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Q: hi im a sophmore guy and i like this frosh girl in my geometry class...we have been talking for about 2 weeks now and theres something about her that attracts me to her i was going to try and become better friends first then ask her out but yesterday a guy i dont know who he is but he asked her out and now i regret not asking her but at the same time i feel she wouldve said no becuase we dont know eachother that well...so my question is should i tell her how i feel or let it go for a while and still hang out as friends then when and if they break up tell her how i feel? thanks so much in advance

okay... so i had a boyfriend.. and this other guy liked me.. and i liked the other guy too..l but i was like.. well.. if he likes me.. he would have made a move.. so my bf asked me and i said yes. well.. a few days later.. the other guy told me he really liked me which made me realize i didnt really want to be with my boyfriend after all... i sayy.. go for it.. tell her

Q: 15/f

I know I am attractive, smart, funny, outgoing and kind but I do not feel like a guy could be attracted to me. I know there are guys, who I am not interested in, who have a crush on me.. but I don't feel like that is even possible. I haven't dated a guy steadily for more than two years now. Why might I feel this way? How do I overcome it? Do I even need to overcome it?

Thank you :)

i dont think you need to overcome it... high school is too short to be with one person the whole time... and maybe.. those guys that your looking for are too intimidated of you... my friend is probably the prettiest girl in the entire state.. lol.. and she rarely gets asked out and thats because people think shes intimidating... try talking more and more to the ones you want to be interested in you.

Q: So me and this guy were together but I broke up with him for reasons we both understand. Now, we both really loved each other. His friends said that I hurt him when I broke up with him and that he still likes me alot. I like him again, also, and I really love him and want to be with him again. At our school's football game, we were both talking and flirting and I thought he would ask me out again, but my friend asked him and he said he didnt want to be in a relationship right now. On my part, what can I possibly do to try to get with him? I know sometimes you can't change someones mind but..

Any suggestions? thanks so much!!

tell him straight up... " i made a mistake.. i miss you. your the one that i want... && im asking you back out.... && this is a one time opprotunity!" lol.. && dont make it awkward.. smile && stuff when your saying it..

thats what i would do

Q: my relationships dont last, but my new bf for once is.. the love of my life. How can i try to make it last?

or any tips?

P.s. i always break up with them, why.. i dont know, would there be any reasons why? Is it possible that im a slut?

im just like that too!! i get bored with relationships... or im only in it for the chase... but if your with somebody right now who you think is the love of your life.. i wouldnt think you`d get bored!!

&& trying to make it last? keep it interesting.. dont do the same thing everyday! go out on dates.. do different things.. !! things that would make yall closer....

&&& no!!!!! your not a slut.. lol

Q: Ok…..I have a boyfriend that used to be just my friend, and then we started going out!! I mean I love being in this relationship but sometimes he acts different not mean but different! You know how sometimes just the tone of his voice or things he dose, just make you feel like he is acting different? And then you ask him what’s wrong or why are you acting different, he says how am I acting different? And you can’t really tell him! Because its just the way he’s acting not the things he dose. So dose every man do this?

uughhhhhh i believe so...
at least all of em that i`ve met

Q: ok well you know for the abercrombie kids some of the shirts say Est. 1892 ? well does that mean that they had abercrombie in 1892? lol please help, i'm really confused!

abercrombie and fitch was founded in 1892 but it was a hunting store.. and its turned into what it is today!!!

i had to do a report on it...

Q: What are some stores should i go to to shop for homecomming dresses?

Websites would be nice;; the i can decided if i want ot go there or not..

ohh;; should the dresses be long or short?
my homecomming is this month on the 29th.

homecoming dresses..l def short.. i mean some people wear long. but its a semi formal dance so ya.... and nordstrom.com has gorgeous dresses!!!

Q: Im 15 and I really like this girl that im friends so i was wondering if you had any advice for how to ask her

hm. idn. it depends on like. how you are... does she know you like her? my boyfriend was soo cute when he asked me out.. cuz he was all shy.. haha.. he was like.. "uh... sooo.. uuhh... mmm.. uuhhh.. doo you maye.. uhhh.. wanna go out with me?" and i was like. YES!!! lol.. but then this other kid asked me out too and he was like. " straight up... i really like you and i wanna be with you!" and i really liked that... so ya.. idn how you are though..

Q: ive heard many stories, but if you have sex when is it easiest to get pregnant. i heard its easiest RIGHT b4, during, and after your period .. but my boyfriend told me its the hardest right after. does anybody know ?? please && thnxz

its easiest when your ovulating... which.. idn about everyone else.. but for me.. its about 2 weeks before i start my period... but i`ve known people who have had sex right after theyre period and gotton pregnant.. so.. idn.. but i def know that its when your ovulating is the absolute easist

Q: im looking for a new backpack prefferbly the main color white with a little blue and green.if you guys could help me find a backpack that looked like that or was close to it that would be great.i like ll bean and jansport just so you know.

dude go to anchor blue.. they have a gazzilion jansport backpacks and theyre really cute.. i think they have one like what you want.. if they dont have exactly like that.. there will def be a smilar one!

Q: so today was our first day of school...

I AM A JUNIOR NOW =)

and it sucked haha but whats new? i dont know anyone in my 4th hour class and let me tell you im probably one of the most shyest people ever!! i get embarassed so easily and there are these black girls that are hilarious and they're pretty much the only ones that participate its kinda funny so i dont know what to do when we have to get into groups and stuff? also for my 3rd hour class i am friends with these two girls but im scared when we have to have partners they are gonna go with each other because they are best friends and i will be left with no one. and the popular girls are in that class they are pretty much like "the mean girls" if you know what i mean i cant stand it i feel so uncomfortable just going into the class! i mean they were on my softball team for like 3 years but its not like they talk to me now? maybe just a hi or something but not like friends.. and for lunch...you would think out of that many people one of my friends would be with me but NOPE..i dont know anyone seriously. i sat with these one people i really didnt know but talked to like twice. it was very uncomfortable and i felt very unwanted. i didnt talk once and they didnt say anything to me..i dont know what to do! i dont want to go sit with them because they will be like why are you sitting with us we dont even talk to you? i was about to cry at lunch because this has never happened to me. everyone has there own cliques and im just gonna be sitting there by myself like a nerd? i dont want that! and im not gonna go up to random people and be like hi..i dont know you can i sit with you? and all the people in my 4th hour class are pretty much freshman and even they have their own friends. i told my mom and shes like cant you go sit in your car? i was like wow im gonna be that dork sitting in the bathroom eating! i dont know what to do? its actually pretty embarassing. and we dont get off-campus lunch privilages until like 6 more weeks..

im not a nerd! i am friends with pretty popular people and im like NORMAL =) with friends! but when i dont know anyone i go insane and panic..very badly.

help? =(

oooommmmggggg!!!! that was me the first week of school.. literally.. i had 0 classes with anyone i know and im not exactly shy.. but i dont like... talk to people unless they talk to me... so people think im really stuck up until they meet me! but so i was alll alone until i was in class and i was completely like. desperate.. so there was this "popular" girl beside me and i was like. " hi im andrea..!!" and we just started talking and i was like. " yeah it sucks.. i dont know anyone in any of my classes and i like. have to find random people to sit with" and she was like. " ommg! you have to sit with us!" so i started and now i sit with them everyday and i made like. 20 new friends who sit with her.. so its pretty cool.. and in the actual classes... i just started talking to the people next to me.. and then the people next to them.. and noww... i know like... everyone in all of my classes and im never alone!! im like one of the loudest people now too.. so it all works out!! i would try to just maybe talk to one or two people.. like.. sit back and pick who you want to be friends with.. then.. become friends with them!

Q: my cell phone was dead yesterday so it was off and people keep prank phone calling me and they blocked their number so i cant find it out and i really want to know who it was so is there any way i could find out whos called me?? i think theres a number you dial like *67 but thats not it. i dont really want to call the phone company which is verizon

um.. i think your talking about *69 right? like.. where you call it and theyre like. "the last number who called is...... " but it only works for the last number.. and if they pushed *67 then it wont show up at all.. so yeahh.. i dont think that there is a way you could find out... soryyy

Q: hey in Xanga when you join a blog there is supposed to be a caption under your picture right? well i think you need to go to "account settings" to do it, but there is no box to write about me in! ive checked the FAQ's and nothing there relates to what i am asking. Can someone help?

i think it might be your layout? i would try to change that and see what happens.. other than that.. idn.. sorry.. but def try the layout

&& look at mine!

www.xanga.com/hco_af_love

Q: i have flat straight hair naturally and its tough to curl... i love ashley tisdales hair (when she has it curly) http://www.thehairstyler.com/images/celebrity/Celebrity_1031.jpg how do i get my hair to have the same curls as her what are good curling products and if i scrunch my hair how do i make it look natural... should i blow dry it before or after i scrunch? and if i use a curling iron how do i make it look natural because the curls always come out looking odd.no sponge curlers please because they only make banana curls and i hate them.

♥

yeahh my gay hair is like that too!! but it works if you get a big fat curling iron... and curl it up to about your ears.. i guess.. and then run your fingers through it so that it loosens the curls up.. then.. like.. attack it with hairspray to make it stay perfect!!

thats how im doing it for homecoming btw. lol

Q: So there is this guy and he is very nice and he is always saying to me, you are really cool, you are pretty, etc. So sometimes online he will ask me questions like do you think i am hot, do you think you could ever like me more as a friend and stuff like that.

So usually I say no or idk. Because I don't want to lead him on by saying yes or something else. But then I feel bad, like I am hurting his self esteem and putting him down. What should I do? What should I say when he asks me?

joke around about it... there is this sophmore at my school who isnt that cute and i have a boyfriend... but he`ll like.. look at me.. and if i look at him.. he`ll be like. wow. your so beautiful... wow. your so cute.. andrea.. will you marry me? and stuff like that.. so.. what i say.. is im like.. YEAHH i tRY!! or something. and if he asks if i think hes cute.. i like.. make it a joke.. && im like. "oh ya. brad pitt got nothin on you!" and its not leading him on either... i dont think...

Q: okay!!!!!1 i cannot think of the word...but its been stuck in my head and it is very irritating. it is a word for women who dont like men. not lesbians, but like those weird people that are like ohh men suck and women are so much better men are pigs blah blah.....theres a word for it. just one word. i want to say it starts with like an L or something.......idk!! please help me thiiiiiiiink it is bugging me so bad

is it feminist? mayybbeee?

Q: so im a 15/m and im goin into sophmore year and i havent made out with a girl yet ive gotten close so many times but someone has always come over that she's friends with and messed everything up and ive tried other times and just kind of avoided it what should i do to get over the fear of doing it once so its not a big deal anymore?

thanks in advance

you gotta like.. give yourself a pep talk.. lol.. for real.. when you look in the mirror... be like.. " im gunna make out with her today.. and its not a big deal.. millions of people are making out right this second.. why shouldnt i be one of them!!" lol.. and just do it... you`ll get over it!!

lol.. good luck

Q: OK me and my friend have told eachother everything,
and secrets? never told to anyone.
So one day she asks me, Can I tell you a secret and I'm like sure, and she's like you cant tell anyone.
But one her other friends gave her two ciggartes! and I asked her "Are you gonna use it?" and she's like I dont know. But you have to do it with me. she said and I didnt say anything. I dont know. Shes like so will you and i said SURE!! why! I DONT KNOW! I was stupid! b/c Im not the type of person who stands up for hreself very often. I mean its just a ciggeret. it wouldent hurt me to have just one? would it??

one ciggarett wont hurt you... but.. you shouldnt do that if you dont want to.. like. if your doing it to make her happy.. it kinda makes you seem like a pushover.. ( no offence!! ) if i were you.. i would just be like.. naaaa.. ask someone else to.. i hate the way they smell.. or make up a dumb excuse if u cant say that you dont want to!!
good luck!

Q: I wanted to send an e-mail to one of my best friends have always been there for me no matter what and that I can tell anything to and let her know how much I appreciate her. I've been best friends with her since third grade and I am now in seventh. I was going to put all of our good times in the e-mail, but I don't know what else to put. Does anyone know of something else that I can put in the e-mail?

there was double daring,
pinky swearing
and vowing to be friends forever
our interests in toys
slowly changed to boys
but we`ve always stuck together
we`d have our fights at sleepover nights
that didn`t work out as we planned
but we'd try to forget,
no matter how upset
we'd try to understand..
when i say i love you
i mean it from the heart..
i'll always care
and always be there
like you have from the start
at one point in time
we'll say our goodbyes
become adults and live separate lives
but sun or rain, no matter what weather
your always my friend, * now and forever *

learned that the greatest thing about high school isnt the parties or the drinking or the hook-ups..It's the friendships which means taking chances. I learned that sometimes the things we want to forget are the things which we most need to talk about. I learned that letters from friends are the most important thing, & that sending cards to your friends makes you feel better. But, basically, I just learned that my friends both OLD & NEW Are the most important people to me in the world & without them, I wouldn't be who I am today. So this is a thank you to all of my friends. For always being there & I love you.

Q: I love the smokey eyes look and I have tried to do them on my eyes but i hate it because you can always see my eyeliner a lot. How can I make my eyes stand out without putting on tons of eye makeup and being able to tell that i have eyeliner on. Thanks!!

get eyeliner with a smear thing at the end and smear it to where it does what you want.. there is also a makeup that guys sell in the middle of the mall that is powder... but it can turn into creamy if u add water.. i have it.. i just forgot the brand.. but its amazing... it can be lipgloss.. powder eye shadow or liquid.. but. its like. 45 dollars.. but yeahh.. it really works with the smokey eyes..

you could also try like. revlon.. they have those creamy eye shadows that could work very well for that.

hope i helped..