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My boyfriend john and i have been going out for about two weeks now and everything has been going fine. but i heard that he went to the movies with his ex-g (she goes to another school) and he did go to the movies b/c he told me and i was pretty cool with it i guess (b/c they were with a group to) but then i heard a few days later that he said to some people..."this valentine's day is gonna suck. i have to buy two gifts now". i think that he's cheating on me. and when i talk to him about it he just denys it. i told him everything and he still denied it. he is my first boyfriend and guys are kinda hard to find for me and i really like him and don't want to break up with him but i dont want to be two-timed. i dont know if i should break up or not. i mean what if he's really NOT cheating on me? then i lose a good realationship over nothing. please help me!
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Two weeks. Good grief how can that be considered a relationship at all yet. Anyway, I vote for asking him if he is seeing the other girl.
How dependable are these people who are talking? Do you have names or are they just "people"? If you get a name, then talk to them about what they heard. But if its "I heard that she heard that John said" then ignore it. If you can someone who actually heard this come out of his mouth first hand, then you have a problem. Then you need to let him have time to get over his girlfriend because he hasn't. It's fair to you if he isn't ready to move on yet. Plus if I have known a guy for a few weeks before Valentine's Day, I don't expect the moon. Maybe a nice dinner or something as simple as a card or poem is just fine.
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I think that there is a lot of insecurity in your voice- which makes me question if you have some self-esteem issues going on too.
Regardless, you have to see how he reacts when you ask him nicely if he is seeing this other girl. Obviously, you'll have to be the more mature one in the relationship. You have to tell him in a non-accusatory manner that you understand that he may have feelings for his ex-girlfriend. Also say that if he feels that he may still be in love with her, you do not want to interfere with that. If you show that you understand and you're not accusing of him of cheating, he's more likely to open up to you and have a frank discussion.
I know it sounds kinda mature, and may lead to heartbreak, but its better to know that the person you are dating is interested in you completely and not still hung up on the other girl (that would kind of make you a rebound girl). Have faith that one day you'll find someone who will worship you and you will be his inspiration and thought every moment.
Best of luck,
Arun
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Just if you give him your virginity then he will not cheat on you no more. But dont break up wiht him
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he is cheating on you. in fact he has two or three more girlfriends besides you. hope things go well!
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just wondering.. i can be completly wrong, but is this katie crane?.. just sounds a lot like a story with you
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