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Hello There!Erm where do I start?Well, my name is Vikki-Kimberly =)Im a good person. I dont bite =)I give people thousands of chances.I like to eat healthy... and... I have advice on practicly anything.I am in acting/signing/dancing groups.Yeah... Im just... easy to talk to. =)

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There's this boy who I have known since third grade. We are both now 15 and in eleventh grade. I am a girl. We are friends, we talk all the time in and out of school. But next Saturday will be the first day we are hanging out outside of school. We are going to the park to watch a movie with my two best friends and two other boys. Everyone says it's a date. We say it's not, just two friends hanging out. It's not a date unless we say it is, right?

right so your fifteen and im assuming you friends are fifteen too. your at the age where you are gettin introduced into dating. and some handle and look at it differently.
its nothing to worry about.. you and this guy know its not a date... whats teh big deal. just go on and live your normal lives like you do :)

they will soon get bored (aswell as expirience this kind of scenario themselves).

just go and have fun!

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Hi.

I live with my boyfriend, and his mom. His sister had her son about a year ago, and we have a problem. He is all in all a good, healthy little boy who loves to have fun, but he also loves being picked up. If you hold him, and you try to put him down, he cries. If you put him in his play pen and leave him there, he screams at the top of his lungs.

It's been becoming a problem because he's almost 1 (he'll be 1 in like, a week) and he's bigger than most babies his age, and he's a lot heavier than them. It's difficult to carry him for long periods of time, and since my boyfriend's mom watches him while his mom is at work, she's become very exhausted. I would help out, but my boyfriend and I work a lot so we're not always home, and by time we do get home, we're worn out.

How can we wean the baby off of wanting to be carried? I love him, and hate seeing him cry, as does everyone else, but he's becoming too spoiled and too dependent on it and we're all very exhausted. I know we're very much at fault, but we're at our wits end. Any ideas?

Thank you!

i agree with Razhie.

however i have yet another adaptation to the other two asnwers.
maybe create a new holding time. but call it cuddle time... as he is having that one to one moment.
and as time goes he will get intrested in such things like toys.

i do agree with razhie tho... he needs to learn that he cant be held alot.

its definately something you need to talk with the rest of the adults in the house. as otherwise it could be a
kid "will you pick me up"
adult 1 "no"
*runs to adult two "wil you pick me up"
adult 2 " yes"

so its something you need to makesure the whole family are in on.

in relation to weaning him off being carries i generally recommend getting him invovled in things.. for example a toy. that flashes.. apparently a ballon tied to my ankle or wrist used to do the trick for me.

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i have trouble concentrating, how do i fix this problem?

i always find if i eat properly.. eating sweets while im studying will make me do such things as ...
*working... working working* OOOOHHHHHH SHINEY!!! o.O...
*WORK! working... oh look at the car out the window...*

while eating something like... a small portion of chips will help me work solidly.. not to mention preparing the chips gives me a study break for about 5-10 mins.


its all about focusing and getting in your element. i sometimes put music on low volume and that helps me get in my work zone. also if i have my book s out in front of me.. im surrounded by it! so i get my assignments done.

its all about expirimenting on what will get you to work on your assignments even if it means setting a timer every hour reminding you to work!been there and done that! hehe

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My daughter is 9 years old and just came to me about having her first period. We have never had "the talk" about periods or sex and I'm not really sure how to explain this to her, especially since she's my only child. I didn't expect to have to deal with this with her being so young still. I helped her clean up and quickly ran over how to put on a menstrual pad but I am clueless as to what I should tell her about what periods are. Obviously she's curious why this is happening all of a sudden. What should I say to her? How do I explain periods to my daughter? I told her that we would talk about this tomorrow but I have absolutely no idea what I should say. Thank you.

usually. the school she attends will have a class talk (in my school with two classes in a year/grade) they took the girls in one classroom and the boys in the other for their talk, as men need to be having a serious talk at that age too! ;)
my mum ran over me with tampons and pads too wheni was about 10. i cant remember if she ran over the actall bleeding part with me though

however i was reading the other day about having talks with you kids through books. their are all kinds of books today written in a childs dialect and form, especally for parents to give to their kids to learn about the adults world, including divorce, sex, periods and stuff like that.

my advice would to look on parent dish dot com as that is where i read about it they might have some suggestions on there

also they might have suggestioong and other tips on the talk if you deicde to give her an actual talk!

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Well , i qo out withh this boy && he wantss to toqunee kiss. i never did ihtt beforee i want twoo thouggh. but imm scared ill mess up any advicee. PLEASE HELP MEE!

aww bless.
a kisss really. dont worry about it. there are more important things to be stressing about.

if you want some tips tho i answered a question like a long time ago giving suggestions if you look through my coloumn youll find em!

my major tip though. relax. ive learnt through expirience if i worry about my "technique" and plan my move. it wwont be natural. it wont be sexy. =)

and if he wants to tongue kiss and he knows you havent done it before. (or even if he doesnt know) he should be willing to accept you might not be the greatest kisser. however if he wants to kiss you he is obviously into gghurl! :)
have fun!

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when i buy a new house in yoville on facebook, can i put all my furniture from my old apartment into my new home? or will i have to buy all new furniture for my new home?

you can put it into your inventory and then from your inventory into your new home :)

happy yo villing

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What should i do if a guy that i like a lot smokes weed and asks me out?! :"(

no your asking for my opinion here and im going to give it out straight.
i wouldnt go near him.
if he asks you out you in a threesome relationship you, weed, and him.
trust me girl i lost my best freind to weed. its a horrible and can be a life changing drug (for the bad)

however if you DO decide to get involved with him in that way i would encrage him to stop.
maybe just be freinds and tell him to stop.

im telling you from expirience. its a horrible drug. i dont know how far he is down the weed story line but the sooner he get out of it the better!

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How do you make your tummy flatter and more toned and your thighs less jiggly?
What kind of exercises?

swimming is a good way to do this sure it means puttin them on show but it works out everything equally.

running is good for the legs.

a gymnastic class would also tone your whole body up.

all excersizes of which will REALLY improve your stamina.

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I just recieved my Olevel results via Internet and I got B's in both Math and Biology.

I know how I did and I'm accepting of my grade because I know I did the best I could have. But my parents aren't exactly B accepting people. It's either A or nothing.

Not to mention my sister has completed all A's in her olevels so now their going to say she did it but you couldn't!

I'm scared... I don't know what to say. Not that I can ever get a word in edgeways, they never let you speak..... If I do speak then I'm supposedly arguing.

What do I do?

well your GONNA have to tell them sometime. you cant hide foreever.
my mate had parents like this. and my advice to her likeit is to you is that. you did the best you could. and thats all you ccan really do!
and this arguing just ignore it! just ignore it. because you got the Bs and thats that. its not as if you can change the grades.

and dont compare yourself to your sister. she might hadve doen different subjects which might have been easier.

just think to yourself just because they are not B accepting people doesnt mean employers arent!
thats the real thing you want to be concerned about!

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Ok, i am doing a level 4 cheer team this year and we have to do a tick tock heel stretch. i got the tick tock down but not so much the heel stretch. i can only do it the oppisite foot im supposed to do it on. please help 1st comp is soon!!

ahh well done! what tema are you on? level 4 is a great achievement.
as a cheer coach myself i can give you a few tips.

you will genrally have a bad leg. everyone has a lege they are better on, be it through balance or flexibility.
we always tell our athletes to get a skill on both legs before they come and tell us that they "have got their scorpion" cus only then will they fly it.

anyway! tips on how to get it better. front and side kicks/leg rasies whatever you want to call them. (do this in your astretching routine at home.) it is good for tick tock practice, because it is a fast and jerky movement. like you would be doing in a tick tock. it gets you used to moveing to the different postitions.

practice your spllits. splits help the leg that goes up. so left leg splits would be ideal when you stand on your right leg because the left leg goes up. and vice versa. maybe practice your over splits on the hell stretch you have already got.

now practise your heel strech standing, try first by grabbing your foot and pullingit, and then kicking it up and catching it.

now to get it better you need to sit down with your back against a wall with your leg out infront
so you should be sitting like this |_
from here lift the leg you want to strech and hold it with you hands and pull it. this makes your heel stretch good becqause your only working on flexibility and not so much balance as well, ive seen so many flyer on other teams fail and fall because there coaches are asking them to be flexbile AND balance high in the air at the same time!
so when your stretching your leg you should look like this |/_ you should stretch oth legs. again one eleg may be better than the other.. its fine. totaly normal!

once youve got all this. you can then practice it on the ground. ticktocking to the heel strech. as your not in a stunt you have to switch FAST. if you get used to this speed and doo it in the air it will give your bases more time to switch as well. so everyone benefits.

right so thats all my stretching tips. good luck at your first competition. oh one last thing.. remember to warm up before you stretch! otherwise you could hurt yourself! as you need the blood to circulate your body before you strech. and for your muscles to be warm! so ALWAYS warm up first. even if its just a couple of star jumps and maybe a dance. and that. if you dont warm up before strtching there is really not much point stretching.
AND practice. no one ever got good at anything by only doing it once. also remember to hold your stretches for at least ten seconds and to breathe when stretching!

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How much mineral water should i drink to recieve its benefits?

usually its about 6-8 glasses a day
however this depends on the individual i mean i barely drink at all so i would recieve benefits from about 4 glasses a day. maybe three

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Hey guys I have dirty blonde/brown hair that is about an inch past my shoulders and it's wavy. What are some reAlly pretty hair styles I can do for the first day of school and also for something to look really pretty that shouldn't take more than 5-15 minutes. Also I'm going to camp this week and we can take straightener and stuff but my boyfriend is goin to be there and I want to look really pretty but I want it to be some thing simple. Oh and I have side bangs to the right and I'm 13 and about 5' 1" so please help quick!!!! :) thank soooo muchh!!

id lvoe to give as detailed answer as the person below me but im just not that great with styling soetimes
the style im gonna give you is plain and simple just a little something.
i use it alot when i want to have that little but of jazz in myhair. i use it when i go for interviews because its not too formal and its not too laid back.

ok so you have a side partin *to the side of your choice*
and you take two small bow clips. about hte length of your thumb.
you slide them in to the side that has the mist hair of your side partin.
put one in about halfway from your partin to your ear. and put the other one further round to your ear.

it will keep you hair from the big side of your face. sometime i tie it up atthe end too depending on what im doing.

its all about expiriementing =)

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Hello ,

So I just got a new job , and it's sort of like a server and waitress in a big hall , I was wondering , what are some tips to do to impress the people around you?


Thank you , Betty

well done jobs are hard to come by these days. well done!

well as a customer i can tell you what i consider in a good waitress

-patience. i know some of my family can take ages to order. so just be patient.

-bubblyness. as a coach i notice kids get bored.. VERY easily. ALOT. sometime kids have those colouring things on their menu. maybe compliment them if they are colouring it in. "aww that looks pretty" cus i for one used to be so bored in restaurants withmy family. and when i say a kid i mena like 6 years old..not like 10 lol
and im going to share a story which backs up my bubbly suggestion. we once had a waitress in pizza hut that actually sat at our table, we were like on a bench thing. and she was al "hi im patricia, im your waitress for this evening, if you need anything please dont hesitiate to call me over! are you guy ready to order?" she was one of the older generation though so she got away with that i think i dont know if the younger generation would be able to but then again i dont know how old you are! you might like to try it! =) it is something i will always remember because she just had loads of enthusiasm

-which is my next point. enthusiasm. this you will need to show your boss as well as customers. everyone wants an entusiastic employee to strives for suceess.

-smiley is the way forward. i mean some people might be stopping at this place because they have had a fight with their partner. a warm smile for no aparent reason goes a very long way.

- politeness. sir, madam, ma'am, the lady, these kind of gensttures are alot better than that stingey old bugger on table 4. calling someone sir and madam generally makes someone feel specail. like royalty because its a posh label.

-apologeticness. i cant tell you how many times i have ordered something that the restaurant have *just* ran out with. and id much rather have my waitress say "im ever so sorry madam but we do not have the shepards pie today, *gives reason, which may be your stock hasnt come in, or is late, or you have genrally just ran out*, is there anything else that you would like madam?" rather than "we dont have the shepard pie today, what do you want instead". wording is everything to a customer hehe.

intrest. act as though the customer is more than jsut a customer, so, check up on them, "hello again sir, how is your meal, is there anything you or your party would like that i can get for you? is everything to your standard?" because i knwo for one that i will finish my drink in an instant. so i might want another while eating. general intrest given to your customers will make them feel more waited on and relaxed.

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Anyone know any successful tricks to pouty/plump/bigger lips, other than lips plumpers(which dont work) and something that I can actually use/do, because not many teens are allow to get injections!

some of the lipglosses this days irritate your lips. this is good (for the pouty lips you are wanting. because it is enriched usually with spices like chilli to purposefully irritate the lips. (to me it makes my lips feel tingly) its trying to irritaste them so they swell.

ive been told lipliner can also help dependin on where you put it. but im rubbish at putting lip liner on so i cant give you much advice there.

however i always think the good old vaseline (pertrolium jelly) is the way forward. they have scented ones and ones with SPF nowadays too so there is always a vaseline for every occasion!

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I'm grounded for the whole summer....im always in my room im not aloud out only to use the bathroom and eat....what r some things i can do in my room...p.s i have no tv and im not aloud to see my friends and the only reason why im on the computer now is cuz im at work! HELP!

mayve you could clean it? idont know how old you are but whnever im stuck inside i tidy up. and i mean my room takes me days like nearly week to clean properly. like tidying it up then hoovering and polishing.
plus you find lots of cool stuff you forgot you had! . gives you chance to sort out some old stuff.

you could draw. drawing takes praactice to get good at it so that could take up quite a bit of time if you wanted the perfect drawing.

you could do a lilttle fashion show for yourself. sometimes when im bored i just try on clothes. and look at variousdifferemt stlyes this also works for make up. :) *just make sure you got some make up remover if you want ti change it and stuff

i dont knowif your a sporty person, im a cheerleader so im always stretching or doing some sit ups and stuff in my room. i dont know you might want to look into doing that, just to pass the time and keep fit. maybe turn on the radio and make up some dance. (andd dont worry if their not that great its only you thatll be seeing thme) who knows though you could be the next famous dancer! and i mean this tactic works with and without music.

reading. again i dont know how old you are or what sutff your into but i have a freiend that LOVESSSS to read. she finshed th latest harry potter book in four days =|

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Ok so im 17 years old female. I masterbate and iv heard that when you orgasm you are suppose to "cum" or "squirt". I do not do this and dont know why. Is this because i only do clit and not g-spot. my orgasms are ok, they arent intense like i heard they are suppose to be? How do i make them really good, and most of all, how do i make myself cum or squirt? Sometimes its hard to really get into it and like halfway through i want to give up. is this because im not turned on enough or am just harder to make orgasm. When i do it doesnt take me that long but its a ok orgasm. I dont think i have ever had an intense one, and dont know if thats cause i havent done a g-spot one. I need help on this alot! Thank you very much!!

your totally normal.
i have never been able to get anorgy whilst masturbating and i think the whole time ive been sexually active i have probally orgasmed like... twice?
my boyfrind can make me orgasm but i can do it to myself.
it sounds werid but guys hands and larger. i always make the joke that my hands are too small to pleasure me enough. sounds wired but its logical

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Ok, so my mum stopped smoking "trees" for a few months. She hasn't been doing it. She is going for a new job. She said she would not smoke even after the test. She took the test. Tonight It is late and I walk past the hall, a breeze rolls through, I cought a scent of "Trees". So I go to the back room, It gets stronger. She is not holding anything but I see the "thing" in the ash tray. I felt like saying something but acted as if I didn't notice. Now I'm really angry, she talked all this krap about how shw wouldn't start again. Now I hope when she gets this job, that she doesn't spend money on it. If she does I'll throw it out when she isn't around. I don't see any reason for me to get in trouble. Her last job she spent money on the same thing and it pisses me the Fu** off when I do well in school. And when I barely get Sh** for christmas they say, "Oh it's the economy", Bullshit theyr'e too busy burning money. I have poor friends whohave more than me. What should I do? and if possible can anyone tell me the average amount of money wasted on "trees" & "snow"? What can I do? I feel like mad now.

confront her. tell her this. remind her of what she said.

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Well im 13 and well ive been masturbating for yearssss like well yuo know how babys, they like "touch themselves" well i figured out the masturbating thing when i was like 5. i didnt know it was an orgasam.... duhhh cuz i was five. but i dont think im normal. Am i? and could this happen to other people too??

its fine. your totally normal! you just think your different at the mo because your only just learning the sexual part of it now!
dont owrry though relax and have fun ;)

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hi I am a 14 / m & I am getting these hard ons all the time at school. it is embarrassing and I don't want to get them any more in front of everybody when I cant hide it. I want to control My erections basically. I googled it and read that guys have "their own way of controlling boners" but then I dont know any ways so it didn't help Me. I hate getting hard in class. can somebody give Me some tips so I can stop getting hardons in class and control Myself better?

just so you know. this is totally normal!
some of my guy freinds were telling me some of there most annoying stories about these the other day.
my friend used to lift one leg up, some time cross his legs, other time hewould just tense his leg
another guy i knew used to just think of something that would turn him off. he diddnt tell me what though this could mean nything from a wrinkly granny to getting hit by a car.
my other mate while in his... budding years ;) tried to look out for tight undies.. and hes wear some tight stuff and then some ordinary boxers over them. i remember him saying this but i cant remember if he said if it worked or not.
expiriment see what works for you!
i however cant give you too much adivce on this subject as im not a dude! sorry. i hope it work out for ya though

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I just heard this great music by a band called Atreyu. (I know, I'm a little behind on the times haha) I'd LOVE to tell my friends and boyfriend about it in case they haven't heard it before because they're into the same sort of music. I don't want to sound like an idiot if I say it wrong though. How do you pronounce "Atreyu" correctly? Thanks.

ive always pronounced it
ah-tray-yew/yoo
no one has ever pulled me up on it :)

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