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Hey my name's Hayley, I'm 15 years old and i love to give advice and help! :) Don't be afraid to ask me anything ;) Thank you and I hope you enjoy everything.
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I first met my ex boyfriend a few years ago. I absolutely adored him. We dated for a few months, then I found out that he was dating someone else. He broke up with me because he couldn't commit. A year later, we ended up being together again. This time, he tried really hard to make up for what he did the first time. He was nice and sincere. He wanted the relationship to work (I think he finally wanted to settle down and realized that I was a good match for him or something). But then I had doubts. We got along really well but something was missing. I couldn't completely get over what he did to me, and wondered if there was someone more suitable. I then left for graduate school, choosing a school that was far away even though I had the option to go to a school nearby. He was angry about my choice, but was willing to wait for me if I could make a commitment (be engaged etc). I did not feel ready though. We kept in touch a little while, but eventually broke up. He tried to call/email, but I didn't reciprocate. Graduate school was busy, and I was in peace with my decision. Or so I thought. I gave him a call during the holiday season to see how he was doing and found out that he got engaged to another woman and is getting married. He proposed to her after only a few months of dating (we were together back and forth for 4 years). I now realize that I never stopped thinking of him the past year. I am almost 30 and he was the only one that I have truly loved. I am afraid now that I gave up my destiny so foolishly. I am afraid that I will never find someone as compatible as him. What should I do? Do I still have a chance with him? How do I find peace? Thank you very much.
woah.. really tough question you have.. but i say follow your heart. If you think he is really what you want then think about everything carfully and go and see him and talk to him.. like a long talk about everything. This is really tricky considering he is engajed but if this is what you want then go after it. But on the other hand, there could be someone out there you don't know about and you are hung up on somthing And you could be missing out on a huge oppertunity because of somthing in the past. Learn from your mistakes. But i am sort of going through a little of what you are too. I'm trying to move on because Everyone is telling me to so i'm hanging around with other guys trying not to think about him. But if you think this guy is your everything and your feelings are so strong then i seriously suggest you let him know. Tell him how you felt/feel and take things one step at a time. Good luck hope i helped
Cheerleading is just over! I am pretty good but i want to get better. I can do a cartwheel, round off, all jumps, heal streach, split! But tryouts are in about 2 months and i want stuff to do. I have a few questions,
What are some new cool moves?
What should i do to teach my self a back walkover? I am afraid of going back!
What can i do to get my jumps higher? yes, I prep but that doesnt seem to be enough, is jumping while i prep a bad thing?
Should i do some running and such? Im skinny but for extra "strength" if you want to call it that!
((Please.... HELP!!!))
Ask any questions any time!
Don't do anything your not comfortable doing- you can regret is very easily_ But that doesnt mean you can build up to doing it! I dance 4 days a week and i suggest trying to still improve on the things you know and make them better, and then have friends stop you on back walkovers. For getting your jumps higher- you should definitly try squats. Sounds weird but what you do is just stand with your legs apart like the distance of your hips, and bend your legs (knee's) and squat and jump back up. Do this over and over and your hight and jumps will improve, if your consistant- trust me.. Anyways, goodluck at the try outs keep your head high, you can tell that you want to do well and its good getting advice, hope i helped
-hayley
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i want to go further with my boyfriend. we've hugged, kissed, french kissed(not the whole making out), held hands, but i want to do more. privacy is not a problem. but my boyfriend is like yea ill do w/e you want whenever you want. but how do i hint to him that i want to go a little further?
Whisper it to him, or You make the move! iy your not confortable with that, then i suggest dropping little hints so he knows, don't worry it'll happen. good luck
okay my best friend has this guy friend and i like him and she likes him...err i really dont kno what to do...i mean i dont think she will get mad at me if i asked him out...even though deep down inside i think that she will...what should i do should i ask him out or should i not...im so confused.
best friends come way before boyfriends... i've made this mistake :x . But this doesnt mean you can't be with him. All you have to do is talk to you friend about it. Tell her how you feel and everything and he honest. You really need to let her know how you fele becausae you wouldnt want to mess up anything with your Best Frined! Then after you talk to her, then talk to this guy and go from there! tell the guy also that you talked to your friend before so he isnt maybe weirded out and that you also just want him to know what you've done.. Hope i helped good luck
Hey, im really scared about doing stuff sexually with a guy because of some of the stuff with my body..do guys care what a body looks like? i have stretch marks on my boobs because they grew so fast..and i have little dots on my but..and i dont know why? i just wanted to ask you if a guy cares about what his girlfriends body looks like to do sexual stuff with her.. i havent done anything yet...but im scared of what might happen when we do stuff..thanks!
Don't worry, a lot of girls have these things about their body too. Your question involves and answer that depends on YOUr boyfriend. Is he the type of guy that cares about what you look like more than your personality? Are you too close enough to not care so much about your looks.. just that your so close it doesnt matter. Is he Thattt shallow? it depends on him... but if you want to talk to him about it before you do any sexual things, you might feel more comfortable. good luck =D hope i helped
I'm not sure if i'm ready to do much sexual stuff with my boyfriend yet, but how can we make making out more fun..like how can i tease him and get him aroused?
I would suggest while your making out, make it like dry sex, or get more into it.. giggle, snuggle, move around... and be cute =D hope i helped
My boyfriend john and i have been going out for about two weeks now and everything has been going fine. but i heard that he went to the movies with his ex-g (she goes to another school) and he did go to the movies b/c he told me and i was pretty cool with it i guess (b/c they were with a group to) but then i heard a few days later that he said to some people..."this valentine's day is gonna suck. i have to buy two gifts now". i think that he's cheating on me. and when i talk to him about it he just denys it. i told him everything and he still denied it. he is my first boyfriend and guys are kinda hard to find for me and i really like him and don't want to break up with him but i dont want to be two-timed. i dont know if i should break up or not. i mean what if he's really NOT cheating on me? then i lose a good realationship over nothing. please help me!
just wondering.. i can be completly wrong, but is this katie crane?.. just sounds a lot like a story with you
hey i need help really bad! i need help because i think i still have really strong feelings for my ex. i know he does to because he tries putting his arm around me and stuff but i tell him not to.. anyways the problem is we have been broken up for about 1 month and now i have a new boyfriend.i like him, but all the time i catch myself thinking about my ex... my new boyfriend is really great but he cant compare to the feelings that my ex gave/still gives me.. i dont want to mess up either.. can some one please help!
I have this same exact problem right now too! i know its killing me too. But i think we both know what we should probably do even thought its not what we want to do... maybe. But my advice is break up with your current boyfriend, and talk with your ex. Tell both of them the honest truth and follow your heart. Take some time to think to yourself what you think is best for you. Tell your boyfriend that your breaking up with him because (obviosly the reasons) and that you don't want to hurt him -hopefully he will be understanding... but know what its probably for the best. With your ex... talk about everything - your feelings, relationships, why you broke up last time.. and what to do now. Good luck, hope i helped =D .. by the way- tell me what happens because i need with with this too, its cool to see some1 with the same situation ;)
ok...i feel really bad. my ex bf and i broke up a little over a month ago.( we are still friends) I have a new bf, but he is still single. He told me he likes this girl named "sue". But "Sue" is really fat and ugly. and i told my ex bf that...and i also said that he could do way better than that..:/ ( ( i no ) ). Well it turns out that when i was talking to him about this one of "sue's" friends was right behind us and heard everything i said. well, of course she told "sue" what i had said. "Sue" started crying in class. ( it turns out "sue" likes him too.) and one of her friends named "Jan" heard the whole story. and right before the bell rang "jan" comes up to me and says why are you talking SH** about "sue" and i was like "sue"? and shes like "stop pretending you don't know what im talking about?! you little dumb a**! meet me outside of class after the next period." "Jan" has been known for getting in many fights...( and winning)...she gotton detention and suspended a couple of times. What do i do? I can't fight worth crap!!! This happened on thurs. (i don't have school friday or monday) Thurs. right after that class (luckily i had a dentist appoitment)i left. "Jan" didn't see me. but im worried something will happen to me on tues. between me n "Jan". Please help me! What do i do? I will rate!!!
It depends of how YOu feel about it- do you want to fight her? do you want to like fun away... or do you want to go to her and talk?... i would suggest talking and saying "well Jan i didnt mean to start anything with anyone, sorry this happeend(ect.)... annddd the only reason i was like saying shit was because it was hard listening to my ex say he liked a new girl, i'd never heard him say that to me, so i just said that- not thinking." ... haha... since you dont really know her, maybe you could pull off a lie like that or somthing, or just apoligize to your ex, sue, and jan. It depends on how you want to handle it though. But if you just run away from her then it mite not help the situation, and it could make you look 'bad' or whatever. So good luck with these girls.!! hope i helped :)
Hey, I'm going to a dance workshop in about a month, and I was wondering if anyone knew any stretches I could do, to maybe become more flexible.. (I don't mind yoga or pilates) If anyone's got any tips, thanks in advance!
well i would sugest doing lunges or sitting down and opening your legs and leaning over them... or standing and folding your body over your legs.. :) hope i helped
ok so theres a close friend of mine lets call him Jake. Well jake and I are good friends and he gave me a Christmas card for Christmas that signed "Love Jake" well ever since then my friend lets call her sasha has been trying to hook us up. he says he wrote love tom on all cards..yet anyone i know hes friends with didnt even get a card at least any ive checked with. so he coems up to me today and goes "have you talked to sasha" and i said not really he goes "she said you and i should go out" just then the bell rang so i didnt have to say anything. i really am unsure of my feelings for this guy.....if he does ask me out what do i do? i cant say no i have problems of hurting friends feelings!!!
HELP ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You do what your heart tells you to!!!!!!!.... its sinple (even tho i understand its hard, i know where your coming from) - but you need to go with what your heart tells you to. If you like him .. then yea sure maybe try it out... but if your not sure, then i wouldnt... you should hangout with him more or talk more about it, and see if its comfortable with you. If you do say yes to him when you dont think you like him, then that will be worse when you want to break up with him because he will be more hurt. Think of your inner feelings and gooluck, hope i helped :D
i am a 13 year old girl, and i tried my boyfriend's ciggarette the other day, cuz i just wanted to try. he didnt force me into it, i just wanted to try ; like i just said. so then the next day i craved for one soo badly and i bit my nails which i never did before. and i just want some kinda smoke in mah lungs now ! am i addicted already ? what should i do ?
StOP!!!! do not get hooked on that.. the absolute best thing to do is not even get started.. so just before you think you mite get hooked, (which you Could be) DOn't pick one of those things up again before its too late. Dont be stupid
is it supposed to hurt when u take out a tampon .. cause when i do it hurts really bad..
no.. maybe it wasnt ready to take out.. or you need to buy a better size if its too big, or you mite've put it in wrong...hope i helped :D
what do i do if i love my best guy friend and i want to go out with him but are afraid to tell him?
TALK TO HIM NOW! its the best and only thing to help you get over this bump in the road. Tell him exactly how you feel... just from your heart. Listen to what he says.. maybe he likes you too. But be open and honest- thats my best advice ;)
Hey, does anyone know any websites that have step by step instructions that show you how to dance?
Hey ! oh my god i LOVE DANCE :D its my life... but to answer your question i would need to know what type of dance you want to learn . But here's a site you can go to to watch a few dances- http://www.halloffamedance.com/halloffame/viewarchivednational.aspx?id=48 or just e-mail me to talk to me about dance, or if you want more, or anything :D hunnielicious123@yahoo.com hope i helped :)
17 female senior. (sorry its so long!)
Okay so i have this thing where i'm scared to mess around with guys, like i'm cool with them doing things to me, its the whole idea of me doing stuff to them. Don't get me wrong its not like i've never done anything before but i get nervous everytime that i have (which have been on rare occasions) I'm okay with sex too... it's just like handjobs and head and whatnot. But anyways, i think the reason why i get so nervous is because once when my boyfriend and i were kind of drunk i gave him head and he didn't go which i didn't really think was possible but i felt so bad and i just couldn't get him too, does this have something to do with him being under the influence or do i just suck? lol
No you don't suck lol. I understand totally about somtimes you don't like doing those things to guys.. i feel the same way somtimes but if you feel like you dont do a good job or whatever, lol then just ask a friend for tips or maybe ask your boyfriend what he likes.. and just talk to him about it if your not embarresed. You don't suck.. and don't feel bad because somtimes you don't like doing things to them- its normall. Talk to a close girlfriend or maybe your boy. Hope i helped:)
someone help me please. Im not gunna ramble on so im gunna put out the basics alright
1)bf of 9 months
2)havent seen him for 19 days
3)barely calls
4)keeps askin me if i know this certain.. constantly
5)he still says i love you.. but im confused
i just want to hit him sooo bad yell at him so loud get it thru his thick head and leave him but i dont because I love him
Hey, guys are dick heads. I say call him or talk to him and tell him how you feel. Talking about everything helps, and however it turns out is what you should base it on. If you love him, then you just really need to talk about why he's doing this, and how you feel. hope i helped :)
I have alot of guy friends that are juniors and seniors and i have been asked to prom a few times....but see, im only a sophmore...Do you think its ok to go that young or should i wait and let it be more special?
It all depends on who the guy is. My advice is- only have sex if your in love with him truely and deeply because your feelings will grow so strong and you mite regret it. I say go to the prom maybe just to go? or have fun... but only sex or anything if you love the guy... not just to do it or cuz its the prom. good luck :)
Me and this guy are friends right now and I feel we have a close connection since he always seems to want to talk to me. But he has a girlfriend....so tell me please, how do I get him to like me as more than just a friend OR ask me out? Please help it would be greatly appreciated.
Well its kinda tricky cuz he has a girlfriend so just be careful. But- talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Make sure you say that you understand your alraeyd in a relationship- but i need to let you know how i feel....ect. It will make him think! hangout with him... play your cards right and just try to make him like you back or flirt a little with him,but definitly tell him how you feel so he knows, just be carefull of his grilfriend. good luck:D
this one girl I like is playing hard to get, what
should I do?
Gr! i hate that. The only way to do this is either talk to her about it, or dont do anything about it and it will go away. It depends on how you look @ it. Talking to the girl could maybe make her think that you care... but it mite not help with the playing hard to get part. But if you ignore her, then she will come around-TRUST me. once you stop talking to her a little, she will notice that she doesnt have you to be telling her you like her... or having a boy call her everynight.... its just an attention factor. She wants it, and you have to sort of look @ it the otehr way to get out of it. Play her game and she will notice that she likes you too maybe, or that she misses you. Good luck:-D