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We are a small family of four living on my husband's income. We have a small farm that I run, and I home-school my children. My husband works full time in another job. We aren't poor, but we do have to count our nickels and dimes and budget for things we want.
This is the first year we have splurged on gifts for the children, and we spent more on my sister-in-law because, for once, we had a little extra to spend. It has brought us joy that we can be a bit more generous.
Now that our Christmas budget is spent, my sister-in-law has asked twice that we purchase gifts for her dog -- wrapped, no less -- because her dog likes opening packages! I ignored her request the first time. After the second one, I told her we don't ask people to purchase gifts for our kids, and we don't purchase gifts for other people's pets. Now she's offended.
It may not seem like a lot, but for us, it's a big deal when we get to purchase a movie and a pizza every few months. We never ask anything of anyone. We're a happy, tight-knit family regardless of our financial status.
My husband has had enough. He's tired of his sister's self-absorption and wants to tell her to grow up and that the world does not revolve around her and her dog. Instead, I asked her to simply return any gifts she has bought for us and spend the money on her dog. Are we being unreasonable? (link)
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Not at all. Your sister-in-law is out of line to put the bite on you for gifts for her dog, and you are within your rights to tell her you have a bone to pick with... aw heck, how about if I just post the link to Dear Abby's website, from which you copied this question word-for-word?
http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20061204
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I'm a flat out slut.
I always let guys do stuff to me and take advantage of me sexually.
For some odd reason, i think its fun to get guys horny.
I used to think it was becuase they liked me, but they dont. And no matter what,I still continue to do it , Im not a bad person at all.
I just cant stop doing it!
I usually do it to guys I like or think is hot.
I want to stop, but I dont know how!
And I want guys to start liking me for who I am.
Please dont insult me, i just need help.
Thanks
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Sex can be addictive, in a similar way to gambling or internet surfing. You may not be an actual sex-addict now, but you're definitely tending that way, and at the age of fourteen that's definitely not a good thing.
I'm guessing you've escaped pregnancy so far; count your blessings. You may have also avoided a nasty STD, but I suggest you get yourself to a doctor and make sure. Unfortunately, the damage to your reputation is probably done, and it's something you likely won't be able to shake for the remainder of your teen years. You are going to have a very, very hard time finding a boyfriend who's not interested mostly in getting an easy lay. The guys who are looking for a more meaningful relationship will probably avoid you so that their own reputation is not tarnished. That's just the bed you've made for yourself.
However, that's not to say that your situation is hopeless. You'll have a chance for a fresh start after high school, and with luck you may be able to turn things around before then. In the meantime you're going to need some kind of counseling. You may need to confess your behavior to your parents (judge for yourself whether they can take the news gracefully; there are some parents who will react very angrily to such things).
Most importantly, you must not define yourself as a "slut". If you must, think of that as who you WERE, so that you may begin redefining who you are and who you will be. And someday, you will be able to enjoy sex in a more fulfilling way.
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i was wondering (since your a guy) what are some things you like your girl to do when your making out with her?? my guy has been to second base with me and fingered me too..but it seems all i do is run my fingers through his hair and kiss him while all this happens. so what are somethings you like to happen coming from your girl when you two are doing this??? thanks! (link)
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Well, bear in mind that I'm 34 years old and married, so it's been a long time since I "made out". However, I might be able to give you a few suggestions.
First and foremost, make sure you're clear on just how far you're prepared to go. If you start trying new things, he might take that as an invitation to also try new things, and some of them may be things that you are not ready for. It's better in the long run if you can set the ground rules.
Try the following simple moves:
(1) Blow in his ear, and gently trace your tongue around it. The blowing should be gentle and breathy, not the way you'd blow out a candle. Suck on his earlobes a bit. Be aware that some guys don't like "ear play", so if he flinches away, just move on to something else.
(2) Rub his chest with both hands. Just because guys don't have breasts, it doesn't mean they don't like to be touched there. However, guys like a firmer hand; touching him to delicately will make him feel less manly. It should be more of a massage than just stroking or petting.
(3) Put his hands on your body where you want them. Guys love to be invited, and it also keeps you in control.
(4) Talk to him. Tell him when it feels good, when you feel turned on, and how he can touch you just right. Things like "you're making my blood boil" or "I'm feeling so hot!" will have the desired effect. But be careful not to promise what you can't deliver - saying "I want you!" may be interpreted as an invitation for sex.
(5) Most guys love breasts so much that when he's touching or kissing them, he feels like he's actually getting the better end of the deal. At times like these, all you need do is sit back and enjoy. Trust me, he's enjoying himself plenty. You can put your hands on the back of his head an pull him closer if you want to - he will not mind.
One important thing to know is how to put the brakes on, if it becomes necessary. If you feel that he or both of you are getting too worked up and that you might do something you're not really ready for in the heat of the moment, a good way to stop is to pull him into a firm kiss, pull back and look into his eyes, and say, "I'm getting too excited, we need to slow down." He will probably be disappointed, but that will be offset by how great he feels about having gotten YOU so turned on.
Hope that helps! Happy necking!
Finally, the most critical thing: Be honest! Don't pretend something feels good when it doesn't. He's paying attention to how you react to find out what turns you on, and you don't want to give him any false impressions, or he'll just keep doing it that way.
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but it's been like 5 months since i've had any kind of sexual attention from the opposite sex so i'm like really really horny all of the time...how can i deal with this? and how should i? (link)
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Here, let me give you my phone number...
Seriously, the time-honored method for dealing with advanced horniness is MASTURBATION. Obviously it's no substitute for the real thing, but it's a lot safer than hooking up with strangers in bars.
Think of sex as a full three-course meal. Masturbation is like breadsticks. Everyone wants to eat a good dinner, but if you can't have that then you can at least fill up on bread to ease the hunger pangs a little.
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Do you know how to go about granting an interview with a celeb. We have a letter but don't know how to end it. we are doing this for fun and for learning expreriences. We can't fit the letter here because it's too long. The last paragraph is just about if this interview is granted we would end it around and we will have the write up within 5 days after the interview and where the actor could do it, etc. we need an ending. Any advice is welcome. :) (link)
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Some celebrities are happy to meet their fans for informal Q&A, some aren't. I advise you to contact fan clubs for your celebrity of choice and get the word from them on whether he or she will be interested in meeting with you, under what circumstances they prefer to grant interviews, that sort of thing.
Doing your homework on the particular celebrity is essential. It helps to have the basic information down, partly because it will help you to ask intelligent questions, and partly so that they know you are truly interested and not just doing this for kicks. For instance, if you were to interview John Cleese, it might be useful for you to know that he attended Cambridge and met several of his fellow Pythons there as a member of the Footlights society, or that he had always wanted to act in a western and got his chance in the movie "Silverado". Having this kind of background information will allow you to avoid asking things that your subject has already answered many times, and it will make the interview a more enjoyable experience for him or her.
You must meet their terms as far as possible; after all, most celebrities are busy people and their time is worth money. You will need to assume most of the inconvenience yourself. If the interview is to last ten minutes, then the celebrity's time commitment to it should be ten minutes; yours will be that, plus travel time and preparation. Do not expect them to travel any further than across the street to meet you, and don't expect them to be able to meet you on a specific day and time. The more flexible you can be, the more likely you are to succeed.
Oh, and remember Abraham Lincoln's advice: "When asking of a stranger that which is only of interest to yourself, enclose a stamp." In your case, enclose a pre-addressed and stamped return envelope. In short, make it as easy as possible for your subject to grant your request.
And of course, it goes without saying that you should write a thank-you note afterwards.
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ohk. so i have been masturbateing for a while. the way i do it is to rest my hand on my vagina and rub in a circle whitch works very well. but my friend was talking about how she fingered herself and it was great. well i tried in the shower but i didnt get "excited" is there a certin way to do it? am i doing something wrong? (link)
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The way to do it is whatever way works best for you. People are all different and not everyone has their nerve endings in the same place. Feel free to experiment with different ways of touching, but if something doesn't quite work, it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong - it just means that what works for some doesn't work for others.
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My sister is addicted to vicodin and morphine. She is in a bad stage of it and family is turning on her.She lives in Florida me in Ohio, How can I get the family to help her even though she has become a depressed mess, and yes she is in a major state of denial.Thanks (link)
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You don't mention whether anyone has tried to help her already. If so, then they may have tried and found that nothing they do will help. A drug addict in denial is an emotional black hole; they suck everything in and give nothing back. It is very easy to become totally exasperated with such a person, and that might be where the rest of the family is at this point. They may have good reasons to turn on her, like broken promises or other violations of trust which eventually became too much to forgive.
Before trying to help her yourself, consider: will she accept it, or will she use you? If you spend time, money, and effort getting her cleaned up, do you think she'll stay that way, or go right back again once she has to stand on her own? If you send money, do you think it will be spent on food or more drugs? If you go to her, will you pull her back into your world, or will she suck you down into hers?
The unfortunate facts are these: she is in denial, she would seem to be unable or unwilling to help herself, and you are a thousand miles away. About the only thing you can do for her is be her connection back to her family when she is ready to come back. Stay in touch with her, and perhaps you can represent the alternative to her drug habit.
The important thing is to do nothing that "enables" her. Don't send money, don't cover for her, and don't let her think that everything is fine, because it's not.
And the day may come when you must also turn your back. If she chooses to ruin her own life, that's her own unfortunate choice. Don't let her ruin yours in the process. You have to know when to walk away.
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About every four seconds, my computer screen "flashes". The green button light that says that the screen is on will disapear those every four seconds, as if I pressed the Power button (on/off) twice (as if to turn it on once, and then turn it off about a second later) those ever four seconds. I also can't turn the screen off manually (by pressing the button) unless I shut down the computer. I don't know what it is, or what to do. Help? (link)
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Tighten all your connections. You may have a loose monitor cord. Most monitors power on automatically when the computer does, receiving a signal from the computer, so a loose cord can make it "think" that the computer's power is cycling on and off.
If that doesn't help, try opening the case and re-seating your video card. This will only work if you have a separate video card; if it's integrated into the motherboard, don't mess with it.
Failing all that, you might try testing the computer with a different monitor. If that works, then your monitor is bad and will need to be replaced. If you observe the same problem, then your video card or motherboard is bad. At that point, you'll probably need to take it into a shop for repair.
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well i'm asking this for one of my friends who is going crazy over this whole situtation that really isn't a big deal. ok my friend Erica is best friends with this guy David. She kind of thought he was hot a little while ago then stopped. Now they are even closer friends and flirt a lot! she doesn't want to ruin there relationship (best friends) by going out and he is a little bit of a player, and flirts with a lot of girls I noticed. She thinks he likes her, but I'm not sure cause he flirts with everyone. What should I Tell her? should Erica stop flirting with David or should she just do what shes doing and if David asks her out just say the truth " I like you, but were best friends and I don't want to cahnge that." Also, she told me she doesn't want anyone else involved. What should I do to help her or what should she do or not do? thanks so much (link)
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Why should she do anything? It seems to me that there's nothing wrong here. She assumes that David has feelings for her, but she may be wrong. If he asks her out, she can deal with it then, but in the meantime why go looking for problems?
Short answer: Erica should just lighten up a little.
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Ever since break-up, my ex began to follow me wherever I go. He tries to get the information of everyone I associate with. Most outrageously, he hacked my e-mailbox, and intended to hack my laptop. WHAT THE HELL! I try every way to push him away but he's still clinging me like a dirty stupid parasite. I feel my whole life is monitored by him and that I have no privacy at all. Everything I do is watched by this sick bastard. How can I get rid of him? (link)
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Two words: Restraining Order.
This guy has crossed the line from annoyance to stalker. Document his transgressions as best you can, and then call the cops on him. This guy sounds obsessive and he may be dangerous; do not delay.
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Can ya'll help me to find the best ways to ask our a guy. I've never asked one out b4..so idk! please help!! (link)
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Here's a critical detail: Ask him out in person, and while the two of you are alone. That's not to say you should meet him in a dark alley, but don't approach him while he's with a group of friends or bring your friends with you. It should be done without peer pressure involved.
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I realllllllly like this guy, but theres a problem. My good friend is goin out w/ him. I know she dosent like him as much as i do and i think he likes me bcuz he always trys to talk to me and to get me to look over at him in class. She has a thing were she only gets bf's to have a bf and not cuz she really likes him. She didnt know i liked him when she went out w/ him but she knew our other friend did. Sice he flirts w/ me would it be SOOO awful just to flirt back aliittle?
Thanx in advance (link)
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Flirt with him if you must, but do so with the knowledge that you are putting your friendship at risk.
What's wrong with a little innocent flirting? Here's what's wrong: it's not innocent flirting, because you really do like this guy and in a lot of ways you really want the flirting to actually work.
There is only one way you will be able to successfully date this guy and keep your friend, and that is to tell her exactly how you feel about him. If you're so sure that she doesn't really care for him that much, then you have nothing to worry about; she'll probably be happy to step aside and let you date him instead.
It sounds to me like you're coming up with whatever reasons you can to justify stealing your friend's boyfriend. All's fair in love and war, so go ahead and seduce him away if you really want to, but your friend will feel betrayed and she will have every reason to. It doesn't matter if you think she doesn't really like him, and it doesn't matter that she asked him out when she knew someone else also liked him. What matters is that they are currently dating and for you to move in on him is a violation of the trust that friends place in one another.
Be honest. Tell her that you can't help it, you really like this guy and you think that the feeling is mutual. Maybe she'll gracefully step aside, but even if she doesn't, she won't be able to say that you did anything behind her back.
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I have had a bad past with relationships. All these people have lied, used, and hurt me.. so I'm unsure if I want to start a new relationship. It's been about a year or longer since I was in a relationship.
But I really like this girl. But my parents are homophobes.. "I will hurt you, if you're gay" something like that when I was younger .. recently, it's okay with them.. They just don't want to see it. (kissing, etc)
I'm just afraid of what they will think.. growing up always hearing these gay jokes and insults about lesbians.
And I also don't want to rush into a relationship just because I like someone. When do you think you should go out with someone?
I've known this girl for 2 years.. We weren't really close.. until this year.. We have gotten closer and hung out like 3 times in a week and a half. It's just weird.
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I think that one of the reasons why you may have had a bad time with relationships is that you're pretty young to be having them (assuming that by "relationships" you mean the kind where you date people with some romantic ideas in mind). When one is young, one is an easy target for someone who may wish to take advantage. There is a certain emotional maturity that simply comes from being a few years older. At 15, I'd have said you were ready to START dating. Since you've reached that age with a little experience already, hopefully you'll be able to put that to good use.
It's unfortunate that you lack the support of your parents. It means that they will not be able to give the benefit of their wisdom, and that you will be more liable to get hurt. Their intolerance and bigotry is harmful to you. All you can do is tell them, "I'm seeing someone, and since you've made it clear that you don't approve, that's all I intend to say about it." Maybe they'll come to realize that they're not doing you any favors by turning their backs on this important part of your life. In the meantime, your dates don't deserve to be subjected to their "jokes and insults". If your parents say they want to meet any of your future girlfriends, make it clear to them that you expect them to act like adults and to keep such comments to themselves.
You say that you don't want to rush into a relationship just because you like someone. Why the heck not? I can't think of a better reason to initiate a relationship. The question is, though, how does she feel about you? Unfortunately, we live in a world where straight people sometimes feel threatened and otherwise freaked out when asked on a date by someone of the same gender. You should probably make sure she's capable of returning your feelings for her before "making a move", so to speak.
If things do work out, and you reach the point where you feel comfortable doing so, tell her about how you've been hurt in the past. She may be able to offer you some much-needed support; and who knows, maybe you can return the favor.
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From my question: what are the deadly sins, I commited 6/7. Does that mean I'm a very bad person and will go to hell? I'm only a teen and I try so hard not to commit those sins but it seems every day I'm envious and jealous and angry but I never yell I only keep them in my head but I have head aches all the time from keeping it all in. And does anyone know the words to Hail Mary? I beleive it's a prayer to ask god to forgive me.. (link)
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If you look through the Bible, you'll notice a curious thing: The seven deadly sins (Anger, Lust, Gluttony, Sloth, Pride, Envy, Greed) aren't even in there. They were enumerated by a priest sometime during the middle ages to help people know what kinds of things they should be confessing about.
So don't put too much stock in the horror of the seven sins. They didn't come from the Word of God, they were invented by the church. Besides, we really have no choice but to commit some of them - just try to live a single week without being slothful. You'll probably pass out sometime in the middle of the fourth day. You can live without lust, I suppose, but if we all did it there wouldn't be any future generations. Those who obsess over avoiding gluttony usually end up suffering from some form of malnutrition. Rejecting all of one's angry feelings usually leads to emotional breakdown (or headaches). Live without envy and greed, and you'll probably live in abject poverty. And if by chance you actually DO manage to cleanse yourself of all these sins, you'll probably be proud of your accomplishment, thus blowing your perfect record.
Don't try to be perfect. You'll kill yourself in the process. I can't speak for God (no one can, including the Pope), but it seems to me that to expect someone to live a life entirely devoid of sin is a pretty tall order.
Incidentally, which one did you skip?
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kayy so theres this boy and were kinda like talking you know and well we'll ahve a great conversation going and then he'll start saying one of my friends is cute but then he's like see you get pissed whne i find other girls attractive and i try my best to like eb with him but its kinda hard since he's on house arrest and isnt goint to be off till the 10th maybe ? i dunno im really confused on what to do because i dont wanna like him butt hen i dooo uhh plzz hellp meee (link)
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Here's a thought - the next time he makes a comment about a cute friend of yours, smile at him and say, "what do you like about her?" Keep a good humor and press for details. If you smile and laugh about it, he obviously can't accuse you of getting pissed.
I'm guessing that he's just trying to get a rise out of you and then accuse you of being jealous. He sounds like a manipulator - worse, he may be setting himself up so that if you ever suspect him of cheating, he can just say you're being jealous "like you always are" and that way you'll drop it instead of finding out that he actually IS cheating.
Bottom line: he shouldn't be playing emotional games with you. You should reconsider whether you want this guy to be your boyfriend.
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Well, my school doesn't offer any photography classes, so I'm taking matters into my own hands.
Photography is a hobby of mine, and I want to start saving up for a pretty decent camera. (up to about 350-450 dollars, I suppose.)
What I'd like to know is, what are some really nice cameras you've all used? I'll have a 5.0 megapixel Canon PowerShot Digital Camera again soon (I dont know the exact model, but it's like, their best one) so I'm thinking of getting a 35MM film camera (I LOOOOOVE film!!!) I want one similar to this one:
http://www.bestbuy.com/site/olspage.jsp?skuId=6996824&type=product&cmp=++&id=1099391111123
That kind of style, preferably one where you can out filters on the lens and such. And a tripod option too, if possible.
So if any of you have advice on camera types/books on photgraphy, that'd be wonderful.
I'll leave feeedback (I'm a columnist too and I know how much it helps!) (link)
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Bear in mind that film is on its way out, except for the serious artists. Almost everyone is going digital these days, and the technology will only improve as time goes on. Of course, if you're doing it as a hobby, you can go any way you want, but if you expect to do it professionally you might as well go strictly digital.
That having been said, the Canon Powershot is certainly a decent choice for digital cameras. Get a UV filter for all your lenses. Don't save money on the neck strap; the last thing you want is for a $10 strap to break and destroy a $1000 camera. Pretty much any camera you buy will have a socket for a tripod. The actual tripod should be reasonably heavy-duty; again, it sucks when your cheap tripod fails and drops your expensive camera onto a rock.
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On saturday I'm going on my first date. I don't know what to do, what to say or anything. I'm scared something might go wrong. I dont know anything about dating. Please HELP! (link)
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Some vital information is missing here: how old you are, your gender, where you're going, etc. But there are some general points I could make:
(1) Be clean. Take a shower before going out and make an effort to look (and smell) good.
(2) Don't overdo it. Whoever you're going out with found you attractive the way you normally are, so there's no need to make a huge deal out of it. If you don't usually wear perfume or a tie, don't do it now.
(3) Don't practice what to say. It will make you sound phony. Just have natural conversation.
(4) Try to relax and enjoy the evening. Dating is about having fun, nothing more. Don't expect it to go perfectly, just enjoy yourself.
(5) Admit that you're a little nervous. There's nothing wrong with that. If your date does find something wrong with that, you'd be better off without a second date.
(6) Don't get drunk or otherwise lose control. You will make a terrible impression, and put yourself at risk besides.
(7) Don't expect a kiss. One does not generally kiss on a first date. Unless you really, really want to. ;)
(8) JUST IN CASE - if your date is doing the driving, make sure you have enough money to get a cab home. Odds are everything will go fine, but there is that small chance that things could go horribly wrong, and you need to be able to take care of yourself if it does.
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ok i no this sounds like evry other question on here but... i like this guy and im pretty sure he likes me. he found out and e mailed me asking me if it was true i liked him. wat do i tell him? do i lie and say no or say yes??/
PLEEEEZE HELP SOON! QUIKLYY! (link)
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I'm tempted to tell you to lie and say no, because that may spare him some heartache later on. If you're the sort of person who habitually lies about your feelings, or even needs to think about it, then do him a favor and don't even try to go out with him.
If you're going to tell him the truth... make sure you make a habit out of it.
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I have found myself falling for my best guy friend. I did not have these feelings a while back, but now I totally do. When I would hang around him, I'd act totally cool and casual, but now I find myself nervous. When we talked on the phone it was the worst. I'd never been so nervous! I really want to get my message out that I have feelings for him, but I don't want to straight forward tell him. I really think I have a chance, and there's even times when I feel like he has feelings for me too. How do I let him know, like how do I flirt with him? I'm SO confused!
-Fallen for her best guy friend. (link)
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Why be coy? This guy has been your friend for a while, you know each other well, and there is already a certain level of trust and understanding between you. Just be straightforward about it.
Hints and flirts aren't going to work. Even if he does pick up on them, he will assume he's reading something that isn't there - after all, a while ago, he would have been right! He may be open and even enthusiastic about a deeper relationship, but he's not going to jeopardize the existing friendship for it unless he's sure. Think of how awkward it would be if he kissed you, and you didn't actually want him to - it would ruin everything. Of course he's not going to make a move!
The best thing to do is to be honest - but you don't want to put him on the spot either! If he realizes how you feel, but doesn't feel the same way himself, he might go through the motions anyway to avoid hurting your feelings, which wouldn't be good in the long run for either of you. So, the trick is to test the waters without jumping in.
First, tell your other friends. They can help you with your plan to win his affections, and you don't want someone innocently setting him up with a date and ruining everything!
One way is to start complimenting him and making it clear that you think he's a hell of a guy. Say things like "You would be the kind of boyfriend a girl likes to show off" or, "I wish more guys were like you." If he responds by chuckling lightly and joking with you, then he's just a friend; if he gets quiet and thoughtful, then there's potential for more.
Start getting a little more physical. Hug him when you see him and hold on for just a little longer than you need to. Make an effort to sit next to him when you're having lunch or going to movies with friends. Stare at him and get caught. If he plays sports or anything like that, start attending ALL his games and cheer for him. Let your hand brush his when you walk. Ask him to rub your shoulders. Rub his shoulders. That kind of thing.
If he's responded positively to all this, then it's time to move more proactively. Be alone with him for this step - you don't want peer pressure in the way, so set up a study date or otherwise get together with him (this is where having your other friends in on it can really help; you can set up a date as a group, and the rest of them can conveniently not show up). After a little while, turn the conversation towards kissing - ask him how he likes to be kissed, or some such thing. If things go well, you can eventually ask him to "show you". He may be nervous or hesitate; approach the matter lightly, as if you just want to try it and see what it's like (NOTE - if he's really adamant about NOT wanting to, don't force the issue.) But he will probably agree.
Enjoy the moment!
Assuming you DO enjoy the moment, you will probably find yourself somewhat overcome with emotion. This is the time to let that show, and it is also the time to tell him all about your new feelings. Feel free to confess everything and tell him that you've been deliberately sending signals and building up to this. And, most importantly, insist upon honesty from him. Tell him that you hope he feels the same way, but if he doesn't, he needs to tell you right away or it will hurt more in the long run. There is a risk that he will declare his undying friendship and tell you that there can't be anything else, but it's better you hear that now instead of later.
He may need time to think about it. Give him twenty-four hours, maximum. If he's still thinking about it after that point, he's not thinking about having a relationship, he's thinking about how to let you down easy.
If you would rather make use of a shortcut... Christmas is coming! Catch him under a mistletoe.
Relationships that start as friends are usually the best kind. Good luck to you!
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I broke up with myboyfriend of 6 months after things were getting really serious and I felt I just couldn't cope with it all.Even after he cheated on me after a week going out. I have never been scared of commitment in my entire life and thought this guy was the one. But it freaked me out so much, and i couldnt forget the fact that he cheated on me with the same girl that i warned him bout that I hated because the same girl did it to me before. So i decided to break up with him. I really hurt him as he felt the same way and he had just broken up with his gurl for me again.. I dont know if i did the right thing?? Help me please (link)
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I think you did do the right thing, and he deserves to feel hurt. For him to cheat on you is bad enough; for him to do it with someone who had previously broken up a relationship you had is despicable.
Your only error was in not breaking it off sooner, right after his transgression. By continuing the relationship and providing an illusion that there was still a chance for you, it ended up causing more pain all around, including for yourself.
When you get a new boyfriend, make sure you tell him all about this girl who keeps messing with your guys, especially her scorching case of herpes.
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