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Love or hate? (link)
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Its easy to love than it is to hate! I choose love, baby!
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What are some ways to stay fit?
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Exercise and portion control! Oh and drink plenty of water too!
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How important is family? (link)
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Family is VERY important to me! As they always say "blood is thicker than water".
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What is your definition of a friend?
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Well I think everyone has a different definition for a friend. My definition is someone who supports you and is always there for you the best way they can. And you do the same for them. Its also someone who you love being with and who makes you happy!
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Baseball - Red Sox
Hockey - Boston Bruins
Basketball - Celtics
I don't like football!
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I babysit for this family and the mom and dad go out when they come back they are intoxicated. What do I do? Should I tell my mom? This has happened quite a bit? (link)
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Well I could kind of understand if it was a one time thing. You say this is happening a bit often then you should consider stopping your babysitting services if you feel uncomfortable. Now I don't know if you can drive to your babysitting job or not but make sure they don't drive you home. What I learned in my babysitting course is the "milk excuse" if they ask to drive you home. You say that you're Mom is picking you up because you need to get something at the store for example "milk". Than call your Mom or Dad or someone is capable of driving!
Please be careful!
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What do you do to stay in shape? (link)
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Well I tend to walk all the time as much as I can. I don't do it all the time and I watch what I eat too. Its all about portion control!
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You're pretty! (link)
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Why thank you! You're so sweet!
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Favorite Song? (link)
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Well my favorite songs change from time to time! Right now what I constantly keep replaying on my iPod is "Just A Dream" by Nelly!
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*i am a 13 year old female and my b/f is 15
ohkay, so my b/f and i have been dating for awhile now. were like everyother couple ya know we hold hands, kiss, and makeout. i dont mind tht he touches me and stuff but he is always calling me prude. it pisses me off. i want us to go to the next level but something in my body just wont let me. what do you think it is? HELP ME! (link)
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Maybe you're not ready emotionally for the next level. Or maybe when he says "prude" it makes you angry. I'd be angry if I was called a "prude" and don't think you have to go to the next level so he stops calling you a "prude". When you're ready you'll know and don't let him push you to do anything that you don't want to. Sit him down and tell him seriously that you don't like him calling you a "prude" and if he keeps it up and pressures you into anything...he's not worth it! You want someone who is going to respect you and your decisions! Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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20F Ryan- 19
So I seen this cute guy that's on my friends hockey team. We've been texting and he seems like the sweetest guy ever. I don't think he knows how tall I am but I'm a taller girl -I'm almost 5'6 and he's about 5'7. We haven't met in person yet, I'll be going there to watch them play again in about a month. But we're almost the same height. I don't know why it bothers me so much but I can't wear like anything with any sort of heel or I'll be taller than him and it's just awkward, don't you think?? I hope he's not weirded out either that i'm almost taller than him. Ehhhh, what should I do? Has anyone else gone through this issue. Do you think it really matters? (link)
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I normally go for guys who are 6'0 or taller because being taller than the guy bothers me. I don't know why and I know it sounds shallow but thats how I am. There has been one exception and that was with a guy who is basically the same height as I. I love him and thats all I care about and sometimes I wear flats when I hang out with him and sometimes I wear heels when I'm with him. I guess what I'm trying to say is if you like the guy who cares if you're interested in him don't let his height make your decision for you. Good luck and have fun!
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Okay. There's this guy. We've only been dating for three and a half weeks but I can't do it. It was a mistake. I just can't handle a boyfriend right now. I feel like a bitch breaking up with him so early and I still wanna be friends but I can't do it anymore! I don't know what to do but I feel like shit when I think about being with and I feel like shit thinking about dumping him because it's not his fault... Help! I'm 15/F he's 17/M (link)
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I know you feel like it but you can't help how you feel. Its better to say how you feel now rather than later! Its not right to drag on in a relationship where you just don't feel anything or don't want the relationship to continue for some reason. To not say anything to the other person in the relationship is not fair. You need to tell him how you feel and that you don't want a relationship right now. He may be hurt but its better to do it now rather than later!
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Am I too young for love? Is it bad that im only 15 and think i found the one? I love my boyfriend . He makes mee sooo hapy but my grandma doesnt agree with me. maybe because he got me pregnant. what am I to do PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Its hard to say if you're in love or not. To some you may be too young for love because you're only 15 and there is so much time to find someone else. I know I had my first boyfriend when I was 18 and I thought he was the "one" and he ended up not being the one. You are the only one who knows if you are really in love with him. And if you are your grandmother needs to accept that.
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Im 19 in college and i met this 24 year old guy...he is really nice and we are getting to know eachother on a friend level but i am interested in more but would like some advice to if you guys think the age difference is a problem and if you have ever dated older did it work out? (link)
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I was in the same situation about 4 years ago. I was 19 and this guy was 24! We saw each other for 7 months nothing exclusive! The problem I found was he was a bit immature...it really depends on the guy who you are seeing. Also another factor to consider is what direction is the 24 year old going. You are only 19 and you're in college...he might be going into a different direction or looking for something. Maybe he doesn't know what he wants and maybe you do. It shouldn't discourage you from flirting with him but it makes you think about it.
Unfortunately it did not work out between us. We are just friends now! Good luck!
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Okay so I'm a sophomore and this summer i had a date with an older guy that i had met earlier that year. I know we only had one date but I felt a connection.
So after school started we still texted now and then but it wasn't the same as before our date. And after a while he told me he missed me... That's when i got confused. I thought that if this guy really missed me he would ask me to go out again so i asked him why he hadn't. He said that he was to old and that it would be wrong to see each other again but I just didn't believe that he could be saying he didn't want to see me again.
Since I found that he didn't want to see me again I quit texting him but couldn't stop thinking about him. Now we haven't texted for a while and there's this party going on and he is invited... I'm not positive if he's coming but what if he does? I'm just starting to realize that he isn't worth my time(even though I'm not completely over him) and there are a lot of guys out there. But now I can't stop thinking about the fact that if I see him again and how i felt/feel about him.. What if I start to like him a lot again and he plays me like he did last time? I don't want to go through that again but I am not positive that I will be able to prevent myself from falling for him all over.
And if I do go and he is there I don't want to find out that he is happy and could be at peace with himself for just dropping me like that..
What am I supposed to do or think... I'm so confused? I want him and I don't want him is this normal? (link)
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This is normal to feel that way!
I can't tell you whether or not he isn't going on another date with you because he's older or because he may not feel the same way. The only one who would know that is him and him alone. I was seeing a guy not exclusively for about 7 months and he was playing me. Recently he was talking about hanging out with me and missing me and he did it once again he played me. I realize he isn't right for me and I'm only attracted to him because of his looks. I know that seems low but I'm just being honest. Something that helps me with getting over a guy is looking at why they aren't what I want in a guy. For example the guy I was dating for 7 months has too much baggage, not support, doesn't have a job, and plays the "victim" card all the time. That's not what or need no matter how good looking he is.
You need to worry about you and what you NEED. You may WANT him but you don't NEED him. If you feel that you may be uncomfortable at this party then don't go because it maybe a tough situation. On the other hand you shouldn't let him control where you go, so if you want to go have fun at the party then go ahead. If you see him there be casual say "hi. how are you?" And that's it. You don't need to talk to him the whole night! Don't let him ruin your fun go have fun with your other friends and don't show him it bothers you! Good luck and have fun at the party!
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hey so on facebook there was a guy who messaged me and he told me he went to a school in the same city as me. his name was Danny Spencer. and i blocked him. well this is going to sound dumb but i unblocked him and he messaged me. i didn't think he would but he did and i asked him who he was and apparently he goes to community college with me but i don't think I've ever seen him. i blocked him when he replied. and today i got on facebook and one of my old friends went to school with and on her facebook she said dear Danny Spencer leave us all alone, and there were a few other girls who said that he tried to contact him. and one girl said he kept texting her. i asked my friend on her status who he was and she said that he's some white guy who looks like a drowned rat and thinks he's black. well my concern is what if i see him at school and he starts talking to him? or what if i happened to see him what should i do? i know the chances of him going to school with me are slim because people make stuff up on facebook, but he's creepy. i don't have any information on my facebook like where i live or my phone number on there so he can contact me, but i am scared what should i do? (link)
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I wouldn't worry too much about bumping into him. There have been many people claiming they went to my high school and they don't. I would block him and keep him blocked don't bothering replying to him anymore because like you said you don't know who it could be. Block him and ignore him! If there continues to be anymore trouble with "Danny Spencer" bring it to the attention of an adult or even to your school!
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Is it a good idea to pursue a high school relationship during senior year? I can't predict the future of this relationship, whether or not it will last, but in all likelihood we will be separated by college. I'm going on to college and the girl is still going to be in high school. Is it worth it? (link)
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Well this is a question that I can give you advice on but in the end you have to decide what you want and whats more important.
How long have you been with this girl? Can you see a possible future with her? How far away are you going to college? Will she be able to visit?
If you care about her and you love her try and see if you can work it out.
If not then maybe take a break and figure out what you want and need to do for your career and for your future. You may also want to have fun in college with the parties that go on and the events too. She'll be in high school still and you'll be living the college life. I think if you're questioning this now than you need to have a heart to heart with her and express your concerns. First think to yourself and ask yourself what you really want!
Good luck I hope everything works out for the best!
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i was talking to my boyfriend and we started talking about sex (we were sending dirty messages etc. no pix). a little while later we started talking about our future and he said that he wanted to have sex for real and asked how i felt about it. i told him i wanted to stay a virgin and he told me that hurt his feelings and he got mad. then i got mad at him for thinking i would actually just hop in bed with him and we got into a fight. he said he was sorry but im still mad. what do i do? (link)
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That's not right at all! Your belief is your belief if you don't want to have sex you shouldn't have to. The reason your mad is because he isn't respecting your belief he's being inconsiderate of your feelings. You have all the right in the world and I think what you both should do is sit down and talk about it and what exactly you want. Don't ever let anyone tell you that its stupid...its NEVER stupid how you feel or what you want. And if he doesn't understand that then he's not worth your time at all!
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okay....i have had a really fucked up life... see i was adopted...and when i was little my adoptive mother has always threaten to send me back with my biological parents...but i feel like it would be better because then i would know someone loves me. and i hate how my mother never lets me see thm, i mean i know that they gave me up for adoption but i would think about my kid everyday and just wish that i could have them back in my arms again, and is it to hard for my mother to let me fulfill that wish for them. and everytyme i think about my real parents i fall into depression, and i dont know what to do...can you help me?
another problem....recently my best friend has started to hate me... i mean i dont think i did anything wrong except be there for her, but she became best friends with this girl that i have never liked, i mean shes a slut. and now shes turning her into one...but anyways. everytime i think about her i think aboout all the fun times we had and everything and i begin to cry. and i know shes over me but i dont think i can let go of somehing that meant so much to me. and she doesnt even talk to me. and it makes me sad. how can i find a way to get my mind off of her?
other problem...lately my mom has been taking up drinking to comfort her pain. because my aunt has recently passed away. and ever since then shes ben a real bitch and been bitching at everyone. and yesterday she made my 26 year old sister cry. i mean what can i do to block all this out??
i mean no one knows about any of my problems....i have always put on a mask and put on a smile but it hurts on the inside.. and latel i have been trying let it all out but every time i do someone starts bitching and says im always trying to get attention and that i dont have problems and im making it up... and
lately i dont know what else to do than cry.. so can you please help me?? i could really use some advice...
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Dear Lost and Abandoned,
1.) Well maybe you can sit down with your mother and have a serious conversation about maybe getting in contact with your birth parents. Maybe ask her the reasons in why she does not want you to contact them. You are 14 though and she is your mother and you should obey what she says. When you turn 18, you are considered an adult in which you than can take it upon yourself to search out your birth parents. For right now though I would try and have a conversation with you mom and tell her how you feel about the situation.
2.) Your best friend hates you? That doesn't sound like much of a best friend now does it? I actually had a similar situation when I was in middle school. I had this best friend Molly, we met in 3rd grade and we would hang out together all the time. My friendship with Molly was the best thing ever and it was so much fun hanging out with her. As soon as we got to 7th things started to change. Molly met a new girl in class and started hanging out with her and another group of girls. The girls didn't like me and I tried to get along with them for the sake of Molly. Molly was changing into someone I didn't recognize anymore and we stopped being friends. It hurt me to lose my best friend the person I had told everything to and the person that would stand up for me. It hurt when I went to high school because I thought I'd never find a friend like her. I pushed myself to find new friends and I did because I knew I could. Its sad to lose friends but sometimes friends change and move on into different groups or cliques that we might not be associated with. You can remember all the good times but move on and find a new group of friends.
3.)Well there isn't much you can do in making her stop because she's going to drink whether you like it or not. You can suggest to her how you feel and talk to her about it. Maybe talk to your Dad or older sister about it!
It sounds like to me you have a lot of things going on in your life. I think you should talk to someone like a guidance counselor or maybe even a therapist to at least talk with someone who may be able to help you in someway. Crying is a way to release stress but crying never helps the situation. You should go see someone or tlak to someone you trust because if you hide it inside the problems will only build up. I hope I helped and good luck with everything!
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I haven't had a boyfriend since the 6th grade and i want one now, i feel like its my turn especially since im a freshman in high school.it sucks to see other girls with guys and i feel like im the only one without a boyfriend i feel lonely my self esteem is low because i dont have a boyfriend im not as confident about myself what do i do (link)
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You don't need a boyfriend to raise your confidence thats your own job to raise your confidence. That's like relying on someone else to make you happy and believe you me its not what it seems. For example there was a relationship in which I put the fate of my happiness in that guys hand when I wasn't with him I was completely upset. When I was with him, it would be up to him to make me happy and to make my frown turn upside down. That's not how it works...you'll learn sooner or later. Having a boyfriend may seem like the most important thing in your social circle but school is to learn to take the information you learn and go on to college. A boyfriend is not going to make you get a full scholarship to college!
Don't get me wrong having a boyfriend is great but it, isn't the most important thing and its definitely not going to boost your self-esteem. You're in charge of boosting your self-esteem no one else is and you have to find a way to do that yourself. I'm single and these when I see a couple I envy them because I wish I had someone in my life. At the same time though I'm worrying about myself and taking care of me which is the most important thing of all. So stop worrying about getting a boyfriend and maybe concentrate on your work and getting through school. When its meant to be its meant to be and for right now you need to work on you and be confident with yourself.
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