey, it's not up to your Dad where you go to college. You can make up your own mind about that. But there are consequences. You may be able to fund your education through scholarships. You may be able to get student loans (though the government is going to ask for your Dad's tax records and they are going to say that he has an expected contribution amount). Are you willing to forgo your parents' help in order to go to this college? It'd be a tough decision to make. I went to a university with scholarships. My Dad wanted me to live at home and go to the local community college. It was a struggle, but I did it and I did it on my own. I hope you can figure out a way to get what you want without hurting your relationship with your dad.
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Have you tried explaining to your dad WHY you are a Christian? I'm not saying you have to force your religion on him, but maybe he will understand a little more about it if you explain a few aspects of it. He has his beliefs and you have yours. He needs to respect that.
Tell him it's ridiculous to assume that you will marry someone you meet at the college. This is about you, your religion, and your education. You aren't going there to meet guys. Assure your father that regardless of what religion you practice or what college you attend, you will make him proud of you. Plus, I doubt you would ever consider marrying a man that hates your father because of religion.
If you find it hard to explain these things to your father, perhaps you should consider family counseling so the two of you can express your opinions to an unbiased third party that can help sort out these issues.
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