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Having troubles with orgasms and all about cumming and discharge?
Ok so im 17 years old female. I masterbate and iv heard that when you orgasm you are suppose to "cum" or "squirt". I do not do this and dont know why. Is this because i only do clit and not g-spot. my orgasms are ok, they arent intense like i heard they are suppose to be? How do i make them really good, and most of all, how do i make myself cum or squirt? Sometimes its hard to really get into it and like halfway through i want to give up. is this because im not turned on enough or am just harder to make orgasm. When i do it doesnt take me that long but its a ok orgasm. I dont think i have ever had an intense one, and dont know if thats cause i havent done a g-spot one. I need help on this alot! Thank you very much!!
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your totally normal.
i have never been able to get anorgy whilst masturbating and i think the whole time ive been sexually active i have probally orgasmed like... twice?
my boyfrind can make me orgasm but i can do it to myself.
it sounds werid but guys hands and larger. i always make the joke that my hands are too small to pleasure me enough. sounds wired but its logical
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I have never "squirted", as you put it, but Ive heard some girls do. A good way to know how turned on you are is how wet you are down there. The more wet you are, the more turned on you are. Also, you might feel a more intense pulse going through your vagina. Now, about how good your orgasms are, have you tried positioning yourself differently?
Hope this helps! If you have any more questions, feel free to ask. I'll try to make myself useful ;)
-bpt
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Not all women 'squirt'. Most orgasm without that, and 'cumming' for women, generally means an orgasm, not squirting. So, the way most people use the words, you do cum, you just don't squirt.
And you might never. Very few women are even capable of it.
Just to clarify something for you - doctors are NOT 100% convinced the g-spot exists. Most think it doesn't, or at least isn't consistent in all women. Even the most recent, thorough medical research has not proven that it is exists and they've been looking for it for decades now. This is a great quote from the Wikipedia article on the G-spot and it's probably very relevant to you:
"Sexual psychologists are concerned about the promotion of the G-Spot, as it could lead to women feeling "dysfunctional" if they do not experience it. Dr. Petra Boynton, a British scientist who has written extensively on this debate, points out:
'We're all different. Some women will have
certain area within the vagina which will be very
sensitive, and some won't, but they won't
necessarily be in the area called the G spot. If
a woman spends all her time worrying about
whether she is normal, or has a G spot or not,
she will focus on just one area, and ignore
everything else. It's telling people that there
is a single, best way to have sex, which isn't
the right thing to do.' "
There is a lot of exactly that kind of nonsense going around making people feel their orgasms or sex is 'not good enough' and I'd seriously tell you to throw all thoughts you have like that out of the window.
You can google 'how to squirt' and come up will all sorts of advice, but your best bet would probably to buy some sex toys if you are able too, experiment with your partner and find out what gives you the most pleasure.
Trying to live up to some sort of golden sexual standard (that might not even exist) is only going to make you unhappy. Just go have fun and explore your body. You've obviously found a few things that work for you - You'll find more I promise.
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