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I really want to 'sort of' come out, but my mum thinks that I shouldn't because our town is full of biggots and homophobes. I would only come out on my myspace, by putting bisexual on the sexuality, just so someone might see it. I don't know how to convince her that I sould be able to do so, and I really don't want to do something so big without havin her agreement. Could someone please tell me something to help convince my mum? (link)
Tell her that it's important to you and you don't care what the town thinks or says because it will make you feel a million times better.

that's so cool though.
good luck:)


ok well i have had black teachers and every class ive been in a class with a black teacher (only females) i end up hating that class even thought its my favorite school subject.and i also hate the way they talk i mean their accent and the way they move. but i do have some black friends (males and females) and i dont have any problems with them we hang out and go places and just do stuff (link)
ahahaha
nah, you're not racist.
some things about people can tick you off.
I'm sure the talking and moving is it.
Some white people talk with accents too, so,
I don't think you are.


so i really like this guy. and last semester he kinda said that he will go to a different school and then the other day he said that he have to stay. so school startet three days ago and the first day he was there. but the next two days he was'nt. and i dont know if he's coming back now or not cause next week my class is going to a camp for 1 week. and i'm really worried he's going to a different school now cause i really like him and the school is not the same without him. so what should i do? what do you think????

thx alot

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Aw, I know exactly what you mean.
Well, if he leaves the school,
be sure to stay in touch.
Ask for his number or talk to him online.
It won't be the same as seeing him everyday,
but it's better than nothing


how do you guys say no jokingly to someone that offers you a smoke?like do you say"no,carry on and enjoy yourselves" or "I feel bad about taking your share",how do you guys push away the offer in a good manner? (link)
"no thanks, I'm good."

or

"I don't smoke, but thanks anyway."


I found out yesterday... i have a diseaseon my ovaries. and i might not beable to have kids when i'm older. and it upsets me because it is going to be so hard for me when im older to try to have kids and if i can't have kids. the doctor told me there is a slight slight change i can treat my problem but can't cure it. not alot of people know and i don't want them too. but my question is.. when i'm older do you think having a boyfriend that really wants kids, jeopardize my relationships? (link)
aw, sadly, I think so.
but you can adopt a kid, so no worries.
I'm sure it'll all work out.


What are some tips so i can decorate my locker? Like places I can get certain things at? What do you have in yours that you think is cool/unique?


Any Ideas for mine? I already have a mirror =]


Thanks (link)
Target!
haha
they sell cute magnet things for lockers.

I use to have stickers and pictures in mine.

I'd definitely hit Target, though


were can i download a program or use a prgram that turns pictures into black and white for free (link)
I downloaded this really cool thing on google, and it has everything that photoshop has. but it's free:)

go to google and type in "free photoediting"
and a link will pop up called "picasa2"
download and that's it



So theres this girl in my grade, and i am trying to figure out whether she likes me or not. here are some reasons why i think she does

~She always waves to me
~She told me to call her once when i got back from vacation to ask how it was
~ when i called her she said a greeting so quickly its as if she planned it.
~she asked me if she saw her wave and from the bus.


well> do you think she likes me? (link)
yup, looks like she likes you.
the things she does are cutee, too.
try not to lead her on or flirt with her if you don't like her. and if you do like her, go for it because I'm sure she likes you.

:)




Hello, I`m 14 years old && 5 months pregnant, && my boyfriend is 15. && I haven`t seen him for over 2 weeks && I`m starting to get worried I talk to him once && awhile but we always argue but then we make up by the end && we always fight because hes always fucked up && doesn`t get or understand what i`m sayin. But for the past frew weeks hes been hanging out with all these`s girls && I`ve been hearing that they`ve been doing stuff together I talked to him about it lastnight && finally he wasn`t fucked up he had a good excuse && told me it was all bullshit. But how do I know if he`s faithful or not. (link)
oh my god, forget about homework.
and DON'T GIVE UP BABY:(

I'm 14 too, and I would be terrified. But having my boyfriend around would make me feel a lot better.

I wouldn't trust him.
I don't know, maybe it's just me and my issues. But two weeks is a long time.

My ex boyfriend once said to me "if I ever got you pregnant, you'd have to get an abortion because I can't handle that." and we never had sex or anything. but it made me sad when he said that because your boyfriend and my ex boyfriend don't understand most of the pains you have to go through.

I'm so sorry, I hope you and your boyfriend work things out. and you should ask him to be around more. good luck with everything, seriously.




My friend has a problem ...she cuts herself and nobody can seem to help her ne advise that i could give her to make her stop? (link)
tell her that she's not just hurting herself. she's hurting you and everyone else who cares about her.

also, she can see a school counselor.
it's free and she can ask them to keep everything confidential.



i was wondering what are some good songs that i can put on my ipod.. i listen to everything, so it doesnt really matter to me what times i just need suggestions, thanks. (link)
Anything on the OC Sountracks is AMAZING, seriously.
It's mostly a lot of indie music.

also,
bright eyes
ima robot
le tigre
motion city soundtrack

those are always fun



how many calories do you have to burn to lose a pound? (link)
3,500
the body burns about 700+ calories.
swimming for about an hour can burn at least 600.
but if you're actually swimming.
hiking or running for about an hour will make you lose calories fast. (and more than 100)


good luck

:)





In gym class, this girl Kelly, was like ohh you only ran 2 laps FATTY. I ran 5 though! I was like whatever. So then at recess she was like your so white. Get a tan. I said "Im a redhead and we don't get tan easily." Kelly said "Mkay no hunny, thats has nothing to do with it!" Her friends were like yeah and I thought u always say you have BROWN hair. My hair is kind of brownish red. Kelly was like "Get a tan." "Dye your hair." "Loose weight." She's so annoying. She says this all the time. I am way prettier then her too. She just has friends because she knows how to be mean. I can stick up for someone else, but not myself. My friend, who came by me was like "Let's go to the science room!" I was about to cry though. Kelly is 13, and has had 3 boyfriends, all younger. Im 13, I have had 8 & all older! I just don't know what to do! She always calls me a slut too. She has never kissed anyone. She also says I stuff my bra but I don't and this bothers me.. (link)
ah, Kelly is a bitch.
This isn't the right thing to do,
but do the same to her.
When she's around her friends,
embarass her and point out her flaws.
and when she walks by yell out mean things.

it's so immature, but whatever, she's cruel.

I hope she stops


16/m a couple of days ago i asked this girl out and she said that she only liked me as a friend and she wanted us to get to know each other better first and then maybe we could try it. i'm ok with that but i dont really know how to get to know her better or anything i dont know what to do. any ideas? (link)
hangaround with her.
talk to her online.
casually call her

:)


how do you have a conversation with someone that you already know everything about. and i mean everything. and they know everything about you. (link)
It should be easier to talk if you're so close.
But you can always talk about bands, concerts, food, parents. just random stuff


When do Pacic! At the Disco tickets go on sale for Madison Square Garden, NY in November?? (link)
They're already selling online.

http://www.ticketsnow.com/Concert_Tickets/Panic_At_the_Disco_Tickets.html?GCID=S16598x002-pr_panic&keyword=panic%20at%20the%20disco%20tickets



have fun


Why don't most girls like it when guys say that they are hot. Isn't that a compliment? What's the big deal? (link)
Most girls are strange when it comes to that.
They complain too much.
Hot is a compliment in my book.
Some girls are okay with it, some aren't.


hi, well today me and my friends went into this "asian fish market" store after school, like we usually do. And my friend bought a chocolate bar, and while he was opening it, he looked at the use-by date and it had allready gone off. i still have the bar, and my friend took picturs , even of the owner! what shall we do? should we report him to the health service? thanks in advance (link)
no, just throw it away and look at the date next time.
It might've been a mistake or they forgot to replace them.


This one is for girls. Do girls like guys that are cute or hot. Not both, one or the other. (link)
cute and hot to me is pretty similar.
but hot, I guess.
some girls are really shallow.


All day my sister has been stratching me pinching me hitting me and kicking me. Everytime we have the littlest arguement which is litally every 2 seconds, she has to hurt me in some way. She even bites me! I have marks all over my skin from everytime shes ever hurt me. My arms and legs are covered in stratches blood marks and brusies from her. I know all sisters fight with eachother but sometimes I feel like it gets outta hand. Today, she got mad at me and stratched me and she wouldn't stop I kept yelling get away from me and stuff and she wouldn't stop so I pinched her so she would get the fuck away from me. One little pinch sends her into tears and she runs to my mom and of course no matter how much my sister hurts me, if my sister is in one little pain of discomfort and blames it on me my mom will always take my sisters side. I showed my mom all of the marks, and she goes good I'm glad she does that to you, if you got hit by a bus right in front of me it would be hard for me to PRETEND like I actually care. I never care what people say to me but when it's my actual mom I break down crying because I hate knowing people don't care about me. My sister pinned me down on the floor and handcuffed my hands with my dads old handcuffs (he used to be a police 20 years ago) and she started kicking me so hard and pinching me I couldn't move I felt like I was going to burst and just die. My mom was 2 feet away watching all of this happen and kept saying hit her harder, hit her harder. My mom doesn't care what happens to me. So I was still pinned down in hand cuffs so I tried to kick her with my leg to get her away from me but I was closing my eyes and by mistake I LIGHTLY kicked her "bad arm" to make her stop torturing me and she starts balling her eyes out. Of course my mom yells on the top of her lungs "GODS GOING TO GET YOU DONT YOU DARE TOUCH MY BABY YOU USELESS PEICE OF SHIT GO SLIT YOUR WRISTS." I said "mom did you see what she was doing to me she had me pinned down in hand cuffs what did you expect me to do just sit there." And she goes "I don't care what she does to you I hope you die." and she walked away. I ran up to my room crying. And then about 20 minutes ago my sister got mad because we were playing a ps2 game and she lost so she pulled my long hair so hard a huge chunk of it came out and I didn't cry but I tried to hit her but she ran away so fast so I popped her balloon that she got 3 days ago from a restaurant. My sister told my mom (but of course left out the part about her pulling me hair) and my mom started yelling at me and threw me on couch and just started beating me she hit my head so hard about 9 times it still hurts and she tried to choke me with the balloon and tried to stuff it down my throat. I managed to get away and I ran up to my room. I'm 13 and my sister is 10 so of course she never gets in trouble. My sister gets so much clothes and toys and cds and anything she wants she automatically gets no matter how stupid it is. My parents don't buy me any clothes I have to wear the same clothes from 2 years ago that don't even fit me any more. They don't buy me any nice things and when we go out to eat they don't even let me buy a drink and make me order off the kids menu when I'm 13 and I'm skinny but I eat A LOT and I finish the kids meal in 5 minutes and I'm starving while my sister 3 years YOUNGER then me is munching on a huge steak with 3 sides. I hate it!!!! My sister never gets hit and I always do. My mom throws me against walls and she even does it infront of my friends!!!! I can't stand this my sister always hurts me and I always get in trouble. I tried the police, but my mom lies so much so of course they believe my mom. My friends help me out so much and make me feel so much better but if they arn't at my house they can't see whats happening to me and its up to me not to get myself killed because no one else cares.

What do I do? I'm sick of living like this. My mom and dad won't even let me have a talk to them about it. (link)
aw, honey, that's the saddest thing I've ever heard:(

you don't deserve that, at all.
the only thing I can tell you to do is call a child abuse hotline or something.
no offense, but your mom is out of control and a bit crazy. she can't treat you like that.
you're not worthless, and she treats you like you are.

tell anyone you can about this. you shouldn't live with people like that. you deserve so much more.

I really hope you get some help.
:(




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