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I Need More Girl Friends
I'm 14/f [And you thought a guy would be asking this question =P]. I don't have many friends and I'm fine with that and also the fact that I only have one true girl friend [let's call her Jane]. I'm not exactly a tomboy but I get along with the guys much better because...I don't know. We just click better than I do with girls. I have about 9 guy friends and Jane is my only girl friend. She has another friend [let's call her Jessy] and I'm okay with her but we don't see each other often...MAYBE once every two weeks? In the hallways? Plus, she's moving away this summer so it's kind of bleh. Anywhos, you're probably wondering what my problem is by now. Well, I know that I only like one of my guy friends. The others, I see them as my friends. The thing is that my parents think I'm going "gay" [I'm bi actually] because I have so many guy friends [my parents are homophobes] and they [my mom mostly] thinks that I have a crush on every one of them. Then there is the whole school deal. Most of the people that go to my school are like "OMG! He's a guy! I can't be friends with him because I'm a girl." And stuff like that. So if a girl has many guy friends and vice versa, you're basically screwed-- especially if you're a girl [that's me] that has many guy friends [that would be, well, my guy friends]. Last year, my friend who is a total tomboy got called a wh*re/sl*t/ and whatnot because she had so many guy friends and like one girl friend [like me. Woopdee doo.] So I'm afraid that's going to happen to me and have people thinki I like all my guy friends or something...
So is there any way that I can attempt to get more girl friends or just get over the fact that I get along with guys more easily? Ahh! I don't know. Just tell me what to do, please =)
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Just get over the fact. There's nothing wrong with hanging out with guys & you know it. Truthfully, I think that girls that bash on you for it are just jealous because they don't have guys as friends.
And I see why you don't hang out with girls. It's girls like that [the ones who bash you for dumb things] that make me wanna kill them all. I hang out with guys too, and it's cool.
And as for your parents, ignore them. You're their daughter and no matter what your sexual orientation may be they should love you. =) And if they don't, then they're not very good parents.
Hang out with who you want. Be who you are & fuck opinions. Remember that. =)
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Ah, I hate it when problems are like that. I get what you're saying cause when I was younger I used to be with guys all the time, but I was also friends with girls who hung out with guys as well. Really, if someone calls you a wh*** or something, they might be jealous that you have tons of guys friends and they wish they were you(XD Trust me on that one, well, atleast it was that way when I was 11) Just try to hang out with girls some, and see if you can drag some of your guy friends over there so that just in case you feel awarked you have one of your guy friends to help out! And hang out with Jane and her friends some days, you don't have to always be in a conversation when hanging out with people, just say something every now and then and laugh when you should and sooner or later you'll be able to talk to them! I wish you the best of luck!
~Vera
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I get your problem :) I have a ton of guy friends, but thankfully a nice group of girl friends Im close to as well. It's deffinitely easier sometimes to talk to guys or just hang out, because their so easy going. Girls can get caught up in drama, or overreact over little things. And guys can be a lot of fun, too :) Girls can think whatever they want about you without knowing you, so let them get to know you. Get a few girls (not to many, than it gets cliquey) you might kind of know (or ask Jane to get some of hers)and invite them to your house for a sleepover. Make it fun! Go out for part of the night like going to the mall, bowling, ice skating, out to dinner (even bring a guy friend or two?) and than come back for an old-fashioned slumber party. Have candy, funny movies, etc. Get talking, and pretty soon you'll find you'll be connecting with them. Girls talk. A LOT. If their comfortable with you, you won't be able to get them to shut up :) You can talk about what bothers you, like your rep with some girls, and be a good confidant for their problems. Just be yourself, and see if you guys clique. Some girls might even be jealous of you, because your with a lot of guys and they might find it hard to talk to guys. Just give it a shot.
Good luck!
-Abby
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