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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
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when i was young i used to masterbate really bad and now my inner lip is stretched and kinda purple lookin is this bad or normal?
This is completely normal and most likely has very little to do with masturbation. The lips of the vagina develop differently for all girls.
there's this boy at my school and he likes me AND my best friend. unfortunately we both like him too. but i have liked him before she has, and she has known i liked him for a really long time. anyway i was invited to a party tomorrow night and my friend wanted to go to so i said i would drive her there. he's going to be there i guess & i just wanted to know, should i talk to him? would it be wrong in front of my friend? i really, really, like him, he's such a sweetheart. i know she is probably going to try to talk to him so should i try first?
I don't see any harm in striking up a casual conversation with him. Perhaps you could start a conversation with the three of you so she won't be left out.
But really, you and your friend need to have a long talk about this boy. In situations like these, it can really tear apart your friendship. What's important in the end is that you two are still as close as you were before you two even started liking this boy. If you feel he is starting to come between you, talk to her about it. Boys aren't worth risking friendships.
hi, im 13. my dad has been living abroad and my mum and i stay together. i know my dad loves me, and deep inside i love him, but i feel like i dont know him anymore. he always treats me like im 4. its annoying. i know its wrong, but i feel like i hate my dad and love my mom more, so i feel guilty with myself. plus my mum sumtimes tells me that she regrets that jumped into their relationship. how can i stop feeling so guilty and love my dad and how can i make my mum happy?
If you feel guilty about those things then you obviously love your dad to some extent. It's hard for you to be close with your father because he is living abroad. I'm sure he feels the same way about you. Whenever you feel he is treating you like a baby, nicely point it out to him. Or, better yet, strike up adult conversations with him whenever you two speak. Talk about your good grades or politics. Anything really. That will make him treat you as more of an adult.
As for your mum, you cannot make her happy. You can only assure her that you love her and you won't leave her.
I'm a very hard working student, and I currently have Straight A's. I would like some tips, suggestions and/or recommendations on how to maintain my Straight A's.
Keep on keepin' on. Don't ever get lazy. If you ever hear yourself saying "well I guess I can just do that later" stop yourself and get it done right away. Obviously just try your hardest, do your homework, etc. You didn't say what grade you were in, though. As you move up, things do get hard, so it does take a lot more hard work. Keep a positive attitude and stay responsible. Since you get such good grades, one would assume that you have good study habits, but I don't really agree with that. Test-taking comes easy to some. Even if your test seems easy, study anyway. It's really important to always have a specific study habit so you can be sure you'll always do your best.
im a senior in high school i think i hav to go to a community college, i've had prenty of "d"s in 10th and 9th grade. This year i stopped slacking of and took ap courses. i havn't take sat or act. im wondering if i can still go to a uc, during the fall 07 instead of a community college. my big prob is that my mom wont allow me to go to college she wants me to go stair to a university?
im in a biggy, what now?
russianspy is mistaken. You only have to take the SAT if you plan on going to a college outside your state. The ACT is required no matter what college you decide to do to because it is, in fact, a college entrance exam. So make sure you sign up and take the ACT ASAP. Since it is so late in the year, you have a very slim chance of getting into a university at this point, simply because spots are getting filled so fast. Your best bet is to take your ACT, apply to your colleges right away, and see if you can get accepted anywhere. Community college is a bad idea, though. It can save you tons of money. It's a good place to get the basic college courses out of the way (such as english, math and history) and they will transfer to pretty much any college you may want to switch to. Plus, community college makes it easier for those who want to stay home and work more. So keep that it mind as well.
anyone hav any idea what could of happen to my ps2? i know this question is too weak but i really would like to get an idea to what happen.
-hear the story, my sister took my ps2 to her room to watch a movie and she said it just turned off.
-whenever i turn it on,nothing appears on the screen(no audio either). i've tried using different plugs to the tv.
-thats as far as i know, any ideas?
Buy new plugs for the PS2. Chances are, they've been unplugged and plugged the wrong way too many times and now they won't ever work properly. I've found that the cable that plugs into the back of the PS2 can also easily come loose after time, so that may have something to do with it.
Another you may want to try, and this worked for me, is when you plug in the yellow and white cords to the TV, bend them as far as you can to the right, or left (doesn't matter), and continue moving the cord around, without it coming unplugged, until it works.
So, There's this guy at my school and ive had a crush on him for QUITE a while! I it is driving me insane! anyways moving on..
When I first saw this guy.. my heart friggin' leaped!!! I was gawking at him.. like a total moron..(haha?) Anyways I had a class with him and it was sooo unbelievably fun! But it was ridicous b/c i was like the only girl in this class that got into P.E. HAHA. But anyways.. I can't help it.. I constantly think of him and he gave me nicknames (nice ones.. not harsh ones) He always teased me and i kept on smiling and acting like a total ditz ass or something. I couldnt help it.. when i was near him or with him.. i was floating sadly.. and i just kept on smiling!!
He would constantly tease me and stare at me and smile so NICE!! His smile is friggin' AMAZING! Everytime he smiles.. i laugh and smile at him sooo hardcorely! OK i had the shitless giggles. OH GOD his smile was a friggin TURN ON!
Ok he plays variesty soccer and thats FRIGGIN AMAZING B/C SOCCER IS MY FAVORITE SPORT!! Besides dance.. haha (and i like watching sports) AH and to believe he likes the same thing that i like drives me NUTS!!
I remember when i talked to him sometimes.. he would get all bashful and shy.. and i was like OMG WHY ARENT YOU TALKING TO ME?! I LIKE YOU! AHH!!!!!!!!
HELP! What do i do? Do i make the move? Do i need to start talking to him?
This story can go on and on.. bc i have other stories that i did and that he did.. Hes very playful and i cant help it.. I LOVE IT!
WHAT DO I DO?!
lol i'm sry for blabbing.. PLEASE ANSWER I DO RATE!
I need HARDCORE AMAZING ADVICE! I wish.. we were friends in real life.
AH! I'm floating like a moron in love! hehe
XOLIZXO
Just go strike up a conversation with him one day. Point out that you haven't talked in awhile and you were wondering what had been going on. Tell him something cheesy like you miss his dorky smile or you miss him calling you those nick names. After that, make sure to have a chat with him AT LEAST once a day. After a few days, maybe a week, ask if he'd like to go to the movies either just the two of you or with a group of friends. The most important step towards getting a relationship with this guy is to be friends first. Plus, he sounds a little shy, but I'm sure you can get him to open up after you start talking to him more often. After he's comfortable and knows you better, I'm sure he'll love you. :)
I have a boyfriend and we're really close and all that...I'm getting him his gift and I have to have it by March 30th.I was thinking...We were at the mall together and he saw 1) a ring he LOVED 2) a poster he wanted SO badly...all together it costs about 25 $...do you think this will be a good gift ??
[PS.We've been going out almost a month]
Since you've only been dating a month, I would suggest getting him just one of the two items he liked. You don't want to overdo the gift-giving because you will find farther into the relationship that it gets extremely expensive. There's nothing wrong with a small gift here and there, but be careful not to go overboard with it.
hi im to embarrassed to moan during sex and i feel like im bad at it?
what do i do to overcome this fear?
19/f
The best thing to do is to close your eyes and relax. Try not to think about it and just let it come naturally. The less you stress about it, the better it will feel and the more you'll want to moan. You could even put a pillow over your head so you can be as loud as you want. Don't worry about how your moan sounds. Any moan will make your partner pleased with himself.
I need to know how to be more open at school. or any other social place.
The best way is to keep a smile on your face. Having a good mood and a positive, friendly attitude will draw people to you. It also helps to join clubs and/or sports that you enjoy. That makes it easier to meet people with the same interests as you.
well, i had my first makeout yesterday under a bridge. this isnt something i would normally do because usually i am prude. i kinda feel slutish even though it was only like a 20 second makeout, is that normal? should i feel like that? and are you supposed to swallow during it because the first time me and my boyfriend did it, i swallowed and it made a really weird sound and i dont know if i wasnt supposed to but i dont it just felt weird. and then his friend told me that he said i was good for my first time. is there and do's and don'ts about making out? im just really scared i did something wrong
thanks in advance!
Whether you swallow or not is up to you. You make sure and do whatever makes you feel comfortable. And you're not even close to being a slut. Kisses, even making out ones, are sweet and an innocent to be close with someone. A slut is someone that sleeps with a million guys in one night. That's certainly not you. If you feel uncomfortable about making out at this point, perhaps you can just give short kisses until you feel comfortable to do it for a longer period of time.
will swimming with new peirced ears (like within 5 days of piercing) cause an infection?
thanks in advance!
It shouldn't cause an infection, but it may irritate it a bit. Make sure you clean your ears right before and after swimming and their shouldn't be a problem.
I have to give a speech in english class soon... i know what topic i'm doing it on, its just that I get super nervous for public speaking!
and also the guy i have a crush on is in that class and i don't want to look like a loser in front of him.
How do i get rid of this fear?
Just make sure to keep looking around the room when you talk. You don't have to look anyone in the eye, just make it seem like you're looking at people. For example, while you're talking, look at the clock for ten seconds, then look at a poster for another ten, then look at the top of someone's head, etc. As long as you look at random objects, it will take the focus off of the fact that everyone is listening. Plus, remember that you're not the only one in that class that gets nervous. They know how you feel and they're not going to judge you if you slip up a few words. The key is to practice practice practice your speech until it's completely memorized and then you can focus more on staying calm.
So I'm going on the pill.
For the sole-reason taht it's supposed to help with acne. (I don't have acne,but I get the odd pimple)
So I was wondering, should i tell my boyfriend when I start it?
I mean we haven't had sex,but he'd be interested in knowing though,right?
Or is it ny of his buisness?
Just mention it to him casually in a conversation. Say "well you know how my little bursts of acne have been bothering me? Well I decided to get on the pill for it. Hopefully it will help." blah blah blah. If you want him to know, that would be a good way to tell him without making him think you want to have sex. If you don't want to tell him, that's fine too. It's none of his business unless you want it to be.
Hi, I rubbbed my bare vagina on my boyfriends penis while we were makin out orally. He was wearin his pants but he said he's havin pre-come... Do you think i'll get pregnant?
If he had his pants on, it is very unlikely that you are pregnant. Besides, he if there was sperm in the pre-come, he would have had to have his penis literally inside of you in order for the sperm to enter the vagina. Sperm cannot "travel" on their own, so I think you're safe.
I know this is a kind of personal question, but I've always kind of wondered what girls think when a guy gets a hard-on dancing with them. So basically, I only want girls to answer this question. Do you like it? Does it freak you out? Is it more of a compliment or is it offensive? Basically, just tell me what you think about when you feel a guy get hard when he's grinding with you, etc. thanks.
Sometimes it's flattering to a girl knowing that she's turned a guy on. Only an immature girl would get freaked out or offended by it, since it's something you as a guy can't really help.
Hi ! I'm 13 and I want to know...can I divoirce my parents or something god I just want to block them out of my life all together tips advice or suggestions ?
Lol don't we all want to do that sometimes? But the truth is you can't. You're stuck with them. And no matter how awful they're being, deep down I know they love you. Whenever they make you angry, just go in your room and listen to music. Take really deep breaths: inhale 1-2-3, hold 1-2-3, exhale 1-2-3, hold 1-2-3, inhale 1-2-3... etc. Do that for about 20 minutes and I guarantee you'll be a lot calmer.
Try to appreciate your parents now. I know they can get you mad. I fight with my mom everyday, but I know she still loves me and I appreciate her because of all she does for me. After all, she's paying for me to go to college.
How do I know if a dress look good on me? What do I look for when I look at myself wearing that dress in the mirror?
I'm really self concious and I'm not the best in styles so I have to look at everything because I might think I look great in this dress but everyone else might think it's a bad style or colour for me.
Thank you so much for your troubles!
Don't ask the saleslady's opinion: she will lie and say it looks good because she wants you to buy it.
As for what to look for, make sure to wear the right type of bra that day so you won't have to guess what it will look like under the dress. If you think a dress looks good on you, then it does. You are your own worst critic. If it looks good to you, you'll be confident, and confidence is the most beautiful thing a person can have.
Ok Heres the story, i like this person from work, Jon G, i told Kayla that i
liked him and then on last Sunday natasha S, was like so i hear U like Jon G,
and i was like who told U, she wouldn't tell me, so on monday i went to Kayla
and asked her who she told cause i only told her and she was like i told no one,
Jon G was telling his sister that i liked him ( speculation) and she told
natasha S who told me i wanna know if he likes me back ( and he doesn't know
that i know that he knows that i like him ( make any sense) and i wannna know
ways of getting his e-mail address without me telling him i like him ( in a
friendly) way. Any ideas?
i asked a friend to get his email for me and he wouldn't give it to her ( hes
making me as him myself ( but im too shy ))
"Umm i guess i asked his sister for it but shes been acting werid since she
found i liked him,, and his sister said that he doesn't want me to have it but
my good friend said that he wants me to ask him myself for it ( i have no idea
what to do ? please help
Just make up a random excuse: you're thinking about having a party and you want everyone's email address ready so you can send out invites. Or just flat out ask him for his email. Asking him for his email doesn't automatically mean you like him. If he wants to assume that, let him flatter himself. Guys love confidence. I say just ask him for it.
Hi, my name is Irene and i am 16 yrs old. I have a problem...I have big breasts. I am a size D and although i know people that are a size DDD, people still think mine are bigger. I want to have breast reduction done but i dont know what is the appropriate age and how much it costs. I know it is a subject most likely to be unknown to most but if someone has a clue please tell me because i've almost had enough with peoples comments...
Thank you so much for your time!
The only time a doctor will approve giving a breast reduction to a girl under age 18 would be if her breasts were causing her health problems i.e. back pain, messed up posture, permanent marks from bra straps, etc. If you want to get them reduced just because they're big, you'll most likely have to wait until you are 18. Talk to your doctor. If they really are causing you medical problems, you'll be able to have the surgery and your insurance may even cover it. My mom's insurance covered hers when she got it done.