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Friend or Love?
I realllllllly like this guy, but theres a problem. My good friend is goin out w/ him. I know she dosent like him as much as i do and i think he likes me bcuz he always trys to talk to me and to get me to look over at him in class. She has a thing were she only gets bf's to have a bf and not cuz she really likes him. She didnt know i liked him when she went out w/ him but she knew our other friend did. Sice he flirts w/ me would it be SOOO awful just to flirt back aliittle?
Thanx in advance<333
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Flirt with him if you must, but do so with the knowledge that you are putting your friendship at risk.
What's wrong with a little innocent flirting? Here's what's wrong: it's not innocent flirting, because you really do like this guy and in a lot of ways you really want the flirting to actually work.
There is only one way you will be able to successfully date this guy and keep your friend, and that is to tell her exactly how you feel about him. If you're so sure that she doesn't really care for him that much, then you have nothing to worry about; she'll probably be happy to step aside and let you date him instead.
It sounds to me like you're coming up with whatever reasons you can to justify stealing your friend's boyfriend. All's fair in love and war, so go ahead and seduce him away if you really want to, but your friend will feel betrayed and she will have every reason to. It doesn't matter if you think she doesn't really like him, and it doesn't matter that she asked him out when she knew someone else also liked him. What matters is that they are currently dating and for you to move in on him is a violation of the trust that friends place in one another.
Be honest. Tell her that you can't help it, you really like this guy and you think that the feeling is mutual. Maybe she'll gracefully step aside, but even if she doesn't, she won't be able to say that you did anything behind her back.
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I don't think it'd hurt one bit.
Just don't do it infront of her face obviously, or anyone else's that might go and tell her what you're doing.
Just don't let it get any further, and it should all be good.
But I think you should talk with her about this. If you like him and she doesn't, let her know that you like him. She should be a real friend and dump him so you can have a boyfriend. If she's only dating guys just for the fact she can have a boyfriend, then she can always go and find another, can't she? You on the other hand like this guy, and if she doesn't like him, then you totally have a shot with him if he wasn't dating her. So talk to her about it, and see what happens with that.
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I hope I helped.
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Flirting never hurts anyone ;]
But I suggest not doing it in front of your friend.
Just dont go anywhere past flirting.
Have fun.
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