Hey, I'm Kelli, better known as fabulous ;)
after a very long break from this site, I'm back and ready to help out anyone who needs it.
A little bit about me:
I'm fourteen and in eighth grade.
I'm a crazy girl, and I always have a smile on my face.
I love to sing and dance, I spend most of my time doing one or the other.
I am nice to everyone, until they give me a reason not to be.
I have the best friends in the world, and without their love and support, I wouldn't be who I am today.
Ask me anything, I'm told I'm good at advice so don't be afraid to ask my opinion. I'll do the best I can to help you out! ♥
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I recently got pregnant from having sex with some guy I met at a bar one night. I know. It was wrong of me, and I feel terrible. I am debating whether or not I should get an abortion. I know that this guy won't ever even consider being a father, and I don't know if I can handle a baby on my own. I've heard so many stories of single mothers going crazy. I don't know what to do! I'm so torn up inside!
Does anyone have any advice they are willing to give to me to help me make the right decision.
Thanks so much to you all. (link)
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Hey. First of all, I am so sorry that you have been put in this position. I don't personally know anyone whos been raped but you hear so many horror stories and I know you must be going through an incredibly rough time, especially because your pregnant.But please please please listen to me, don't get an abortion! You would be taking the life of an innocent baby who didn't ask to be born the way he or she was concieved. If you don't want the baby please give it to parents who do, maybe people who can't get pregnant themselves. I understand where your coming from but pleased don't kill the baby. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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Hey guys,
Im 16/f and this last year I made my highschool's varsity cheer squad :) happy happy. Anyways it was just for the basketball season so it wasnt long. I had never had any previous experience but have some natural ability whatev. So this year I made the team for next years football season. The problem is my family made a recent decision to send me to a new school next year without a cheer squad.
Ok so my question is does anyone know any club cheer squads in the Philadelphia area that I could join? I dont want to go to a team that is TOO competitive because I really dont have that much experience. I've tried searching online and really cant find anything. All Star teams are fine, I just want to be able to make the team.
Sorry my question is so long :)
Pleaseee help thanks so much. (link)
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Hey. I'm not one hundred percent sure of which schools in Philadelphia have squads because I live in Massachusetts but alot of schools (including mine) don't host the cheerleading and football teams. It's hosted by popwarner, so their is a good chance that any town you will move to will have a squad. As for the difficulty or competition, don't sweat it. This was my second year cheering but we had a lot of first time girls but they caught on really quick. We made it all the way to regionals placing second in the two competitions priar to that. Also, my friends Julia and Ali were on an allstar team at a place called cheerfactor. They have two different teams so that more experienced people and less experienced people aren't placed together.The only problem with that is, although all cheerleading is very expensive, all star teams are extremely pricey. But check out all your options, whichever you decide to go with will be fine. Don't question your ability, you have to be inexperienced to get good. ♥ fabulous
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Hi. You don't know me, and I don't know you, but I just wanted to comment you on your GREAT advice. I read the advice you gave to the 20yr old young lady with the two young men. Anyway you are VERY informed on life for such a young age and i just wanted to applaued you for that :]
Keep up the GREAT work!
beth (link)
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thank you so much! I really appreciate it! ♥ Kelli
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FYI: I am a 20 year-old recent college grad. Both men I am referring to in this question are only slightly older than me and finishing their degrees.
"Joe" and I began dating 2 1/2 years ago. Our relationship was generally good when last summer (1 1/2 years in)he decided that he didn't want a serious girlfriend. Nothing mean or ugly, he was just being honest. I tried all summer to change his mind but finally gave. (We remained close friends.)
After dating around for a little while, I began seeing "Michael". Our relationship was somewhat rocky because we had both come out of relationships and he had been hurt many times before. During this time, Joe began to develop interest in having a relationship. I thought it over and eventually decided to try things again with Joe. (I stayed in close contact with Michael.)
Joe and I have a really easygoing relationship, but he refuses to discuss a more serious commitment. When we discuss it, he says he doesn't see us going in that direction at this point but is always careful to avoid losing me entirely. In the past few months, Michael has attempted to see other people to no avail. He is convinced that I am the only one for him. We have been getting along beatuifully, and Michael has done everything he to prove to me that we belong together. (Both are fully aware of each other and the current status.)
Michael wants me to leave Joe and become engaged to him. (He's even looking at rings.) I am seriously considering this. I love both men very much (in somewhat different ways) and could she myself happily married to either (in 2-5 years). The difference here is that Michael is willing to commit and Joe is not. Both have treated me very well; although Michael is romantic (flowers) while Joe is considerate (fixs my car). Is there any point in continuing to wait for Joe or should I leave him and accept the proposal from Micheal? (link)
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Hey. You're really lucky to have two guys that care about you so much although I know that makes the choice much harder. Before you decide anything you need to think about whether you're ready to be married and settle down, and if you want that kind of commitment, or if you want to take things more slowly and wait as you said 2-5 years. It seems to me that Joe is a very sweet guy who cares about you very much, but he just isn't ready to settle down. The problem with waiting is, every guy is different you know? Like some guys may say they aren't ready to settle down yet but then will be months, years later etc. Certain people (and I know a few) date around because they aren't in a hurry to settle down and many of them never will. Michael seems to be in quite a rush to settle down which is good if you like things to move quickly. He seems more like the family oriented guy whereas joe seems to be a guy who would be more geared to his career. It really isn't up to any of us on this site to decide for you, marriage is a huge step and that's not something you want to leap into until you're 100 % sure it's what you want. But, I know you asked for an opinion so heres what I would do if I was in your shoes: I would talk to Joe, tell him that you do love and care about him, but that you just can't gamble your future on whether or not he is ready to settle down. Tell him that as cliche as it is, you really do want to stay friends. As for Michael, keep him ivolved every step of the way. Let him know your decision before you tell Joe, so that he isn't thinking the worst. If you're ready to get married and ONLY if you feel you are totally ready, then accept his proposal because he seems like a really decent guy. If you're not ready for marriage yet but will be soon, tell him you want to stay together and talk it out a little bit more. If it's meant to be, he will wait for you. I know it may seem funny taking advice from a 13 year old, but I know what I'm talking about. Good luck with everything. Follow your heart. ♥ fabulous
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can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =] (link)
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hey i know you didn't want the opinion of a virgin but.. having sex at fifteen is rediculous in my opinion. I know a fourteen year old who got pregnant and people don't think much of her anymore. If your planning on having sex be careful k? Not to sound like a mom but you know, you don't wanna ruin your life before it starts. Good luck with whatever your going to do. Follow your heart ♥ fabulous
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i heard of this soda called Jones Soda.. um where can i buy it from.. i live in NJ, too. also have you had it before and is it good and stuff? and is it expensive? and other things i should know :) thanks (link)
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Hey. I have had to soda before and I like it, but you have to have a taste for some pretty different flavors (i.e bubblegum, apple etc.) Anyway I live in MA and I have seen them at Market Basket grocery stores, panera breads, and maggie moos ice cream stores. Sorry if this doesn't help but I hope it does! ♥ fabulous
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soo lastnight there was a party. and it was awesomee.i had so much fun.everyone was dancing/grindingg..and i was partying with my bf.we didn't make out or anything b/c theere were some parents tthere.but w/e. ANYWAYSS my x boyfriends mother[ who im friends with..b/c my x and i are still friends] she called my parents and told them there was dirty dancing going on! my dad came at like 10. [when everything was dying down] but im soo embaressed. that mother told my parents i was one of themm.and i think my parents are like dissapointed in me.is there anyway i cann earn their trust backk??? (link)
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Hey. I know this is a tough situation but believe me, it could have been a lot worse (i.e if you were making out with your boyfriend!). Anyway, explain to your parents what was going on and that although it may not be appropriate, you didn't really realize it at the time because it was all in good fun. Tell them that you feel really bad about losing there trust and that you want to know how to make it up to them. The most important thing to do, is remain confident and don't get argumental. If you remain mature, your parents will be more likely to let it go. Hope this helps, good luck with your parents! ♥ fabulous
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what are some cute outfits to wear these days?
i am 14 yrs old./female.
tall. blonde hair. blue eyes.
kinda tan.
what are some good like summer-ish outfits?
name everything, cause i have EVERYTHING!
also make up and hair ideas
would be nice too. =] (link)
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Hey. Well at my school I notice a lot of the plaid shorts around, those are pretty cute with a tank top or t shirt that has a matching color. Also the tanks and tube tops over t shirts have been popping up to. Mini skirts and tank tops look cute and a lot of people have been wearing bermuda shorts with graphic tees or tank tops. Also polos are cute, especially if you wear a matching cami and skirt, and a lot of places have really cute sundresses for cheap. Also, my personal favorite, flip flops! you can never have to many so buy all different types!For your hair, scrunch it, straighten it, do half ups or full ponytails. French braids are cute to. For make up use light eyeliner and mascara and a pale eyesshadow that goes with your outfit. Top it off with lipgloss and your good to go! Hope I helped. ♥ fabulous
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wow i knew something wasn't right with me! and once you said that i went and looked it up online and i took a quiz and there is a good chance i might have it! it's so good to have a possiable answer (link)
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Hey. I'm really glad I could help you out. Let me know how it turns out ♥ fabulous
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What's a good way to get a guys attention, but not in a slutty way.
PS. - i'm in 7th grade (link)
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Hey. Dress cute, smile big, and flirt flirt flirt :D ♥ fabulous
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I have a guy whos becoming one of my wicked good guy friends. I like him more than just friends, but i'm not sure if he likes me. Plus he's not really into having a girlfriend, and theres only 2 weeks of school left. so should i just wait for the summer, and in 8th grade ask him. I mean, we won't really see each other much, so if we're still friends, i dont want it to be weird. (link)
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Hey. First of all, I would say screw that there is only two weeks of school. It's not as if school is a romantic place to be and talk. Especially if you don't have a lot of classes together. Have one of your friends ask him if he likes you before you do. Then if he doesn't like you, you could brush off the questions as "one of your stupid friends" haha. If he likes you ask him out. You can't be sure if he's into the whole dating seen and besides, hes gonna have a girlfriend eventually, why not let you be the first? If you end up going out, you'll see him this summer. Uptown, with other people, at the movies. It'll work out. Just swallow your pride ♥ fabulous
p.s theres 3 weeks of school left :D
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how come celebrities on tv (hannah montana, lizzie mcguire, etc.) aren't allowed to wear name brands such as abercrombie or hollister? (link)
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Hey. This because companies pay big bucks to get celebrities or magazines to advertise there clothing. If celelbrities or people that a lot of other people look up to where these clothes, the big companies get major advertisment for free. Why give it to them for free if they can get paid for it :-p? ♥ fabulous
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You know those "no right on red" signs? Ok, well if there was a camera there to catch people who ran red lights...would the camera know the difference if the person was just making a right on red? I was at at intersection and I look for a sign that forbade right on red...there was none...so I made the turn, but then afterwards, I realized there was a camera above the light...Do you think the camera caught me and confused my right on red for a running of the red light? I didn't do anything illegal...I'm just wondering if I'm going to be falsely accused of running a red light when I was just turning on red... (link)
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Hey. I wouldn't be too worried about it, especially if there wasn't a no right on red sign. If you were running the light, you would straight or left anyway. ♥ fabulous
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when im in my backyard tanning , i sweat, am i burning fat/ calories? or what? can i actually lose weight by laying down and tanning? (link)
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Hey. Tanning doesn't make you lose weight but sweating is. Just be careful and put on sunscreen, and try to drink a lot of water so you don't get dehydrated. ♥ fabulous
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Ok well I was playing on the computer when there was a power out and when it came back I turned on the computer again but now it's running very slow (took 30 mins to open this page!)
Whhat's wrong? (link)
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Hey. The power outage may have caused a problem with the wires. If you have a wireless connection right click the computer icon and hit repair. If that doesn't work, call you internet provider and they should be able to figure out the problem and tell you how to go about fixing it. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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okay well i have just been diagnosed with depression and i have anxiety, before i was diagnosed with the depression i would sit and think about suicide, i got to scared and eventually told my mom and i got help, but every so often something with sneek into my head and try to make me believe it just like the suicide had,like if i had an std or something stupid that could be true and then i find reasons why it could be true and i get really upset cause i cant control this! but the pain thing here is i havent had a bf yet and im 14 and i dont know why and i keep thinking im bi or lez but i dont know if its one of thoes thoughts sneeking into my head, i have nothing against any of this but my family and friends i dont think will take it to well so i dont know what i should do. (link)
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Hey. Oh boy do I know what your going through. Not the suicide but the beliving I have or am everything I hear or read about. This is called being a hypochondriac. Tell your doctor or therapist about it, it's not that big of a deal but I'm sure you could be prescribed something or talked through it to give you a piece of minne. If you ever have another question or need someone to talk you through something, drop one in my inbox anytime. Good luck and don't be scared, you'll be ok soon. ♥ fabulous
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well all my friends now how to french kiss, but i dont. can anyone help me? (link)
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Hey. To french kiss, you open your mouth when your kissing and let your tongue touch theirs and use it to explore the inside of their mouth. Don't shove your tongue down their throat though, nobody likes to be choked while there kissing :-p. If you google french kissing I'm sure you could pull up a site with lots of techniques. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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im 14/f. my bf and i have been going out for almost 2 years. he is really cute and funny and everyone likes him... including half the girls at our school. he loves to be the center of attention and flirts with girls all the time. i dont like it but ive gotten used to it and i try not to let it bother me. after all, hes going out with me, not them, right? anyway, the problem is, his flirting makes girls think he likes them and they flirt right back. one time he actually cheated on me, and everyone said i should dump him, but he cried and begged me to forgive him and said he really loved me, so i forgave him. now hes started flirting with that same girl a lot again. im pretty sure they really like each other, even though he denies it. he insists that he loves me more than anything in the world and doesnt want to break up. but i cant stand it when he talks to her or when i hear about him flirting with her. agggghhhh!! what should i do? (link)
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Hey. I know this is really tough, but speaking from experience, it hurts just as much to be the one he flirts with. Believe it or not, those girls have a lot less confidence then you would think, and trust me they all wish they could be you. I've felt like that more then once. Tell him how you feel but if he keeps it up, let him go. No point in having him break your heart. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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does anyone know where to get cute, but cheap bikinis ? i`m not interested in spending like 80$ on a bikini, but i still want a cute one. websites/stores are both fine. thanks. (link)
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Hey. Target, walmart, and ocean state have cute and cheap bathing suits. ♥ fabulous
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im a 15 year old girl and i am 5 ft 2inches.what weight should i be (in kilograms please)i would much appreciate an answer thanks xXx (link)
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Hey. It sort of depends on your body type. Go to www.am-i-fat.com and click on am i fat? and type in your height and weight. Then click on womans weight tables and look up your age and height. Good luck &Hearts; fabulous
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