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ok...my step-dad is VERY VERY VERY VERY racist....its so annoying...and niether my mom or dad or step-sister or step-bro are racist at all...and he just talks about n*gg*r this and n*gg*r that ans it just gets so annoying and no matter how we all tell him how annoying it is and how he needs 2 stop he just goes "well thats my opinion...blah blah blah" and we tell him we dont care about his opinion so much that he has 2 tell us a million times and its just so annoying but im not racist at all and i just hate it when he or anyone talks bad about anyone....its just so annoying...and its not like u can talk 2 him cuz hes so opinionated he doesnt listen 2 anyone....what do i do...i cant stand it when he gets on one of his talk things and we r all yelling at him and he wont stop.....help!!

go on a little strike. For every racist thing he says dont talk to him for a day. Tell him your doing this, even if he tells you he doesnt care or it doesnt bother him ,trust me it will get to him when hes looking for something or needs to know something. He'll get ticked off and maybe wont change his mind but atleast he'll stop saying it in front of you. sadly some racist people will never change their minds all that easily, because it seems you tried everything. But i could research and ask around about how to get people to be more excepting, if you want that sort of help send one to my inbox.

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ok well i have this friend and she is 5'1 and 75 pounds!! and i mean shes tan and pretty and happy and has tones of friends and doesnt care about it! but i know shes unhealthy and i dont know how to tell her! i mean im 5'1 and im 85 pounds...10 pounds hevier! how do i tell her that her weight might be dangourous!

well the best thing is to be straight up, does she have symptoms for an eating disorder? Go on an online search on eating disorders and see if the symptoms matched. Some people are just EXTREMELY skinny, so if she eats normally and all that, shes just a stick. If she does have some symptoms just tell her your worried as a friend, she will understand you if you guys are close enuff. Have other friends of hers help you along too so your not alone.

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well i have a really big problem with self confidence. i mean everyone tells me im pretty, and adults told me when i go to high school all the guys are going to be after me. but i just always feel soo ugly and fat and stuff and i have no idea what to do, because iwanna meet new people but it seems impossible because i have no confidece. please do not delete + i rate high.

well friends would definetly be a big raise of confidence, so i think your going to need friends for confidence. and vice versa. stop calling yourself fat and ugly that doesnt help yourself. If you REALLY feel these things excercise, and get some cute outifts and makeup to make you feel the way you want to, or even a haircut, you'll feel fresh and renewed. About meeting people, its not a task at all i sware. If its the hardest thing you have to do in life your in luck . Making friends comes naturally Pre-Kers do it, you should be find. Just go up to someone and say hi, or if you see a cute guy, introduce yourself, common dont be scared. You need to help yourself feel good :-D

good luck sweets
xoxo

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alrighty then my best friend that i've been bests friends w/ for like 4 yrs won't speak to me. and i had no idea why until yesterday --- i'm going out w/ chris and i just found out that she had feelings for him and i told her that i'd break up w/ him just so she could try to have him and she wont say a word and i try to talk to her but she just ignores me so i dont know if i should break up w/ chris...i mean i really really like him and he treats me right.....doesnt try to have sex w/ me, he just holds my hand and kisses me, and is always there when i need him most...i just dont know wat to do...help please i need it
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definetly dont break up with him if you still like him!! This girl is not a good friend at all! First off you didnt even KNOW she had feelings for him, how in the heck would you know? Second of all if she still doesnt talk to you even AFTER you said you'd break up with him shes got some real mood problems, so stay with this guy if you like him, your so called friend will have to either get over it or just get an attitude change, totally!! or maybe both!! good luck sweets. her friendship isnt worth breaking up with that really sweet guy.

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Um, like my period started today and it usually lasts 5 days which means its last day wil be on Tuesday... the first day of school!... so like I was wondering if you all knew anything that could shorten it by like just a day... for example things I could do n such. Thanks

theres nothing to shorten your period, nature is nature. But you could try using a tampon to feel a bit more comfortable, i know that will help, and maybe even excercising will help you feel not so moody or bloated. Good luck!

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well.. i wrote the other day and i told yall that there was this guy on my bus.. and he asked me out.. and i said no.. hahaha.. cuz i thought he was joking.. but he wasnt.. and yea.. so.. me and him are cool again.. but there is this one little girl who likes him.. and everytime he is with me.. she starts talking mess about me to all her little friends.. so.. i didnt want that.. so today.. he went up to talk to me.. and he was like.. " hey.. so you gunna holla at me or wut? " and i was like.. oh.. nope.. srry.. jessie might get mad.. and he was like what?? so.. i told him she was talking mess.. and now hes mad at her.. and shes even more mad at me.. so.. i dont know what to do.. should i stop talking to him?? or what?? ill rate ya if you give good advice :)

dont stop talking to him, just ignore this jessie person shes stupid! the guy is cool and my advice is you should definetly try going out with him he sounds cool. Dont make thsi guy suffer for some jealous crapwhore girl, you know? If you need ANY help, inbox me!! gl

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How do you know if a guy likes you and if he/you does like him how do you get him to notcie you??

Well if hes not letting on to anyone you dont know at all, guys have a way of keeping secrets. But if he seems awfully flirty and rumors go around that he does like you its probably true. Get him to notice you by being yourself and really flirty,cute, & fun. Good luck!

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Well, tomorrow night i'm getting my hair done and I'm thinking of dying it brown with some highlights. My hair is blonde right now, and I have fair skin. My natural color is a light brown, so do you think it would look nice on me? If not, what are some good colors for someone with fair skin? Thanks a lot!! I really need the help haha.

I think brown would look ok, but even better you could try strawberry blonde. I know lots of people with fair skin and strawberry blonde hair, its your best bet. Hope i helped :-D

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im 13, and my best guy friend asked me how far ive been with a guy. ive never been kissed and i told him i have but now im scared he'll be like WHO idk why i lied but i felt bad so what should i do?

i can totally relate to you. I'll tell you why i think you might've lied, probably to impress him and not sound like your 'unexperienced' and it was one of those spur of the moment things. You can turn it into an innocent girl kind of thing, if he ever asks you who you kissed just say I was just playing with you, I've never been kissed. Make it sound like you were joking rather than lying, you can turn it so innocent. Your only 13, so its not crazy that you have never been kissed. This guy will totally understand he might even like the fact u havent done ne thing with a guy.. some guys get protective like that, good luck sweetie, if you need more help inbox me

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im having a sleepover and i need a theme.there will be 3 girls there and we r 14 so plz help wiv sum good themes i rate well

every think of French Cafe for a theme? oOo La La!

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nun of mi friendz r cheeleaders and i wanna b 1. idk if i should try out wut if they make fun of me or say its not like hott n stuff. wut do i do?? nd plz dont say dont care wut they think. my friendz r very open nd honest.

if their good friends they may express their opinion but not spew out negativity. Go for it, high school is the best years of your life, dont have them pass you by. Colleges like to see an active kid, if your heart says do it, screw the crowd and have some big frigen fun.!

good luck babe
xoxo

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Ok. For about one year I have randomly been getting itchey and getting red all over my body. I never knew why it happened, but it just completly goes away after a couple minutes.
About two weeks ago, I figured out that it happened whenever I got warm or angry, irritated, etc...
So I tryed going into my basement (the coldest place in my house) and laying on the cement. It goes away, but it comes back when I get warm or irritated again. I don't know what to do.

its probably some kind of complicated rash.. try seeing a doctor though because I would definetly try medical help for that. But maybe someone on here knows about doctors or had the same Xact problem.. hope you feel better :-D.. P.s. maybe this whole thing is about stress, try relaxing a little more, REMEMBER, your entitled to some down time on the couch with a new magazine or just listening to some music with a cold glass of water in your room.

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Is there a limit on how much space you can have in your profile?

for AIM, yes there is a limit for your profile, if its another program your talking about, send it to my inbox, hope i helped :-D

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ok... there is this guy i like. everyone says he likes me but i dont think he does. he doesnt talk to me anymore like he used to. when im around him he acts different then when anyone else is there. my mom and his mom both think he likes me but i dont think he does... PLZ HELP

Dont let your emotions get the best of you. It also sounds like your coming a little down on your self. Chances are if everyone is saying he likes you, he does. I think your getting a little paranoid in a way, but dont worry we all do it. Sometimes life is so sucky we just want to believe with heart and soul that nothing good can happen to us and it CAN. As far as him not talking to you.. did you ever consider making that first effort? It may seem like a big step but in the end you'll benefit. Why dont you invite him to hang out. Ok, it may sound like a big deal but i sware it is proven the best way to find out what any guys really like. Most guys put on shows in public just because its a masculine thing ;-). If you want something a little less social, you guys can go to the movies together, but if you want to talk to him your place or his is good. If you feel way too bashful for any of this, try catching him online, just say hey ! havent talked to you lately..

just make small talk from there. Ask him how he feels about you, i know its fricken scary but once you say it you will feel so relieved of the millions of questions your head is fighting with itself over. Gooodluck sweetie, im here if you need more advice, GO GET THAT GUY!! lol

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ok i made out with my bestfriends cousin and like i was actin like nothin because we dont want my bestfriend to kno but now hes actin like nothin happend and i really need to talk to him about it but i dont know how to approch him...any ideas would be grreat!! i need to know if he likes me and why he did it because i like him alot and we went out b4 but didnt do anything and now that were not goin out hes kissin and cuddlin and holdin hands with me...plz help me!!

ok you need to have your best friend because if its her cousin she'll probably be around a lot. Or if not, at a time when you KNOW shes somewhere else and not at his house IM him. Just ask him what happened to what you guys had, tell him you guys need to really vochalize your thoughts to eachother, its important. Say your confused ... and you have no clue where your at in your relationship.

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I really love to play guitar.Its my favorite thing.But now that i play guitar i wanna start writing lyrics and songs.But the thing is ive got nothing.What should i do?

im not the best with music, but i do know some stuff about song writing. Treat it like a poem, if you have a bad day, let your emotions out and theres your song. As sooon as you get any sort of strong emotion in your life (which wouldnt be a suprise with lifes twists, this website is living proof) write it down, and theres your song. good luck

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I am sick of guys treating me badly or not being right for me. I'm going back to school soon and I want to meet someone new who makes me laugh etc, what qualities do guys look for in a girl and how should I go about meeting people?

Guys look for girls who are sweet, yet dont come on to strong. Basically be yourself, and no one can reject yuou. Beyond that it depends on the guys taste, as far as what hes into and what your into, you dig? Anyway, i think you should have no fear of saying hi to that cute guy sitting next to you in math class, etc. If your sitting or you have a locker near some really hot guy dont let life pass you right by, SAY HI!!!! Lol.. hey that rhymes. Anyway.. make some girlfriends too, they might have hot brothers or no a lot of guys you can meet, but lol thats not the only reasons you should be friends with them, they might be really cool people and you always need close friends to fall back on wen all the guys are being pigs.

Good luck sweets xoxo

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Hi well I already have a boyfriend but I bumpped into this other guy and he is so hot but I don't want to break up with my boyfriend.
I don't want to break his heart!!
THe other boy likes me and we talk but if My boyfriend found out I'd break his heart!
what do I do???!!! plz don't erase this because I need total help!!

aww. this is a sad situation. But truth be it, it would actually be a lot meaner to keep on going out with your current boyfriend and secretly not like him than to just break up with him! Make sure he knows this, tell him you didnt want to ever have to be untrue to him just because of what you felt in your heart. And i know it may sound really traditional and all but hey it works; tell him you want to just be friends, and end it there.. unfortunately these things in life are hard, but i hope ive helped, hey if you ever need anymore help on this, just leave one in the inbox, k?

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which works better to lose weight
yoga
pilates
aerobics
running


thanks!!

i think all of the above choices could all work in their own different ways, but hmm let me get down to the question you really are asking hehe. I think they all work equally but on different sections of the body. You with me? But i think in order to really keep in shape you should try doing 2 things over 1, just whenever you feel like your overworking yourself, stop. Its unhealthy. I think the best choice would be to do Pilates, like yoga, it has all the different positions of the body minus the spirtual crap. I dont know but something freaks me out about that. So definetly Pilates, and Aerobics. Aerobics is very upbeat and it keeps you alive and moving around, where running your doing the same exact thing and you might grow tired faster because your just so BORED. Make sure that your spending good money and not eating junky foods because that will defeat the whole purpose of any sort of work outs. Good luck, happy excercising :-D

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whats the best liguid eyeliner that comes out thin, doesnt smudge, and lasts long?

Try any product made by sephora, and i guarentee good results. Not to mention they have like a rainbow of colors, and you will find yourself looking at your best :-D gl xoxo

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