I've made my mistakes, I have my faults, I've done my sins. I've been heart broken and have broken hearts as well. There's a lot I've seen, a lot I've heard, and a lot I've been through. I don't know everything but I have my opinions and if you ask me for adivce I will always try to help.
p.s. LOVE IS VILE!!
E-mail: vilelove@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
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Age: 15
Member Since: August 19, 2005
Answers: 135
Last Update: February 5, 2007
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my boyfriend told me he has a
crush on another girl,
and i don't know what to do.
he says he loves me and wants to be with me,
and that he just wanted to be honest with me.
but now i feel as though i'm going
to be paranoid all the time.
i dont like feeling like this;
but i can't leave him.
i love him too much..
and today he spent all morning with me,
telling me how he doesnt want this to
interfear with our relationship.
he said it was weighing him down
and that he needed to get it off his chest;
but now that it's off of HIS.
it's not been put onto MINE.
what should i do?
-L
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Hey. I actually have a good friend who was with this girl and he loves her and talks about marrying her. Well, anyway, sometime ago he actually started liking this other girl he had become friends with. He kept his distance from her and avoided her so he wouldn't think about her and he told his girlfriend the truth. From my perspective it is obvious he liked his girlfriend SO MUCH MORE because he told her and was responsible enough to do something to stop his feelings for the other girl so hat he wouldn't be tempted or have risks of doing anything stupid. However, I understand that in his girlfriend's perspective (and in yours with your boyfriend) it is scary knowing that your boyfriend was developing feelings for another girl. What if he has them again? What if he likes her more than me? What if this doesn't work out? I would suggest you to let your boyfriend know that you appreciate his honesty and you know it must have taken him a lot of courage to confy in you and risk loosing you. Also tell your boyfriend in a straight foward way that you aren't very comftrable with the fact that he sort of liked another girl (what can he expect? if you told him you had a crush on someone else he wouldn't like it either)and that you don't want him to see her anymore (as friends because as long as he has a crush on her or is on the verge of liking her he shouldn't be her friend). Don't say it in a demanding way but in a reasonable logical way. If he asks why or says you don't trust him (which I doubt) tell him that it's because you'll worrya bout it and get paranoid and you can't be in a relationship were you're constantly afraid your boyfriend is going to break up with you or cheat on you. He should understand and hopefully that will make you feel better about it until it is eventually practically forgotten.
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Okay, well my ex boyfriend wasn't the best person to and for me. We just broke up recently. Well this other guy like me alot, so he asked me out, seeing as how we are best friends I said yes. Now, I'm totally regretting it. I am madly in love with my ex and it kills me everday because we're not together. I seriously just want to die w. out him. So I have to break up with the other guy, my best friend. But he is crazy about me, and I thought I was about him. What should I tell him?
I know I'm going to tell my ex I still love him, I'm that kind of person to do that.
But my best friend. :'[
someone please help me. this is awful.
andheartssemicolon
Alex (link)
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Hey. i've been in a very similar situation (except I didn't like my friend at all but he liked me A LOT). Although from experience I don't think it'll work out betweeny ou and your ex (it might but from how you described it and what I've been through I think it might not), that is something for you to find otu and learn and experience. If you like your ex so much (regardless on if he likes you back or not) then you're not in a state to be with anybody else. You need to tell your friend that you recently got out of a relationship and when he asked you out you thought it could work out because he's such a great guy, but you're not 'well' enough to be in a relationship yet, because of how recently it happened and how much that guy meant to you. You need time to 'heal'. He'll understand and won't think you're just trying to break up with him and won't hate you or anything. And it leaves the door open for if you ever get over your ex and are still interested in him. Also, if you and your ex DO get back together it won't be so weird because it IS recently and he DOES mean a lot to you. Well good luck with all of this.
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me and my boyfriend have had sex and he cummed inside of me on accident...and i have missed my period it has been couple days later and still dont have it im scared i might be pregant but I CANNOT tell my parents so i have no clue if i am or not but since i have missed my period im scared i have...is it true you can have late periods just by having sex...because we are not forsure he really did cum but to me it felt like it but not for sure..so i dont kno what to do or how to tell i have no symptons except missed period and we are trying to get a pregnancy test but w are trying to get money so what can i do to tell if i am pregant...or can u juss get late periods by having sex? (link)
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Hey. I doubt you can get a late period just by doing it. HOWEVER you CAN get a late period by STRESSING OUT. It seems to me you are stressing out (because of what you think happened) and all the stress and getting worried can be making your period late. You should try doing research on places where you can have a free pregnancy test that is confidential. Or buy five pregnancy tests in the 99 cent store (they are cheaper and actually work pretty well and with five you won't have as much dobuts of what your response is). Sometimes even the school's healthy start does free and confidential pregnancy tests. Periods cant be late just because you had sex but they CAN be late because you're stressing out.
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I am so stressed out that i am having trouble sleeping and concentrating. Any advice on ways to releve stress? (link)
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Hey. I have found that keeping a journal is a GREAT way to relieve stress. Talk freely about what's going on in your life and your feelings. Don't be afraid of sounding mean or too harsh because as soon as you write your feelings down and you 'calm down' you feel better because it will be out of your system. Another thing you can do is extrecise. If you feel more energetic in the morning do it then, however since you usually can't sleep do it a few hours before you plan on going to bed. This will wear you out and you'll get sleepy and release stress. Of course, talkign to your friends always helps, but you probably already know that or have heard it a lot by now. Well bye.
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My name is Alexis and I need guy advice... If I'm fifteen and I like a guy that's fourteen... is he too young for me??? I've tried not to like him but iit's impossible! He is so sweet and cute! HELLLLLLP!!!! (link)
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Hey. He's not too young. If he was 11, now THAT would DEFINITELY be too young (it would mean he hasn't gone through puberty and... well he'd be a little kid). Besides, you guys are probably only a few months different in age. Maybe even a bit over 12 months but STILL he's not too young. One year is no biggie, especially at the age you guys have. It gets more and more common. Don't stress and if he's sweet and you like him GO FOR IT. Don't let age stop you because as far as that goes there is nothing to worry about.
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my sister seems to hate me; she tells her friends that she does, and she hold no respect for me or anyone. she is difficult to live with, and I was wondering if anyone had any ideas as to how to make our relatinship better. (link)
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Hey. I would suggest that you try doing nice things for her (the smallest thing will shape how she sees you). For instance, get her a chocolate candy bar one day. If you make yourself a sandwhich ask her if you wants one too. If you guys are watching TV together ask her who she thinks is the cutest guy on the show or movie you are watching. If you have some free time ask her how was school or if she needs help on her homework. Just be nice and polite and PATIENT. Don't be pushy. She'll see that you're nice and NOT AGAINST HER and she won't see you as a 'rival' but as a sister and a FRIEND. Good luck. I grew up as an only child and now I have a sister but she's 3, but I have cousins (they're a few years older) and I know that if I was anrgy at them or ressented them what would make me think of them as my friends again.
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ok, well here's the story. i'm having my 14th b-day party and i am not having a big thing, all my frends r from skewl but 3 of them kno each other and the other on doesn't rele kno the other one. i'm thinking about a slumber party but i dont want to make the last girl feel left out. wut do i do???? help plz!!! (link)
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hey. a slumber party is a great idea. if you do have a slumber party do the little things that will make the girl feel she's not being left out. for instance, if you play truth or dare let her be the one to ask someone "truth or dare?" first (if she's a shy or nervous girl you may not want to ask her first but as long as SHE asks the first person it's ok, she won't feel too shy and she won't feel left out). If you see that she's not talking in a conversation or anything ask her what she thinks about it or ask her which guy at school she thinks is cute (that way it'll start a conversation everyone will be interested in). Another ideas for your birthday (just ideas) are going to a coffee shop (but they'd have to pay if they wanted to buy anything... if not then you can get something and whoever wants something and you guys can just hang out there for a while) or going to the beach or having a picnic. Well um happy birthday and have fun and try not to stress too much about it because it's your brithday and although you should try to make it so that all your guests have fun it is really about YOU so HAVE FUN. Just be attentive to whenever you see that they are leaving her out or something and try to talk to her to bring her back inthe conversation and so she will have fun too. Good luck.
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I like this boy that is 3 years older than me and he says he likes me but he makes fun liek jokingly /flirtingly by saying your so young try not to fall in lvoe with me n stuff like that. hes 17 years old but i dont think it matters he is obvously more experianced and he says that he could get me to hook up wit him the first day we hang out and i tell him he could never .. does he liek me or does he want to get in my pants i dont knwo what to do HELP PLEASE i rate high (link)
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Hey. Three years older... than you'd be 14. Wow, you're pretty young (l.o.l. only like a year, maybe a year and ten months younger than me). Well in my experience older guys tend to be... like that. They just want to get into your pants. I'm not saying every single one is like that, i know some that aren't. But generally the ones that go around flirting with younger girls are. There are cases when they don't firt and they get to know each other and eventually - after getting to know each other for a while now- the younger girl and older guy end yp getting goether and no one tries to get into anyone'spants, lol, but lets no get technical here. By what you said he tells you it raises a red flag that he's just another one of those guys filled with homrmones (he can get you to hook up with him the first day... what's that about? decent guys usually don't go around saying that stuff) Hey, if he flirts with your friends just saty away from him (they usually do, sometimes not even knowing thye are your friends... they just flirt). But if you really like him and think I may be wrong about him or don't feel he's like that then just get to know him better. Watch out for anything fishy. If he's had a lot of grilfriend that's also a red flag or if he's not a virgin (RED FLAG, RED FLAG). Yeah, that's the biggest red flag of all. Well good luck and be careful.
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Well my boyfriend and I have been going out for a month now, but I don't know if he really likes me?
What should I do?
Btw- he's a year younger than I am..
thanks
Lois (link)
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Hey there. Well what makes you think this way? I have always had low slef esteem so whenever I'm with a guy (even if he's told me 'I like you a lot' or that he loves me) i don't buy it... until recently did I figure out they did like me. It could be that... just a thought. Well you should really be observent of how he acts with you. Sometimes actions (well human behavior and body language and stuff) speak louder than words. Just analyze how he is with you. Is he affectionate? A lot or a little? Only around his friends or only in private or whenever? Does he compliment you often? How much does he call you? What do you talk about? (if you're just there quiet for five minutes and then he goes it may be a bad sign... unless he's just not a phone person or if he's shy, in which you'd have to ask yourself that question about him... but most likely it's a bad sign, but this is just an example) Also, who asked who out. If he asked you out then this (in my experience) always seems to be the KEY QUESTION to ask yourself:
When he asked you out (drum roll) was he nervous?
In all of my experiences when the guy is nervous or shy in asking you out (no matter if he is shy or isn't shy in person) it means he really cares about you. When the guy isn't shy even if you say no and he is persistant it doesn't make much of a difference to him. So if he was shy it means he likes you.
Do you think he doesn't like you or that he may break up with you? Two boyfriends ago I had a feeling my boyfriend (who I didn't think liked me... but he did) was going to break up with me. it was like a weird strong feeling. well he did. now the first person that gave you adivce brought this up too and i didn't really read much of what he or she said but he/she said something about breaking up with the person first. no offense but if you really like this guy then that piece of adivce is crapy (in my opinion). see, if you really like the guy and you break up with him no matter what he'll think you don't like him anymore and move on. Even if (for example) he was thinking of breaking up with you because he thought you could do better or because he's insecure but he never was really going to go through with it (these are just examples, crappy examples though). The guy that broke up with me still liked me when he broke up with me. He regret it when he did and shortly after he asked me to get with him again. But regardless what happens (he breaks up with you or doesn't break up with you) you know that you were honest about your feelings the whole time. And even if he breaks up with you and asks you out again and you don't take him back you won't have any regrets or anything to feel crappy about.
So analyze how he acts and if it seems he cares about you and be honest about your feelings.
Goodnight and good luck!
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I'm a junior in high school, and to tell you the truth, I want to get through college as quickly and easily as possible, mainly because 1 I have a job and 2 I want to really start my life. In order to do this, what kind of classes should I take? What kind of college should I go to? Any other tips?
*I am not made of money so don't recommend top universities or anything please (link)
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Hey. Well it's important to take your REQUIRED classes, I don't know where you live or what district your school belongs to but in mine it's 2 years of mathematics (Algebra 1 and Geometry), 2 years of science (Biology and Chesmitry), three years of English (Enlgish 9, 10, and American Lietarutre), and three years of history (World History, U.S. History, and Govermnet and Economics), and 1 technical art, 1 visual art, and 2 years of physical education. That sounds about right but I may be mistaken. If you have already completed these classes then just focus on getting enough credits. The best way to do this is to take classes outside of school. Whether it is adult school after school or evening classes or Saturday classes or classes during the break. Talk to your counselor and ask about the classes you can take to get more credits or finish your requirements so you can be ahead. OR, to get over with high school probably much quicker, you can take you GED test and get a GED (graduate equivalent diploma). Well good luck.
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im 14 and im a female
k here it goes my life use to be filled with confidence its like nobody could ever kill my joy but since november right b4 thanksgiving break things started getting bad first it all started out when a new girl came into our group Danielle and i started noticing her and my best friend jessica were hangin out more n more but i didnt say anything .then one day they went to church w/ out me comin back with this whole 444 thing w/ danielle ashlynn emily and jessica and i started feelin left out.but heres when the real drama happened ashlynn hated my friend chelsie but me and jess were kool with her but then ashlynn got jess to do this thing where jess asked this boi glen to ask chels out (who jess majorly liked)to see what chels would say and when i found out about this i told chels and i dont know even why and i felt so bad cuz i did that to jess. well after that chels got mad and got her friend shaquanna in jess face and i took up for jess but when shaquana left i told jess that was really twofaced of her.then we went to gym and i told them i didnt wanna b friends till they stopped bein so messy but then i told them srry later that day but they just ignored me so we havent talked since then .well i talk to ashlynn again but i miss my best friend jessica whos now best friends with danielle and danielle hates me .ionno what to do? then just about a week ago i had made a new best friend amber alil after all this happened but me and amber got in a fight we dont even know why but then my teacher ms.lucario(who i absoultly love) tried to get us to talk again and she said she didnt wanna any freindship but really made me mad was when she compared to me to her friend natalie who was really to her and she said our friendship was turning out like theres and i just didnt think taht was fair. but now to end my stoy i just feel so ALONE and i feel like theres nobody to help me i pretend to be happy but i dont wanna pretend anymore i just wanna b happy for real. (link)
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Hey. Wow, this IS a messy situation. ...Well if I were you I wouldn't trust that Jessica chick. One reason is because of what she did to Chelsie, and because you did it to her too (I don't know if she knows but if she did she would probably want revenge). Another reason is because you said you didn't want to be friends witht hem and the whole fight thingie. Even if you guys ARE friends after that she'll probably be bitter (she seems like that type of person but I may be wrong sicne I don't know her). Oh, and of course, because it was easy for her to be 'best friends' with Danielle and kind of push you away. I don't trust people like that. I think you should keep your distance from Jessica and that groupd of friends, they seem to 'unhealthy' for you. I'm not saying don't have firneds... just not them. However, if you have already decided you ARE going to be frineds with them or TRY to be friends no matter what advice I gave you and you really miss them or you are confident that they won't be bitter and you can trust them enough to be friends with them again then it's up to you. In that case all I would say is not to completely trust them. Like, don't tell them E V E R Y T H I N G or like 'the whole story'. And pay attention to what they say and do and how they act. Also, if you miss them but really trust them you could always be 'aquaintances' or friends but just... not as close as you used to be. That way you guys are in good temrs and you can still hang out and check out random cute guys together but they don't get close enough to hurt you (not because they're them but because they're human beings, they're girls, they're teenagers... we all do messed up things to our friends once in a while... so you can't completely trust people). About your other friend, Amber. It seems to me like she'll come around. Usually when people fight for meaningless or petty or small reasons or things that aren't so important they get over it fast. About what she said... she's also a teenager, she's dramatic. It's the hormones that make us that way. Plus, she was angry at that time. Try talking to her again. Have a mature conversationw ith her and tell her that you didn't think the reason you guys argues was important enough to upset you guys so much and even make you stop talking. Tell her you want to be friends and also that you ddin't think it was fair she compared you to Natalie and explain why you feel that way. Don't sound too pissed off or anything, just be calm and listen to her. Even if you disagree with her LISTEN to her (I bet that Natalie girl didn't always listened to her). Sometimes it's difficult to be the first one to say 'let's be friends' or 'im sorry' or whatever it is that has to be said but i guess it's the MATURE thing to do and it's what needs to be done so things get fixed faster. There's really no shame in it, it's just directa nd gets to the point. And that way no matter what happens the argument won't bug you as much because you got closure. you talked about it. Well I'd suggest to just be leave things with Jessica and maybe even be distant friends 9at least for now... with time you can trust her more and be better friends... and with time she'll be able to handle having a best friend and stuff because becoming all best friends with Danielle and leaving you out wasn't cool either) in okay terms and be friends with Cheslie and the other two. Not BEST FRIENDS, just friends. Amber seems like a cool best friend, but if she gets mad at you too long or if she keeps starting arguments (not saying she stared the last one but just keep this in mind) or if she seems too negative just be friendly with eveyrone and keep an open eye for a new best friend.
Well good luck.
p.s. You'll be okay. As serious as this is, it's only school and there will be so many worst issues and better issues. You may feel alone but the best thing to do is not to trust completely and be completely dependent on your best friend.Have lots of friends and talk to all of them about what goes on in your life and how you feel. Different people give you different opinions. And also, different people have different (not to sound mean) 'uses'. You have to see how a person can help YOU. You have friends you can hang out with and have a great time with and party and you have friends you can talk abotu boys and they won't steal the guy you like and stuff and you can swap stories and you ahve friends that will encourage you to do good in school and help you AND you have friends that will give you good advice in your personal life. Oh, and of course there's the friends you can go shopping with and the friends that with jump people for you but if we get into all the types of friends that there are then this reply will be too long and I've said A LOT already. Just (and this is kind of important though you probably already know and do this) make friends with EVERYONE and get to know ALL of your friends. You can have the friends you hang out with and a best friend and stuff but it's good to have lots off riends you know well. That way you can get many perspectives on anything you need advice in and also if you have problems with your best friend or the people you ahng out with they'll be there. Whatever you need one of them will be able to help (one of mine lends me eyeliner when i don't bring mine... she's not my best friend though.... just an example). Okay, again GOOD LUCK and have fun in HIGH SCHOOL. four years of D R A M A (and boys and friends and backstabbing just like in those cheesy fruity TV shows).
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hey im 14/m and im stumped. i cant thing of sweet things to say to my gf i love her to death and she thinks im the sweetest thing in the world but i like went stupid and cant think of anything else and its really bugging me can someone tell me some things so say i really need it to help me get going again. ill really appreciate it thx everyone. (link)
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Hey. You love her to death? That's cute. Have you told her that? (even "I like you a lot" would sound sweet as long as it was sincere) It's the kind of thing that it helps to be yourself. And not the you that is afraid of sounding courney or fruity or dumb. The you that just speaks out your mind. But since you're asking for advice I should probably give you other advice because you probably already know that it helps to be yourself freely and speak every small thing in your mind. When you see her and she lokes retty tell her. Tell her she's the prettiest girl in the school. Point out the things about her you like (looks and personality). It would be nice if you wrote her a poem. If you don't think you're good or have difficulty writing poetry, don't worry about it. The fact that you tried extra hard and put more effort in it makes it cuter. But if you don't want to write a poem period you can dedicate a poem already written by someone else to her. OR you can quote a song or something. If you know how to play guitar or something it would be cute if you played something for her. Those are just other ideas but back to what you can SAY. Just remind her that she's beautiful and how much you care about her. Tell her that you've been thinking about her and that you miss her and how much she means to you. If it's sincere it'll be cute. Just don't stress about it because it sounds like she likes you/LOVES you a lot as it is.
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My boyfriend is way too clingy! he is driving me and my family crazy! Every night he calls me at least 30 times and if I don't pick up he keeps calling and leaving me annoying messages! All he thinks about is me, and I'm not even sure he actually has any friends. I tell him NOT to call sometimes and he does anyways, so I have to unplug the phone because it bothers my family alot. I like him, but man, he needs to stop being so clingy.
What can I do? // How can I set him straight? He never listens to me, so what should I say? Should I break up with him? (link)
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Hey. Have you told him if he calls you you'll get in trouble with your parents (even if you don't really get in trouble... just so he won't call or he won't call as much). Tell him that your parents are very upset that he calls so much and said that if he keeps calling that many times they will change the phone number and he won't be allowed to call at all. You could even suggest him not calling you AT ALL (or only once a day or every two or three days or every Saturday) and say you'll call him. TTry saying something that will SCARE him into not calling you so much (any other way he won't understand... eventually he'll keep calling until you pick up... i've had that before).
I think there is a more serious issue here. Him calling you so much can mean he is very possesive. You might really have to consider breaking up with him if he doesn't give you space because it can make you very unhappy.
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OK...soo well i've always been pretty close with my boyfriends mom. and well now i dont know what to think. she's never really seen me and her son do anything. but last night she saw me on top of him making out in the hottub...and i dont know whatelse she saw.
is there anything i can do that would hopefully make her not think im a slut and stuff like that? becuase right now she donest think to highly of me (link)
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hey. give it time and be really nice to her. ...maybe you could bake her a cake or something. decent girls bake cakes. dress appropriately when you're around her. talk to her about your childhood... maybe even show some picures. tell her she has raised a really good, caring son. don't be pushy or obvious just be 'nice'. make that NICER than usual. and when you're around her or when she might come try not to show too much affection or innapropriate around parents affection towards your boyfriend. do something cute like hold hands or something that seems innocent. im not saying never ever make out in hottubs just not when she's around or when she may walk in. just give yourself a ncie image to her. you could get her flowers. they don't have to be expensive, you cna just pick some up from your garden or a garden. i know you might be thinking 'how is me being nice to her going to make her forget what she saw?' that won't make her FORGET what she saw, it'll just build a BETTER STRONGER image of you. and right now she may not be thinking reasonably enough to understand that young people that date make out in hottubs. if you tip the scales in your favor she is waaay likelier to decide to let it go. just make sure she doesn't catch any funny stuff again because then no matter what she'll most likely think you're slutty. Good luck.
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Hey, I'm 17/f
I was just wondering... how can you tell if you are in love? Are there signals he'll send you? I need any kind of advice because I think I'm in love but I'm not sure.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Hey. Well since this isn't a RIGHT/WRONG answer sinc eit's not math or science I can only tell you what I think in my perspective. If we are talking about being IN LOVE (not just loving your boyfriend as a person... which most people don't even love their friends as people) then I think you need to think about a few things. Once, are you TRULY WILLING if the time came to sacrifise your happiness by letting him be with somebody else. Don't pay attention to the circumstances because it's a hypothetical situation. If you and him couldn't be together for a reason (...maybe you were moving, maybe it's a drastic soap opera moment where your parents send you to a convent, or maybe he stops liking you/loving you one day, just random examples) would you want him to be with somebody else (even if you didn't like the girl personally) who was a good person and made him happy? Of course it would be DIFFICULT to see it or accept it, but deep down, would you feel some sense of ease knowing that HE's happy? Be honest with yourself. Also, is there anything you could have that would make him dumping you ok? like if someone gave you an ipo and say a thousand dollars, would you be okay with it and move on with your life? Just things to think about. Lust and lvoe can be very confusing because lust is being crazy about someone but you're crazy about someone when you're in lvoe too. It's not common for people to actualy FALL IN LOVE when they are still teenagers but it's not impossible. Just think about your feelings and how honest and sincere they are and your intentions. Also think if you see a future with this guy and if you WANT a future with this guy (i'm not saying to start considering marriage, just think for a moment of the possiblity... does it scare you? does it weird you out? is it something convenient? something you could live with? or something you might really want someday?) Well don't open the door to strangers...
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okay, well my friend got fingered for the first time the other day and now she's been worrying about it. she think's that she is pregnant but i'm telling her that she can't be because it's totally impossible because she didn't have sex or anything. and she hasn't gotten her period and she's 2weeks late. i told her that i think it's because she doesn't have a regular period, because she hasn't had it for over 2years and normally that's when it starts getting regular. her boyfriend only fingered her, she didn't do anything to him so i'm really not sure what to tell her except that she isn't pregnant. what do you guys think?
PS. when she got fingered after she bled alittle, and i told her that maybe he scratched her or something because you never know. (link)
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Hey. As long as there was no sexula intercorse then she is NOT pregnant. Thw bleeding was probably caused by her hymen breaking. About her period... maybe she is very self conscious about the fingering thing and has gotten very worried. This can make her suggest to herself subconsciously certain things (like that she might get oregnant) and that is why her period is late. Just the simple fact that she is stressing about it can make her period late. But nobody has ever gotten pregnant by getting fingered (...unless the finger has sperm... which even then it would not be common) If she is telling you this you guys are obviously close friends so as long as you don't seem judgemental or make fun of her or do anything that might make her stress out even more it'll help. Also, tell her that it's okay to be nervous and worried about your first times and stuff but she's definitely not pregnant.
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What do you think is the average age to get your first kiss? (link)
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hey. well the AVARAGE would probably be 14 or 15. It usually happens in 8th or 9th grade (AVARAGE, but some people before and some people after).
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Ok, I really wanna find a guy between 14 and 15 on Myspace that I can just like talk to and be there just to talk to cause i have plenty of girls on myspace that i talk to but i want a guy too that i can talk to and have a fun time, does anyone know where i can find him?? lol i've tried the search but I can't really find anyone thanks
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Join those groups they have. They have some for teens and people of certain ages and/or certain areas. Look for groups with people of your age and joina dn just post a friendly message saying "hi, my name is___ blah, blah, blah." Guys will reply. Maybe one or two girls but I highly doubt it. You don't even have to say you want to have guy friends, just say anything and they'll reply, send you a mssg, or add you and you will get to know them. Good luck. Join a lot and post a mssg that you're new to the group or something. The more groups you join the more possibilities of meeting cool guys. your age.
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hey yall i want an screen name thats like emo, goth.... rocker type of screen name....... any words
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emo and goth are completely DIFFERENT labels. ...they're kind of opposites. ...you like Hawthonre Heights... seems like you fall into the emo category. Okay, it would help to know if you're a guy or girl but I'll disregard it.
-(city you live in)_is_for_lovers (examples: Salem_Is_For_Lovers
-(your name)FM (example MarieFM)
-Love_Is_In_Black_and_White
-ImAlreadyDead
-i_died_of_a_brokenheart
-Forget_Me
-Invisible...Dead...Same_Thing
-eM&Mo (
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i am a 15/f and last summer i was raped, but the thing was i was high so i cant tell my parents or anything, but i am now clean and everything, but i have really bad flashbacks of that time, like they are so vivid and i can feel it happening and i say stuff outloud like "stop" and sutff....now i told my boyfriend and he was really upset, and i dont know how to get rid of these flashbacks without telling ne one, i mean i have a councelor but i just couldnt tell her, does anyone know what i can do? (link)
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Hey. Well what you need to do to get rid of these flashbacks is TALK. If you're not ready to talk to your parents yet (though I still suggest you do but I totally understand why it's difficult and that it may take you some time but you really should and you're going to need support to talkt o them and then support from them) or your friends (what happened to you is something personal that I wouldn't really suggest telling your friends). There are a lot of free hotlines (there's teen hontiles) and you can talkt o somebody there. Don't worry, they are totally CONFIDENTIAL (and it won't appear on the phone bill). You will get it out of your system and they will give you advice (they know much more about this topic than I do or msot of the columnists here). They may recommend talking to your parents also (don't worry about that yet though) and though you feel you can't they will give you moral support to try to help you and don't worry, they won't FORCE you to tell them or rat on you. It'll be totally up to you. But if you tell your parents you may be able to put charges against the person and you may be preventing what happened to you to happen to other people. Sorry for lecturing you about the parent thingie, like I said, don't worry about that yet. First make sure you talk to SOMEONE about what happened and then (soon) try to reconsider telling your parents.
Here's a website with phone numbers that may help:http://www.teenlineonline.org/
p.s. Good luck and I'm so sorry you had to live a horrible experience. Remember it's not your fault and you will get through it because you're a strong person and though everything is difficult now everything will be okay.
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