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Overprotective parents
There are so many flaws in the logic of my parents. They've let me travel halfway around the world and live with complete strangers for a week in a different country. However, upon asking them if I could go get ice cream down the street they told me it was too dangerous for a young girl to go along.
...what?
I'm seventeen years old. I have a driver's license. In a year, I will be going to college. However, I cannot go buy a milkshake. I just tried explaining to my mom why this is madness, but she freaked out and went on a tangent about how hard she works in life. Completely off topic, but whatever baby. I don't believe I'm asking too much. Some of my friends parents allow them to gallivant at concerts in big cities until the wee hours of the morning. I am not asking this. They told me it would be safe to get ice cream with a friend, but not on my own. Obviously, this is not about the ice cream. How can I ever gain independence if I can't drive two minutes from my house on my own? Why is it my parents have let me gone to Europe twice and will allow me to go to Africa next year, but won't let me go to the local Dairy Queen?
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Your parents apparently live in their own little world.
I'd have to know them to get any more specific than that. Unless you were really going somewhere else with some guy, and ice cream was the most innocuous thing you could think of to make up.
No offense intended, I'm sure you can understand how a real situation like that would seem that ridiculous. I agree on the whole "I went to another country for a week, but I can't go down the street at 17" makes absolutely no sense. Kinda having issues wrapping my head around it.
What I can tell you, is that you can't fight irrationality with logic. I tried, it never works, especially with parents who just dismiss you thinking they know better or hoping to shut you up when they know they're wrong.
Keep your mouth shut. Don't rock the boat. You're 17, escape is close at hand, and the more they think they can trust you, the more leeway you'll have when you move out.
Just make sure you push for a college far enough away to justify an apartment, dorm, etc.
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Oh man, that's shitty. If I were you, I'd give them all of the bad possibilities: such as you always out - never calling home, getting into stuff they dont want you to be into, failing classes, etc. Tell them that you need your independence, and that kids who are held back only rebel.
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"tried explaining to my mom why this is madness"
This.. Is!!!.. MADNESS!!!!!!
it sounds very strange that they would let you live with strangers... but I am sure they... know these strangers? right? called them.. talked to them?, and know the program well hopefully
Maybe they want to protect your weight? but at the same time not actually tell you.
It sounds very hypocritical, but then again I am only getting your point of view.
the only best thing to do is wait until you're 18 and in college, Thus: no more parents.
if you tried reasoning with them and they believe whole heartedly that they're doing it for your best, then you're just going to have to accept it.
Respect your parents
it is one of the 10 commandments.
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I think you want me to tell you that you're the correct one and your parents are the overbearing evil monsters who hold back your dreams of getting ice-cream.
but frankly there's nothing you can do about it, you live under their roof, either way you're their child.
Try talking to them one more time
or simply call a friend and go
Byes!
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hire a body guard
move out to your uncles
wait until you're 18 and in a dorm
call a friend
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