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if you get fired and you apply for another job, if you lie on the application saying you never worked before, can they type in your ss# and find out you had a job before. (link)
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No, they cannot.
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Ok so I'm female and I'm 16 and I have been hinting at my mom about wicca asking her how she feels about it and what she thinks it is well my mom is not really religious but she freaks out and tells me "Wicca is a cult. And cults don't believe in a god." How can I tell her I'm wiccan if she wont even give me a chance to explain it's not a cult that we believe in helping the earth through the magick of the elements and the living things around us and that we do believe in a god and a goddess (well many gods and goddesses) please help. (link)
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A 16 year old girl who tells her parent's she believes in nature spirits and faeries isn't going to be taken seriously.
I realize you're trying to establish your identity. It's a normal 16 year old thing to do. But you've latched onto something that most of the civilized world will not take seriously, something you may well look back on with chagrin in a few years.
Keep it to yourself. If you still think you're Wiccan at 25, then you might actually be taken seriously to some degree.
Or you'll long since have grown out of it and will be thankful you kept it to yourself.
I realize Wicca is not a cult, but Wicca IS based on little understood paganism perverted by someone who spent too much time fantasizing about Lord of the Rings. Whatever value existed in paganism, Wicca is little more than an escapist fantasy made up of stolen ideas.
Don't go waving your 16 year old identity around like it means something. You'll be a completely different person every year for the next ten. The earlier you realize that, the better off you'll be.
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what does it mean when you have pains in your stomach and you poop has blood in it? (link)
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It means it's time to visit a doctor. Tell your parents, internal pains and blood evidence means there's a medical problem going on that needs to be addressed, quickly. If you have a GP they'd probably tell you to go to the emergency room.
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soo both my parents smoke! getting them to quit would literally be impossible, i've been wanting to get both of them those water vapor cigarettes, but I was wandering how much they cost? and do you have to keep buying little peices to it? or do you just buy it and it lasts forever?
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They're not really a working solution yet.
Cheap ones can be 40-60, and you'll be replacing them entirely within a year. More expensive ones will last about forever, but cost 160+ just to start up and then you have to continue buying stuff.
There are several parts which must be replaced occasionally. There is a battery which will need replacement several times a year at least like any battery. There's an atomizer which creates the "smoke" water vapor which will need to be replaced as much as once a month for the regular smoker. There are nicotine cartridges which must be bought so the thing offers the nicotine charge people seek. And there's flavoring so that the cigarette actually tastes like something other than water vapor (which has no taste)
While there are plenty of people who tried and prefer electric cigarettes (people who like to smoke indoors particularly) there is way too much upkeep for most people. In addition to costing just about the same over time, it's something you've got to keep track of. You break it or lose it, you're out an investment, not just the five to seven bucks a pack costs these days.
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helppp!!! okay my dad is the most strict parent in te world and won't let me even talk to guys as friends. well he took my phone for no reason while I was sitting in my room and started reading my messages. I really dint think he liked them and he isn't giving it back to me until I go back to my moms in a week. but I'm sure that some of my guy friends are going to text my phone. and my dad WILL take thins the wrong way. I have no idea what to do I'm so scared. and my mom and dad are divorced so my mom can't do anything. help me please please please I'm freaking out!!! oh I'm 14 an I'm a girl. and it's not like I'm saying or doing anything bad he just is very overprotective and he's not one of the nicer parents you'll meet. (link)
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At 14, anything you say will be dismissed. Save yourself the fight and just get your phone back when you leave. If he refuses to give it back, cancel the phone and get a new one.
And from now on, don't take your phone to his house when you visit.
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I have a friend I used to have a big crush on from high school and we often talk to each other on msn and have kept in touch. I also have a boyfriend from the same high school and we've been together for almost 3 years. My friend and I went for a movie just as friends and ever since I couldn't stop thinking of him. When I saw him in person though, I didn't feel anything more than friends. I really do love my boyfriend and plan to marry him someday. Is this normal or is there something wrong with me?
Female, age 20 (link)
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Attraction to other people is a natural part of life. Contrary to what you've been told, marriage and lifelong monogamy are not natural human choices.
Getting married, committing, is the conscious choice to ignore the biological impulses which might tell you to desire someone else in favor of sticking with one person, being loyal, and enjoying the benefits of emotional and physical fidelity.
You will occasionally feel attracted to others. This isn't a sign of anything other than the fact that you are human. If you have committed yourself to someone, it's your job to deal with it so that it's not a problem.
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ok well i am a gay guy i do hate it but i will live
but my brothers boyfriend for 3 days broke up with him and i was young but now im not but they found out that me and his ex did it . i always thought that he knew . but i guess he didnt i never hid it but then 1 year later my brother and that guy went out and he lied to my brother he said he never did anything with me but my brother has found out the truth witch is good . but im very sad i hate myself for doing this to him what do i do ? (link)
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Apologize. Tell him that you fucked up, that you didn't mean to hurt him, and that you won't let anything like it happen in the future.
You are genuinely remorseful for having done something that could hurt your brother. Show him that.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months now, and whenever we go out he always introduces me to people as his friend, not his girlfriend.
Should i be concerned? What does this mean?
I've never met any of his close friends, or any of his family.
- 21, F (link)
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Yeah, you should be concerned. No idea what it means, you need to ask him.
But a disconnect this basic is a problem. Ask him why. Consider leaving him depending on the answer.
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My boyfriend and I are going to have sex and when I told him I had just gotten on the pill, the first thing he says is how excited he is because he won't have to use a condom. When he said this, I had no idea how to respond because I've always been under the impression that with sex, a condom is ALWAYS a must for protection. My first time was last winter break when I was raped. Since then, I've been tested (clean) and only had safe-sex once with my current boyfriend. I know the fact that I'm having sex with my boyfriend at such a young age may seem "slutty" after such a short period of time but being raped, I never thought I'd have any desire to have sex again. Plus, now that I've done it, I'm much more open to it. But, I'm not sure how open I am to sex without a condom. He's 18 and I'm his first and we're currently not seeing anyone else....I just don't know what to think about sex without a condom. I want this to be special but I'm just not sure. Because I'm his first and we're both clean, sex without a condom shouldnt have any risk.....right? (link)
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First, stop excusing yourself.
Point blank, you went through a trauma that involved sex. Having good, loving, emotionally connected sex is part of the healing process in adults to some degree. This is why it's so hard on children, because loving adult sex is entirely out of their reach, and the experience is nothing but a foreign scar on their psyche, which they have no real context to understand or deal with.
Being pulled unwillingly into an adult world, you're attempting to step into that adult hood. You should not disrespect yourself for that.
I would encourage continued condom use, but there are other forms of birth control which can be used in conjunction with the pills which are equally effective, or within a few percentage points, some available over the counter.
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=1278&Itemid=61
There's a good website for information. Read down through all of the types and stuff, but I'd also tell you that until he's actually been tested, you shouldn't take an 18 year old's claim of virginity on faith.
For now, tell him that condoms are a choice you've made to protect yourself and to feel comfortable with the risks you're taking by having sex in the first place. Tell him that you understand what he wants, but that right now is not the time for it. If and when that changes, you will let him know, and he shouldn't bring it up again.
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well i met this girl that i really like yes im bi sexiual we talked and she ask did i want to have a threesome with her and her ex i said yea we did and now me and her ex have been talking alone with out her and we ahve really come to care for one another and he wants to take her out the picture completly what should i do? (link)
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First off, the fact that she asked and not you means that it's entirely possible she wanted to get back with her ex and basically did that to get back with him. Or that she's not at all over him yet.
Second off, there is no way in hell you can know if this guys just trying to get back at his ex by taking up with you and by taking you away from her. In fact, it's so likely that it would make you a complete and utter bitch for going through with it. Even if he likes you, he's a douchebag for being willing himself because he is her ex and he's going to know how much taking you away is going to piss her off.
Knowing that she still has some level of feelings for him, and that obviously there are feelings between her and you, how badly do you think you would be hurting her?
If you don't want to date her, don't date her. But don't do something that you know, without any doubt, will hurt the hell out of her.
This situation is not your fault. I want to make that clear. Not at all the best in judgment, but these two sat you down smack dab in the middle of their drama, they invited you and now you're attracted to this guy.
I get it. Hell, she's still into him enough to want a threesome and ask for it, I get you not being disgusted by him either.
But don't act on it. You've been handed one of life's harder choices, but honestly it would be better to walk away from both of them than to walk away from her.
There is another option, besides the above.
Probably even harder to deal with, overall. I have to warn you of that.
Be honest. To her. Tell her what's happened. Get her opinion. Apologize, even, and tell her that this isn't how you saw everything turning out.
Tell her that you don't want to hurt her, but you also don't want to hurt him, and you like him alot.
Understand this has like a 90% likelyhood of causing her to hate you without remorse, if she's in any way petty to cause her to actively try to screw with you in some way. I don't know anyone involved so I'm completely unable to make value judgments as to their likely reactions, their motivations, etc.
But real world experience tells me that more than likely he's not into you and is revenging himself, or that he's into you in some way but still enough of a manipulative unempathetic douchebag to be willing to put her through this and maybe even use you a little bit to accomplish it. Real world experience tells me that more than likely she's still in love with him, even if she was the one who ended things. The threesome came from her, remember.
More than likely, if you do this, you will end up hurting her, and getting hurt by him.
But I will admit that 1%, where he's a decent guy and they just didn't work well together, and now you're falling for him and him for you.
All I can do is tell you to use your best judgment. Too many unknowns, but I had to make you aware of the possibilities. If you think this is that 1%, consider honesty. Different issues, but I've been honest about fucked up situations before, and while going through the whole process was way harder than it would have been with any other choice, I think I was happier with the results than I could have otherwise possibly been. I just can't tell you with any level of certainty if this is worth being that honest. I don't know that you can, either.
And whatever happens, let's learn a lesson and no more threesomes with people who are exes, for Christs sake.
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me and my best friend want to get tattoos to always remember eachother and i know me and her will always be friends. weve been best friends for 9 years but we have no idea what tattoo to get, i was thinking something like in pairs maybe like she get a spiderman logo and i get a batman logo since that was our favirite shows back in the day. but we need some more ideas. we got in a fatal car accident and were both put in hospital so we were going to do one to remember that. but i have no idea someone pleeasee helppppp! (link)
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No offense intended, but I really think you should ask her instead of us.
Best friend for 9 years? I'd literally take a day to go and hang out together and discuss it. Grab some food, do whatever the hell you both enjoy, and brainstorm out lout to each other about it all day. One of you will come up with an idea you both love, if you draw a blank hopefully your friend won't.
Then, at the end of the day, get it done. If you can't figure something out together, plan another day where you can have fun and try to figure it out.
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There are so many flaws in the logic of my parents. They've let me travel halfway around the world and live with complete strangers for a week in a different country. However, upon asking them if I could go get ice cream down the street they told me it was too dangerous for a young girl to go along.
...what?
I'm seventeen years old. I have a driver's license. In a year, I will be going to college. However, I cannot go buy a milkshake. I just tried explaining to my mom why this is madness, but she freaked out and went on a tangent about how hard she works in life. Completely off topic, but whatever baby. I don't believe I'm asking too much. Some of my friends parents allow them to gallivant at concerts in big cities until the wee hours of the morning. I am not asking this. They told me it would be safe to get ice cream with a friend, but not on my own. Obviously, this is not about the ice cream. How can I ever gain independence if I can't drive two minutes from my house on my own? Why is it my parents have let me gone to Europe twice and will allow me to go to Africa next year, but won't let me go to the local Dairy Queen? (link)
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Your parents apparently live in their own little world.
I'd have to know them to get any more specific than that. Unless you were really going somewhere else with some guy, and ice cream was the most innocuous thing you could think of to make up.
No offense intended, I'm sure you can understand how a real situation like that would seem that ridiculous. I agree on the whole "I went to another country for a week, but I can't go down the street at 17" makes absolutely no sense. Kinda having issues wrapping my head around it.
What I can tell you, is that you can't fight irrationality with logic. I tried, it never works, especially with parents who just dismiss you thinking they know better or hoping to shut you up when they know they're wrong.
Keep your mouth shut. Don't rock the boat. You're 17, escape is close at hand, and the more they think they can trust you, the more leeway you'll have when you move out.
Just make sure you push for a college far enough away to justify an apartment, dorm, etc.
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I'm 21 years old and have had quite a few sexual partners. My first few were because of love, and the rest, were not and were flings. Now, after a year of not having a boyfriend or having sex, I'm finally seeing someone and he's great. I'm starting to really like him and he feels the same. The problem is, I keep pushing off sex because I'm scared it will ruin our relationship and I know it sounds crazy, but it's hard having sex with someone I really like! The only way I can describe it is because there is so much emotion and feeling involved, I worry about if I'll be good, what he'll think of me, etc. I feel like it's time and I really want to, but for some reason, I'm feeling like a virgin. How can I get rid of these feelings? I never feel this way about sex or guys, for that matter. (link)
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You need to talk to this guy.
Not too much worry about scaring him off. If you approach him with a "I want you, but" and then make it clear that all of these are pretty much your issues (so it seems from your question) maybe he can help talk you down a little.
Bottom line here, from what I can tell, is that you don't trust... almost like you don't trust life to let things work. You've not stated a single concern about him other than "what he'll think of me" which you did not support with any evidence, making me think there isn't any. That he's just a good guy and you're dealing with the fears that can arise in any relationship because of all of the things you've seen and heard about sex ruining relationships.
Talk to him. He's the one who has to allay your fears about "being good" or what he'll think of you. But overall, you aren't really ready for this yet. You're acting very inexperienced so far as love is concerned.
I'd hand him some honesty and see how he reacts to it. Tell him what you want, and why you feel you aren't ready for it. Emphasize your point of "you'll know when you're ready, and it's not yet" so he doesn't think you want him to pressure you a bit, but tell him you wanted to talk with him about these things and just get some feedback.
Adults should be able to talk about sex in an adult manner. I know few of us actually ARE capable of it, but it's something to aspire to at least. And when you tell him that you want him, I'm sure he won't be all that objectionable to whatever follows it.
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I've been with my boyfriend for more than a year and I love him a whole lot. We started having sex a long time ago (like 2 months into our relationship) and I think we're really strong together. We have really great sex but there is just one problem...
He never does cum inside me. NEVER!
I'm on birth control pills and he always insists on using a condom. I really want him to just do it though. It's almost like I have this weird craving for it. Every time we have sex I am thinking about it and how good it would feel. I have never had it done though so it isn't like I REALLY know it would feel good. It's a weird feeling I guess but I want it so bad.
I'm already on BC pills so it isn't like I'd get pregnant or something. How can I convince him to stop using condoms?
15&aLady (link)
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You should talk to him about it more. Explore his perspectives, and try to both understand and respect his views.
He wants to be safe. At 15, now isn't the time to be talking him into chances.
What you want is not abnormal by any means, and the poster below me definitely got his first item wrong. But now isn't the time.
In the future, spermicide is an option. VCF (vaginal contraceptive film)isn't quite as effective as a condom, but it's close and you're on birth control as well.
But for now, the rest of what's posted below is correct. Spermicide is a bigger risk because there will be semen present far more often inside you. And while you're reducing the risks, the risks are there. I have a friend who got through a diaphragm and birth control, and if you know about diaphragms you know they're used in conjunction with spermicide.
Acts of God can and will happen, and the more precautions the harder it is. At 15, you don't need to expose yourselves to even that tiny risk, because if your number gets called it's going to suck for everyone involved.
Wait. Chill out. Get yourself more on an adult footing in the world before you decide to start taking any more adult risks than you already are.
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Okay well theres this guy his so perfect to me, but thing is his 20 and im 15. Well I did have a boyfriend of a year, but we broke up in January. I've talked to one guy sense him, but he played me. Then this guy comes into the picture and I just have all my feelings back that I had with my exboyfriend for him. Like me and lets say his name is bob well Bob and me have like these deep conversation that he says he can never open up to anyone like that. My parents loved him until this big thing blew up with my "aunt" well he had dated my aunts daughter awhile back like 2 years ago and said he use to beat on her and all kinds of lies well it got back to my grandma and now my family doesn't really want us dating. They said we can be friends, but its killing me not being able to be like how we use to talk to eachother. I just really feel like saying screw all of what my family thinks and talk to him. But I want advice on what to do first. (link)
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Understand that anything more than talking could get him into trouble, especially if your parents don't want you dating. Even being around each other unsupervised could give the police enough probable cause to take your parents on faith and arrest him.
Five years is a big gap now. When you're 20 and he's 25, it wouldn't really matter in the slightest. Talking should be up to you, and you should assert to your parents that you like this guy, he's never done anything even the slightest bit untoward, and while you understand that at 15 they don't want you going out with a 20 year old because they're uncomfy with the ideas of what you two might do together, that they should not try to control who you speak to or why.
Deliver the message that you are your own person, and that you're not so young that they can tell you their opinions and you'll adopt them as your own. Tell them that you've already made your own evaluations of this guy, and that so far in your opinion everything bad said about him is bull.
Tell them that you're more than friends with this guy. If they don't want you to go out with him, respect that (for now, fight on it later once they've settled down about the talking) and continue to talk to this guy.
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i'm a girl, 16 years old going on 17, and i have been dateing my boyfriend sense March 27, 2010. The problem with dateing him is there's a age gap... we are 5 years apart, or 4 depends on how you look @ it, which means he's 21.
so in the first month of our dateing everything was cool and all we would do is hang out. in the 2nd month, or the middle of the 2nd month there was a prblem, he wanted to have sex. see i know that if we do have sex it would be counted as rape, and he would go to jail and i would be in trouble, BIG TROUBLE. so i told him we should wait. so during may he tells me he wants to change his life and start going to church with me.
one day after church i went with him to go meet his mom, we met and she is a wonderful lady. Then the week after he jumped back on the subject (which he's been jumping on alot even after i said no the 1st time) and he gives me the same lame excuses, "well, if your mine, why can't i have all of you?" or "baby, i love you, and i just wanna show you how much i do" and ect. And every time he gives me those lame excuses, as if i never heard those lines b4, i tell him the same thing "you can wait, and if you can't leve."
now he's never did anything to make me wanna leve him, except bring up the sex subject like 1,000 times and i'm getting tired of it. i've asked some of my friend and some said they would "have sex with him and leve him." some said "jus stop talking to him, he'll get the clue." and others said "screw him like bunnys do, and make the sex so good he wouldn't dare leve."
but i'm not worried about him leveing. if he does, he does. that's how i feel. i just don't know what to do. i realy do like him and we have fun together but i'm tired of telling him no and always talking about it.
what do i do? should i give IT up, or give HIM up?
please, some one give me some advice. (link)
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Him.
Very mature viewpoint, I have to say. Not many girls I meet who date an older guy and have the self confidence to not buy into their shit or feel like they owe the guy something for being willing to date someone younger.
Walk. He's way more into the idea of sex than he is you. His repeated bringing it up is, point blank, a sign of his lack of respect for you as a person.
Decent guys don't ask. They just make it known that they're horny, and let you make your own decision. They don't beg or cajole or convince. He sounds like a guy who's dating someone younger both because he's too immature to attract anyone his own age, and because he assumes that it'll be easier to get into your pants. You've been dating for less than three months and you're not even 17, this guy isn't worth your time.
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This is going to sound preachy, but work on your writing. Spelling, grammar, etc. You're obviously intelligent, and obviously mature. But 20+ spelling errors in a post make you look like a kid even when you don't act like one. It'll be important later on when you need to convey some degree of professionalism. Work on your writing so that you can better convey who you are the way you would if you were in person.
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Okay lets pretend my name is Amanda. On facebook, he posts on my wall saying my name like "AMANDAAAAAA!!!!!!". The problem is we have a complicated history. I'm 16, and I've known him since elementary school. I used to generally call him a friend until a few months into 7th grade. I dont know what happened w/ him but he changed.. and became a jerk to everyone.
We used to be able to talk in class fine but since he changed he'd then make fun of me and stuff. Somewhere within all that I got a crush on him. And I told some stupid friend who told him about it.. and he told her that he only wanted to date blonde white people. Which is annoying because I hadnt liked him enough to want to date him. I wasnt thinking of asking him about it or flirting with him consciously. And his response is even more annoying, cause it just showed he's an a**hole.
So yeah it was pretty much awkward since. But we kept having one or two classes together year after year! This year, 10th grade, was the worst. Like sometimes he'd like borderline sexual harass me.. and just generally tried to piss me off or something, cause everytime I came to class he'd call my name like "Amandaaaaaa!" pretty obnoxiously. Nobody even liked him in school cause of his jerkiness. Even people he considered friends didnt like him. And he wasnt even that good looking. I cringe that I actually had a crush on him before.
So its just really complicated and I hope he doesnt think I still like him or if that just helps his ego. I usually let things slide and when he calls my name in the beginning of class or whenever I saw him in the hallway, I'd just ignore it but it always bothered me. I moved to a new town in a totally different state this February, and hadnt talked to him since.
But suddenly on facebook he made that comment. the "amandaaaa!!!" comment. and i have no idea how to respond to it. what should i say, what type of demeanor should I have? should i reply on his wall or make a comment in his reply on my page? (if you get what i mean) cause i really dont know how to handle such a weird situation like that. i dont desire to really talk to him in the future cause of his jerk-iness. he was one of the main people i was happy to leave behind once my family moved. im debating whether to delete him as a friend.. but if i did he'd obviously notice. ughhh fml HELP
And please don't tell me to just say "F*** you" cause Im a nice person.. and can't see myself doing that. I try to use sarcasm to get my point across. But the problem is I think he's being sarcastic too, dammit (link)
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You should ignore it, and take steps so that he can't post there again if at all possible. Pretend he does not exist, and he will eventually get bored and leave you alone. If you can delete the wall comment, do so.
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I am going to the doctor for my first check up and I was reading online for what to expect during a papsmear. I saw a few of the questions they might ask you and one of them was about sexual activity.
My boyfriend and I aren't having real sex yet. I mean, he hasn't gone inside me like that. He has fingered me and I've given him a handjobs and blowjobs though (and we do this pretty frequently).
Now, is that considered sexually active? Because I read that it was really important to tell them the truth about this sort of thing. I don't want to be lying to them but I'm just not sure if this counts. Am I sexually active? (link)
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You are a sexually active virgin. You've engaged in sexual contact, but haven't had intercourse. You don't have to answer questions with only "yes" and "no".
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I am 15 years old and my sister seems to be having financial problems. As her brother I don't mind lending or giving her a little bit of money. My parents found a marijuana pipe and later meth pipe both used in her room. She seems to spend so much that she started stealing money from me and asking me to make counterfeits. Then like always she lies and makes up lame excuses. How should I deal with it, call the cops and file a theft charge try to "scare her straight"? She passed a drug test but it was at home her friends were over and it took her 2 hours. (link)
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Ouch.
15 and standing up to a situation like this. For what it's worth kid, you've got my respect.
Now.
Cops will not help. That's the first line of my response, and probably the most important overall.
Cops are not your friends. Cops exist solely to protect the laws society has in place. The laws are there to create structure, not to save your sister from herself.
Second. Protect your shit. Getting a lockbox or small safe for your money would not be a bad idea. And stop the loaning. Loaning equals enabling, every time you give her money it's almost guaranteed she's buying crap with it.
Third. Marijuana pipe easily dismissible. Meth pipe _bad_. Really, really bad. Meth is one of the most damaging and addictive substances known to man.
This problem is beyond your ability to directly help at 15. Like it or not, you lack life experience and some measure of adult maturity. You're not ready to take this on.
Professional help is required.
Step 1: Google to find local rehab clinics. Call around and see if you can make an appointment or five with some therapists.
Step 1.5: If no rehab appointments are possible, call a few local hospitals and explain the situation enough to find out who you might be able to talk to.
Step 2: Speak with them. Explain the situation in as much detail as possible, and ask for advice.
That's your best starting point. If you want to help your sister in any real sense, you need someone who understands addiction and addicts. Pay attention along the way.
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Crap. I was going through my mom's drawers because she use to put money in there when I was a kid and I ran into this thing. I didn't know what it was at first so I picked it up and examined it.
It's her vibrator. It isn't like a dildo though so you can't blame me for not knowing what it was at first! But still! Eww!
What do I do? Should I tell her I found it? I feel weird around her now! (link)
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You were going through your mother's drawers for money and found a vibe, and want to know if you should mention it?
Did you smoke some crack today or something? Keep it to yourself.
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