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Q: hi 14f bf 16 xD

well yesterday i was talking to my bf I said I was going to change my hair. I told him I was going to make my hair wavy and where some makeup. He said "Me no like ;/ " and i asked him what did he meant and he said " I love your hair the way it is and You don't need make up." He said i don't like the girls with the make up that makes them look like clowns, i dont like the bright lipstick, a little eyeliner is fine but you don't need it. soo i like wearing makeup but what makeup should i do that he would approve of? I don't wear it often. Thanks!

just do a little bit? if you wear cover up get a color really close to your skin tone and just to a little. id stay away from blush. a little eye liner and some mascura. if you like stuf fon your lips just wear chap stick. my husband is the same way. he hates if i put on to much makeup and when it bothers him the most is when i wear eye shaddow and blush. the blush because he thinks im running a fever when i wear it lol.

Q: yesterday me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time..it was his first time and ive had sex before with a previous boyfriend.anyways,ive been on birth control for about 2 years and when i used to have sex,my old boyfriend would always pull out even though i was on birth control.my current boyfriend ,didn't pull out and came in me.I just ended my period about 4 days ago and i was about 6 days into my new pack of pills.should I be concerned? and also,when guys loose their virginity ,do they become attatched like girls do?

it really depends on the guy. is he real sensitive and stuff they can become attached but I haven't really meet a guy whos crazy attached to a female because it was whom they lost their virginity to i see it more in females. if you have been on birth control for 2 years. and with in the last i think its 3 weeks or so if you didnt miss taking a pill on time and stuff you shouldnt have a concern but as you know. there is always a 1% or so chance more and likely i am sure you are fine. I would advice birth control and condoms but that is your choice.

Q: I'm going to graduate this year and so we have this senior prom coming up. Everybody is making a big fuss about buying expensive prom dresses and getting all dolled up with their boyfriends for this dance and I really am not interested in it. I'd rather just chill with my friends, watch some bad movies and eat some junk food, and make a long night of it at home.

I've never been really girly so the whole $300 dress thing doesn't appeal to me. My boyfriend is cool with me not wanting to go to the prom and thought maybe I should even have my own home-party instead so that I could "do something special" too.

The problem is with my mom. Ever since I started high school my mom has been really excited about my prom day. She talked about going dress shopping and getting my hair and make-up done. She's really big into photography too so I'm certain she had photos in mind too.

Now, I thought about telling her that I'm not interested in going to the prom but if she wanted to help me have a little party with my friends instead it would be nice. She's helped me have parties before so it isn't that she would be against that--it would be that there wouldn't be a prom "thing" for me.

I know she's been waiting for this for awhile, especially to see me all dressed up, but it isn't something I want to do. What do I say without sounding like an evil cunt? I don't want to hurt her feelings with this.

I didn't go to my prom and honestly I wish I would have. Maybe you could do your party on a different day and still go to prom so your mom wouldnt be upset It sounds as if she has put a lot of thought into this prom. But on second thoughts if you totally dont want anything to do with prom sit your mom down and explain to her that your really not interested in prom and you would rather throw your own kind of prom party with your friends. it sounds like you have everything figured out but you dont want to hurt your moms feelings. Have you thought about renting a dress for the day and you and your boyfriend could dress up and let your mom take photos.

Q: My teacher was telling us about STDs and AIDS and how it can ruin your life. I know tons of people in African have AIDS and are dying of it because a lot of them were born with it or were raped and contracted it. I don't want to get AIDS if I accidently sleep with someone that is infected and they don't know it or don't tell me. I thought maybe there might be a shot for AIDS that I could get at a clinic somewhere? I don't mind having to pay if it protects me for a few years or something. Can anybody tell me how to get it or where to go for it?

unforantly there is no way to not get aids besides using protection to try and prevent it.

Q: I was thinking the other day and if you have sex and you don't have an orgasm then it doesn't matter if your guy cums in you, right? Because the orgasm is what makes your egg come down to get fertilized, right? Something like that, I think. So, if the girl doesn't have an orgasm can she still get pregnant? ;) I was thinking that maybe my boyfriend and I could have sex and stop before I climaxed and then we wouldn't have to worry about me getting pregnant...

THANKS!

oh you have that all wrong. you can still get pregnant even if you do not have an orgasm.

Q: My boyfriend and i are going for an extended weekend away in our local city. What are some fun things we can do? We are both 20 and a usual weekend for us is just hanging out at home, going to the beach, going for walks, going out for lunch or dinner. What are some new things we can do because we usually feel like we are wasting the weekend by not doing much. Since we are going for a weekend away we want to do something different.

Any suggestions are fantastic.

I feel the same way but when you have kids its almost impossible lol..

dancing? my husband probably wouldnt do it unless i begged him

make theater plans?

we go and play pool at the bar.

Q: 15/f
I Have Been With my Boyfriend for 4 months since febuary fifteenth and well we have talked about sex when we first started out and he said he doesn't want to because it really hurts for your first time, but things have changed since then. we hav fell in love and I have brought up the situation about him giving me head and he said yea I would definitly give you head (this was recently) So Now I think I'm ready to have sex. Like I don't think it would ruin anything becuss we are really close and connected couple honestly . . Buht like how do I tell him I'm ready?

if you feel your ready (now think it through and make sureyou have no doubts in your mind because i know i wish i had saved my self till marriage) and one more thing please use protection even if you think you want a child i was 15 when i had my son.

when you guys kiss move to making out and do other things sometimes it just happens he may say are you sure or what are you doing. dont make it an akward moment tell him you love him and you feel you are ready and ask him if thats okay or do you feel the same way now if he gest discouraged or something dont get upset if he says hes not ready because he may just want to wait alittle longer.

Q: i've been living with the mental condition brain fog for 6 years already. [i just recently found out i had this condition; i diagnosed myself ] for those that doesn't know what brain fog is; "it's a condition where people are in a state of confusion and a decreased level of clarity. Brain fog can cause an individual to be abnormally forgetful and detached. It can also lead to a feeling of discouragement and depression."

i've been extremely depressed, tried to commit suicide several times, been called "delusional," became anti-social, and lost numerous interests that i used to love doing.
i coudl feel, touch, smell, see, and hear my surroundings...yet i feel as though i'm not mentally there. everything seems so fake.

i tried everything the doctor told me to do; more excersise, more vitamins, a change in diet and such...yet i still feel dead. i want to feel alive again...i do not know what to do.
i do not want to suffer from brain fog for the rest of my life. those six years having brain fog has already taken so much out of me...

help.

Does your doctor know you feel as if you have brain fog? I feel you should try counsling to sort things out. You can be on anti depressants for your depression. which will also help many of your situations that you are going through and wants you are not so depressed you become more social etc

Q: 13/f
i am going out with my amazing boyfriend... let's call him "E." before i was going out with E i was going out with "A." and A is still OBSESSED with me! A is a very good friend, and he used to be E's best friend before we were going out, and i'm sick of them fighting over me!! people are calling E and A jacob and edward from the twilight series ( that's only because E looks like Taylor Lautner a little, but that's beside the point ) any advice on how to get them to become friends again, and maybe get A to move on? i'm sick of being Bella. thanks (:

If your tired of it drop one. either lose your boyfriend and be friends with both boys. Or pick one and cut out the other. there is nothing you can do about the one being obsessed with you. Besides telling him to grow up and talk to some one else.

Q: Hey, first of all thanks for taking the time to read my question and give feedback :)

I have been hanging out with this guy and I recently told him that I liked him and he said back "I really do like you but I need to take a break from dating right now. We can still hangout though. If I didn't take a break then it wouldn't be fair to you or to me." (He recently broke up with his girlfriend in December, I believe.) I told him that I appreciated his honesty and telling the truth. He's very sweet and I do like him an awful lot and so I was just wondering what you thought. If what he said meant that there is a chance that we would end up getting into a relationship, but he just needs time for himself right now. I also know that you can not push someone into being in a relationship if they are not ready to be in one so I don't know if there was anything I could do/say to let him know that I would wait around until he was ready. I'm not talking waiting months and months but for a little while because like I said, he is awfully sweet and I do like him, a lot.

Thanks for the help :)

ps: i am 19/f and he is also 19.

it all depends on his past relationship do you know anything about it? How long they were together. How did they break up. Is he still talking to her trying to work things out? there are little things like that you have to keep in mind. from what he says its possible that he could be wanting to get to know you more before getting to serious. he may be afrid of getting hurt. and you have the right idea about the waiting. dont wait around for months and months but a little while wont hurt none.

Q: 19/female.

I like this guy, he recently turned 18. I've known him for years now and I've always had a crush on him but nothing ever came of it. We're still friends though, and we'll always have that attraction. But I always feel like I'm the one putting everything into our friendship. He barely ever texts me, he barely ever asks to hang out, he will flirt with a girl I don't like right in front of me and I act like I dont care. I mean I guess I don't really text him, only when I have a question because I don't really text people first, especially a guy I have feelings for. I am scared of rejection.

I have brought up this problem that I feel like hes never there for me, and doesn't care but he doesn't seem to see it at all. I will make a statement like "you don't know anything about me.. and how long have we've known each other?" and he will be like because you never tell me anything!! and i'll say ... well you never ask and he says well I don't know what to ask?? Just dumb things like that, or I'll be like thanks for being there for me (sarcastic) and he will be like always (being serious) and I'll say something like you better think about that again .. and he'll be like why??

He doesn't understand!! I've tried telling him so many times. I seriously don't think he thinks he is doing anything wrong. I've even come straight you and been like you never text me to hang out, you never call me .. it's like you don't care and he will go and turn it on me and be like well you never text me either, or ask to hang out and you know it!! But I feel like i'm always the one texting him??..

Ugh I don't know what to do.. GUYS!!!..
Do you honestly think he doesn't think he is doing anything wrong? I trust the kid w/everything I have and he trusts me. He actually tells me everything when we hang out (which hasn't been often) but why does it seem like he doesn't care??

Honestly guys can be completely blind when it comes to females. just tell him thats what you need to do grab him by the face and be like i like you i have liked you for a really long time. (not literally grab him by the face but im sure you get the picture im aiming for ).

Q: Hello i recently got engaged and i have no clue where to start with wedding planning. My fiance and i talked about the color, date, and general stuff but not much of anything else. We're getting married towards the end of 2011 so we have a little while yet. We dont have very much money so please keep that in mind when answering. What type of questions should i ask him? Is there a list? I know we're not hiring a caterer we're having both of our families make food. I guess i am just lost in everything.. from invitations to wedding dress to cake! Gahh!! Someone please help me!

Thanks and i do rate!

Okay i will tell you what i did for my wedding we were very low in cash sold our four wheeler :( to make ends meet. we had an out door wedding in august. at his grandmothers house. his grandmother made our wedding cake three layers. we did a bbq. it was fun and different we did hot dogs, hamburgers, chips, potato salad, macaroni salad, etc. we had punch to serve with the cake. we bought sheer for the decorations and had my husbands cousins and her mother in law do all the decorations (takes a lot of stress off the bride.) we bought a little arch outside to stand under. his uncle married us. my wedding dress was the most expensive thing (davids bridal) just because i fell in love with dress it was 400. we got the best men shirts from jc pennys and dressed from a local store in town (we rented them). LOCATION: agree on your location fall in love with it and put the down payment on it.. our orignal location was at this park in the country by a beautiful lake. several weeks later we went to put our down payment and it was rented we were very upset but its okay. we got our wedding rings at wal mart. i let my husband pick them out and i wasnt up set he did it from his heart and suprised me ( he did it while i was trying on wedding dresses) it gives the man something to do and he feels good about it. invitations i bought and walmart in the crafts section and made them my self online and printed them onto there cards. there are step my step directions.

Q: so i have dated this guy for 2 years on and off. and in august we broke up and 2 weeks later he started dating this other girl.. my feelings for him never went away. i even tried dating other men and now its february and i miss him soo much that its getting to the point that it hurts and i can't focus in my studies.. and i have gotten signs from him that he misses me somewhat too, but he is crazy about his girlfriend.. i want to tel him how i feel, but i dont want his girlfriend finding out, considering were friends...i've been praying for a miracle and i want everything to just fall into place. his new girlfriend makes him so unhappy and he was a way happier person when i was with him.. how do i let him know how i feel? what should i do? its been 7 months of being patient and i can't take it anymore. i miss him so much it legitimately hurts. ):

I really think you need to find away of moving on. I have been in your situation although mine was a little worse I have a child with the man i was in love with. he cheated on me we were on and off for such a long time and i even moved to a totally different state started dating someone new and still wanted him back. but im finally married after 4 years later from meeting my first love and we hate each other now im fine with that but its a good feeling to find some new who i dont fight with were its not on a off and trust me its hard but if you sit there and wait for him its never going to get easy hun. and you dont have to jump into another relationship talk to different guys get to know them before getting in a relationship you might find that one who takes your breath away.

Q: Can a pregnant woman do an anal sex

yes

Q: lately i've been getting headaches a lot. almost daily.. i've been to the doctor a lot about them and she thinks its stress related or anxiety and tension. i think that i have chronic tension headaches and they can't go away. someone my friend's new passed away 1 month ago from an aneyorism. i was beyond scared off aneyorisms after that and thats when my daily headaches started. i think i am just scared that will happen to me. the doctor ran tests through my eyes so she sayss theres nothing wrong with me.. but im scared what should i do..?

if you think that is why you are scared because of your friends friend passing away. maybe you should talk to a counsler or theripist. to help you relieve some stress.

Q: im female and 18, there is this one guy at my job that i really like and my friend told him that i thought he was cute and he told her i am pretty, so the same day, valentines day, he saw me go to where my friend was and he brought me a flower, and it was so sweet how he gave it to me, which made me like him even more. so, my friend told me today that he wanted to ask me out yesterday, but he was too nervous. how could i make it so he won't be so nervous around me and i wont be so nervous around him, so we will start dating, he is the sweetest guy that i have ever met, so i just dont know what to do because i like him a lot...thanks!!

A way for him to be more comfortable around you and for you two to get to know each other better is to talk to each other a little more. exchange phone numbers.. give him your number and tell him to call you or text which ever. that shows him your interested.

Q: this is kinda confusing, but help out as much as you can. My exboyfriend whom i dated for a year and a half suddenly says he misses me after a year or so apart. the problem is...i have a new boyfriend, who i really do like and have been dating for 5 months. my ex boyfriend and me ended really badly and he broke up with me because he was confused and then after we were broken up for like 3 months i ended up sleeping at his house because i thought he wanted to make it work but then he turned out to not want that at all and i was completly crushed. he was the only guy i had ever been with. thats the point where i decided to just forget him and thats when i met my new boyfriend. who has been great but had quite a drug problem. he really has changed because there are certain side effects that come out in the bedroom if hes been doing bad...but anyways, he just has the problem of not always being there for me..but what i need help with is what i should do...i really miss my ex as a friend but find him not so physically attractive anymore..and i like my boyfriend a lot but hate that i feel confusion about the ex..i dont think its fair to him at all. i know my advice is gonna be to be single. but i dont know. im happy right now other than the confusion. any kind of advice or deep thoughts would help me a lot in this situation...please just tell me where i should stand.

if you look at it this way there wouldn't be confusion if your ex boyfriend hadn't of tried to get back in the picture. Your happy don't let your ex ruin that for you. keep things the way they are. I think you should tell your ex to get lost. he really hurt you and doesn't deserve that second chance you miss who he was when he was dating you and at the end of your relationship he changed for the worse. remember all the reasons you ended and why you stayed apart for so long. remember you moved on and i think you should keep it that way.

Q: i'm on probation for six months and my probation officer said she's going to drug test me randomly during this time period. and i was wondering if the drug tests also screen for tobacco?

and if so, how long does it take tobacco to get out of your system?

thanks.

if you are talking about like ciggerettes it doesnt screen for that. it screens for marijuanna etc.

Q: Whens the soonest you can take a pregnancy test after the sex?

I wait 5 weeks after having sex before i take a test.

Q: Okay I had sex about a week ago and I am on birth control. My boyfriend came inside me a few times. When my sister was pregnant she told me that just about your vagina right around your uterus gets hard kinda and difficult to push on. I was wondering that since it was only a week ago that I had sex could this apply to me. I haven't taken a test yet because its probably to soon. I hadn't had sex in a month before last week and I took a test before and after my period to make sure and it was negative. I know I have to wait to take a test now because its to soon, but I wanted to know if the hardness applied to me at this stage if I was pregnant and other signs I can watch out for.

No your stumoch wouldn't get hard yet and every time i have gotten pregnant it took about 5 weeks for the test to show up. my pregnancy that im in now. I took a test at 4 weeks it was neg. i didnt believe it because i had that feeling i went to a free clinic had another test that was neg so i waited a week bought two tests took one it was pocitive didnt believe it lol took the second one the next morning it was pos. i was finally pregnany after 3 years of trying. but wait 4 more weeks and take a test.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.