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High school friend
I have a friend I used to have a big crush on from high school and we often talk to each other on msn and have kept in touch. I also have a boyfriend from the same high school and we've been together for almost 3 years. My friend and I went for a movie just as friends and ever since I couldn't stop thinking of him. When I saw him in person though, I didn't feel anything more than friends. I really do love my boyfriend and plan to marry him someday. Is this normal or is there something wrong with me?
Female, age 20
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Attraction to other people is a natural part of life. Contrary to what you've been told, marriage and lifelong monogamy are not natural human choices.
Getting married, committing, is the conscious choice to ignore the biological impulses which might tell you to desire someone else in favor of sticking with one person, being loyal, and enjoying the benefits of emotional and physical fidelity.
You will occasionally feel attracted to others. This isn't a sign of anything other than the fact that you are human. If you have committed yourself to someone, it's your job to deal with it so that it's not a problem.
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it is perfectly normal but if you say you love your boyfriend and have feelings for the other guy then you ask yourself and be honest which one you want to spend your life with then go from there.
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