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i feel alone!
im 14 and im a female
k here it goes my life use to be filled with confidence its like nobody could ever kill my joy but since november right b4 thanksgiving break things started getting bad first it all started out when a new girl came into our group Danielle and i started noticing her and my best friend jessica were hangin out more n more but i didnt say anything .then one day they went to church w/ out me comin back with this whole 444 thing w/ danielle ashlynn emily and jessica and i started feelin left out.but heres when the real drama happened ashlynn hated my friend chelsie but me and jess were kool with her but then ashlynn got jess to do this thing where jess asked this boi glen to ask chels out (who jess majorly liked)to see what chels would say and when i found out about this i told chels and i dont know even why and i felt so bad cuz i did that to jess. well after that chels got mad and got her friend shaquanna in jess face and i took up for jess but when shaquana left i told jess that was really twofaced of her.then we went to gym and i told them i didnt wanna b friends till they stopped bein so messy but then i told them srry later that day but they just ignored me so we havent talked since then .well i talk to ashlynn again but i miss my best friend jessica whos now best friends with danielle and danielle hates me .ionno what to do? then just about a week ago i had made a new best friend amber alil after all this happened but me and amber got in a fight we dont even know why but then my teacher ms.lucario(who i absoultly love) tried to get us to talk again and she said she didnt wanna any freindship but really made me mad was when she compared to me to her friend natalie who was really to her and she said our friendship was turning out like theres and i just didnt think taht was fair. but now to end my stoy i just feel so ALONE and i feel like theres nobody to help me i pretend to be happy but i dont wanna pretend anymore i just wanna b happy for real.
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Hey. Wow, this IS a messy situation. ...Well if I were you I wouldn't trust that Jessica chick. One reason is because of what she did to Chelsie, and because you did it to her too (I don't know if she knows but if she did she would probably want revenge). Another reason is because you said you didn't want to be friends witht hem and the whole fight thingie. Even if you guys ARE friends after that she'll probably be bitter (she seems like that type of person but I may be wrong sicne I don't know her). Oh, and of course, because it was easy for her to be 'best friends' with Danielle and kind of push you away. I don't trust people like that. I think you should keep your distance from Jessica and that groupd of friends, they seem to 'unhealthy' for you. I'm not saying don't have firneds... just not them. However, if you have already decided you ARE going to be frineds with them or TRY to be friends no matter what advice I gave you and you really miss them or you are confident that they won't be bitter and you can trust them enough to be friends with them again then it's up to you. In that case all I would say is not to completely trust them. Like, don't tell them E V E R Y T H I N G or like 'the whole story'. And pay attention to what they say and do and how they act. Also, if you miss them but really trust them you could always be 'aquaintances' or friends but just... not as close as you used to be. That way you guys are in good temrs and you can still hang out and check out random cute guys together but they don't get close enough to hurt you (not because they're them but because they're human beings, they're girls, they're teenagers... we all do messed up things to our friends once in a while... so you can't completely trust people). About your other friend, Amber. It seems to me like she'll come around. Usually when people fight for meaningless or petty or small reasons or things that aren't so important they get over it fast. About what she said... she's also a teenager, she's dramatic. It's the hormones that make us that way. Plus, she was angry at that time. Try talking to her again. Have a mature conversationw ith her and tell her that you didn't think the reason you guys argues was important enough to upset you guys so much and even make you stop talking. Tell her you want to be friends and also that you ddin't think it was fair she compared you to Natalie and explain why you feel that way. Don't sound too pissed off or anything, just be calm and listen to her. Even if you disagree with her LISTEN to her (I bet that Natalie girl didn't always listened to her). Sometimes it's difficult to be the first one to say 'let's be friends' or 'im sorry' or whatever it is that has to be said but i guess it's the MATURE thing to do and it's what needs to be done so things get fixed faster. There's really no shame in it, it's just directa nd gets to the point. And that way no matter what happens the argument won't bug you as much because you got closure. you talked about it. Well I'd suggest to just be leave things with Jessica and maybe even be distant friends 9at least for now... with time you can trust her more and be better friends... and with time she'll be able to handle having a best friend and stuff because becoming all best friends with Danielle and leaving you out wasn't cool either) in okay terms and be friends with Cheslie and the other two. Not BEST FRIENDS, just friends. Amber seems like a cool best friend, but if she gets mad at you too long or if she keeps starting arguments (not saying she stared the last one but just keep this in mind) or if she seems too negative just be friendly with eveyrone and keep an open eye for a new best friend.
Well good luck.
p.s. You'll be okay. As serious as this is, it's only school and there will be so many worst issues and better issues. You may feel alone but the best thing to do is not to trust completely and be completely dependent on your best friend.Have lots of friends and talk to all of them about what goes on in your life and how you feel. Different people give you different opinions. And also, different people have different (not to sound mean) 'uses'. You have to see how a person can help YOU. You have friends you can hang out with and have a great time with and party and you have friends you can talk abotu boys and they won't steal the guy you like and stuff and you can swap stories and you ahve friends that will encourage you to do good in school and help you AND you have friends that will give you good advice in your personal life. Oh, and of course there's the friends you can go shopping with and the friends that with jump people for you but if we get into all the types of friends that there are then this reply will be too long and I've said A LOT already. Just (and this is kind of important though you probably already know and do this) make friends with EVERYONE and get to know ALL of your friends. You can have the friends you hang out with and a best friend and stuff but it's good to have lots off riends you know well. That way you can get many perspectives on anything you need advice in and also if you have problems with your best friend or the people you ahng out with they'll be there. Whatever you need one of them will be able to help (one of mine lends me eyeliner when i don't bring mine... she's not my best friend though.... just an example). Okay, again GOOD LUCK and have fun in HIGH SCHOOL. four years of D R A M A (and boys and friends and backstabbing just like in those cheesy fruity TV shows).
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