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I'm Rachel, I'm 20 and a Junior at Michigan State University! I've been with advicenators for a few years, and I enjoy coming on ever so often to help someone who needs it. I love giving advice, especially to people who have been in the same situation as I have. So ask away ;)

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Okay during the summer i lost my virginity to this guy, well tonite i went over to his house and we are like best friends now but i miss him and i really want him.. it makes me sad to see him cuz he is always talking to girls and never talks to me about what happened should i tell him how i feel or not

Definitely talk to him before you don't get the chance too! If he's your best friend he won't make fun of you or yell at you or whatever because good friends aren't like that. Good luck and tell me what happens!

im the person that wrote about me and my boyfriend takin a break well he finally called sunday and he did cheat on me. So we broke up sunday nite. Well i really didnt talk to him at all monday in school and Monday nite i wrote him a real long letter explaining to him how i felt and all that. I even told him that i loved him in the letter and just all that. Well he read it tuesday and we talked and then today we skipped skool and we hung out all day and he told me that he thought about my letter and that even yesterday he thought about me. Im just wondering tho am i really dumb to sit there and talk to him or am i just a girl who is madly in love wit a boy. Im really sorry that this is soo long but i just need sum advice

I think you really like him and maybe you should give him a second chance BUT you have to watch out because a lot of times guys who cheat go back to their girlfriends and cheat some more. And if you do decide to give him a second chance, if you want you could talk to him about how you felt about it. I hope everything goes well between you guys!

Well my friends and I all decided to be "goth" for halloween this year, and well I'm not really sure what to buy for clothes (other than things that are black) and I'm not to sure what to do with the makeup either, got any ideas or website to give me some idea?

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Britt

[[BTW, I Rate 5 For EVERYONE!!!]]

http://hottopic.com has some great outfits there, so you can check that out.

Hmm...just wear anything black. Black fishnets, shirt, pants, skirt, and make-up the same thing. Pale powder, black lipstick, eyeliner, etc.

Things have been going great with my boyfriend. But I can tell my best friend is jealous. I guess I dont blame her but still, I'd like to be able to talk to her about it without feeling guilty like I'm bragging. I've tried to talk to her about like our first kiss or stuff like that but she either gets all quiet or says bad things about him.. like he's a player or something like that (which he isnt, we both really like eachother but thats besides the point). I just really want to be able to share it with her and not feel bad about it. Should I still talk to her about it or just talk to my other friends? Thanx so much.. I rate high!

I think you should try to talk to her about it, that since she's your best friend that you need her to be open with you and tell you how she feels and listen to what you're saying. If it's not working, then maybe just not go to the subject of boyfriends with her until she has one of her own. If she still gets jealous after your talk, talk to your other friends about him and talk to her about other things. Oh yeah...and ask her to explain to you why she thinks he's a player if to you he's obviously not. I hoped I helped

I am starting to have feelings for my best guy friend but I don't want to do anything to hurt our relationship. What do I do? I'm in a weird situatuion now. I haven't told him.
xo0x CoNfUsEd xo0x

This is a really normal thing that happens to most people...Well, i think first off that you should just talk to him and tell him that you're starting to have feelings for him. If you feel he's ready, talk about maybe starting a relationship...but you DON'T want anything to change between you guys, no matter what. If you think he's not ready, then give him some time about it, back off a little because you don't want to prod him about it. I hope you guys work things out!

me and my best friend have been best friends for like 4 years and we now go to different schools and we still talk but not a lot and we ain't as tight as we used to be for some reason. well probably because of the whole school switch thing but anyways we both agreed that we need to start getting tight again. how should be start becoming really close again? what should we do or go? im really confused. i need GOOD really good advice not bullshit that doesn't make any sense, thanks so much!

I'm in the middle of the same thing, because I just switched to a different school and my best friends and I don't hang out as much as we used to. My advice is to just call her up as much as you can and hang out with her as much as you can, most likely weekends. Talk to her about your schools and what's going on with the people you used to go to school with. If you call her tell her how much you miss her and talk about what you could do when you both are free. The school switch will make it hard for you guys to stay close but if you guys are best friends you'll work with it =] Hope I helped!

Ok, I'm 14/f
And there is this guy at my church. He is soo funny and he's a really good Christian, which is very important for me, and he has an awesome personality and is very fun to be around. The only problem is, he is really small. He is like 1/2 a foot shorter than me and weighs about 30 lbs less. Beside all this, I really like him a lot because of the inside, which is really what counts, but I'm afraid of what my friends would say if we dated. Because well, I've been known for going for the good-looking guys. So what should I do?

I've been in this situation before, and I think you should do it. If you really like him, then the outside really shouldn't matter. If your friends don't appreciate the fact that he's short or whatever, don't listen to them. All it does is make them look shallow because a guy is short. I mean, you wouldn't want to reject him because of them and realize you missed out on what could've been the best guy you've ever met, would you? He seems like a nice go, so go for it! If you're friends don't like him because he's shorter..it shouldn't matter to you! I hope i helped!

how many boyfriends have you had? i'm doing something with the infomation so be honest.

I've had...only 4. And I also dated two of them twice.

Okay .. well I basically Just Started Cutting Myself! + Now i cant Stop.. It like takes controll over me! I dont and wont tell mY Parents and i dont wanna get help or tell anyone* Not even Friends.. but i think they might know.. I dont know what to do ? Im only 13! Should i continue?

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CUTTER!

DO NOT CONTINUE. Cutting is really bad because you could cut a vain or something, and it really messes you up. You NEED to get help, either tell your parents or some adult you feel comfortable with and they will help you out. If you won't tell your parents, then maybe a close friend could help you out, one that you can trust not to tell anyone else, and you can tell them about your problem. To replace cutting, put a rubber band around your wrist, and when you feel liek cutting yourself, just snap it. If you need to talk to anyone, you could get therapy or talk to a school counseler. I know you don't HAVE to tell anyone, but stopping a bad habit like this is hard to do alone. good luck and take care!

i love my bf but i dont know what to do. last year i really liked this guy, we had a lot of fun but never went out. this year we are in no classes together though. i saw him at lunch the first day of school. our eyes met and i felt really hurt. i feel such a deep connection with him, but i feel like i just like my bf as a crush. i dont want to break my bf's heart, he is wonderful. im so upset, i dont know what to do now.

Tell your boyfriend you need a break and you need to figure things out, or that you might not feel the same way for him you did before. And tell him no matter what happens, whether you end up together or not, you want him to be there for you and be your friend. He might not understand, but he'll be there for you. You need to tell the other guy how you feel and how much you want to be together. I hope it works out for you

ok i have 2 questions

1. my ex-boyfriends when we broke up he said 4 me to promise to call him everyday still (we dont go to the same school) what does this mean??

2.we or he still says "i love you" and is always askin me out but then after he says sumthin he'll tell about this girl at his school how he walks her to class and holds her hand and it makes me sooo SAD that im not that girl....is he trying to make me jealous???...cz its workin!!

3. how can i tell him that i still care 4 him and why he keeps makin me jealous and that its hurtin me ...bad...too!??

1. Yeha he still wants t be your friend or he might have a little feeling for you but he wants to take it slow.

2. He's trying to make you jealous, maybe tell him if he keeps doing that you'll start saying no. Or make him jealous too. =o)

3. Just tell him how you feel. Start it off with something like, "I don't know how I feel about you, you keep doing things that make me jealous and you're hurting me." Or something like that. The best way to do it is to just tell him straight out.

4. Ask him why he is making up stupid excuses and just stop waiting for him if he's that unreliable.

Okay, in my own opinion, this doesn't have to do with you, he's a jerk. I really wouldn't give him the time of day if that's the way he's treating you. There are plenty of guys that are so much better than that and maybe you should start looking for them. Since you do like him my advice would be to talk it over, and see why he's doing this to you. You do't deserve to get hurt like that all the time. I hope I helped =]

i've had a best friend for 3 yearz and we both got caught lying and sneaking out and my parents grounded me from ever seeing her agen..im not allowed to hang out wid her AT ALL forver.i really lost their trust wid me and my best friend. but the thing is shes the only one i talk to in this town dat relle cares about me. and i told my parents dat but they dont care no matter what i sai.dey tell me to find another best friend but i cant bc i only want her and im not going to find another best friend this quick. i cant just forget 3 years of friendship. please help on what could i do. i rate good.

Okay, you might not like my advice but it's my opinion. You should first try talking to your parents, tell them how hard it is for you to find someone that knows you as well and is on the same level with you. Talk to them at a time when they'll listen, like right before bed or something. Let them know how important she is to you and you relationship with her. Also, tell them that you'll never do anything like that again (but only if you're not) and how sorry you are about breaking the trust between you and your parents. I think the best thing could be a compromise, like maybe letting them ground you for a while but asking them to let you talk to her and lket her come over or something.

If they still don't crack, well you have to listen. If you break what they told you and talk to her anyways your trust will be broken even more. You can find so many people at school or around your neighborhood that you might like, but you have to give them a chance. They might not be like her but eventually your friendship wiull grow stronger. Your parents are looking out for you and when yopu're older, you'll understand. (at least, that's what my mom tells me) i hope i helped ~ «3

Do you all know any acne face washes that work really well? (I don't really have sensitive skin)
- Flawed Face

Well, I think ProActive is really good, I know people who've used it and it works wonders. I use Neutrogena Daily Face Wash and Mask, it works for me. I also use Clean and Clear overnight Patches.

I dont like my friends, they bother me. they complain and whine and lie. one of them bosses me around a lot. i don know what to do. theyre not real friends but theyre all i have.

Like I always say, TALK to them first. And if they're still like that then forget them and go find some real friends. They're not the only ones in the school and you can start talking to some honest people who don't boss you around and are just plain REAL. And ones who have the same interests as you. Try joining a club or sport.

okay, me and my best friend were always tight but she likes this guy and he likes her. one day she just got up in all of our faces and my friend maddie was like, "ur always talking about jon and putting him before us." she got mad at her and was like, "well, he IS more important to me than you guys! yhour bugging me!" and i just got mad and upset. what should ido?

If your friend puts guys before her friends, she isn;t a very good one. Tell her how you feel and if she still doesn't accept that then you shouldn;t be taking anything from her! Forget about her for now, because she's unwilling to put someone she likes before her tight best friends. It may be tough but hopefully, eventually she'll realize what great friend she lost and come back. And if she doesn't, well, she wasn't a true friend to begin with.

I want to drop out of school but my parents won't let me. im not getting what i want out of it and i feel its a waste of time. i hate school and i just want to stay home. it sux

Well, sorry to tell to you but parents know what's best for you. It's so you can have an education and you can do something with your life. You didn't mention what you were planning to do as soon as you dropped out, so it seems like there is no plan. Maybe you're having a rough time in school? I think it's best if you stay so that you can have a good career, and study hard. If you don't like that school you can always try another one.

I broke up wit my boyfriend and I still love him to death.. And i cant stop but I broke up wit him cuz of parental reasons ** He's 15 and im 13 ** Now all i do is think of him... But what makes me feel worse is that he was cring the whole day :-( i dont know what to do.. Cuz If i didnt break up wit him i would get into troble, loose my trusts from my parents and never get to see him or talk to him.. But now that i broke up wit him i can talk to him and see him :-(

Tell your parents how you feel and that nothing bad will happen between you. Let them know he's a good guy (if he is...) and ask if you all could hang out so that your parents can see his behavior. Promise that you won't do anything that would break your trust with your parents. This may go a step too far for you, but my friend did it just so she could be with her boyfriend....the only time she could go out with him is if it was supervised OR certain places where they could be checked up on. But if they still don't accept him, you have to accept that and let your parents decide. They ARE your parents, and they should know what's best for you.

im doing a tripod site and i try uploading a music file but it says only mp3 au rm music files are allowed what r some websites to get those kinda of music files. i want music with words i dont like the midi music cuz thats only back ground music and i would like music with words for my site please help. so please give me some websites that will allow me to use on tripod with words thanks

There's also http://members.migente.com/DRAZTIKBEATZ and http://xanga.com/a__music___x

Well, I like this boy, say his name is Bob. But he has a girlfriend, named let's say Lori. Now Lori is one of my good friends, and Bob is like, my best male friend, but I really really like him. And he flirts with me a lot like online, and in person when Lori isn't there. Now I don't want to ruin their relationship, but they never see eachother and stuff, I so know eventaully, they'll break up. Should I just wait for them to break up, because I know he likes me, and he knows I like him, or what. I am s0o Confused.

Like everyone said, give them time. if they eventually DO break up, you need to talk to 'Lori' about it because if you start dating, it might hurt her. Just let things cool for awhile and if she`s ready to let go, you can start dating.

i am going to meet john cena and i want to know what i could give him .. i thought about giving him a jersey but im sure a lot of people will be doing that so i thought that maybe i would get him something else .. any ideas? pleasee respond

Um...have no clue who he is but when I went to meet tayshaun Prince and Rip Hamilton I was about to do this, but I didn't ahve enough time. Maybe write him a letter and give it to him, he could read it. =P Or a poster, an action figure of him lol, or draw him and show it to him? Sorry i might've not been that much help

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