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can't have kids when i'm older..
I found out yesterday... i have a diseaseon my ovaries. and i might not beable to have kids when i'm older. and it upsets me because it is going to be so hard for me when im older to try to have kids and if i can't have kids. the doctor told me there is a slight slight change i can treat my problem but can't cure it. not alot of people know and i don't want them too. but my question is.. when i'm older do you think having a boyfriend that really wants kids, jeopardize my relationships?
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aw, sadly, I think so.
but you can adopt a kid, so no worries.
I'm sure it'll all work out.
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Well, don't feel alone. Lots of females suffer from things of this nature. I don't know what your disorder is exactly, but I can related because I have something called PCOS (it effects my ovaries too). The best thing to tell you is to try not to dwell on it. And I know it's tough especially being a girl--ever since we are little we think about being a mom! Don't let this gold you back from being you and living your life. Usually, if you can keep your weight down, you have a higher chance of getting pregnant than if you are more so over weight. So, keep that in mind. If you don't want people to know, that's totally fine. It's your personal information. Someday though, you will find someone you'll feel comfortable enough to share that with--and when you find him, they'll accept everything that comes with it. He'll accpet you. And now, with the new technology and sciences there are SO many ways of having children. Also, adoption is always an option. Hang in there. :)
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It shouldn't. You always have the chance to adopt & plus I'm sure you will find a guy who will be willing to give up having children with you. Make sure you let him before hand, that you can't have children, any guy diserves to know that.
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Well, it could possibly jeopardize future relationships with men who really really want kids, but it depends on the man if he's willing to stick around with you or not.
I would suggest whenever you enter a relationship that you let them know early on about it so they know ahead of time. Just sometime when you're in the middle of a conversation about marriage [ not necessairly about you two getting married just talking about it ], or kids, or the future, just mention to them your problem with being able to possibly not have children. I mean, there's always adoption still and if you don't want to miss out on the baby experience, you could always adopt them as a baby so you don't miss anything.
I hope I helped, and I hope everything works out.
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It doesn't have to jeopardize anything. Entering into a relationship, your first off thing to do, would be to let them know that if they want kids, that there is a HUGE possibility that you can't give them that, but that you are open to adoptions (?). By letting him know early on, there won't be any hurt feelings when he tells you he's ready for a kid, then you have to break it to him that you can't give him any. I'm so sorry for this of happened to you. We live in a time where new things are being discovered every day, so it's possible that during the course of your lifetime they could find a cure to treat whatever disorder it is your having that is preventing you from having kids. My heart goes out to you.
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