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there r 2 gay guys that like me and there r 3 really hot girls that like me. i am very strait, the to gay guys r friends with the girls, how do i let the guys no im not interested without makeing the girls think im insensitive

wow...u must be hot... cause to have 5 people after you.... take it as a compliment. :)

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Okay, so I don't have a very good fashion sense. I'm only 13, but a lot of my friends have really awesome outfits. I don't know how to mix and match very well. When I get older, I want to live in the city. (I live in NY.) I really want to know how I can learn to dress in that chic kind of way. I really like the way Blake Lively dresses on Gossip Girl. I'm not into doing anything to over the top the way Leighton Meester does in GG, but I really like Serena's look. How can I learn to match clothes well and choose the right ones?

http://www.gossipgirlfashion.com/tag/Serena/

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i want to get into a musical or theater production over the summer. i live in chicago so when i type anything on google it thinks i'm tlaking about the play. can anyone give me links? thanks in advancee

http://www.playbill.com/jobs/find/

Also, spring awakening is casting. If you get in, get me jonathan groff's number lol

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okay so im graduating from middle school this year and i really want an AMAZING party :) i havent even asked my mom yet but shes gonna wanna know what my plans for the party are. i really hope she says yes and im expecting 20-30 people that are gonna be invited. i want something fun to do and i wanna do something like a water ballon fight or spray those silly string things but those are small things and want to do something else to do...i have decoration and food covered but what i need are the activties for 14 year olds to do...i no it sounds young but still we like to have fun :)

Dancing. It does not matter how old you are...dancing is always cool. You can hire a dj. Parties with them are always cool. Water balloons sound fun... I've never been to a party with one of those fights...lol Imma do one now. You can also use shaving cream.

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I'm a 16 year old guy and at this age more and more of my friends are losing their virginity and hookin up with girls. I go to parties and all that fun stuff but I still havent had my first kiss. My goal is to have my first kiss before I turn 17 which is in a month. What should I do? I need tips on how to kiss and how to get into the situation where a kiss might happen. thanks

Im a 17 year girl and I havnt kissed a boy yet. I think its cute when a boy isnt a "player". Dont try to speed it up. I know a couple of boys who regret their first times. Just be yourself and have fun. Dont try too hard. Im sure you'll get what you want. :)

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So what do you do to get this hairstyle and what products would you use? Thanks in advance.

http://www.4hairstyles.com/short/young/105.htm

blow dry your hair and then use hair wax and hair spray to stand the seperate the hairs.

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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=534630

i don't think you guys understood my question.
i am completely aware of the fact that it's unfair & terrible for me to be mad at a girl who did nothing wrong.
THEREFORE,
AFTER I CAME TO THAT CONCLUSION,
i went to advicenators to find out
HHHHOOOOOWWWWWWW
to stop being mad at her & being jealous of her grades.
not to be retold that it's unfair & terrible.

can someone please help me? i really need help & advice. i cried so long yesterday and i felt so worthless... i need you guys to please help me. she gets perfect grades. i don't want to cry as i type this but i can't help it...

In a stereotypical society filled with parasitic destitute and the chronic dormant disease of propaganda I feel that the tobacco industry is responsible for your intense feelings of abhorrence.I know what you’re thinking – how is that hypothesis plausible? Well where did these feelings of indifference towards your friend begin – I’ll tell you where. In public places. And what happens in most public places. People smoke. Are you familiar with the Big Bang Theory? We’ll get into that later. But the point is that these toxic fumes not only kill brain cells but are able to manipulate our central lobe (located in the right side of the brain) and discord the production of several hormones, including testosterone. My point: You’re having a sever case of brain PMS.

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Okay, There's this girl let's call her NAS. Now I like her and she now knows that I like her. The thing is I've asked her a buncha times if she does like me and she can never give me a straight answer. After 7th period she likes to give me a hug and then she'll hang on my arm or wrap her arm around mine and walk around with me. But she's just so ambiguous and it confuses me. What I want to know is honestly what can I do to get her to give me a straight answer, and do you think she likes me based off of this one tiny tidbit of information?

Well it depends...If she is a flirt, then probably no. But if she isnt a flirt, then yes, there is a big chance that she likes you. My advice to you, is to ask her out. Dont wait. The longer you wait the worse the situation gets. A girl gets tired of flirting with one guy. Especially if it seems like he doesnt like you back. And if she says no, then so what? Its just one girl. Plenty of more fish in the sea. You're young, its not like you are gonna spend the rest of your life with her.

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ok so im trying to figure out if im in love or in lust.

my bf and i only see each other on the weekends. so during the week we talk a lot and stuff like that and then when we see each other on the weekends we talk and watch tv and stuff but most of the time we makeout. a lot. haha and whenever we are together like at youth group or w/e we are always so attracted to each other and sometimes sneak off to kiss. is this just lust? we care deeply about each other but whenever we are together we always find a way to makeout. and whenever i am with him i want to hold his hand or have him put his arm around me etc.

he and i have been best friends for like 2 yrs and for like 4 months before dating he and i really liked each other but we couldnt date (stupid rule thing) and actually have liked each other off and on since the beginning of school last year. we are extremely close friends and he knows me better than anyone but whenever we are together we just want to makeout. we have always had this attraction to each other and we have this bond. i always know where he is and he always knows what im doing. we are just that close. but now im worried that we are too focused on making out. i know i could just stop kissing him so much but i LOVE to kiss and its so much fun. and it is an important part of a relationship isnt it? im just confused and idk.

i went away for the week and saw my old friends and barely thought about him compared to normally. i was so busy and having tons of fun with my old friends that he didnt even seem to matter all that much. Monday was our 3 month anniversary. and his phone isnt working so i couldnt talk to him either. so idk maybe thats why i didnt think about him? im not sure and i had always thought i was in love but now i just feel like we are best friends who are lustful and want to makeout with each other. but thats what a boyfriend is right? a best friend that you want to be intamte with? please just tell me what you think cause im confused!! haha thanks and i will rate all your advice/opinions/ideas :]

i think its a lust/love relationship. Just think: are you willing to give up your life for him? The day you decide that is the day you'll truly know whether you love him or not. But i do agree with you. A boyfriend is a best friend you can be intimite with.

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f/14 Don't tell me im too young to have sex. I know i shouldnt have, that was my mistake last year in 2007 there was this boy I started liking in april. well in August, I asked him out and he said he was really sorry but no. but we flirt sooo much its unbeliveable[sp] then a few weeks go by and he ends up sneaking over to my hoouse at like 1:00 am and I snuck him in my bedroom window and things started out normally for us alot of flirting, kissing, but before the night was over with i ended up giving my virginity to him. so a week later I decided I was going to ask him out again and hes like idk let me think about it. two weeks pass. I asked if hes made his mind up yet and he says he still dont know. tehn like a freakin month and a half passes and he still says idk..he never truly gave me a yes or no. I stopped talking to him for a long time. We just recently started talking again. today I seen him kiss one of my good friends and it really hurt me. I dont like him anymore.. but it still hurts... why cant i seem to get over him after he hurt me so badly?

I agree with the girl who wrote below me. You will always feel something for the guy that took your virginity. Hell. You will always feel something for any guy you have ever liked. And when the guy kisses another girl, especially a friend it hurts. Believe me, I know it hurts. The fact that you dont have him or never did really hurts. I suggest for you to have a serious talk with him or just stop seeing him.

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Does anyone know what the nail polish is that glows under black lights? And where you can buy it? They always put it on my nails at the salon and they tell me they don't sell it there and they never tell me what the name of it is. Thanks!

Steal it... lol Next time you go to the salon, look at the name in the bottle, remember it, then google it when you get home. Ebay, Amazon. You can also try hot topic or Sally's, etc.

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Okay I guess these are pimples because on my mom side of the family, we have a very big acne issue. My body more than likely breaks out, my face is huge issue but I am just wondering if there could be pimples on my private area or is this some kind of bacteria disease or something of that matter. Is there any one with the same issue?
Also this is only on the outside of the vagina not inside. And I only had sex once and this was a issue even before I did that. Is there a treatment for this. Please help.

You can get pimples in your private area. Its completely normal. If you want, go see a doctor. Im sure they have some medication. I just got my first pimple ever today. And im 17!! So depressing...

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hey i want to make a fan video and i need to download some clips of blair and nate from gossip girl. i dont want to download the whole episode, but just some clips from it. anybody know where i can find some episode clips?

goo to youtube and dw the clips in keepvid.com

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What are some symbols from it? This is for a project. Besides the obvious ones such as gloves, the letter A, scafal..Something meaningful? And can be presented? Interesting? Pleaseee help.

eww im reading this book for ap. i hate it. sparknotes.com l.o.l
but, from what we have talked about in class, you can talk about hester and how everyone in town envied her. they were insulted by her when she did the crime but also could have envied her because she was so young and beautiful and they were all ugly and pitiful. they also feared that the man might have been their husbands since she never did confess who the adulterer was.

umm...the meteor maybe? dimmesdale saw it as a letter A and thought it was a sign of his sin while the towns people thought it was this guy who died (forgot his name). if you need more help, message me or myspace message me lol. ill be glad to do a shared inquiry with you lol

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I want a really pink lipstick of lipgloss that really shows its pink. I live in MO and i've checked walmart and walgreens ... so what places should i check.?

I bought one from Victoria's Secret

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does anyone know a good website to buy tickets to rent on broadway thats legit

thanks :)

ticketmaster.com

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okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him.

1.Get help for your suicidal "attempts"
2.Thats not cool
3. Why would you make guys call your boyfriend and say that?
4. This is why men think that most women are "sluts"
5. Its probably true that most women are like you.
6. What you did gives women in general a bad name.
7. If you really cared about him, you wouldnt feel A LITTLE guilty. You would feel horrible. I would never do that.
8. Just get help.
Now that I have established the whole "truth" part, lets try to resolve this little problem. Be honest with him and tell him why you did what you did. APOLOGIZE!!! Try to be nicer and think before you act. Think, "Hmmm, would I like it if he did this to me?" Treat others the way you would like to be treated. I apologize if im being a b with and itch, but, Im just telling you the truth. Remember, he is a person, a real person, not one of your dolls.

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I feel really depressed about stuff I don't like and thinking about the future . . .

I'm a really hyper happy person who makes you smile and such but when I get home, I'm depressed

I think and think about the stuff I don't like

I can't tell you though :|

sorry :|

I cry about it and sometimes (well mostly) I tell myself its stupid that I'm thinking about it and such . . . but in my head I'm really confused or I can't even do it right, things I messed up in life

My confidence is starting to drop and if I get sad during school it will affect my friends and family that it'll bother them and I don't want to be a burden or an annoyance.

Tell me what should I do to get theses umm. . . I don't know "worries" affect other people

Thxs if you have me advice I really REALLY appreciate it ! :)

I had the exact same problem last year. How old are you? I was 16. It sucks, I know. I still get worried at times about the future and about what other people think of me. Its not something people can help you with. Its more of a self discovery. Just remember that life does go on, and you have to go on with it. And dont be afraid about the future because if you make any mistakes, you can always fix them up later. Just live in the present and enjoy life how it is now because truly, life should not be taken for granted. You'll learn to live with yourself just like I did. And know that you will always have friends, family and random strangers like me that are always willing to help. Listen to these two songs. I know they always get me through difficult times. Both are from Spring Awakening. They are "All thats known" and "the song of purple summer". They have deep meanings.
(stay in school!!!)
Peace,
Jennifer

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16 f

i live in new york and i want to become an actress eevryone keeps saying to do community theater and such. whats a community theater and can someone help me find one i can enroll myself into. also, what other things can i join if i want to become an actress ok thanks alot. it has always been my dream.

go to springawakening.com or look at their myspace. In their myspace they are saying that they are holding auditions for it. Its a tony award winning musical so if you make it, let me know lol. If you make it, introduce me to the actors lmao

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Hi i'm 14/f
There is this boy that i absolutely love he is just so nice and great in every single way he really likes me too he even said he loves me in person.
I'm a really like 'good' girl and i'm asian so you know how family is like really important and you can't get a boyfriend you can only get married once your 25 or whatever.
I really want to go out with him and i know this realationship will last but i hate going behind my parents back but i really love him what do i do?
Thank you so so much

You should tell your parents...they will understand.

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