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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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My mind wonders during school. Mostly about my current bf and how I want to like talk to him or w/e. I used to be an A student now I'm a C student. It's not like I can avoid guys completley. What should I do about?

if your question is if it is unnormal to wonder off so much then...

sweetie.. i think you might have add... maybe you should talk to your dr. about it ... but other than that...

if not ask me personally what exactly it is and i can help.. hope that was what you were asking for!

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ook i really like this boy. i still havent had myy 1st kiss. i know its kind of lame but i just wanted to wait. but i want him to be myy first kiss.like french kiss. and i kno this might sound dorky but i dont exactly kno how to kiss. can someone please describe it. and please dont just say it will come naturally. thanks

you have to like tongue wrestle... here is a website one how to french kiss if you want to look up on it http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm hope i helped!

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how do i get these gurls that hate me and want to beat me up to be my friend again!! and im scared to even go up to them because they are tougher than me please help me!!!! i rate high if your answers are good!

try to talk to them on the computer or soemthing.. like talk to the "nicest" one out of the group.. just be like " what ever i did i will be willing to change.. i really don't like to fight.." etc.. things like that like butter her up... sorry i couldn't think of a lot.. but i hope what i gave you helpes!

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I have never had any guys that have really liked me except for one. And I don't mean to sound self cenetered or anything but I am pretty. I have so many friends that are guys too, and they always say I'm hot. But everytime I like a guy I always end up getting hurt. Like I like a person and they don't like me or someone likes me and then when I finally like them they don't like me anymore. Is there any way I can prevent myself from getting hurt so much?

like guys that you can trust and me your self around.. usually your best guy friends..bc even if they don't liek you then... they will always make it work out and make you not get hurt because they want you to be happy ... in other words.. don't like people that hurt other people .. but what these guys are doing to you is playing "hard to get" they like you but they want you to like them so they wait until you like them and they don't like you anymore.. you get it? so odn't liek people who have a reputation of doing so..but i know you can't help your feelings.. but just try to stay away from those types of people! hope i helped and good luck!

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there are these gurls that wanna beat me up and i cant fight what do i do??

talk it out with them or get your friends to help you beat the living daylights out of them.. but hunny mostly they aren't going to do anything ... liek you said they "wanna" beat you up.. it doesn't mean there going to but if they do in fact do just try to avoid then.. and if that doens't work talk it out with them...

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look i kissed my boi_friend lastnight and me and him have been friends for a while and i felt like i kissed my brother. i dont no what i should do i asked one of my friends and she said that i should break up w/ him what should i do!

dump him... it should feel like you kissed your brother.. that means you feel more like your related to him then actually going out.. i really think you should... but make sure you stay friends with him because... you can tell your brother anything ;-) ... make sure you let him know that you are there for him 100% you just don't feel like it's going to work out.. that you deffidely want to stay friends etc. but i would make sure that it just wasn't that one time that you kissed him that it felt like you were kissing your brother... alrightyy! hope i helped! and best of luck!

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anywayz that timothy guy... i dont no if he really likes me likes me yet (and plus im tryin to get him fixed up w/ one of my friends) but that new guy that i like really doesnt care who i hang out w/ as in other bois. and and ive never fucked anyone befor and me a timothy have been friends for a while and i think id feel most comfortable w/him but i dont no if im ready. and my friend that has been preg. about 3 times and shes oniy 13 said it was fun and that i should do it. but i dont no w/b asap!


and i am bi-sexual but i really dont think i care for the gurls anymore and i have a gurlfriend how do i tell her that im not like that. cuz i like her and everything but i think shes cheatin on me cus she doesnt call me anymore shes always talkin to this gurl named dessy and dessy is bi to. anywayz what do i need to tell her. please help!!!!
hannah

okay ... well it is all up to you if you want to have sex with him or what not .. but if i were you i would deffidently wait.. when you have sex wtih someone it shouldnt' be for "fun" it should be because you are madly in love with that person and you think he/she is the one you are going to marry. Don't let other people pressure you to have sex with some one because if you let it get to you .. your gonna do it and what if you become pregnant? then you got yourself into a big hole... i think you should wait to have sex unless if you know that is the person you are going to marry... like i say it is nothing just to do to have :fun: it is a serious matter which should be taken seriously.. plus there are ton's of diseases out there (STD's) that you can get from haveing sex.. but enough about that... just tell your girlfriend that you want to be in with more experiences and don't really want a girlfriend right now because you want to try soemthing different... im sure she will understand if you said that she is never talking to you etc. and always talking to dessy.. you don't really have to tell her that you're not like that anymore .. just tell her that you are in for more experiences.. etc. i hope i helped and if you need anything else let me know!

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hey i need help!I really dislike this guy my sister is wild about. he just got home from a trip and he stealing her away from me. while he was gone i thought we had so much fun but now its a mess. i can't confront her because she has a.d.d and she goes crazy and leaves so i need advice

try to have like a friday night sister night.. ask her if that would be okay that every friday night just you two hang out.. that way you two get to hang otu together a lone and maybe you will be less thinking that he is stealing her away bc she is yours for one night .. sorry i couldn't think of more.. hard question :-D hope i helped tho

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well now i really got myself into a mess i've been talking to a guy i use to like and im gettin feelings back for him but i have a bf and i like him so much id say love if i could but its not love yet..wut do i do..i really wanna stay with my bf and im sure i will but i like dont wanna hurt the other guy and ya..but me and my bf live 45 minutes apart so i dont see him much and the other guy lives in the same town as me ..HELP!

well... you like your bf a lot.. but don't worrry about the other guy because once you have feelings for someone strongly like the guy that just came back into your town you will ALWAYS have them.. they will never go away.. so don't worry .. you still have strong feelings for your bf and im sure you will make it work out! hope i helped..

xox... Danika

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What are some sites to find cute quotes and stuff like that?

firehotquotes.com was always a great one!

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I have been in deep depression hating every day wishing it would end. I got out of it with LOTS of help. I wanan help ppl too. Likes Teens. What school subjects should I study SUPER hard in?

well.. science.. because you are going to need that in college for that and science will help you figure out what is in there genes etc... and hmm.. english.. b/c your going to need to write down notes on what happened with them etc. but mostly science! hope i helped

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Ok, so online when i'm talking to the guy i like, we get along really well and talk about aNyThInG, but in school we both like avoid eachother's eye contact and we only say "hi" once and a while in the halls. Any sudjestions?

errr i hate it.. girls always have to make the first move!! lol.. anywayy i say you need to talk to him more in the halls.. give him eyecontact and don't avoid his.. it's the only way your goign to get talking in school... you know? you two are being shy towards eachother so you need to step up and show him that you're not shy! then once he figures that out he will talk to you more etc. hope i helped... and best wishes

xox.....

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well i jus broke up w/ my boifriend(michael) and hes a pot head and i got his friend(timothy) to tell him .and i like him(timothy) but i think he only wants me as a fuck buddie but now since i broke up w/ my pot head(michael) i think that his friend (timothy) likes me but i already like this other guy .but im going over to my friends house to see timothy and he wants to do something i jus dont no what yet! should i go any further than makeing out or not!

absolutly not..
play with his mind .. if you think he just wants you to be his fuck buddy maybe if you don't have sex with him he will back off from you and maybe that is when you will figure out if he really wanted you to be his "fuck buddy" or not... plus if you like this other guy already you shouldn't do anyting with timothy bc it might push the guy that you like (the new one) away.. hope i helped!

xox.....

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how do you know if your bi-sexual ?? because i think i might be but im not sure .. like whatsz a sign of it ?? cuz like .. id have no problem hookin up with a girl or like eatin her out or somethin like that .. idk why but i juss like think its not a big deal .. an could bi-sexual lead to like lesbian ? because seriously i dont have any problemsz with gaysz or lesbiansz but i jus dont wanna be one .. like bi-sexual ? eh aint that bad n i know i proly dont have control over it or not .. but can someone PLEASE HELP ME

i RATE G0OD !!

i'll help you! okay well it depends are you attracted to girls? could you see yourself having like a life with them etc. from what your telling me i think you are bi-sexual.. but that is just my opinion from what your telling me.. yeahh bi-sexual could lead to a full course lesbian because maybe if you are with a girl you feel more comfortable with them then a man.. but then again being bisexual could lead you to becomeing straight again too... and no you dont' have control over it because being bisexual is in your genes you can't just wake up one morning and be like "ohh today i am going to be a lesbian" it doesn't happen like that.. it is different.. i hope i helped and good luck!

xox.....

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hey .... i was wondering if anyone knew a number or something where i can volunteer at a teen hotline? you know ... like a kid calls and you help them with their problms and whatnot ... thanks!

note: i live in the boston/framingham area

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=teen+hotlines

there are a couple of the there if you want to check them out! ... maybe you can like answer emails etc. i think that would be better then answering calls... but it's your decision.. hope i helped!

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theirs about 2 weeks left of school and i told this boy i liked tht i liked him and he just told me he liked me 2 is it too late to hook up wit him?

no it's never too late.. but you have to make sure that you're goign to be able to see eachother and have enough time for eachotherrr.. you knoww? but if you guys really like eachother then i think you would make it work out ... well if you need anything else just let me know.. hope i helped!

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So I've liked my best friend Andy for a while, but he doesn't know. I care about him and he cares about me, we call each other up everyday and talk for at least an hour, and whenenver we hang out I feel such a connection with him. I really want to let him know I feel, but I'm so afraid to. I know if I told him our relationship wouldn't change, whether he likes me back or not, because he's like that. My friend already asked him if he would ever hook up with me, but his response is, "Well .. she's my best friend.." or "I can't think of my best friend like that..." But he said I was pretty and he loved my personality.

I don't know if I should tell him how I feel or how I should tell him how I feel .. should I tell him on the phone or in person this Friday? I know if I told myself to tell him in person, I might chicken out .. but telling him my feelings might be the wrong thing to do .. maybe I should wait.

What do you guys think?

dont' wait.. if you said " i know if i told him our relationship wouldn't change" then what do you have to loose... i think you should tell him .. because like i said..w hat do you have to loose? ... but anywayy... i think you shoudl tell however you feel most comfortable but i think you may not be able to tell him in person b/c it would be really hard and frusterating... so i advise you to tell him on the phoen because you may not be able to tell him in person.. hope i helped!

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man i've been pretty much hanging out with the same people from a long time. the way its set up at our school, we pretty much have the same classes with the same people every year. and people kinda just hang out with the same people over time. what are soem good ways to make new friends, to break out of my same old same old circle of people, or meet some new friends or girls. thanks alot

join some clubs like maybe yearbook... or drama etc. there you will get to talk to all different kinds of people... hope i helped

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Sorry, this isn't an "advice" question exaclty, but more of a question about Advicenators. I would just appreciate knowing if anyone else has this same problem or not:

My Inbox keeps spazzin' out. One minute I will have 1 new message. Then the next minute I will have 3, and then back to one. So naturally I check my Inbox, and it is empty, yet it always says different.

Anyone know why this is? Does anyone have the same troubles?

lol i had the same thing! here is what you should do:
- under Welcome, __________ there is something called your Feedback, click on it
- then just return to what ever you were doing.. it worked for me so hopefully it will work for you!

hope i helped.. xox .....

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i have a lot of moles..and i hate it. i have a lot on my face and arms! they are soo annoying, like not trying to sound conceited but i am kind of pretty..but the moles just ruin me! i hate them so much! is there anything i can do about them! makeup? surgery? anything!!!

yes! of course!... coverup won't work but there is mole removing surgery.. i mean it's not like too much but they like burn off your mole.. i don't think it hurts that much because it's just like extra skin.. but i know that they do have it. so consult your doctor about it .. i don't think it's too much money either :-D hope i helped!

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