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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.
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Ok.
So I have a best guy friend.
And we have always liked each other on and off, but lately we have been hanging out much more than usual. I think he is starting to like me again, I dont' want him to because things are going so well as best friends, and I like this other guy who likes me too. I don't know what to do. I am going over to his house tonight to watch a movie and I wish we could just be friends. I still want to hang out with him, and I don't really want to stop just because he likes me more than a friend. What should I do?
I know what that is like. The best thing to do is to talk to him about it. Maybe say we are friends so we can talk anything right? Then tell about the guy you like. Or just ask we will always be friend right. If you don't say anything then the problem will still be there and nothing would have been solved. The best thing is to talk to him. If he is truly your friend he will understand.
I work with an elderly lady who can't seem to mind her own business. I'm the office manager and so she blames me for all her failings, like not getting raises, not being allowed to check voicemail, etc. She won't be honest with me about the way she feels yet she has no problem running her mouth about me and everyone else to anyone willing to listen. We have a very small office, there is only 5 of us here. So of course everyone knows what she says b/c that's how gossip is. Anyway, she's making my work difficult and making up lies to the boss and I want it stopped. How can I do this without stooping to her level?
The best way to not stoop to her level is to not say anything. Chances are she will get what she deserves. She seems like the type who wont stop gossiping no matter how hard she tries. She will get caught in her lies everyone who does will. If you dont say anything you wont get in trouble. I know it is hard to deal with someone who wont stop and gets on your nerves but life is coplicated and full of people who get on our nerves we can be the best if we set an example and show that we are not like them.
Ok well I just gauged my ears, theyre 18s I guess? That is what the person said. So I was wondering what that meant? I don't understand the differnce. And also, why are they so small?! Normally they are huge and when I told the guy I wanted to gauge my ears he gave me these. Somebody help I am really confused.
Thank you in advance!
Sarah
Ok the higher the gauge the smaller they are going to be. The sizes go from 18 down. 0 is pretty big my brother has double zero and you can stick a highlighter through his ear. Slowly go from gauge to gauge it is less painful.
I was in an accident a few years ago which left my knees and ankles in a pretty bad condition. As a result, I didn't do anything much in the way of exercise for over a year, as it was just too painful. My joints are now feeling a lot better and I'm trying to get back to a better level of fitness, but after so long it's really hard to motivate myself. I've taken up jogging, but after such a long period of inactivity, my stamina is really bad. I'm also really bad at pacing myself, run too fast and then as soon as I'm out of breath (which is sadly not very far at all) just start walking. I don't want to push myself too hard and injure myself again, but I'm finding it hard to find a point between pushing myself too hard and risking hurting myself and not pushing myself enough and not improving. After a long period of inactivity, what's sensible to aim for? Should I be easing myself back into exercise more gently, or should I be pushing myself harder?
You dont want to exercise to much so you will hurt yourself but you do need to exercise so walk about 10 minutes a day or even 5 and then slowly work up. It is a slow process but it will get you to where you need to be.
hey...i want a new screen name but i cant think of a good one. can anyone help me?im a girl and im 13 years old. my name is rachel. i like softball, the beatles, simple plan, fall out boy, and i also like random quotes and statements and i also just like random things. please! i rate high
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Okay to start out with, I have this friend named Shannon. I wouldn't really consider her a friend, because in the past she's really pissed me off & she's just not someone whom I can relate to. But, I still hang out with her, I don't like getting on bad peoples' sides. I'm always so nice to her, but sometimes she'll take it over the edge and yell at me about something so ridiculous & I just snap, but that happens to everybody.
Well, basically today this kid named Gordon that we had just met yesterday went up to Shannon and started physically pushing her around, and stealing her backpack & "strangiling" her. In front of every body at school, he'd literally just throw her up against the wall & it really scared me. Yesterday when I first met him he kept touching me physically just like around my stomach & butt and I felt so uncomfortable. I told him that he should leave me alone because I hate whenever people do that crap. But he tried to do it again today!
I left Shannon while she was getting pushed around by Gordon, only because she was laughing about it, and I thought it was all a big joke. I came back like 5 minutes later and couldn't find Shannon anywhere! Or Gordon, so I started to get worried. I eventually found her 15 minutes later hanging out with some people that would like protect her from Gordon, and he left. She's never ever came to me for anything, or ever told me her feelings before. But, she seemed so worried about Gordon like touching her & stuff and started asking me, why I left her. & She was explaining all the things that had happened.
I'm really pissed now, because Gordons really made me mad. I've never seen Shannon so mentally disrupted in my entire life & she won't stop talking about it. Of course I care about her now because of all of this. Tomorrow I'm going to see Gordon & I just want to know what I should say. I don't want to be too mean but then I'm going to have my good guy friend there with me, so if anything goes wrong or if he starts touching us again he'll get his ass kicked.
Sorry it's so long. But I promise rating & feedback!! :)
Well a guy that does stuff like needs to be put in his place. The best thing is to tell him or even scare him alittle. Tell him that you will sue for sexual harrassment and if he stops now you wont have to go that far. Suggest you guys can be friends but nothing more than that an dtell him you will protect your friend also.
Ok, before I ask my Q, I just want to make this clear---IF YOU DON'T KNOW A LOT ABOUT MUSIC, DO NOT ANSWER. I don't want anyone saying "oh drink some honey and tea and that will turn you into a huge opera singer."
My range is from E3-Db6. I was a soprano for a while, but I switched to mezzo because my mid-voice notes are stronger and richer than my higher notes. My problem is: From D4 on up, my notes sound kind of thin and weak. I can sing the notes easily, but it doesn't sound rich like my mid-voice register. If fact, it sounds like two different people singing. But last week, I had a 3-hour choir rehearsal, and near the end my higher notes sounded rich and like the same person singing. Why is this?
The reason your mid-voice sounds stronger is because you work with it more than you hae with mezzo. If you continue to sing with mezzo your voice will become stronger and will have the same effect as you did when you sang mid-voice. The more you practice each pitch you will become use to using all different types. The more that you practice the more clear it sounds but eventually you will get tired of course.
i like this guy. its just every time we talk on the phone i get sooo nervous and i cant be myself, so i dont know what to talk about without sounding like a complete loser. so what can i talk about on the phone? help.
Talk about something you guys have in common. If you find something you both like you can talk about it all day like sports or bands music or something. Ask him what he favorites are and you can tell him yours. IT always helps trying to get to know the person you like.
Ive dated my girlfriend for almost 3 years, I love her so much. Im 25 years old, and for whatever reason ive had issues finishing school and getting my degree on my way to a full time job and "grown up" responsibilities. My girlfriend is 23 and one year away from obtaining her degree. Since we met, she has been very supportive of me and refuses to give up on my school, which indicates the signs of a tru keeper. Lately she has been upset at me because she doesnt see me up to par with school like i should be. We have cried together many times about this cause she wants to be with me, but at the same time isent sure about many other things. Now i know ive failed her a lot, but is these reason enough for her to have thoughts of braking up? is she being selfish? every body tells me to dump her because she will hurt me and besides they say there are many other girls out there. They fail to realize that i love her so much and see a future that she sees as well, am i beign weak and stupid for wanting to continue with the relationship? like my friend says, if shes giving up on you now, what makes you think she wont give up in the future. What should i do?
A woman has many modd swings. She may be mean one day and nice the other. That is a quality in every woman no matter who it is. I think that she feels that you been together for so long maybe you should make it official. Like maybe proposing to her. She has supported you and you support her. She wants to know that you are willing to stand by her for the rest of her life so. I thnk the best thing is to talk to her but i bet that if you proposed that is what she has been waiting for all along. She doesnt say because every dreams of that cinderalla story so try and make hers come true.
i recently went to the optometrist and he said i should wear my contacts less but i hate wearing my glasses as they make me really self comsious. if my eyes are getting worse what makes a difference if they get worse a bit faster? why are glasses better than contacts except for infections?
If you go out in the sun the sun makes you eyes get twice as worse with contacts then glasses. I have the same problem. He told me that if i kept wearing glasses then my eyes would eventually stop getting worse but if i wore contacts they would keep getting worse and then contacts make you eyes worse faster. Its your choice how you want to do things and you are the only one who can make that decision do whatever feels right.
alot has been going on around me. i'm really depressed. well last night i thought of cutting but i dont have the guts to do it. so instead with a pin i carved an X into my wrist. i feel so addicted i did it again this morning. i keep having these suicidal thoughts and i dont know whats wrong. my life is a mess. and i dont know what to do help?
Using thngs that will hurt wil not solve the problem. Take a deep breath and think of some ways to keep your mind off of what you want to do. If you have a hobby that you love then you have something that makes you so happy that you dont want to think about anything. Take a pencil and write some things that could help solve some of the problems in your life so you can become happier. Keeping a journal may help you get some of your anger out.
ok well...i go to the same school ive been in all my life, and i really HATE it, i have good friends. but it has bad teachers, the grading scale is WAY higher, and that school stresses me out so much, i cant even focus on schoolwork. I honestly don't look at it as a school, i look at it as a hell hole. Well, 3 of my only GOOD friends are going to a different school, a school that ive always wanted to go to. My other friends are going to different schools to, but not the same one as the one i want to go to, well, i asked my mom if i could go. She said no because its in the town north of here, and she said there is no way she could be able to take me and pick me up everyday. She doesnt work or anything, and this school doesnt start until 20 minutes after my school that im in now, so there really shouldn't be any problem with that. I know for a fact that if i go to this school 1. I will be WAY happier 2. I will be WAY less stressed out 3. I will get WAY better grades 4. I wont get in NEAR as many fights as i do at the school im at now.
Is there any way you think i could convince her to let me go?
♥ Me
I know what it is like to have to convince your parents that you are unhappy. But if your mother ever wants you to get into a good college with good grades then this new school idea works out. I dont think someone should have as much stress as you do. Maybe if you found out if they have a bus transportation route near yuor house our mother wouldnt have to drive you anywhere. If you take the bus it would less gas for her and a better life for you. If you show her facts on how it is going to work it may help and talking to her about how you are unhappy. She will listen to what you have to say.
I'm due my period during exam time which really sucks!!!!!!!! Sorry if this is gross but I have reeeeeally heavy periods so it's gonna be really hard for me (it's very bad when I stand up after sitting down for a long time - like in an exam). Obviously I will take plently of extra pads and use the highest one but has anyone got any other tips to get me through the exams while I am on my period? I mean normally they are so bad I have to take a day or two off school.
P.S. I want to go on the pill to lighten them but my doc said wait a bit and see if they work themselves out. What can I do in the meantime?????
I think tha if you wore a tampon ad then use a pad also it will stop you from leaking so bad. I think tampons are uncomfortably so i usa pads but it might not be uncomfortable for you. If you dont like wearing tampons either then wear two pads and after you are done taking your exam go to the bathroom and check it if it is bad bring some extra pads so you can change it. I know what it is like to have a heavy flow it didnt stop until i was about 17 or 18 but it might be better for you if you wait like your doctor.
okay well this isnt a question but i wanted to thank you for what you said on that question about how to get through to people or whatever then talked about a 16/f wanted to be pregnant
well idk who that was.. but i think i might (not personally) and that whole preggo thing was about me and i think you told him/her good advice and sorta stood up for me
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Your welcome and thanks for compliment. Even though i am only 19 i guess i have a passion for helping people. I think you do a wonderful job to. When i need advice i will come to you :)
Ok guys, Im somewhat at a loss. Most questions on this website tend to be at least somewhat mundane. Stuff that, while it could be very important to the poster, isnt life threatening or seriously life altering.
However, every once in a while, we come to the ones that ask a question about something where they stand to screw either their own, someone elses, or both lives.
Case in point, Ive just answered the second question from a girl who is 16 and wants to get pregnant when shes single, living at home, and basically incapable of supporting herself, much less a baby.
Now, this is not the only example, just a very recent one. Worst of all, many of the questioners in these cases are completely opposed to opposing points of view. They are determined that theirs is the right course of action, and are determined to screw themselves and others in the process.
So, my question to the masses, is does anyone know how to get through to idiots like this? Does anyone even think its possible? Im asking mostly those 18 and up, anyone can respond but Im looking for viewpoints from people who are at least looking back at the high school perspective, not in the throes of it.
Thanks, and sorry for length.
-The Spirit Fox
Alot of people do things and dont know why they do them. Sometimes you can talk to them about making right choices and hope tha they do but sometimes it is better to learn from their mistakes. I think there are many answers to this question and different opinions. The only way to get through to people like that is to point them in the right direction not make them make the right decision but just hope they do. Each person is responsible for what they do and no one can do it for them.
thanks for your advice=) how old were you when you went skydiving? do you remember roughly how much it cost?
I am 19 now i think it was when i was 16 and i had my dad with me. i thnk it was around 100 or more. I cant really remeber the price but it was around there. If you look in the phone book and call you will be able to get an exact price.
HI im 12 years old and one of my best friends cuts herself ive been told to tell the guidence councler and stuff but either im nervous or she thinks shell get in trouble do u have any advise of what I can do to help her? thanks
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I know it is hard to watch a friend do things that are as serious as that. But if you dont tell the guidance counciler then she will do it again and the next might be worse than the first. She may get mad if you tell but would you risk her hurting herself more than ever just to be on her side. I think you should tell them and her parents. Sometimes when you cut yourself you dont want to stand the pain of the things in her life and doesnt want to feel the pain of cutting herself so she takes her own life. You shuld do something before she gets to that stage. Try taking her somewhere where she doesnt have to feel anger or anything. Take her to the movies and go out to eat and tell you will help make things better and do anything you can to help her. Keeping her mind off of cutting herself will help ease the temptation for her. Most people who do that are having family problems or just feel angry. Maybe finding a guy will help her find happiness in her own life. Never give up that is the best advice of all. If you give up so will she.
does anyone know the actual age you have to be to go skydiving?
If you are alone they will only let you if you are 18 but if you under 1`8 you need a parent present with you. Thats what i was told when i went. and it also depends on where you are going to.
ok here is the deal..i like this boy John. we have been friends for a while and he started daten this girl about 9 months ago. well while he was daten her me and him started to like each other. well they borke up about a month ago..and the other night he started calling me...keep in mind every time we start talking something bad happens to us. well i thought this time it would be different. but i keep having this feelin that something bad was about to happen..i told him that i was feeling that way and he told me that he promises nothing bad will happen this time and things are going to go the way we want them to...well it did. someone (i have no idea who) iMed me last night and started calling me a slut and telling me all these really mean things. now what lead me to think it's someone he knows is that they mentioned his exgirlfriend and him. i thought i was his sister for a lil while and i still kind of think it is. also. he lives in another part to where i live at, at lest an hour away. but he is suppose to be moving back to where i live soon.
i just want you guys to tell me what i should do. i've thought about telling him that i don't wanna talk with him anymore. but i can't do that. bC i care for him WAY to much. he is the only guy that i've ever actually wanted to be with without cheating on him..i drop EVERYTHING and i mean EVERYTHING to be with this boy.
so if you don't mind please give me some ideas of how i can get through this without telling him we have to stop talking and being friends?
and if you think it is for the best to stop talking then tell me so and tell me why if you don't mind.
THANKS
I think that going with your instincts is the best way to go. I think that if you really like the guy and want to be with no matter what then you should do whatever you can to be with him. Going with your instincts will help you from getting hurt and stop you from having regret. If you dont do something then you will just wonder what would have happened if i would have done something.
Recently I got my haircoloured (5 days ago) I opted for permanent dye. I got it coloured black btw. However, everytime I wash my hair the colour comes out. I wash my hair each day, and don't think this can be right. Should the colour be coming out 5 days after I got it done? Am I doing something wrong? Should I head back to the salon?
Thanks.
Usually if they do not color your roots good enough then the color will come out and if the color expired. Usually when the color expires it comes out within 5 or so days.