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well i have been with my boyfriend 3 months and 3 weeks and we have been talking about sex.he is a virgin and he told me he wanted to lose his virginty to me.I told him i never did anything with a guy.I LIED!i got fingered before by my ex boyfriend.but i never told hi mcuz i would feel ashamed.So soon i might have sex with him and i dont want him to find out im kinda loose and that i lied to him.
i wonder if when he sticks it in will he find out im kinda loose!
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You would absolutely not be "loose" from being fingered once, so don't worry! Think about it this way - women have babies and they can still have sex again afterwards. The vagina is very stretchy and there is no way that being fingered one, twice or twenty times would make it loose! Have fun and don't do anything if you aren't ready :)
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okay theres this guy, and we both really like each other right, and the thing is he liked me a lot last year and i didnt like him like that and i went out with this other guy, and that hurt him and we werent friends anymore (were like bestest friends) but now things are back to the way they were like were really good friends..like best friends, but i KNOW he still likes me, and the thing is i like him too and i think he knows that its just i dont think neither of us wants to do anything about it. i mean we like the way things are going i mean its just easier. but i think he may want to make it 'official' but i dont want to yet. he can tell this is what im feeling and hes taking it really well. i mean we flirt non stop and people can tell theres something going on but im just in denial. i think i have major commitment issues. PLUS i really like him and everything its just i cant imagine myself kissing him. other than that i definately see myself with him. what do you guys think? (link)
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21/f: From personal experience, I can tell you that it is very, very hard to get your friend back after you've been dating each other. What I mean to say is, only go into a relationship with him if you think it might last. Otherwise, you are just taking the long route (and it will be long, I tell ya!) toward kicking him out of your life - and that is clearly not what you want.
Sometimes it's nicer to flirt and enjoy each other's company than to try and complicate things with a relationship.
On the other hand, if you really do feel strongly about him in a romantic sense (not being able to picture yourself kissing him is not a good sign...), you should go for it - best friends make the best boyfriends :)
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does sex feel better for a guy w/o a condom or w/ one? (link)
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Every guy I've been with or talked to about this says absolutely without. They can make condoms as fancy as they want to, but they will always reduce sensitivity. (This can be a good thing for some guys who have trouble holding on, so to speak...)
As a girl, I have to confess to hating them too. They seem to absorb natural lubrication making sex more likely to turn painful if you don't have any extra lubricant around. Plus, they kill the passion when you have to stop foreplay to put one on. Also, any guy with an average-to-large penis will have a heck of a time putting one on.
So all-in-all, condoms suck. Sure, they give you peace of mind, but personally, I'd rather opt for abstinence :)
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How long do you typically makeout for?
Because my bestfriend told me whenever she sees me makeout it seems like it's really really short.
Thanks :] (link)
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It depends on the situation, stage of the relationship, etc. At the stage of a relationship when no sex is involved, I know I've spent ages making out, maybe over half an hour. Once sex is on the cards, making out usually leads to other things pretty fast I've noticed!
If you think about it, you probably keep it a bit shorter when you aren't alone - and this includes whenever your best friend is around. If you ask me, this is just polite - making out is basically something we do in private. Kissing someone in public shouldn't really go on any longer than about twenty seconds or other people start feeling uncomfortable.
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ive heard so many girls say that it feels good when a guy cums in them. i dont get why that is? im a virgin so its not like ive experienced it but i just dont understand how does that feel good? (link)
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21/f: Well, I suppose there are two possible reasons a girl would say that.
First, you can feel it, though only if you know what kind of feeling to expect (this happens once you've had a fair bit of sex). There's no point in me describing the feeling if you haven't had sex but suffice to say it relates to the guy's testicles when they release semen. I like the feeling of it because I like knowing the guy I'm with has just climaxed, but not because it is actually pleasurable for me.
Second, some girls don't like messy sex (i.e., come all over their stomachs, etc), so having the guy come inside them prevents this... Again, this isn't to do with the act actually feeling good for a girl, it's just about, well, practicality :P
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i've never hooked up with anyone before, as in kissing. and i dont want to ask anyone in person because i dont want anyone to know i havent hooked up with anyone yet. its just im sooo nervous about doing it wrong. i kno there is no actual way to do it, but im just wondering for tips or just instructions on how to. and please be as specific as possible thanks soo much (link)
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Hey there. I felt exactly the same when I was younger (I'm 21/f now) so don't worry. I think everyone is a bit daunted by it since kissing has been in your face in the movies your whole life and it dawns on you that you don't really get how to do it...
The main thing is, don't get worked up about it, and don't go looking for someone to hook up with! It'll all happen in time and I hope it does for you when you want it to happen (and are sober - that helps for a much better first kiss!).
Some practical advice, I guess, is just to kiss someone like you'd kiss your own hand (to start with). Lick your lips first, be really gentle, take it slowly and don't try and use your tongue. Trust me, you get the hang of it pretty quickly! Good luck :)
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so im goin to the pediatricion tomorrow w/ my mom for a check up. last time i went i had to wear a hospital gown so that they could check me out & stuff.. but like.. last time i went was like 2 years ago & i had only shaved my private area like once so it wasnt noticable , but do doctors care? i mean.. im 14 so i dont see that it matters. but my mom doesnt know i do it, and i dont want the doctors to say anything
they wouldnt say anything would they? (link)
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Hey there. I really doubt the doctors would say anything to your mum (it's not really something likely to come up in polite conversation!), but even if they did, don't worry about it. Your privates - your business :)
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does fingering feel good? also my friend gave this guy a blow job and she said it was awsome. is it really that good? (link)
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21/f, I really like being fingered but some girls probably hate it. When you said your friend said the blowjob was awesome, did you mean for her or for the guy? I've yet to hear of a guy who says, "No, don't give me a blow job", so its fairly clear they like them! Some girls like giving them, some don't. I think it's fun and I like the feeling of giving one, especially if he's really enjoying it. Both fingering and oral are really good foreplay which makes for better sex in my opinion - if you've got time, that is!
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okay! do guys like it when girls take control during sex? or would you rather been in control?
does it turn you on when girl takes control of what goes on between the sheets or what? (link)
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Hey, my boyfriend loves me being in charge for a bit, it really turns him on. Just make sure it's not just him making you do all the work!
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to detailed but i was wondering when people have sex do they automatically moan or does it just come out without even trying or effort? im really confused and would like to know. (link)
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21/f. When I'm silent during sex, that means I'm not really enjoying the position. It's not painful or anything, but it's just not doing it for me. I find when I'm with the right guy, I can't help but let him know I'm enjoying myself with a bit of noise (nothing too crazy though - what's with people who scream? Weird.)
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Ok so my boyfriend and I just started having sex regularly and I doesn't feel all that great. I always thought it would be something amazing but I don't really feel anything. Please give me some advice on what I could do to make it feel better for me!! thanks =) (link)
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21f: The first few months of having sex can either be a great time of experimenting and not being able to keep your hands off each other, or it can be painful and confusing. Mine was a mix. It wasn't painful, but my boyfriend was a virgin too so we didn't really know what we were doing and he was so nervous we couldn't get a condom on him for weeks!
To know how to make your experience better, we probably need to know more intimate details. You can basically work it out yourself:
1. Are you really into your boyfriend? (If not, take my advice and stop having sex with him, you're wasting your time.)
2. Is he experienced? (If not, keep trying, it might very well get better once he gets more confident.)
3. Have you had sex before? (If not, again, give it time to get better.)
4. Is he, erm, reasonably well endowed? (If he's teeny - sorry guys - this would explain why you don't feel much... Not much you can do to help this.)
5. Does he know how you're feeling?...
If he doesn't know, you need to tell him somehow - you absolutely cannot solve this problem on your own and sex will continue to be an unexciting experience for you. (Do not assume he feels the same way! Guys are clueless and most sex is great for them.) This will likely lead to the failure of your relationship. A good friend once said to me, "You always know a relationship's over when the sex turns to s**t". Sure, it might not end straight away, but eventually the cracks start to show and bad sex turns out to be a sign of other problems in the relationship.
One more thing: do not get into the habit of pretending you're enjoying it if you're not. He will never put any effort in if he thinks you're having a grand ol' time ;)
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Ok I I love to do karaoke and I met this really cute guy *Kurt there a couple weeks ago. He is really nice and is good to have conversation with. when i met him I thought he was like 21-23 yrs old. He looks really young. Turns out he is 31.That didn’t really bother me like I think it should have. We have kissed a couple times but nothing more then that. Is this wrong of me? Am i too young to be doing this? I could really use some advice on this!!!! Please help!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I'm 21 and I'm dating a 35 year old guy. The age gap really bothered me to start with (but mainly because he wasn't honest with me about it). At least this guy was honest with you and looks young. Don't let the age gap stand in the way of something good! Older guys are basically better I reckon - more mature and more likely to have gotten the whole "player" attitude out of their systems. My guy treats me well and has learned what not to say and do in a relationship - which is great because it means I don't have to teach him.
One piece of advice: don't tell people his age before they meet him unless they ask. Reason? People will prejudge him based on his age. Let them meet him, see how cool he is, then later (again, only if they ask) let them know he's a bit older than you (and add that you really like him so it doesn't bother you). I made the mistake of saying, "I'm seeing this guy - he's 35!" as if it was shocking or impressive. I really regret it now because everyone in my life has prejudged him and it's my fault that this happened.
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I'm 22, F: Last semester I had a class with this one guy that I really like. He's very kind, outgoing and smart. I'm drawn to his personality. To make a long story short, I only "talked" to him a couple times, and even then, I didn't really feel myself...not because he's uncomfortable to be around, but because I feel so shy and akward when I'm really attracted to someone. When I feel comfortable, i open up and have tons of things to say, but getting to that point is the problem.
Anyway, today I saw him on campus and we talked a lot, but I felt so jittery. He's so outgoing, and I felt like I was talking a lot too, but I felt like something was holding me back from really speaking up. At times I was outgoing and comfortable, but I felt like I had persistent butterflies.
So, how do you open up to someone of the opposite sex? Any tips as to how I can be more confident, relaxed, and myself are appreciated :) (link)
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Hey there,
It's funny, I read your question and it could have been me writing it. I had this exact problem with a guy, and I've got one piece of advice (which you're already sort of following):
Don't let him get away! I don't mean this guy necessarily, but any guy you feel attracted to (especially if you're "drawn to his personality" as you put it).
I'm nearly 22 and I've spent the last 8 months trying to get this great guy who I met in one of my classes out of my head. And now I'm pretty sure he's graduated and I'll probably never see him again.
Just ignore the butterflies and go for it! The kind of guy you want to attract won't be put off by your nerves, he'll be flattered. At least that way you won't regret your inaction later as I do.
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