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lez? bi? straight? help!
okay well i have just been diagnosed with depression and i have anxiety, before i was diagnosed with the depression i would sit and think about suicide, i got to scared and eventually told my mom and i got help, but every so often something with sneek into my head and try to make me believe it just like the suicide had,like if i had an std or something stupid that could be true and then i find reasons why it could be true and i get really upset cause i cant control this! but the pain thing here is i havent had a bf yet and im 14 and i dont know why and i keep thinking im bi or lez but i dont know if its one of thoes thoughts sneeking into my head, i have nothing against any of this but my family and friends i dont think will take it to well so i dont know what i should do.
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Hey. Oh boy do I know what your going through. Not the suicide but the beliving I have or am everything I hear or read about. This is called being a hypochondriac. Tell your doctor or therapist about it, it's not that big of a deal but I'm sure you could be prescribed something or talked through it to give you a piece of minne. If you ever have another question or need someone to talk you through something, drop one in my inbox anytime. Good luck and don't be scared, you'll be ok soon. ♥ fabulous
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First of all I congratulate you on being brave enough to tell you mom about your thoughts and fears and to get help. Depression and anxiety often go hand in hand and hopefully your doctor is giving you something that will eliminate both. If your medicine is not working then speak up about it, as well as any side effects. You are also hopefully in couseling with a professional you are comfortable with. Sometimes when we have thoughts that are disturbing, it is normal and good to contemplate them. You can think something through, analyze it and put it to rest. However, if you have persistent anxiety that seems to make your thoughts unclear rather than focused, you need to find some ways to meditate and relax when this happens. Doctors give medicine, therapists give counsel. There is more you can do for yourself. Keep talking, writing and sharing your fears and worries with a trusted friend, mom, counselor, doctor, anyone you want. Once out in the open, these fears sometimes are diminished just by saying them out loud. Sometimes healthy thinking is just a process we have to learn and keep practicing. We choose where to put our focus...on what we can or cannot control in life. Sometimes these get confused, but it is nevertheless best to try to concentrate on what we can do and what is real at the moment. Much of our bigger fears are just possibilities and will linger only as long as we imagine them to have power in our lives. You tend to worry about having everything solved and certain right away, and this is about a need for security and self-identity as much as it is about anxiety or depression, which are sometimes symtoms and not the sickness itself. The sickness is a loss of self-awareness and the feeling that we could be swept away at any moment and dissapear. You are stronger than you think and though there are waves of doubt, you are not a feather in the ocean, you are the bird floating on the deep. You can paddle around or fight the waves as they come, worrying about the next and the next...or you can stop running in the water and use your wings. There are gifts you have yet to discover. Have faith in yourself.
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ok kid, do not think that you are gay because you don't have a bf. I'm gay, and honestly, you would know if you were too. If you have feelings toward girls, that is an entirely different thing. keep getting help for your depression and anxiety, don't worry about boys or girls right now, eventually you will get a boyfriend, and if you have feelings toward him, stay with him. If you don't and you feel yourself being attracted to girls, go for it!
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