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hey i saw my mum and dad on a pron site, im not supposed to look at it and now i guess im seeing why. but still what should i do, i mean ppl who know me and my family could see and find out. help me!!!
for obvious reasons id prefer to be annonomus (link)
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That sounds pretty bad! Well I'm wondering how it got on a website to start off with. Perhaps you should confront your parents about it (embarrasing I know) but if you don't then others will probably see it and it may explode into something disastrous.
At least if it comes from you, they'll be happier and probably more understanding than it coming from someone else.
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hey well, ive found my gf going off to do secret websites behind my back, some are not very tasteful and others are okay. i dont mind her doing them, and i dont think she knows i know, but she doesnt tell me. these websites havent been hard to find, most the time i stumble on them by mistake. but still she doesnt tell me. what should i do?
thanks jay (link)
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Confront her about it, she might just want to keep some things private, but if you know about it then and it's on your mind, there's no harm in just asking her about them.
She might know you know and may not be bothered by it and may not thing it's necessary to tell you.
If you don't mind her doing it just let her know, she should be okay with it & it'll put your mind at rest.
Sarah
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hi, any ideas on how to get bigger boobs without using push up bras padded bras or water bras or pills something natural. Also i'm 13 14 in 2 months and my period hasn't started can i make it come quicker i also masturebate and stuck a pen with the lid on in my vagina about 5 times does this affect it pleases help im worried. (link)
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You could try push ups, they're suppose to strengthen the muscles under your breasts, so that they look firmer. Think it could help you.
Aww don't worry, your period will start when it's ready. It's annoying waiting I know but it will come. But unfortunately there's nothing you can do to make it happen faster.
Erm no I don't think that should affect anything, but it's probably not a good idea to use a pen as it may contain bacteria and you could get an infection.
Sarah
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i didnt meet him on myspace.
i met him at school.
but i just have his myspace. (link)
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Ahh okay then, makes more sense now. Yeah then could be a good idea to meet him then and make sure you get his number off him to ring him when you arrive, even if he doesn't show if you take some friends you can have a good time with them.
Sarah
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is it bad to go out with your ex boyfriends friend? if your still good friends with your ex? thanks (link)
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I was in your situation a year ago, just split up with my ex then I started talking to my current boyfriend who at the time was friends with my ex and I was still good friends with him too.
It all worked out in the end and I'm still going out with him after over a year and I've never been happier.
It's not wrong as long as you go about it the right way and don't lie about anything if you want to keep your friendship with him.
But if you think that he would be too hurt by this, then don't go for it if you still want to remain good friends with him.
Sarah
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okay ill start out by saying that im an 8th grade girl.anyway,i have abf of 7 months who i like very much.but i also like someone else.he`s one of my best friends cousin.he`s soooooo cute and funny an d i think he likes me back.but i have one problem---he`s in 5th grade.but i like him so much!
and his parents hate me because his dad saw me kiss my boyfriend and hes really strict so he would never let him go out with me.but this kid is soo nice & funny and if you saw him u would think he was in 8th grade.i dont know what to do? should you just forget about him and continue being friends with him? (link)
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Hmmm if you're not liking your current boyfriend as much as you did, and you're thinking about someone else, do you really want to be with your current boyfriend anymore regardless of this new boy? Maybe you should let him down gently then wait a bit if you decide to go ahead with the new boy.
It doesn't matter about age really and it's not up to this boy's dad to decided who his son goes out with. So if you do want to get with him, go for it.
But if you feel that you still have really strong feelings for your current boyfriend then maybe you should just forget about this new boy and the phase might pass.
Only you can decide who to choose, do what you feel is best.
Sarah
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Me and this girl used to be BEST friends. Everyone knew we were inseperable. But many things happen that i not going to bore you with and we stoped being friends. Now everytime im around her im just in a bad mood she just annoys me so much and i try not to let her get to me but i cant help it. I cant just ignore her because she is in my group of friends and were always together. What sould i do i cant stand being near her all the time? (link)
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I'm in that kind of situation at the moment but we're not in the same friend group which makes it easier.
I think it would be a good idea to keep your distance or try to figure out why she annoys you so much. If you figure that out, you might be able to overcome the annoyance and enjoy hannging round with your friends more.
If not then maybe confront her about the situation or friend some new friends?
Sarah
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why do some girls like giving head?
me and my boyfriend we're wondering. (link)
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Probably because they like to please their boyfriends and make them feel special. Also by giving head, they know that they will be able to have the favour returned.
Or some girls may not like it, but want the same doing for them and so give head anyway.
Also it may make the girl feel good knowing that she has so much power to be able to seduce and pleasure her man.
It's also good foreplay
Sarah
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what is the yellow stuff coming out of my vagina (link)
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It's totally normal and nothing to worry about, it's called vaginal discharge is very common, every girl has it. It usually happens around the time of your period or at various other times throughout your cycle.
But if the discharge becomes clumpy kind of like cottage cheese, this may indicate an infection and you should seek help preferably from a GP.
Sarah
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i have really big thighs. I mean, you can't notice when im standing, because they look normal when i stand. But when i sit on my knee's, they're probbly like 6 incches. i' not overweight though. What should i do to reduce fat on my thighs???? And really fast, also.!!
xoxo, please help!! (link)
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Don't worry about it, everyone's thighs are like that when they sit down, it's just the muscle and fat spreading out.
If you really do want to try loose weight off them, doing reqular, anerobic exercise like squats could help tone your thighs and bum.
Or you could try some areobic exercise like fast walking or rowing for about 20 minutes, this may also help
Sarah
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is it true that your boobs will grow if you give a guy head and he busts and you swallow? my friend told me that it is but i dont know.
answers please (: (link)
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Sorry, this is deffinately not true, it's serious rubbish. May have just been a way to get a girl to give a guy head and swallow.
Sarah
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okay, so whenever i bend my leg or something, it makes this cracking sound. Like, when i sit in a "criss cross apple sauce" position, or i sit on my knees it cracks. And..when i just bend my knee a lot, it cracks. What's wrong with it? What can i do to help my knee/leg? (link)
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I don't think it's anything to worry about, my ankles crack when I walk up the stairs and they have done for years. I think it happens to a lot of people and is not unusual.
But if you have any pain assocaited with the cracking of you knee joints, then you should probably get yourself checkout to be on the safe side.
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my boyfriend doesnt want to cum in my vagina so i dont get pregnant, but what can he do to finish? (link)
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You should really use a condom or not have sex at all, because semen is released before ejaculation and so you could still get pregnant from that even if he pulls out.
Plus it's far safer as you're less likely to catch as STI's.
Sarah
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well i have a bump on my vagina that kinda hurts wat could it be
fyi: i never have sex b4 (link)
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It could be a cyst or an infection, if you're worried about it, I suggest that you see a doctor to get it checked out, could be nothing or could be something serious.
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Hi. I'm 21/f.
So there's this kid, Chris, who used to like me a lot. We hung out a few times when me & my boyfriend, Dave, were on a break. I'm not going to lie, I've flirted with him a little as well & maybe even led him on. However, I told him that even though Dave & I aren't officially together, we basically are since we do everything bf & gf's do & that were in love with each other. Chris knew all about Dave (we were friends when Dave & I started going out at 16) but still had deep feelings for me. It got to the point where I felt he was way too attached to me. Once I realized how much he really liked me, I backed off. I was turned off too. It was good timing because he had to go back to college.
Soon after, me & Dave got back together. Chris & I still talked online so I let him know that were official again. He was heart broken, I can tell. After that we hardly spoke online but now he's back from college on summer break & he wants to hang out with me again. He seems flirtatious towards me & seems really pressed to hang out with me. He tells me I'm beautiful & sexy & I don't know why because he knows Dave & I are still a couple.
He's a friend but I'm afraid if I hang out with him he's going to feel feelings for me again & I don't want to hurt him. I even think it may not be a good idea to hang out with a guy who has feelings for me when I have a boyfriend. I'd feel wrong..
(Btw, these two guys know each other.)
So I need advice. He really wants to chill with me. What should I do? I don't want my bf to know & I'm not going to go behind his back either. (And even if I did hang out with Chris & I told Dave, I don't want Dee to think its okay to hang out with girls who want to be with him.) How do I avoid hanging with Chris? What do I say to him? How can I not hurt him again?
Thanks, any advice is appreciated. (link)
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If you don't feel comfortable hanging out with him or seeing him again, then that's okay. I don't think there is a way to let him know how you feel without hurting his feelings, it's inevitable. But you should tell him so that he won't try anything on with you, he may think he could be in with a chance even though he knows your taken.
Plus if you tell him you'll feel a lot less stressed out about it all :)
Sarah
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Okay so my one friend keeps telling me that my other friends ( who doesn'treally get along with me anyway ) is calling me a whore behind my back. My one friend is standing up for me but she says that my other friend is saying that im a whore because my boyfriend of 7 months and i make out during movies - i understand yeah maybe she doesn't want to see it but the thing is his dad hates me and we can NEVER see each other and thats pretty much the only time i can do that with him its getting really hard ! i just want to know if i really am a whore for this or is she just being lsfijsdlf ? (link)
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It sounds as though your friend is probably jealous of you and yeah she might not want to see it, but that's no reason to call you a whore.
You're deffinately not a whore, because you've being going out with your boy for 7 months. A whore would be someone who has frequent short-term sexual relationships, which doesn't sound like you at all.
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Ok, so I have a cold right now. I'm really stuffed up, and I have a short attention span as per usual (regularity when I have a cold). When I try to watch TV to pass time drinking loads of fluids/blowing my nose at the same time, I end up completely focusing off the TV and doing very tedious things such as biting/scraping my nails and messing them up and picking lint off my clothes.
I think it might be because I get less oxygen to my brain because I'm stuffed up, and it makes me dopey- and it's certainly not any medication because it happens with and without it.
Does anyone have any ideas to help me stop giving myself an overmanicure and keep me occupied? (link)
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The best thing to do would be to climb into bed and have a sleep and also take some Lemsip capsules or some other medicine for cold and flu. I find that really works for me an after about an hour you don't even know that you have a cold.
You could try painting/drawing/card making or something?
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ok so i was having sex with my boyfriend and i was already having an amazing orgasm but then we both thought it would be fun to add my back massager into the mix, when he put it on my clit i squirted so hard it was like i peed. was it pee or was it vaginal fluid...it shot out of my body as if i had been tickled too much and pissed my pants but it didnt feel like it came from my urethra. so what was it? (link)
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It was an ejaculation/cum basically. It's a type of great orgasm
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i know well these thinqs are not heredetary or anythinq, but my "father" (he used to abuse of me) is 20 years older than my mom, and so i have a tendency to qo for older quys. Not THAT much older, im 15/f and i qo for as old as 26, qiven their appearances (unless its Derek Jeter or Johnny Depp or sumthinq =]). Im scared that i miqht end up just like her, married to an old quy twice my age who'll amke my life even more miserable. Is there like sum trauma in my brain or sumthinq?...wat can i do?? (link)
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Aww don't worry there's nothing wrong with you, everyone has their different taste in men. If we didn't life would be quite difficult.
You're probably just into more mature men, and it's unlikely that you'll end up like your mum. I wouldn't worry about it, just enjoy life and worry about it if you have to.
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how do you tell the difference in someone who is "pedifile-ish" or just friendly with an attraction to you?
ive known this guy about 3 months. he tells me he thinks im hott and stuff, but also that im like one of his best friends [especially at work]. and hes given me one hug but otherwise never laid a finger on me. we get along really well. basically acting like bro and sis, i mean were tight. hes never done or said anything suggestive. but i have a hard time with trust ya know, so i just want opinions..
like what are some signs or something? (link)
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If you're not into him, then don't lead him on or flirt of any kind, if you want to just be friends, then make that clear to him.
It sounds as though you're just really good friends though and friends hug sometimes right?
I think you should just watch out incase he starts touching you differently to normal or anything like that. He's probably just being friendly 'cos he thinks you're attractive.
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