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How do you "Scrunch" your hair?

my hair is about 1/2" above my shoulders.
thanks

You put some gel in it and grab a section of hair. Push it up and squeeze the hair a few times.

Bedhead's curl amplifier works really good. It did this to my hair.

[http://i16.tinypic.com/4c2r4t2.png]

it got little waves. I didn't use a lot though [my hair is thick] and I didn't blow dry.

Try teasing your hair to get some volume first.

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okay so i have really really thick straight hair. its pin straight and you cant even imagine how thick it is

because of this, my hair doesnt scrunch and when i put braids or use a curling iron, it looks horrible.

i might want a perm i dont know....

could i get a perm to make my hair like this???
http://img262.imageshack.us/img262/4778/newfv6.jpg

and if not i need a way to curl my hair i have used every moose and curling iron out there.nothing works!!!!

Yes you can get a perm.

Just go to your hairstylist and bring in a picture.

They have different types of curls/spirals.


Maybe buy a different curling iron. It should work. You could always put rolls in your hair overnight and wake up to put moose on it.

Have you tried a french braid? My hair is thick too and I did a few frenchbraids around. You just grab a few layers from the top and braid them. Push the braid off to the side and start to make a new braid under it. While you are making the new braid, you pull in the old one and wrap hair around it.. then you continue doing it. Does that make sense? I hope it did.


I'm sure if you ask your hairstylist.. you'll get a number of options. But rolls or a perm will most likely work.


You need to get your hair thinned out.

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do girls like giving blow jobs, or is it just something that girls do cuz the guy asks them to?

everyone is different..

but lately from what I've heard.. girls feel forced to give blow jobs because they want their guy to be happy, blah blah.


but yes, girls do like giving

and others.. just don't.

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2 questions..

i got the Plus White 5 Minute Speed Whitening Gel [in the toothpaste-like tube] and was wondering if anyone's used it and how well it works?

also, i brush my teeth everyday and use whitening toothpaste but my teeth are really yellow! its so embarassing i try not to smile in pics and stuff bc it looks like i smoke or something. its awful! i drink milk 2-3 times a day so i get a lotta calcium and stuff. but its chocolate + i drink tea a good bit but can that really be staining my teeth that bad? i know tons of people who drink choc. milk and tea and their teeth are still white! ahh its aggrivating.

The gel works pretty good if you leave it on longer than 5 minutes. It depends on how bad your teeth are stained. It said something about half an hour. Well i did about 10 minutes. It knocked it down a shade of yellow.

but continue doing it and brush your teeth at least 3 times a day.

it won't be so yellow.

I think you'll need to get a whitening job if you really want white teeth.

Try avoiding tea.

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i have a little bit of hair growing like, around my nipple area. is that really weird? i have hair on my stomach too. should i shave it off or leave it? is it really weird or do other people have it too?

Yeah other people have it so it's pretty normal.
You don't need to shave it unless it bothers you.

I would just shave a bit on your stomach... But people won't see it unless you are wearing a bathing suit or a small shirt.

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me and my group of friends with a new girl this year..now shes a part of our group. its been about 5 months since we've been friends, and now she said that she used to cut herself and sometimes gets drunk. im not like that at all. i think thats really bad. i dont want to be peer preasured. i really like her.. whaddo i do?

Well. she said "used" to cut and get drunk.

So I don't think you have anything to worry about.

If she suddenly starts up again, worry about her.. not that you'll do it.

If you don't want to do it then don't. All that stuff hurts you.

You can try talking to her and tell her you care about her.. You don't want her to get hurt.

but I think it's all in the past..

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its okay to cut the hair 'down there' right with just like a siccors once a month or so because i'm scared to shave "there"

Yes it's okay to trim. :]

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I hadd horrrible acne at the beginging of this year from stress and this pill i was put on, and now i have none at all but a lot of scars from it.. is there any way or any things that people have found to work to help get rid of thiss? besides going to the dermotoligistt

thanks=]

I'm sure there's some acne scar cream you can get.

Lemon juice can work too. Not quickly but if you apply it to one spot.. it will fade scars.. since it is a natural bleach.


I can look for acne scar cream online.. if you want?

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Hi im 14 male,i was wondering,how old would most parents say you should be before your girlfriend could sleep over,like in the same room/same bed.I know some parents are strict, but what would most parents say is old enough?
Thanks,
Please Anwser

and its not to have sex...its just to cuddle with eachother and to kiss eachother goodnight..

I doubt they want their kid in a bed with a girl. Even if you aren't having sex.. it's a bit uncomfortable.

I'll say 18 or.. not at your parents house...
Maybe when you get your own place? Apartment or something.


I guess you could be at your house during the day.. and plan a little sleep over.

Watch a movie and cuddle.. and take a nap.

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in my school theres this club called the "Duck Tape Club". me and my friend were CRACKING UP when we heard it on the announcements.. but seriously like nobody i know knows what it is!! and they said yesterday that there were only 7 more slots left, and today it said that the spots were filled, and not to fret cause they're making another club in the spring. L-O-L. Whats up with this?????

Yeah, you could go meet up with that club and ask what it's about. But we wouldn't know.


Since it's about /duck tape/ I'm assuming they like it? Repairing backpacks with it, making things witrh it.

Ducktape comes in a number of colors and pretty designs [zebra print, cheetach, camo]. Some people make dresses out of it for prom.

You can do really cool things with it.

http://www.ducttapefashion.com/

http://www.ducktapeclub.com/contests/prom/

http://www.octanecreative.com/ducttape/fashion/fashion5.html

http://www.octanecreative.com/ducttape/fashion/prom/


Some of the stuff is amazing..

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What is the difference?
I am seriously confused,
because I've heard that Agnostic means you don't believe in anything, and Athiest means you make fun of God.
Is that right?

Agnostics believe in a higher power, not really 'God'.

Athiest means you don't believe in God.. at all.

It doesn't mean you make fun of God.

It's just.. some athiests dislike religions/religious people and tend to make fun of God because they don't believe he exists. So it's like.. "HAHA you believe in someone that's not there"

But yeah, they are some nice athiests out there.

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how can i hide my anorexia from my parents?

There is really no way to hide it. They will find out sooner or later.

When you skip meals ... questions will come up and all excuses that you'll eat later or something... They will catch on that you haven't eaten anything.

Especially if they think you're not eating and if you throw away food, they will check trash cans.

It causes a lot of problems. What happens when they ask you to sit down for dinner? [Just assuming you eat a family table] They will notice you are moving foods around to make it look like you ate something. Most likely, they won't let you leave the table without eating something.

If your weight bothers you that much to a point of an eating disorder.. go talk to someone. It doesn't have to be a parent. You should tell them at some point though.

Eating disorders.. actually make you gain weight. So you will be disappointed. If you go far as to being underweight, you will have health/heart issues.

You could get a diet plan or do some excerises. In time, you'll see the weight you lost and you'll be proud of your process. That.. is a wonderful feeling.

This isn't probably what you wanted but nobody is really supposed to tell you how to hide eating disorders.

It's nearly impossible. It causes too much trouble.. and too many questions.

You could always limit your meals to 3. No snacks. A jog or a walk. Some push ups/crutches.

It really depends on how much weight you want to lose.. but I'm sure your family and friends would help you lose some weight.

You could always lose weight with some friend. It will motivate you.

I'm sorry.. this is probably not what you wanted for advice.

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15/f

When a guy asks you to see a movie, does that necessarily mean it is a date? What if he is bringing one of his friends but doesn't care if you bring someone?

I suppose I am going to get different answers, but I'm sure there must be a way to figure it out.

Thanks! =)

Well do you two flirt? Because it could be a date and he wasn't sure if you would go with him alone, so he brought a friend along thing as a backup.

You wouldn't really know unless you asked or if he reffered it to as a date.

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My boyfriend is significantly older then I am.

:] Well let me start by saying that I do have a great relationship with my boyfriend. He's my best friend and he makes me extremely happy most of the time.

The problem is he makes me feel so bad. He says that I don't let him see his friends enough. Whenever we rarely hang out on weekdays, and yes, we do hang out on weekends only because we're both so busy any other time. =[

So, tonight he came over because I cooked my family dinner and everything was going well. Until he got a call from his roommate who said they were going to have a party. The guy who was going to be there always has weed & stuff and the only time my boyfriend ever gets high is when he's there.

That's when I went into a serious girlfriend mode and started telling him he couldn't do it, otherwise I'd be mad. Then he started complaining about how I always make him feel guilty & never let him hang out with friends.

What can I do to make this whole situation better? But, still be with him at the same time?

You can't really control him. It will anger him. He feels bad because you're giving him a guilt trip. Just talk to him about getting high and how you dislike it.

You should let him hang out with his friends.

the more you tell him no, he's going to want to do it more and he's going to get mad at you for holding him back. Just tell him you don't agree with his decision. You should let him see his friends and that you'll always be by his side.

Unless you absolutely can't be with someone who does weed.

But I wouldn't go far as to "it has to be ME or weed"

because if you are both angry, the wrong things might be said.

You can try working things out.
Like you can only do weed like 2 times a month because you don't like him doing things like that and how it bothers you.

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My best guy friend usually helps me through everything, he seems to understand and listen. But recently he hasn't seemed to care about me as much. He used to call a few times a week and ask how I was doing, and if I had a problem we'd talk it through.

It's been 11 days and he hasn't called once. I feel like he really doesn't care about me anymore. Today he helped me with a problem but only because I told him I had one, and I felt like he felt he HAD to help me. I only see him on the bus to school, and I never ask about it. I don't know, I've tried talking to him about the not caring thing and he says, "How am I supposed to know you have a problem if you don't tell me?" I mean yes, that is understandable, but he used to check in with me at least.

I don't know what to do. It's honestly really hurting me, I cry everynight, and have NO ONE to talk to. I feel like I'm losing my best friend, PLEASE help me. Anything is good!

He's 16/m, and I'm 16/f.

It's only 11 days though. Tell him you want to talk to him. Tell him that you liked it when you did. I'm sure he cares but maybe you should call him?

He might check in with you again. Just try talking to him and ask him if he's been busy lately. Just say that you miss talking to him and things.

It does sound like he liked/likes you. But you really need to work on that communicate before he drifts away.

He may be stressed out, has a girlfriend or he probably thought he was calling you too much?

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I'm in 7th grade & I'm taking Algebra1. Do you think this is advanced?

Well, did you have Algebra 1a (or was it called 1B in your school) ?

It's best to have that class first and you should have.. had at least a B in that class.

Algebra 1 would be fine if you passed the previous class.
Some people had to retake it though. Including myself.

You just have to be prepared and remember forumlas, and whatnot.

~
It is advanced. Not many people get that class in 7th grade.

You must really know math.

There's some juniors/seniors taking that class.

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this question is mostly for guys. but if any girls have guy friends or boyfriends that tell them, then this is for you too! do guys like when you have anything on your lips when you kiss them? i mean like lip gloss, lip stick, chapstick, nothing, etc. i mean wahts their preference and does anything annoy them? thanks in advance!

Well it depends. I think it only matters if you have a boyfriend. Who you should ask what they like.

Some guys like lipgloss, some don't because it's "too sticky"

Lipstick can look sexy on you but it leaves marks [if kissing on the cheek, neck] and gets some lipstick on their lips too.

Chapstick is the way to go. It makes your lips soft and it isn't sticky.

Some guys do like lipgloss.. especially flavored ones.

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i really want to do more then just kiss my girl friend but im 15 so i dont think its right but kissing it getting boring! help please.

Then make kissing more exciting. Don't try to make her do something she doesn't want to do.

Have you tried kissing her neck? Nibbling on her neck/ears? French kiss? Softly biting.

Have you felt her up? Maybe you could try that but I'll ask her first. I wouldn't try reaching your hand up her shirt unless she said it's okay.

Don't kiss as much? :D
You could just cuddle with her. I'm pretty sure she will like that.

It just depends on what she wants to do. Have a talk to her about making out.. but yeah, remember a relationship shouldn't be all about it.

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I was wearing panties and sweatpants. My boyfriend was like fingering me but i had on my sweatpants. Is that still considered being fingered? I'm really not sure considering I was wearing pants.

Also I'm a bit sore right now. What's going on? (he did it about 10 minutes ago)

It's just fooling around.

It's only fingering when his fingers are inside you without clothes protecting you.

Since you were wearing layers of clothing, it's added pressure and if you haven't been close to fingering before.. then it will be a bit sore.

If he was pressing too hard and you didn't like it, tell him to be gentle next time.

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im a virgin but me n mi boyfriend want 2 go all the way, but im kinda holdin dat off rite now bcause im nervous n i dunno...he said he wanted to finger me and quote "make love" to me but i dont know how that'll feel plus i would be super tight so wouldn't that hurt...i have never made a question like that so public, i feel comfortable around u guys tho thankz
i\'d also like some guys to reply to..ones who have had experience already. but girls too.

If you're nervous then you don't have to go through with it. I think it's better off to start fingering so you aren't so tight.

Only have sex when you are ready.. NOT when he is. I think it will be a lot better if you aren't so tight so it won't hurt as much.

If you haven't been fingered.. It's going to kind of hurt the first few times. Make sure to tell him what you like.. Like how he's doing it and tell him to be gentle.

I heard it hurts the couple few times and you might bleed, that it's sore blah blah.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
Tell him you aren't ready, if you are having doubts. He should respect your decision.

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