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sex & feeling good..
Ok so my boyfriend and I just started having sex regularly and I doesn't feel all that great. I always thought it would be something amazing but I don't really feel anything. Please give me some advice on what I could do to make it feel better for me!! thanks =)
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OK, if you want to have sex try sexual things like you giving him a blow job or you being eaten out and figered....IT WILL FEEL BETTER FOR YOU
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maybe he's inexperienced. try getting him to vary his pace.
perhaps some new "strategies" would be good to try... like get a vibrator for your clit.
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21f: The first few months of having sex can either be a great time of experimenting and not being able to keep your hands off each other, or it can be painful and confusing. Mine was a mix. It wasn't painful, but my boyfriend was a virgin too so we didn't really know what we were doing and he was so nervous we couldn't get a condom on him for weeks!
To know how to make your experience better, we probably need to know more intimate details. You can basically work it out yourself:
1. Are you really into your boyfriend? (If not, take my advice and stop having sex with him, you're wasting your time.)
2. Is he experienced? (If not, keep trying, it might very well get better once he gets more confident.)
3. Have you had sex before? (If not, again, give it time to get better.)
4. Is he, erm, reasonably well endowed? (If he's teeny - sorry guys - this would explain why you don't feel much... Not much you can do to help this.)
5. Does he know how you're feeling?...
If he doesn't know, you need to tell him somehow - you absolutely cannot solve this problem on your own and sex will continue to be an unexciting experience for you. (Do not assume he feels the same way! Guys are clueless and most sex is great for them.) This will likely lead to the failure of your relationship. A good friend once said to me, "You always know a relationship's over when the sex turns to s**t". Sure, it might not end straight away, but eventually the cracks start to show and bad sex turns out to be a sign of other problems in the relationship.
One more thing: do not get into the habit of pretending you're enjoying it if you're not. He will never put any effort in if he thinks you're having a grand ol' time ;)
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Ive heard at first for girls its painful...But experiment with different positions..girls are harder to stimulate then guys are...just explore different stuff did you find something you really like..I think the easiest way to do that is by fingering so you can instruct him better
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