Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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14/f
is it weird to shave my stomach and hands? becuase i have like a noticable amount of hair on my stomach and my hands, and i hate it.
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Some people shave EVERYTHING (like professional swimmers, models)so its not abnormal or anything. But I suggest waxing.
-Abby
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this is kind of an akward question to ask..but how exactly do you give a handjob? and what do you do after? it would be kind of weird to hold the guys hand after or something.. (link)
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No question is awkward on advicenators :)
Well, a hand job, is like a blow job, cept with your hands instead of mouth lol. Usually the guy is wearing pants because if he was able to take his pants off (like if your in public or something yet secluded) you'd be giving a blow job instead. But you play with, massge, grope (gently...)stroke, and just make it feel good. Im sure the guy will have some suggestions. It probably would be a little weird to just take his hand after that, but if it was romantic and something led to that than sure.
-Abby
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I can't find what I'm looking for on the Hollister website.
It's basically one of those big furry hood jackets with the sleeves cut off.
That's just what it looks like, lol.
But I have no clue how to find it on the site, I've gone through all the catorgories.
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I rarely find the stuff in the stores on the website (there is a bigger variety at the stores)
And considering its spring, they might be out already.
-Abby
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i'm lactose intolerant, so i can't eat anything with dairy. no cheese, no yogurt, no milk.
most of my favorite foods have cheese in them, and i can't eat them anymore. i can't eat mac & cheese, no more pizza, no more cheesecake, or cheese crackers (goldfish/cheesenips), or things like that. i can't even eat ice cream.
i can eat them, but i end up getting sick, and i hate it. what are things i can eat (that appeal to a teenager's taste) & that won't get me sick? (link)
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Soy. Soy milk, soy cheese, soy yougurt, soy ice cream, soy pizza, even! Soy may sound gross now, but I know a 7 year old girl who perfers soy food (and isnt lactose intolerant) over non-soy. Some times, you can't even taste the difference. And other times, some people perfer the difference over the norm. So take this as a oppurtunity to try new and healthy foods.
Good luck!
-Abby
Note: In response to the poster below me (black fairy, or something, lol) gelato may be half the "fat" but has twice the sugar, just making it horrible for you. And Im sure you've been to your doctor and know basically what you cannot eat. (its not just the enzyme that causes the problem)
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I'm 13/f...Well, my best friend is a guy. Lets call him...Colby. What happened was, Colby has been a dating machine..hes irresistable to girls. Whenever he goes out with one, im left out. He completely ignores me, he doesnt call me ever, or comes over my hous anymore. This only happens when he has a gf. So i had the nerve to go up and tell him how i felt about it. He said that he promises that it ill never happen again and we will be like we used to ( this happened after he broke up with his old gf) So, colby goes out with this other girl lets call her..Dylan. He always talks about how they make out and all that so of course ill be nice ( no im not jealous and i dont like like him) and say wow thats cool. So he knows who i like and i talk to him aobut the guy i like and his response ould be nmothing..!! he just gets up and leaves..it makes me feel awful..but i love him so much like a friend!! and i dont wanna lose him but he makes me feel im not important and i dont belong in his life... SORRY ITS SOO LONG!!
From,
~.:MixedEmotions:.~ (link)
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First off, it's good you made it clear that you don't like being left out. I think he'll try to improve on that if he really cares about you.
Guys are protective of their girls, wether their dating or just friends. When he hears about you and another guy, he might get mad, or jealous or just weirded out. He could realize that he likes you once another guy comes into the picture. He could realize he just doesnt like the idea of you dating a guy, as it can be weird for people who are used to being best friends talking about situations other than that, or anything really. Just ask him! Ask him whats up, and tell him you want his support and care about his opinion. Friendships like any relationships need effort and work, so put some in and make sure he does.
-Abby
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I already have had my period, for 3 years.
My shoe size has somewhat stablaized.
I am 5'7 and a half.
I have body hair.
Heres is my question, am I done maturing? I don't think I am because my breasts don't look fully matured yet. My nipple area does not at all look matured. Will they ever? (link)
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You are most likely fully grown, but not fully matured. You probably wont get taller and your breasts probably wont get a lot bigger (until something like childbirth or you get a lot older) but they will get more mature. There is a difference between teenage breasts and womens breasts. Than again, you might not ever see a difference. Everyone's bodies are different and there really is no way of telling except time.
-Abby
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My guy friend wants to finger me. What happens if I don't orgasm? after how long do I tell him too stop. Also, I have a dark rim around my butthole. it's like stained. I don't want him too see that. Is it normal? (link)
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A lot of women find it hard to orgasm sometimes, and it's deffinitely normal if you don't (but great if you do) Pretty much everyone has that stained area. Nothing to be embarrased about. You won't see it on models or porn stars because a lot of them get a bleaching treatment to get rid of that.
-Abby
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Sorry, wasn't sure where to put this.
So I just used some wax strips on my legs. The kind where the wax is already on the strips.
I've never waxed my legs before, just my brows. Anyway, I've got red spots all over my leg. I have some on the other leg too but only in some places and not as much as the other leg.
Is this normal? I know redness is normal but are the spots?
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It's deffinitely normal, don't worry. Try moisturizer, it should go away within a few days. Next time you wax, and it does the same thing (your legs should be used to it) you might want to find a new product. Unless it causes you pain or discomfort, it's fine.
-Abby
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I'm 14/f [And you thought a guy would be asking this question =P]. I don't have many friends and I'm fine with that and also the fact that I only have one true girl friend [let's call her Jane]. I'm not exactly a tomboy but I get along with the guys much better because...I don't know. We just click better than I do with girls. I have about 9 guy friends and Jane is my only girl friend. She has another friend [let's call her Jessy] and I'm okay with her but we don't see each other often...MAYBE once every two weeks? In the hallways? Plus, she's moving away this summer so it's kind of bleh. Anywhos, you're probably wondering what my problem is by now. Well, I know that I only like one of my guy friends. The others, I see them as my friends. The thing is that my parents think I'm going "gay" [I'm bi actually] because I have so many guy friends [my parents are homophobes] and they [my mom mostly] thinks that I have a crush on every one of them. Then there is the whole school deal. Most of the people that go to my school are like "OMG! He's a guy! I can't be friends with him because I'm a girl." And stuff like that. So if a girl has many guy friends and vice versa, you're basically screwed-- especially if you're a girl [that's me] that has many guy friends [that would be, well, my guy friends]. Last year, my friend who is a total tomboy got called a wh*re/sl*t/ and whatnot because she had so many guy friends and like one girl friend [like me. Woopdee doo.] So I'm afraid that's going to happen to me and have people thinki I like all my guy friends or something...
So is there any way that I can attempt to get more girl friends or just get over the fact that I get along with guys more easily? Ahh! I don't know. Just tell me what to do, please =) (link)
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I get your problem :) I have a ton of guy friends, but thankfully a nice group of girl friends Im close to as well. It's deffinitely easier sometimes to talk to guys or just hang out, because their so easy going. Girls can get caught up in drama, or overreact over little things. And guys can be a lot of fun, too :) Girls can think whatever they want about you without knowing you, so let them get to know you. Get a few girls (not to many, than it gets cliquey) you might kind of know (or ask Jane to get some of hers)and invite them to your house for a sleepover. Make it fun! Go out for part of the night like going to the mall, bowling, ice skating, out to dinner (even bring a guy friend or two?) and than come back for an old-fashioned slumber party. Have candy, funny movies, etc. Get talking, and pretty soon you'll find you'll be connecting with them. Girls talk. A LOT. If their comfortable with you, you won't be able to get them to shut up :) You can talk about what bothers you, like your rep with some girls, and be a good confidant for their problems. Just be yourself, and see if you guys clique. Some girls might even be jealous of you, because your with a lot of guys and they might find it hard to talk to guys. Just give it a shot.
Good luck!
-Abby
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if i put aloe on after tanning, will it keep the tan longer and better and make it like.. healther and more noticable?
what if i put it on after using fake tanning lotion?
thanksssssssssssssssssssssss
stayy stellarr. ;] (link)
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Aloe doesnt fix damaged skin, it just relieves pain and makes healing time faster. Will do nothing for fake tan.
-Abby
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Well I just found out that I may be pregnant again, I just had my second kid and then had my tubes tide and now he is only 6 months old I just had this gut feeling that I might be so I took a store bought test and it came back positive, so is there really anyway that I can get pregnant that fast after having a baby and my tubes tide? (link)
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Though the chances are EXTREMELY slim, it is possible after getting tubes tied and having a baby recently that you could be pregnant. Actually, I believe you can get pregnant the first time you have sex after you have the baby (within a decent amout of time, that is) as I knew someone who got pregnant about three months after having their first child.
I'd try another test though, because with your tubes tied it's a bigger chance that the test was just wrong.
-Abby
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I found out one of my cousins had a miscarriage after trying to have another baby. But what happens to the baby when it dies. Do doctors have to surgically remove the baby ... or does it just come out?
What happens if a teen purposley kills her baby, what happens to the baby then? (link)
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Usually the woman who had a misscarriage has to go to the hospital and get the baby surgically removed, or have a stillbirth. Same for the teen.
-Abby
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so i got fake nails today and they're driving me insane and i can't type or do anything right with my hands...
so how do i get them off or at least make them shorter????????
i tried clipping them and they're too thick.
help me (link)
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DONT MESS WITH YOUR NAILS!
lol, i have fake nails as well, and just do not mess with them.
first off, give it a day and you'll easily get used to them. but clipping/filing can damage your nails underneath and it gets messy. trying to pry them off hurts a lot.
at the nail salon, they usually soak your nails and than use a tool to pull them off so its not extremely painful.
if you have acetone nail polish, it does thin the nails out and make it easier to take them off, but its really hard and painstaking and your nail beds are sore for the next few days. if they still bother you after a day or so, go to the nail salon and have them remove them.
Good luck,
-Abby
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15/f
what qualties do guys look for in a girl like honestly? (link)
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Different guys like different things, but theres pretty basic qualities that guys like in a girl.
They like girls who can make them laugh
girls who aren't very uptight or extremely high matinence
girls who are laidback
girls who share their interests
girls who are relatively nice or friendly
of course guys are attracted to pretty girls, but its really a stellar personality that pulls them in.
-abby
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22/f
Ok there is a friend of mine that I see only when my friends and I go dancing because it is far away. I like him alot but not sure what he thinks. He does the riska dancing with my friend, but When there is slow dancing he always asks me to dance. we talk online and the other day he was telling me about the play he was in and giving me all the dates and times of the show. But not ever asking me if I would come directly. Is this his way of hinting that he wants me to be there? Also are there or could there be any other signs tht he has an interest? Or how can I create some? I would love ALT of opinions on this matter. Thank you!! (link)
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First off, if he gave you all the info about the play and going there, he obviously wants you there. So that means your a good friend to him, or maybe he likes you more than a friend. Does he flirt with you? Look you directly in the eye when he talks to you. Do you ever catch him looking at you, or smiling? Be observant next time you see him. See if he acts differently towards you than other girls, or even ask around to people who know him.
-Abby
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I've asked this question twice, at two different advice forums. Perhaps I just won't accept the answer, I think I might be looking still to hear what I want: that I should hang on... Well, I've met this friend through business, she's 19 years older than me (I'm 27, she's 46). We get along just fine, but it's mostly up to me to keep things going and stay in touch - unless I phone, e-mail, text or visit I rarely hear from her. I've tried "silent treatment": it once lasted 3 months, currently we stand at 8 weeks and counting. It just feels as though I am not important to her at all. Last year she went through major surgery, and I supported her as much I could. I know how much she appreciated it, she said I have been "an angel" through her op & recovery. Yet, when I need a little support, she's never there. We never get to go out and have that coffee; she can never commit to a date or find time for me. Perhaps she's just not that into me? Everyone, including my husband, says that I should let go because it is one-sided (she doesn't seem to miss me when we lose touch for a couple of weeks anyhow?) And still my heart keeps holding on, I love my friend, I've gained her trust, we have an almost tangible bond that seemed to have been strentghtened in her trying time last year. I feel guilty for wanting to let go - a true friend is supposed to give without expecting anything in return, right? I had always hoped that it is divine to give unconditionally and that that in itself would be fulfilling enough. But I do in fact have expectations: I want and need her friendship, I want her to want me too and to also put effort into our relationship. Perhaps my expectations are far too high... should I let go? Or should I fight for it? When I touched the subject of me always taking the effort to stay in touch and her never picking up the phone, we ended up arguing; she said that she is busy and I am over-sensitive. Please help me, I've invested so much and this friendship has brought me so much joy (although a great deal of tears as well...) (link)
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I understand what your going through, as I've had my share of bad friendships. It doesnt sound like shes a bad friend or person, it just sounds like you appreciate the bond the two of you have a lot more than she does. She probably is busy like she says and isn't looking for a strong friendship (or doesn't have the time/effort). Whatever her reason is, it is deffinitely not fair for you. If your willing to put so much into a friendship, you need a friend who can and wants to reciperocate. You don't have to let go of the friendship, just don't depend on it so much. Let go a bit to the point where it wont hurt you so much. Call her up occasionally, make dates to catch up, etc. Let her make some effort. Rebuild your friendship. It's hard to let go, but when it hurts you so much, it's not really worth it anymore. You could try talking to her again, and telling her how hurt you are, but it would probably be easier on you to just let up.
Good luck
-Abby
-Abby
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what are benefits to eating chocolate on occasion? (link)
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I've heard having a small piece of DARK chocolate everyday helps you a lot. It's the antioxidants in it. (I believe I heard that on oprah, lol)But milk chocolate or anything like that won't do anything positive for you.
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where can you buy the best, cheap, comfortable thongs at? thank youu. (link)
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You can pretty much find non-expensive underwear anywhere in the mall, but my fave is victorias secret.
Five pairs of PINK undies (so anything from briefs, boy shorts, thongs, string bikinis, etc) for 25$ (i like the PINK line because there all really cute without looking tacky, and really comfy unlike some of the meshy lacey kinds)
But like other people said you can get them at charlotte russe,wet seal, aeropostale or i bet you could get them really cheap at like macy's/strawbridges/jcpenney etc or something (not a huge variety)
-Abby
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Ok...so there are two guys that i like (and that like me). I've never really had a real boyfriend...like i've had middle school boyfriends...but those dont really count. Ok so i'm kind of "inexpierienced" or so to speak. LIke i've made out and what not..but not really beyond that. One guy, Josh, is really hot, and he is really 'experienced" like i know he's done a lot, and the other guy, tom, i think is more like inexperienced like me. Like i'm popular, but i'm kind of known as the "nice girl". Ok, so at first i just wanted to go out with Josh, but now i'm thinking maybe i should go out with Tom, because i think he would be more like me. Because i'm not really ready to go that far yet...i dont think.
Who do you think i should go out with? Please give me your honest oppinions. I'm just worried that Josh is going to expect me to go farther...but maybe not (he is kind of like the School flirt or so to speak)
THanks so much for any advice you can give me :) (link)
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Don't worry about what you and your future bf will be doing in the future, because both of you can decide how far you want to go then. Pick the guy you like more. The guy that has better qualities. The guy that makes your heart jump. The guy that really cares about you. You cant go wrong with the "flutter test"
Take a breath, zone out, and than think of one of the guys. Did your stomach flutter? You really like him :)
Good luck
-Abby
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okay so i am trying to put up a pic on the advicenators thing. I sent it from my phone to my email and now i am trying to copy and paste it to the column settings but its not working! any ideas????? (link)
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You cant copy and paste. Download it to your computer and than open it.
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