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doin it for the first time
im a virgin but me n mi boyfriend want 2 go all the way, but im kinda holdin dat off rite now bcause im nervous n i dunno...he said he wanted to finger me and quote "make love" to me but i dont know how that'll feel plus i would be super tight so wouldn't that hurt...i have never made a question like that so public, i feel comfortable around u guys tho thankz
i\'d also like some guys to reply to..ones who have had experience already. but girls too.
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If you're nervous then you don't have to go through with it. I think it's better off to start fingering so you aren't so tight.
Only have sex when you are ready.. NOT when he is. I think it will be a lot better if you aren't so tight so it won't hurt as much.
If you haven't been fingered.. It's going to kind of hurt the first few times. Make sure to tell him what you like.. Like how he's doing it and tell him to be gentle.
I heard it hurts the couple few times and you might bleed, that it's sore blah blah.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
Tell him you aren't ready, if you are having doubts. He should respect your decision.
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If you are nervous and unsure of how you truly feel about having sex with him or at all or doing anything sexual such as fingering put simply don't do it--at least not now. Rule it for now, tell him why and let him know that when you are ready for sex or fingering you'll tell him. Also tell him with conviction "If you pressure me about this ever, you're toast!"
You just aren't ready yet for sex or fingering if you are nervous or doubting whether you should do it. Never do it to keep a guy either as men will be coming and going from your life until you settle down and marry that special person in the future. Bottom line, don't rush things and take things slow until you feel truly ready so it will be special.
You aren't emotionally or physically ready yet and that's perfectly fine and nothing to be ashamed of. It's better for you to wait than make a crucuail mistake that could haunt you later or bring forth an unwanted pregnancy.
If he bails on you for telling him where you stand than it proves that you shouldn't be together sexually or otherwise. It's your body and not his. Sex is not all it's cracked up to be at least not the first time believe me from experience.
Sex can hurt if there isn't enough lubrication and no communication between partners while engaging in it. It may not even feel pleasurable or you may not feel anything at all your first time.
Sex isn't a decision that is easy to make or one to be rushed as there's millions of guys out there and several that will come in and out of your life make sure you're doing it with the right one and not to satisfy anyone but yourself.
Fingering is pretty common among adolescents and I'm sure you already know what that entails as it's more or less female masturbation done by the guy and doesn't have to involve penetration at all. It should never hurt you either. If it does tell him it's too rough and put a stop to it going any further and decide on your own whether to educate him about what he did wrong.
Just ask yourself though if you really want him touching you in a sexual way yet or even at all or further more seeing you naked in any fashion. If the answers to any of your questions about being ready is maybe or no don't do any of it and to reiterate just tell him the truth about why.
It's all about personal choices and readiness here and from what you've written I can sense you're not ready hon--not just now. Finally, if the two of you do eventually want to do these things together you ought to read more books, and get better info so you know down the road what you're getting into and can make key decisions on it.
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I havent had any expeience I plan on staying a virgin till marriage...however Ive heard the first view times hurt because you are so tight and becareful the may just want to use you for sex
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hey dont do anythign unless you know your completely ready and ur not nervous. i can talk to you more about personal stuff if you IM me on aim..my sn is eatapasty
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If you aren't comfortable with having sex with your boyfriend, tell him no. And if it upsets him- he's probably just there to get in your pants.. If he's willing to wait, then he really cares about you.
Honestly, I think you should both wait for marriage, but I am not in control of what you two do.
Hope I helped!
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--Jack
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