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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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Alrighty...here i go...well i was supposed to graduate this year but like a week before graduation my guidance counselor calls me and says that i don't have enough credits to graduate...so im not...she said i would have to come back next year...I ABSOLUTELY HATE MY SCHOOL...i get in fights and everything bc i have a bad temper and ppl just piss me off...i was seriously thinking about dropping out...but i dont know...i need some help....

well first off.. maybe you can take some summer courses... for high school.. but anywayy i say don't drop out it's just one more year.. and if you want to become successful you are going to need to stay in high school and get your diploma .. because if you don't you are not going to be able to go into college.. etc. but enought about that.. you are going to be in with a whole new set of people maybe you won't get into many fights this year.. but idk what your school is like so i wouldn't know.. but i think you will be alright but i am telling you .. do not drop out.. you can't do very much without a diploma! hope i helped.. and best of luck!

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Ok, I'll have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 weeks, tomorrow. I've heard rumors that if his g/f wont have sex with him that he dumps them after a month. And I'm 13 and I don't want to have sex. He is having a party next weekend and invited me to it. Its a pool/birthday party at his house. If my mom lets me go, I'm going. But if that rumors true...he well might wanna ya know. What should I do?

tell him how it is.. just be like "im not ready, im way too young." he should be respectful of your decision.. i think he will be .. and if not then it just wasn't meant to be... so just make sure you let him know how it is.. and remember.. don't always listen to what people say because most of the time they are just rumors... or trying to get you two to break up! hope i helped

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i want to learn self defence but my parents don't want me in a class yet. i really need help because 1 time i was attacked about 2 yrs ago and i barely fought off the attacker who stole my purse(100$) what are cool/easy/basic moves that i could master quickly, please im paranoid that i will need these moves to defend myself thanx (i rate high)

did you try asking your parents to let you got to maybe a karaty class? if not maybe you should.. anything that you would learn in a defence class you will most likely learn there too... they teach you all the kicks and stuff.. plus another move this may sound funny but it works if tripping.. if the take your purse and run.. if you have fast reflexes.. you can trip then and then they would fall and wallah! you have your purse back.. or maybe even order/ rent a tybo work out video.. that should work..they have liek punches and kicks and stuff in there.. hope i helped! and good luck!

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ok, well here's the deal. my bofriend and i hav been going out for about...3-4 months. and i love him,but i dont no if its because HE says he loves me every few minutes im with him. ive thought about breaking up with him, but wen i told my best friend she said "he loves you too much. if u broke up with him, it would kill him" and hes tried to make out with me, but i rejected him. wat should i do?

you need to do what you want to do.. of course it would kill him.. but in a month or so he will pick himself back up and go out looking for a new girl... it just wasn't right between the both of you.. just let him know that you still want to be friends etc. so maybe it sets him at better ease.. but you need to do what you want to do.. because if it isn't right there is no need wasteing your time being with someone you aren't going to marry when you could be out there looking for the right one.. soo follow your heart and do what you have to.. hope i helped..

xox.....

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ok so im going to be hosting a pool party..so of course i cant just not swim..! im also expecting my period the day of the party..i never use tampons so i dont think they will work the first time.. i hear they hurt and are tricky to use the first few times. what am i to do? any way to delay my period? im desperate enough to try stressing myself out on purpose because i hear stress delays it..what else can i do? should i try using the tampon? last month my period didnt come until like 10pm...will it come on the same time (10pm) this month?
5's for juS ABOUT anyone

deffidently use a tampon! get like the junior ones.. they are fit for teens and for people who never used them before.. yes they will work really well... if you use one you should be fine for 9 hours ... if you use the junior one they hardly hurt at all.. actually the first time i used one it didn't hurt at all and i was really supprized.. you just have to make sure you get it all the way up the farthest you can but not too far... they are also really comfortable.. you can't even realise that it is still in there.. so i advise you that if you get it try it.. and if you don't like it or if you are too scared don't... but if you are really stressed i think you could do it.. and who knows.. maybe you will be alright with it in.. and then whenever you want to go swimming and you have it.. you can put one in and your good to go.. i hope i helped and best of luck!

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Ok, I just learned that my boyfriend has had sex with ohter girls before we started to date. I dont want to do anything with him, but I just feel so disgusted. Im 14, and He's 15 and I cant believe he would do that. Im afraid of what he might try to do to me. He's hasnt ever tried anything before but I cant help to feel disgusted, my friend thinks I can do better than him and give him up since he lied to me so much, but I stil love him. Should I break up with him?

you should break up with him.. of course you will still love him but you have to let him go.. he had been with other girls so that kind of means he has no respect for you and may try and do something to you.. so i would dump him... just to make sure and i would have lost trust in him when he did that... and if you dont' have trust you don't have anything... but i'm not you... it is your decision.. make a wise one.. good luck hunny!

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ahh ok so im gonna have a job interview in a few days for banana republic and i have never done a job interview before im so scared they'll ask me a question i won't know what to say to!! any tips? and what kind of things do they ask you??

they will ask you like extra curricular activities that you were in... what other jobs you had... like stuff like that .. why they should hire you.. etc. they ask you really easy questions.. nothing too brain recking.. i think you will be alright.. just when then interview you.. make sure that you keep in your head that you are the right one for the job.. and that you let them know that you are a hardworker and will do anything in your power that you can to help.. etc. hope i helped!

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i recently i needed help with my g/f and i wasnt sure if i should break up with her or not.....well anyways, i broke up with her and now her family is mad at me and she told me that she was crying and everything like taht and now i feel really bad but i want to be friends still but she told me she still like sme......im So lost =(

IM GOING INSAINE!

don't worry about it.. girls of course will cry.. she just really liked you.. but oviously it wasn't working out.. so just tell her "sweetie i know you still like me and all but i want to be single for a while and who know's maybe after being single i will realize how much i liked you but i want you to know that i want us still to be friends and be close like we were when we were going out" believe me this may take some guts but as long as she knows that she is still in your heart she will be fine.. but she still will be sad.... even if she still likes you.. you should still tell her bc she needs to be re ensured that if anything happens that you are there for her 100% ... hope i helped.. and i hope everything works out alright for you!

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im the one who asked about what songs to play..well im getting a good list..am i being too demanding if i have a big list ? i just dont want crappy songs being played at my party..i want the dj to know what i want. honestly am i being too picky or will the dj be cool with me having a big list of songs to play?

of course he will be fine... your paying for him to be there and therefore he will want you to be happy! don't you worry .. you are not being too picky .. you are just a girl who know's what she wants! so be as picky as you want because you are the ruler of your party! hope i helped!

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I've been wearing slippers/flip flops recently, and they've been giving me blisters! ow

is there any kind of ointment or medicine to help heal my blisters?

neosporn... it helps absolutly anything and everything! hope i helped and hope your blisters go away.. yeahh flip flops will do that to you..

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ok. i'm going to be a freshmen and my boyfriend is going to be in 8th grade... he doesn't want to break up (i don't either) and we want to see each other. i'm going to see him at our friends bday...on the weekends (like every saturday for a movie or something).. and i'm taking an early schedule so i can go hang out with him after school. please give me suggestions of what ELSE to do.

well... if you two play any sports you could go to eachothers games.. or if not you could always go to like football games together or something and maybe have a "funday night friday" or something where you just hang otu and watch a movie together and eat popcorn! sorry i couldn't think of a lot but i hope what i gave you helped!

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Okay I moved to this school in 5th grade and met my BFF. We were BFF for 3 years and then after 7th grade I moved to somewhere else. Now 8th grade has ended and she visited me for 4 days in the summer. I discovered that I had outgrown her. Like, she still liked dolls and cute little-girl things, but I began to think about the world and politics and philosophy and that kind of stuff. So we pretty much had nothing to talk about, and I'm no longer excited when I get an email from her. What should I do?

just pick things... you should be able to start a convo with something.. but most of all still keep in touch with her.. because even tho she still likes all the girlyy things etc. it doesn't mean she's never going to grow up you know? soo one day you will talk to her and everything will be different.. you must have soemthign in commen to talk about but most likely you will want to email eachother instead of talking on the phone because if you talk on that phone that is when you could start to loose things to talk about soo keep it to the computer.. it's like that song.. " make new friends but keep the old.." how i helped and best of luck!

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14/f
there is this guy i hang out with...and he thinks i like him. He doesnt have alot of friends bcus he used to be a jerk. but he is a jerk to me and he is starting to be really mean. he says things like " i dont want to be ur boyfriend , so dont give me hugs" n stupid stuff liek that. i dont even like him! what should i say to him

if he starts to get cocky with you tell him off be like "look hunny... i don't know what everyone is telling you but you are just a friend to me and i don't want you to be my boyfriend.." etc. because if he is being a jerk to you then he needs to know that truth because he thinks he can get his way with you and he can't... and that is most likely why he is saying that.. because he wants you to do what he wants you to do and if you don't want him too he comes out with "fine you know what i never liked you anyway" kind of attitude... so make sure you let him know the next time because if you don't things could get out of hand... hope i helped.. and best of luck!

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i wrote to you about my attachment issues. your advice was great but the problem is my best friends are guys, or gurls that hang out with guys alot. i have like 3 girls best friends and thats cus i cant STAND girls most of the time, to much drama. Guys dont gossip or try to make up rumors. and nirther to the 3 girls i hang out with. but the girls i hang out wtih are also best friends with the guys i hang out with (confusing i kno, sry) what im asking is if the girls always want to hang out wtih the other guys how should i get them to hang out with just me?

okay, i agree too much drama! lol now in that case what you might want to hang out is have like sleep overs where you can just hang out with them.. and maybe have like a movie night every friday or seomthing that way you can spend time with them and get closer to themm... and if they still want to hang otu with the guys tell them.. you know i think it's time we have a girls night out.. or soemthing like that... im sorry i couldn't think of much but i hope this helps :-D good luck and i hope everything works out!

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I am going out with this guy... and this girl likes him too... and i didnt know that... and she is like a friend of mine.... but i really like the guy... what should i do....

hunny, if you really like this guy your girl friend will be happy for you.. and if you dind't know then there was nothign you could have done to stop it.. but im sure your friend is going to be happy for you no matter what.. and if this guy liked you and asked you out.. there was nothign you could do to stop yourself from saying "no" if you liked him too.. but what i saying is you like him .. and your friend likeing him too shouldn't effect what you feel... and your friend will be happy for you.. hope i helped...

xox.....

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Ok i am moving...and i live in one place and im moving to another and im only moving 10 or 20 mintues away and all my friends are really sad!Im not gonna be going to there jr high next year either... and i dont know how to react to it can you help me!!??

Comfort them,
let them know that everything is going to be alright.. that you will still hang out wtih them on weekends etc. tell them that you will hang out with them and that you are just one call away or just one im away.. make sure they know that you will be able to talk to them and know what is going on in there life.. in otherwords just make sure that they know that you are there for them in any way possible... hope i helped...

xox .....

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Sometimes when I mess up on the littlest thing or I don't get my way, I get really sad and upset, and I don't understand why. Even while I'm upset I tell myself, "This doesn't make sense to be upset now" but I get upset anyways and I don't get out of my mood until I get something new or I find something to do that interests me. I really hate getting mood swings. Is there a way to knock myself out of these moods? Are they even natural?

it depends if they are natural or not... you have to ask yourself some questions like

- am i going to get my period (if you are a girl)
- is there any sense in being sad
- and others

if you are a girl and are aobut to get your period then yes, they are natural but if not.. then i think you may have a problem... and you need to see a doctor.. you could be bypolar etc. so make sure you consult a doctor if this keeps on going on... hope i helped...

xox.....

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okay im 14 and i still havent gotten my perios is that something i should be worried about .... or just wait?

NO of course not... i am 14 and i know a lot of people 14 who dind't get theres yet.. it is nothing to worry about.. when it is time you will get it... your body just isn't machore enough for it yett... so it will come when the time is right! hope i helped..

xox.....

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hey i just have a question... my boyfriend watches pron and he tells me about it does that me taht is wants to be with other girls and isnt happy with what i am givin him or is it jsut a guy thing?
pLEASE HELP

No! it is deff. a guy thing lol.. guys are like that and they are little perverts :] so don't worry about it ... he prob. maybe thinks that it would turn you on and maybe wants you to watch it with him.. but i wouldn't point it to him that he wants to see other people... hope i helped...

xox.....

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Is Algebra I , Physical Honors,& English Honors hard ? I'm just so worried and don't try to be overdevastingly tramatic. Just be honest with me. Is it?

i had algebra one this year.. it was suprizingly easy.. as long as you apply yourself and do you homework your good to go.. physical and english honors are just like the regular ones.. but they just expect more from you... so yes it is alright.. but remember it all depends on where you go to school and the teachers you have... hope i helped..

xox...

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