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I'm new to this site so bare with me.

I've been a christian for almost 10 years, Active in a independent fundamental baptist church.

I have been married to my lovely wife Renee, for seven years with four beautiful children.
My two youngest children have Downs Syndrome.

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ok, i really havent been into religion at all so i would like to know what being christian is. and whats the difference between different things like lutherns, prespiterians, etc. that kind of stuff because ive heard people saying theres a difference. all i know is that im christian. and if i wanted to get involved with religion where should i start? and going to church isnt one of the ways i want to do it at first cause i wanna get a backround about it first before i go. thanks in advance..

If you feel you are a christian first, do you understand Was a true christian is?
A christian is: a saved person that is trying to follow Christ and His will for your life.

I was raised lutheran and methodist have friends that use to be catholic, most teach that you have to work to get to heaven. That is called legalism and nowhere in the Bible does it say that. I am a christian and I go to a Baptist church.

Are you saved?
Do you know what salvation means?

If the answer to those is yes, that is very good

According to the bible that is where it all starts from. Getting in to the Word of God to fine what God says about things. You don't have to Go to church to get to heaven but it is a comandment of God.

I would try to find a good bible based baptist church. If what they teach doesnot go along with what Gods word says then don't go back.

please keep in mind Gods word is not always nice
but it is true and He gives you what He knows you need from it.

If you have any questions please e-mail me at
tomlinsonpr@yahoo.com

God bless

i am writing a school paper due tomorrow and i need to compare a parable from the catholic bible to working with disabled people

does anyone have any idea which one i can use?

try: Matt. 13: 44

it is the parable of hidden treasure

In working with the disabled you see the miricles that God coes and how the "hidden treasure" in your work is really the people you work with.

my cousin has a girl and they both want to screw each other but his girl want to wait for chassity what should he do????????????????????

If He really loves Her He will wait till she is ready otherwise the relationship will not last.

can someone tell me all about Lucifer (is that his name) and God's argument and how hell was created and stuff? thanks

Lucifer was one of God's angels, He represents beauty, music and deceit. He hat become jealous of God and His glory. He wanted to take Gods place
and was cast from heaven to earth. in Genesis when they speak of the serpant in the garden that is Lucifer, also know as Satan and many other names. Since the beginning he has hated Christ and uses every opportunity to pull people against Christ. He's not against morals only Christ.

As far as Hell not much is stated about it's creation. I know that for those who are not saved through Christ Hell is not as bad as what is to come after Christ's second comeing. Picture being surrounded by black space where no light is ever seen and every inch of your body burns forever. that is what is described as the firery furnace which happens after the final judgement.

lucifer knows that is his final destination and wants to take as many souls with him as possible. because he knows God weeps for every souls lost.
He wants to hurt God as much as he can and does not care who he takes down with him.

i was talking on my cell to a boy i'm not allowed to date (but am dating anyway) and my parents now have the call records and i'm afraid they're going to call him, and find out i've been seeing him against their wishes. should i tell the truth (and end up grounded until i'm 60) or say it's someone else? i have no clue what to do next? help!

TELL THEM THE TRUTH
I learned the hard way many time and trust me it is the only thing to do
I'm sure if you lie to them about this you've lied before about other things and been caught right?
don't you think things turn out easier for you when you tell the truth then when you lie?

ok her is the deal im a christian and my boyfriends is not we have promise rings and we really love each other but he is 20 nd im 15 is it wrong?

Well i can't agree with alot of the other answers, There are many issues with Him not being a Christian. For one the bible says we are not to marry out side of the faith. It tells us that for good reason.

now it is possible that He could become one but in most cases I have seen the christian partnet compromise their beliefs for the other.
in a relationship compromises are made but, are you willing to compromise your walk with God?
And if you do are you willing to accept the conciquences for that choice?
That is between you and God.

The age difference does bother me however, your parents are responsible to decide what is right for you not me. If they are saved, they should know what is best. follow their guidance unless it conflicts with the doctorine of the bible.

This year has been rough.
I gave up on my best friend after saving her
life for the third time due to her heavy
drinking, I couldn't handle protecting her like
I did anymore. She was my very best friend,
moving on hurt so bad.

My boyfriend that I love cheated on
me, so of course we broke up. His new girlfriend
happens to be the girl he knew I hated more
then anything.

My great friend, Michael stepped in.
He became my big brother, my support system.
He was the only one that got me through losing
everyone. Well, he started to like me. Once I
told him I wasn't up for that after everyone
broke my trust, he left too.

Now I have nothing.
I'm alone all the time, I have other
friends but none of them come close to
those three. How do I step back up and
get on with life?
I used to be so outgoing and full of
life, I always had plans and people who
loved me. Now, No ones here.

What can I do?

This might sound like and odd question but where is God in all of this?

Do you think He has abandoned you also or did you not stop to think,
He is right there! through all of you trials and suffering if you only ask Him to be He will be.
People may and will disapoint you but if you can trust in Christ, trusting others will be easier and more worth while in the future.

tomlinsonpr@yahoo.com

My mom and Dad hate each other. My Dad is an ass and my mom always complain that I am just like him just because I agree with what he says. And it isn't because of any reason I just think that his ideas are smarter then hers. Like for example: i was doing my homework and i didn't know this answer so she said to just ask the teacher and he'll give me all the answers but my dad said I should look at the answers at the back of the book cuz then I'd try and see how i got the answers and then I'd get it. And then she told the whole family (aunts, everyone) that I like Dad more then her and now everyone hates me because I like my dad more then her and it's not even true! And she asked me to fix the remote but I said I didn't know how and I meant it and she yelled back, YOUR JUST LIKE YOUR FATHER! God! someone help me feel better because she's a bitch but I always cry and get depressed.

First issue with your question please stop disrepecting your parents by calling them names.
it only shows your stubborness that you got from them.

Sounds like you Mother has issues with your father and she cannot find a non-harmful way to vent them. Have you tried talking to her sometime about them. I know most parents don't want to share there problems with there children but, she already is and not in a good way.

You have to be patient and pick your words carefully. Some times it is better to stay quiet and pick your battles.

God willing, and with some prayer you can get through it.

lots of prayer
tomlinsonpr@yahoo.com

my girlfriends mom caught me and her daughter having sex last weekend and totally went mad but now she wants to talk to me about it or i should write a letter the choice is mine...what should i say and what should i do

You might not like this,
but if you thought you were responsible enough to make decisions about having sex then, your responsible enough to talk to her about it.
She has he daughters best interest in mind. To me writing a letter about it would be seen as an insult.
If you care about the Girl you shoud respect the parents.

Okay I am a christian and I want to go to a christian college, but my dad dosn't believe in God and he knows I want to go to the college and tonight he told me that I should forget about it. He said that if I go there I will get married and marry a someone from there and he isn't gonna like my dad because he isn't a christian or something like that. I know they aren't like that. He thinks all of this is dumb. He said that his daughter is going to grow up and become a pastor's wife. When I go to college he isn't gonna feel great like my daughter went to this college! My mom will but my dad won't. I was crying today since he said that today and I hate it! Please help me and I'm sorry it was so long.

Your answer really is not that difficult, You need to chose who you are going to serve, the Flesh or God. Yes as christians we are to repect our parents but that only goes so far, after salvation we reach an age where we are responsible for our choices.
What means more to you doing God's will or doing your fathers.
Yes, that could mean your relationship with him could be hurt for some time by your choice but even Christ says that we as chistians will be persecuted for our beliefs.
I can see where He would feel like he would be disliked by a christian son-in-law but isn't he getting way ahead of himself?
I see that as just an excuse, becauase then he might have to admit that he really feels lost.

Lots of prayers
tomlinsonpr@yahoo.com

hey if a guy that you like is talking to you, and he's brought up the subject of his basement and how its awesome and stuff, is that subtley hinting that he might want to hang out? or just saying it just to say it? haha because im not sure if hes hinting to me that he might want to hang out, or hes just telling me about his house for no reason. thanksss.

My opinion he is probably looking for one thing, and I think you know what I'm talking about. I say avoid people like that because you start out trying to "do the right thing" in those situations and you end up hurt in the long run.

Sin will take you farther then you planned on going and always costs you more then you ever wanted it to.

theres this kid in my math class who is a COMPLETE JERK. i mean he's really rude to everyone in the class and the teacher and he does whatever he can to try to keep people from learning. like he'll sit there and bang on his desk forever and the teacher tells him to stop but he won't. and i was going to sit in a chair and he saw me, he just pulled it away from me and sat in it himself. he's also failing that class really bad because he doesn't even try to listen or do homework, or anything. (i don't really care about that it's his decision) but are the any ways to teach him a lesson and show him how much of a jerk he is so he'll just stop? also, please don't tell me to go to guidance or talk to a teacher because i already did and they talked to him but he didn't change. thanks!

Truth be told there is not much you can do. It sounds like he comes from a Home without much dicipline. If this is the case the problem can only be fixed at his Home. I know that doesn't help much but, take a look at him, he is the way this world is heading FAST.

I'm a teenage girl (raised catholic) who has been atheist/agnostic/unsure since the summer. I have encountered several recent events in my life that have lead me to believe that there really is a God after all. All of my friends are really strong christians- but I just don't think that God is real.

I don't know if Christianity is right- or even real... but I'm feeling compelled to recommit my life to Christ. What does that mean anyway? How can you "commit your life" to someone who isn't even real? Who IS Jesus? I mean this whole thing makes no sense. How can there be a God when there are so many other religions like islam and such? My prayers never came true as a Christian.

Oh, by the way- I hate going to church and i don't see the point in doing it. It never even brought me closer to this so-called God. To be a true Christian (not a poser) do you HAVE to attend mass? What if I just want to have my OWN faith? I also don't believe in Bible verses and stuff- like I don't think that the people in it were real. Why can't we just have faith in GOD and not all the crap that goes along with it?

to answer your last question please look up luke 6:46
"And why call ye, Lord, lord, and do not the things which I say?"

As far as God being real you need to pray about it and ask Him.

I'm not sure of all of the ins and out of the catholic faith I do know they baptise people during their childhood and lack the biblical knowledge of salvation.

If you look tward salvation you must only repent with your lips and heart to God not a man. admit your are a sinner and ask for Him to come into your heart.

That is All that is required biblically to have salvation.

As for going to church think of that as being fed spiritually. without food your body will not grow, well without being Fed spiritually you cannot gor in the Lord. You should read your bible and pray, that will help to grow but without a bible based Church you will not be all that you can for Christ.

To "commit your life" is really telling God that you surrender your will to His.

I first would make sure you have the first before you worry about making other commitments that you may not be ready for.

I'll pray you find what your looking for.
tomlinsonpr@yahoo.com

Since snow is just frozen rain, why isn't there ever lightning when it snows?

There can be however it is usually just cloud to cloud lightening, it also thunders these types of snowstorms are called thundersnow

what was the period in time when alcohol was illegal, like entirely. THIS IS NOT a homework question. we were just discussing it in class and i was just wondering if anyone knew when it was or anything about it. thank you.

the prohibition era started in the late 1920's and ended mid 1930's
the goverment was dealing with a large organized crime problem in the country during this period due to bootlegging, selling of alcohol illegally.
the goverment was at the time trying to maintian a sence of order and morality in the country and felt that alcohol was a vile drink and banned its consumption by adding an amendment to the constitution.

please! i really need help/ answer for this problem- its for extra credit and i really need it. please somebody i have no clue!

Little Red Riding Hood was taking a basket of walnuts to her granny. Along came the wolf and demanded half of the nuts. But luckily Red found another nut along the road. Then the wolf returned and took half the nuts she had. A kindly squirrel gave her two more. When the wolf returned the last time, he settled for only one fourth of her nuts. Red made it to her granny's with 15 nuts. How many did she start with?

working backwards 3/4 = 15
1/4=5
18before squerrels 2
before wolf 36
before finding 1 , 35
35 is your answer
it never states that the wolf recieved and nutd the first time.

I am still stuck on this issue. As you could see from my past questions, I need serious help with this issue. My husband does not accept me for my baptism. Even though I was like 5 and have not sinned and did not know the difference as I do now, does that make it wrong? I feel like I am going to lose my husband because of this. He will not leave me. This is my personal feeling. I want my husband to accept me fully. We have difference views on certain topics in the Bible. He does not believe certain things I have to say. He is always right. How am I suppose to know which interpretation is the right one? Was I baptised wrong? Should I follow my husband and his belief for the sake of our marriage and our future children and be baptised in his church? We are both Christians, but different kind of churches. But I only believe in one baptism. Should I not be baptised and just suck it up and go to church with him and forget it? I do not want to have to go to different churches and how could I raise my child that way? He will not leave his church and allow us to be "one" as marriage should be. I am willing to do this. What should I do? I am so lost. I don't know if I should talk to a therapist or what.

First thing I would sugggest is to pray about it. If you have then you know more about your situation then I do.

to understand enough at 5 to be saved and baptised is rare but if you grew up in a sound christian home it can happen.
The idea of being re-baptised if the first baptism was a biblical one then there would be no need for it.
It does say in Epesians 4:22-33 it does say that the husband it to be the leader of the home. that would include Church as well. But with that authority comes the responsibility,
meaning if He was to lead the family in the wrong direction He is the one that has to answer for it before God, But only if He is truely saved. If not then, That would be the first thing I would focus on.
And I know you might not like the next thing, for it to work you have to be submissive to him.

Many Churches require there members to be baptised because jesus states it as one of the main requirements of membership. If you are joining a chuch with the same Faith base (baptist to baptist)you donot need to be baptised again.

I do not know all the details about which denomination you and he are so I will not say who I think is right, only that what ever church you find together make sure it is doctrinally sound.

I would suggest talking to your pastor before a therapist because most therapists come from secular backgrounds.

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