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His 20 and im 15, but I really have feelings for him.
Okay well theres this guy his so perfect to me, but thing is his 20 and im 15. Well I did have a boyfriend of a year, but we broke up in January. I've talked to one guy sense him, but he played me. Then this guy comes into the picture and I just have all my feelings back that I had with my exboyfriend for him. Like me and lets say his name is bob well Bob and me have like these deep conversation that he says he can never open up to anyone like that. My parents loved him until this big thing blew up with my "aunt" well he had dated my aunts daughter awhile back like 2 years ago and said he use to beat on her and all kinds of lies well it got back to my grandma and now my family doesn't really want us dating. They said we can be friends, but its killing me not being able to be like how we use to talk to eachother. I just really feel like saying screw all of what my family thinks and talk to him. But I want advice on what to do first.
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Having any kind of relationship with an older guy is not a good idea. The police have a way of finding things out :/ the last thing you want is this guy going to jail.
It happened to me. It's not worth having the guilt that it's your fault he went to jail, and you could've prevented it. It's worth waiting until you're atleast 18. So then it's legal and you'd only have your parents to deal with.
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Understand that anything more than talking could get him into trouble, especially if your parents don't want you dating. Even being around each other unsupervised could give the police enough probable cause to take your parents on faith and arrest him.
Five years is a big gap now. When you're 20 and he's 25, it wouldn't really matter in the slightest. Talking should be up to you, and you should assert to your parents that you like this guy, he's never done anything even the slightest bit untoward, and while you understand that at 15 they don't want you going out with a 20 year old because they're uncomfy with the ideas of what you two might do together, that they should not try to control who you speak to or why.
Deliver the message that you are your own person, and that you're not so young that they can tell you their opinions and you'll adopt them as your own. Tell them that you've already made your own evaluations of this guy, and that so far in your opinion everything bad said about him is bull.
Tell them that you're more than friends with this guy. If they don't want you to go out with him, respect that (for now, fight on it later once they've settled down about the talking) and continue to talk to this guy.
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