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i caught him now i'm waiting to reel him in.
Hey, first of all thanks for taking the time to read my question and give feedback :)
I have been hanging out with this guy and I recently told him that I liked him and he said back "I really do like you but I need to take a break from dating right now. We can still hangout though. If I didn't take a break then it wouldn't be fair to you or to me." (He recently broke up with his girlfriend in December, I believe.) I told him that I appreciated his honesty and telling the truth. He's very sweet and I do like him an awful lot and so I was just wondering what you thought. If what he said meant that there is a chance that we would end up getting into a relationship, but he just needs time for himself right now. I also know that you can not push someone into being in a relationship if they are not ready to be in one so I don't know if there was anything I could do/say to let him know that I would wait around until he was ready. I'm not talking waiting months and months but for a little while because like I said, he is awfully sweet and I do like him, a lot.
Thanks for the help :)
ps: i am 19/f and he is also 19.
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it all depends on his past relationship do you know anything about it? How long they were together. How did they break up. Is he still talking to her trying to work things out? there are little things like that you have to keep in mind. from what he says its possible that he could be wanting to get to know you more before getting to serious. he may be afrid of getting hurt. and you have the right idea about the waiting. dont wait around for months and months but a little while wont hurt none.
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It's a real tough situation. I've been told that, I've had friends who have come to me that have been in that situation too.. where the guy says "I really like you.. BUT, I'm just not ready to date or be in a relationship."
The tricky thing is, he could be completely honest and really like you OR he could just be brushing you off and just wants to play the field and not be tied down at all. The best advice I can give you, is to just play it cool. Like you said maturely, you can't force someone into a relationship. Be cool about the situation, and le things happen. Waiting around for him is not the best choice, and I mean that in a way.. where if another guy comes into the picture and you brush him off because you're waiting for this guy.. Go along with your life. Hang out with him if you want to and be friends, be flirty, but don't.. and I really stress DON'T.. let yourself be ths guys hookup chick. He doesn't just get to fool around with you, and then leave, no questions asked, because he's not tied down. Flirt with other guys, date other guys even.. and this guy might start getting jealous and realize "I really don't want this girl dating anyone but me!" If he tries to play the card "Aren't you going to wait for me?" or something like that, just casually say "We'll see what happens and how things go." It lets him know you're independent and not to be walked all over.
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