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break ups are soo confusing
13/F
me and this guy were going out last year. it wasnt very serous we didnt really talk. we were 12 gimme a break. and so he broke up with me right before school started and then in like november he said it was the biggest mistake of his life blah blah blah so we started going out again and this time it got wayy serous and it got a little to much for me and then we both changed our feelings and broke up on friday and now i kind of miss having a boyfriend but i dont miss him. anyways now hes telling my friends he still likes me and he kind of hinted he wants to get back together. i hinted back that i dont want to and told my friends i dont want to go out with him. a few of my friends like him and i know it wont work out and im pretty sure hes just using me because he wants a girlfriend. but also, if he really is nice and sincere i dont want to hurt him. and if he is just a jerk i dont wanna play into his game. how can i tell? it seems like he only says sweet stuff when he wants somthing. wich is kind of annoying. like hes working twords a goal and him being sweet is only to help him achieve this goal. omg this is very long sorry!
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I say just forget this guy. Not to sound rude, but both of you are young and experimenting with relationships most likely for the first time. He obviously can't make up his mind if he wants to be with you or not, so it's time to move on. You said yourself you don't want to get back together with him. Tell him once, and firmly for that matter, you are simply not interested in dating him and would like to remain friends. If he doesn't get the picture, he's obviously immature and isn't worth your time anyway. Go have fun and meet some new guys!
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He's not mature enough yet to handle a relationship. It's as simple as that.
I disagree that a 12 or 13-year-old can't know what love is yet. I think that emotions are just as real at that age as they are at any other. However, it takes more that that to have a successful relationship with someone. It takes a willingness to commit, an honest desire to put the other person's welfare ahead of your own, and the ability to handle it when things aren't going so well. Clearly, he's not ready to do any of those things.
And that's fine! I wouldn't have been ready to do it at 13 either, and odds are, neither are you. It's just too soon. My advice is to tell him that right now, you don't want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. He needs to stop pursuing it with you because it just isn't going to happen, and if he tries to make it happen it will only push you away. Stop "hinting" and tell him the straight truth.
In a few years, who knows? Maybe he'll be ready then.
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I know how you feel!I've had this problem so many times. So basically, around when you're 12 or 13, everyone is just starting to get into this whole dating thing. EvERYONE wants a boyfriend or girlfriend, I mean, it doesn't even matter if two people even like each other at your age, everyone just wants to say they have a boyfriend/girlfriend, you know?
Well here's my advice, I would definitely not fool around with this guy any longer. He sounds unreal and untrustworthy. I think you're right when you said that he may only want you, just because he simply wants to say he has a girlfriend. I imagine that you must be really annoyed with all of this. I had a boyfriend that I broke up with, and after he kept calling me and telling me, "Oh you're so beautiful...I love you...I need you." That is total bullcrap. Noone even knows what love is at 13. So, you should stop this guy before he becomes totally completely obsessed with you like mine did!
Just tell him sometime, (its best to say it to his face), "Look, I'm not interested in you anymore. I moved on and I think you should too. It's not going to work, and its never going to work, so I think we should see other people." Don't be afraid to get a little mean with this guy. If saying it nicely won't work- don't hesitate to get a little nasty, or else he will never leave you alone.
You want him to know that you're mature and that you can move on from things. Tell him to leave you alone once, and then after that, just ignore him. Find another guy who really likes you for who you are, and most importantly, that YOU really like.
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honey, you need to just end it for good. you obviously dont have feelings for him in that way and he's just playing with your mind. even if he's nice & sincere, you cant string him along for ever so just break it of for good.
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