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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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ok...well this is really bothering me..cuz my brother told me i was spoiled and and i told him i do work around the house for my mom...this is the convo...

ME: i help my mom around the house i wash the dishes i clear n set the table i clean my room and make my bed daily and i always put away the groceries
HIM: how much do you get for all that?
ME: i dont get money i earn the stuff i want by doing that.
HIM: you are definetly spoiled.

please tell me if you think i'm spoiled...this is just gonna bother me alot((he's a half sibling))
different moms

i do the exact same thing! .. no you earn what you get... it's not just give give give.. its like "you do things for me, i'll do things for you in return" it's you give you get sorta things.. so no your not spoiled.. you earn ever little bit you get!

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I have to admit, I'm a huge wuss and I can't drink any hard alcohol straight. I always have to mix it with soda or something. Is there any way to make drinking alcohol straight easier or more tolerable?

ughh you guys are being retarted.. were not here to judge her.. get that threw your minds!! okay.. add rather water.. or like try and drink more often and then you will get used to it.. hope i helped.. if you need antying else just let me no

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I am 13 and my parents still treat me like a baby! They won't let me get hair highlights! How do I convince them to let me get highlights??
I rate very high!

you have to show them that you are machore and you can handle it.. you have to do things around the house and maybe even right a report on why you shoudl get your hair highlighted.. i did both of them to get a cell phone and it worked :-) expecially the report.. my mom was like omg! you wrote a report! so try them :-)

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where can you get the program bearshare?
thanx

you can download it from www.bearshare.com/ if you need anyting else let me no

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Okay, my friend and I snuck behind our parents backs and met this guy she is in love with at the bowling allie, and some of his friends. I hadn't ever met the guy she likes.. until then. and i now, I REALLY like him.. and last night, he IMed me, and told me he likes me.. and so ofcourse I told him I liked him too.. and then this morning, I got online, and my friend told me that last night, he told her that he loves her. and she is so happy.. I asked him about it today, and he told me he didn't even like her anymore.. and me and him REALLY like eachother... WHAT SHOULD I DO!?

-real confused..-

Im a thirteen year old girl going into 8th grade, and he's going into 9th.

i think he's playing with your mind. like i think he likes you and all.. but he is lying too you.. and i don't think you should be with someone.. that is lying to you.. a relationship is about trust.. and how could you trust him if he was already lying to you.. about the whole him saying he loves your friend.. because why would you friend be so happy over nothing you know what i mean.. you know she wasn't lying.. so obviously he told her he loved her or else she wouldn't be glowing.. if you really like him.. you friend will be happy for you and if shes not then she's not a good friend.. i mean she will be mad at first but if she doesn't forgive you then she isn't a good friend.. but then again.. she did like him first.. so it would be kinda taking him away from her you know.. i say you make a list of the options.. and then right pro's and con's about them all.. and see which one you think is going work out the best.. because i mean she is your friend.. and im sure you don't want to loose her right? hope i helped and if you need anything else just let me know :-)

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im 14 and me n my boyfriend have only been goin out for a little more than a month... he changes infront of his friends and is mean...he talks about like his past girlfriends infront of me and get mad n he gets pissy... he acts like he doesnt want to b around me but when were alone he is soo sweet to me...and i dont know wat to do bcus he says he will change for me but i dont believe him... should i break up with him or give him another chance?

give him another chance. but threaten him. say "im gonna give you one more chance. that is it.. if you really want this to work out then you'll change and if you don't. i'm DONE and it will be over FOREVER." and really emphasize it so he knows you mean buisness! if you need anything else at all let me know

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im 14 n my boyfriend just broke up with me...the reason is becus i got drunk with one of my friends n made out with a guy that was with us... i confronted him and he broke up with me... ive cheated on him b4 but i didnt no if i liked him or not n now i realize i cant live with out him... what should i say to him... she kinda still likes me n doesnt no if he will ask me out

you need to talk to him. just be like "i didn't know what i wanted.. and when i kissed him it didn't mean anything. you gotta believe me. when i kissed him it made me realize how madly head over heels for you i am. " something like that.. just sweet talk him and let him know that you want everything to be like it used to etc. if you need anything else just let me no

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hey im a 14 year old guy.im absolutely in love with my best friend.i dont really know what to do.plus my one of my good friends likes the same girl.she said she prolly wont ever like him either.but i have a slight feeling she sorta likes me back.

hey! lets see.. if she likes you back you should let her and your friend no.. i'm sure he will understand and be happy for you... plus the girl said she won't ever like him right?.. if that's the case why wait around for him and her to go out and break up when you know it's never going to happen? i say you let them both know because if she does like you.. she would be happy to hear.. and your good friend may be happy for you.. but may not.. and if he's not then he's not a good friend.. if you need anything else further let me know!

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f/14
ok... i am really into being active and running and playing sports...but i still think im fat...ive lost about 10 lbs...but its just cus i started running and stuff and eating healthy... im 5'4 and weigh 125... is that fat... i mean ppl tell me i dont look like it but i feel huge

omg no!... i weigh 110 and i'm 5'0... so it's only 15 more than i am and your taller.. so i say don't worry about it.. and if you still want to eat healthy and loose a little bit more weigh then go for it! there's nothing wrong with eating healthy and wanting to loose a little bit more weight! hope i helped =) if you need anything further just let me no!

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hey does it pull or hurt when u shave "down there"?



thanx much!

jenna

well.. the hair is really thick.. i don't think it would hurt that much if you shave.. you just gotta make sure you don't cut yourself.. and it will prob. just feel really weird.. hope i helped .. and if you need anythign else ask

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shuld teenage girls shave their pubes??? liek round the agezs of high skool. cuzs i dont knoe if i'm sposed to er not. is it grossz tA not shave `um? i mean not the bikinie line.....i mean shaven dem all. i dont knoe whutzs rite && wutzs not.

no. don't shave them.. if you shave them they will grow back thicker and faster... and they will itch and stuff... so odn't shave them.. but what you can do is trim them.. but not with a razor.. with scissors.. yeahh it is kinda gross to shave them.. because if a guy were to go down there it would be like pricky.. and it would kinda turn them off if it's all prickly .. if you need to know anything else just let me know and i will be sure to help you out...

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Is it hard learning to play the guitar? I hav one and i can play a few songs by ear and now i want to take lessons. And wut r some good books on leanring how to play the guitar? It would help if this came from someone with expierience...thanx...i rate high!

yeahh.. it's difficult... i mean you can't pick up the guitar and all of a sudden be wonderful at it you know? that's the hard part about it... but if you can play songs by ear then you don't really need lessons because you are teaching yourself... but if you want i have an ebook that i can send you threw email that have like the basics and stuff.. just send me your email threw an inbox or feedback or however you want to do it hope i helped ..

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im trying to learn how to play a guitar.but not like a guitar with an amp. like a country music guitar, if that makes sense. any websites to learn the strings and stuff?.thx in advance :)

im glad you asked! i just got one.. it's called an acoustic guitar... i actually got 2 ebooks which are books that teach you like the basics and some strings ... so if you give me your email adress i can send them to you.. but you need i think it's like adobe reader thing which your prob. have it.. so just send me your email adress or email me --> flurry96@netzero.net and i'll send them to you

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how do ya get real music on your column like the singers are actually singing their song not a music video or anything

i could give you a couple of websites.. but i don't know if it will actually work because i don't know it advicenators is capable with the real music and if the codes will work but here are some websites:

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=XaNgE3eRmUsIc
http://www.musicgalore.net
http://www.xanga.com/A__MUSIC__X

^ if you need anymore let me no hope they will work for you.. i don't know the exact code tho to put it in but i may be able to find out but don't quote me on that

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ohh I want my room to look like kelly clarksons
and oh my room well its 12 ft both ways
furniture i have a twin bed, dresser, desk and I have a bookshelf thats attached to my wall
can you tell me what colors i should use or stores i should shop at!

hmm.. well i tried looking for her room on google to see what it looks like but if i were you i think kelly would maybe do a purple ? some stores are like linnens n things ... boscov's walmart.. stores like that.. and if you want a canopy over your bed they have them at claires ... sorry i'm not like very creative ;-) but i hope what i gave you helped

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umm this isn't at all relevant but I want my room to like movie stars room can you help me?
oh and give me some details on where I should be things and etc

hmm... it all depends on what movie star you want it to look like... i wouldn't be able to help you organize because i have no idea what your room looks like =/ sorry i wish i would be better help to you

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hi you answered my period ? ummmm yes I have another ? when is the blood gonna come out do ya feel it because when my underwear was brown in the afternoon and night I didn't even feel anything? So what does that mean?

omg no.. you won't feel a thing... that's why it's so weird because you'll just wake up and all of a sudden there's brown/red stuff in your underwear!!! if you need anything let me no.. =) i would be glad to help you..

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hi 2 days ago, ya know that slimy stuff that come out of your vagina well that came out right and a little bit if blood well later after i came back home from shopping my underwear was brown and then a little bit later that night my mom thought i started my period so she got me some pads but there has been no blood for almost 2 days what does that mean? Why isn't their any blood coming out? Do i have my period or no?

yeahh you do.. but it's irregular.. that happened to my friend.. she had it for one day then the next 2 days she was off.. and then she got it again .. so just keep checking your underwear.. hope i helped .. and if you need antying else just let me no

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has anyone tried the veet rasera bladeless kit? does it really work? is it worth it? thanks
♥BLAiR

it works.. but it SMELLS really bad! and it takes like two days to get the smell out.. and make sure your not allergic to it.. or else you'll break out on your legs hope i helped and if you need anyting else just let me no

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What does it mean if your period blood is brown??

it's completely normal... it's just when your blood is old.. you usually get it like the first day of your period etc. if you need to know anytign else about anyting just let me no!

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