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every1- i have a huggeeeee prob with my school dress code. for gradutiation and confirmation were expected to dress up. as for the dress, it has to cover shoulders! ive looked EVERYWHERE for a semi-formal dress with some kind of sleeves...plz tell me where to find one! 14/8th grade/f (link)
try macys or one of the other big department stores, they usually have semi formals with sleeves.


I'm 14 years old, female and in the 9th grade. I've been sick for 4 1/2 months now, out of school and everything with an illness called colitis which is a disease in your large intestine and causes constant trips to the bathroom...it's embarassing yeah, but it's not like i picked to have this. Anyways, i would have thought being sick would bring me and my friends closer together but really, it ripped us apart. My best friend, or at least thought she was my best friend, completely ditched me 24/7 and said some really mean things to me and she lives right down the street from me and not once outa the 4 months did she come to my house to just visit with me and whenever she needs me, i'm ALWAYS there for her and like i wanna end the friendship cuz she is just a complete b**** like you wouldn't believe but the thing is, its hard to end the friendship as much as i wanna cuz i have so much fun with her. I need advice on what to do!! It's been driving me crazy for months on what to do and i just don't know anymore...:/ (link)
talk to her and tell her how you feel.


i dated this guy but the timming wasn't right .. anyways we have been talking and we are going out on friday.. actually i'm going over to his house .. my question is even though we have been through that and we have done stuff physically ..its like our 1st date since like 6 months ..are we supposed to catch up were we left of or start again? i mean physically (link)
just go with the flow, as long as your comfortable.


today i sniffed my fabric softener and it smelt good and i stuck it up my nose and the powder rubbed off into my nose and i have no sense of smell what do i do? (link)
tell a doctor or one of your parents.


ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me but not right next to me .. it went me, his friend murphy(murphy likes me) and then josh and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female (link)
he probably still does like you, but he is involved with another girl, so don't throw yourself at him or anything like that. try to get things just the way they were before you went out in the first place and maybe the same thing will happen again...


I started dating this guy when I was fifteen who was eighteen. He and I were together for a year and two months....partially because I ran away with him for five of them. Well, this last December I had his child and my mom and I won't let him have any part of it. But since he was eighteen, I just want to make sure that in two years when I'm eighteen he can't try to fight for custody. Would he have any rights over my son?
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ya... he could. but you can go to court and fight it, saying that he wasn't there at all for 3 years and bla-bla. if he does want custody... get a good lawyer.


well as you know.... iam asking you about friends. iam in grade 8 and i have lots of friends and i think demi linzey jennifer lily kim kelsi sammi and jordana are my best friends..but lately demi, linzey and jennifer have been kinda zoneing(i think thats how u spell it) me out. whats up with them?? (link)
they're probably just becoming closer between the three of them


well i'm 13 and i'm a female and i totally broke out on my forehead and i have a dance coming up!! i need help on how to get rid of it fast!! any advice or suggestions? also, is it because i ate chocolate or like junk foods? (i've heard that the reason people break out...)ThAnkS fOr uR HeLp!!! *i RaTe* (link)
wash your face really well twice a day until it clears up. eating chocalte does not make you break outany worse than other foods would.


im totally falling for my bestfriend. i liked him at the beginning of the year, and because of that we became the good friends we are now. we do everything together. Like EVERYTHING. and now, im falling for him again. hes just, hes perfect. (link)
just hook up with him randomly, like when it's just the two of you.


okay so im in 8th grade and i like this boy in 9th, EVERYONE knows i like him, even he knows! but here's the thing, i dont even know him but i feel REALLY uncomfortable being around him because whenever we are around eachother one of my friends yells out something like "hey! there;s your lover" as a joke or whatever but it really embaresses me and i've tried to be normal with him but my friends just screw it up!! also im good friends with his little brother (in my grade), and his brother ALWAYS makes fun of me in like a meanw ay for liking his brother!! and omg i am so confused i dont know if he likes me (the 9th grade brother)! please help, i cant really even understand what i just wrote but all i want to know is :
A:do you think i might have a little chance with the 9th grade brother?
B: how do i get my fried (the 98th grade brother) to stop being immature and mean?
C:how do i get the fact that i HATE it when my friends yell out things infront of him?

Thanks! sorry if its long and doesnt really make sence!
sensiraly (cant spell), confused one..... (link)
you do have a cchance with the 9th grade guy if the feelings are mutual. to get your friends to stop being immature about it, be mature about it. when they're saying things like "hjere comes your lover" just be like, i like him, but that doesn't make him my lover. and if you don't want them yelling out anything, just talk to them about how you feel


OK when i first learned about sex back in middle school...i said to myself "im waiting until marriage" right away. I want to wait..because i dont know if i can deal with the emotions..but then again i want to do it (not now..definately not ready) in the future..you know when i find a bf when im like 18 + ..probably more like in my 20's though. I dont know..i just cant picture myself only havving sex with one man..plus im only 15 and im so curious about it now..im scared that what if i dont get married til im 30? I dont know if i can wait 15 more years..it seems to distant. How do i know for sure if im going to wait? or if im not? Do any of you out there have premarital sex..or have done it with a few people? Was the emotion too much for you when you broke up ? Or a one night stand..was that too much for you? I'll rate 5's (link)
if your not sure, then don't do it. do it when you are sure, no matter how long away that is. if you are curious there are ways of fooling around without having sex.


I need help because I have always been a sporty type of person, and now I like this one boy. People just don't understand that I have a sensitive side. I need help to make it seem that I have a sensitive side and for people to accept me for this.
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show him that you do...


ok the guy I'm crazy about is also a good friend of mine. And for the last week I've noticed he's been hanging around with B and I thought he liked her a lot. And today I saw him writing a note that and he was asking her out. Then after school I talked to him and said, "So did u give it to her?" and he said "yeah, but it's because I'm being forced into it." and so I asked him what was going on, and he told me that B's friend W has been driving him crazy trying to get him to go out with B, and he's sick of it so he asked her out and really only wants to be friends with B. (which made me really happy by the way... ) so my question is, what should I do now??? (link)
talk to the chick and tell her that you really like him and to please not go out with him for your feelings...


today my friend was over at his grandmothers house which is only 5 houses down and after school we went for a walk with my dog. well he grabed my hand and pulled me or should i say dragged me and my dog into the woods. he slung me down on the ground he pulled his dick out and wus rubbing all up on me with it. he wanted me to give him a blow job but i didn't want to thats just nasty. so he was like forcing me too then i pushed him against a tree then he looked like he was about to slap the crap out of me i was so scared. i don't know what i should do i want to tell my mom but then she will never let me near him again but i don't want to be friends with him anymore and if i tell her shell like be all overpertected and she already is. so what do i do i'm so scared and confused.

sorry this is so long (link)
never be around him, ever again... do tell your mom... if it made you that uncomfortable, press charges.


how can i get girls to like me more than my twin...im alredy pretty lucky though (link)
just be more outgoing then him... try to have more attention on you than on him (without getting to cocky...)


ok i like this guy lets call him mark. ok well i went out with him in the summer and i dumped him.i also went out with him 2 years ago and we always kept in touch because i moved to a different school. well now he is at my school again and i dont ever talk to him and i really want to go out with him again. the thing is that since this summer the most he has said to me is hey. and i want to bacome really good friends with him again and i dont know how please pleas help me! i rate high!
~amy (link)
try being around him more, become friends with his friends, and you'll be bumping into eachother all the time.


My room always is smelly, I want to know some inexpensive ways to make it smell better.(I can't use candles and purfume son't work.) THANKS ALOT!! (link)
try cleaning it...


Well, on Valentine's Day my school had these little valentine's cards you could send to your crush. I sent one to this guy I like, but I don't think he's knows it was from me and I'm tired of waiting on him. I never get to talk to him, so I don't know what to do. How do I let him know in a round-about way that I like him?
Thanks! (link)
just run up and talk to him at lunch... or get his number from someone


HELP!im 14/f..here it goes..in like october i started kinda fooling around with an eating disorder but didnt really realize i was. since then ive collapsed twice..im really getting scard somethings really wrong with me bc of this! my sister knows & she thinks i told my mom and that im all good now. i feel guilty that im basicly lying to my sister when she asks me how its going and im scard ive done some kinda permanent damage to my body! i really dont want to be known as that girl with an eating disorder but its hard not to be! (link)
tell your parents. if you've collasped then you need medical attention.


my sister and i have always gotten along great...until last week when she came home...shes 21 & im 14 btw..anyways, she became the first to find out about some "not so good" stuff ive been doing and told me i had to tell mom..I DONT WANNA! she said if i by next week shes going to!im so mad @ her! PLEASE HELP! i dont want my mom knowing and i dont want to loose the awesome relationship w/ my sister either! (link)
if she thinks your mom should know, then she probably should. your sister is the person that knows you the best and you should trust her. if your mom gets mad, then she gets mad, but if you know it's bad you shouldn't have done itn the first place (but i wouldn't suggest telling your sister any "bad things" ever again)




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