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ok so i am very over obsessed with my weight well i used to be and all my friends asked me how i threw up but i didnt and i dont know what to say so if someone does can you tell me so i tell them
I'm confused...did you used to be/are bulimic? or do your friends just think that because you have lost weight? If the second is the case, tell them that if they can't be happy for you for healthily losing the weight you wanted and looking better, than they aren't being very supportive friends. People like to spread rumors and sometimes its even the closest people to you. If they continue to spread rumors and confront you about false actions, just ignore it. My friend lost A TON of weight by excersising and eating healthy, yet people said that she was anorexic. This was TOTALLY not true and she just learned to ignore it. It may hurt, but as long as you know it isn't true, it's okay. I'm sure there is someone out there who will believe you and you can confide in.
Ive got 2 friend, Tamsinn and Ben and theyre a couple. Well Tamsin wants to break up with Ben because she says he's annoying and all that...but Ben is trying to kill himself now that he heard that...I need help because i really dont want to lose a friend.
Thanks
Talk to Ben about it and tell him that there are other girls out there and he shouldn't throw his whole life away for it. I know someone that killed himself because his girlfriend broke up with him and it hurt SO many people around him. Every day my best friend cries at the thought of him and so do several others. Tell him that if he kills himself, it's not just him losing his own life, but MANY people around him will feel they've lost a piece of themselves along with him. It's a selfish thing to do to kill yourself in my opinion. As for Tamsin, tell her to be very gentle with him when she breaks up with him. Hope i helped!
my bff lives in a diff. coournty and resentlly her soo called friends over there were talking crap bout her and were being really REALLY snotty to her! Well i emailed them both and told them off with my friend here (she is also that girl's bff). Well i think that it got them into even a more fight and they h8 her even more now we apologized but now they are being really REALLY horrible to us!! What should we do????
(funny that i just read this one on some kid named Evan's advice column and he asked you if you were mexican....) anyways...just stay out of it. It's your friends business not yours. I mean..usually I would say to stick up for your friends, but she lives in a different country and what can you do? Cuss someone out through an email?? that's really 5th grade of you. I think that you should just tell you friend sorry for getting them more mad at her and that you can't do anything about it. I suggest that she just blows off these girls because she shouldn't be friends with them if they are so mean to her anyways. Hope i helped!
ok, me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over 3 months, but we havent made out yet. we hold hands and kiss, but not open mouth. we've said that we love each other, and idk. is there a problem with this? i mean we talked about it and said we're ready, but like we just cant find the right time cuz of school and stuff.
don't worry about it! When the time is right, it'll happen. In my opinion, not going too fast is better because then when something does happen, it means much more because you've waited and waited and then it finally happened. It's a lot more satisfactory than just sexing it up the first date lol. So chill out for the time being. It'll happen when it happens and don't concern yourself with it.
sorry is this is long but I really need help so please don't skip over it
Ok my parents have been divorced my whole life I don't even know who my dad is. Well my mom has serious problems with finding guys. They usually beat her or cheat on her. I've had about a dozen stepfathers and all of them treat her like shit and she doesn't deserve that. Well my newest stepfather Richie has been with my mother for 2 years now and she is really happy with him. I've never seen my mom this happy before. He is soo nice to her. But the thing is he has a son (my stepbrother) who is constantly hitting me and raping me. I tried talking to my mom about it and she said that she would talk to my stepdad and my stepbrother. She did and then it stopped for a little while but then he did it again and it was even worse than it was before. He had a couple of his friends over and they thought that it would be fun to beat and rape his 14 year old step sister. I talked to my stepdad and he told me to stop making things up. He told my mother that I was making things up and they sent me to a shrink. Needless to say my stepbrother continued to do these things to me. I confronted my mother again and she told me to talk to my stepdad. I did and he told me that I was lying and that even if I wasn't I needed to get over it because we are a happy family and we all have to make sacrifices I told him that that was wrong and he hit me! Now he's been hitting me too when my mom isn't around. I don't know what to do. She is soo happy and she deserves to be. I don't want to ruin this for her. My question is should I just deal with this so that she can be happy or is there anyway that I can get help without ruining this for her?
Wow. this is really serious. YOu need to get out of the house immediately, but don't go anywhere unles you know a place you'll be safe. Don't just run away to nowhere..that would be dumb. Personally I never think that abortion is the answer. It is not that babies fault for the horrible things your step-brother and his friends did/do. If you live in the DFW area, you should check into this place called Mercy House. It's a program that houses young, single, pregnant women until they have had the baby and can get back on there feet. I don't know if you live around there or not, but if you do, email me at Natileexox@aol.com and I can give you some more information. If you don't live in this area, I'm sure that there are such things where you live, and if not, then go to a church in your area. DON'T GO TO PLANNED PARENTHOOD! All they want you to do is abort your child and pay them money for it. I believe you should have the baby and give it up for adoption. There is no such thing as an "unwanted baby." There are waiting lists that go on FOREVER for families that want to adopt. And don't let anyone try to tell you that the baby is not alive or is just tissue, because the babies heart starts beating 3 weeks into the pregnancy. I have some really good websites that you can go to and check out things about abortion but i can't find them right now. If you want them, email me and I'll try to find them.
As far as keeping your mom happy, if she really loves you and is a good mom, she won't be happy if you are being raped, beaten ect. ect. Talk to her and tell her that you are pregnant by rape and if she doesn't do anything about it, you have to take matters into your own hands and do what I said to do above.
PLEASE email me because I want to help! I hope this answer gave you at least SOME insite.
Natalie
this may sound scary but lately i have these thoughts like a voice in my head saying im a satanist. i don't want to be and i try to force the thought out and think that god is my only one though it always comes back. i got this book and it had a list of all the warning signs of a satanist and i had all of them except for one. i think i am becoming a satanist. i also do witchcraft but i never did anything involving the devil. now all i can think about is becoming a satnist i need serious help. i am originally catholic. and i am a girl.
First of all, witchcraft is involving yourself with the devil. Witchcraft is satanic in itself. I would compeletly stop doing any way, shape, or form of it before you get to where you can't stop. The voice in your head is the devil. That probably soudns dumb but it is. If the devil is attacking you so much, then he is obviously scared of what you could become on Gods side. Pray about it, and ask God to help you. Whenever I feel that the devil is attacking me for something, I know that he is just scared of who I am and what I could do to him with Gods protection, and I sometimes whisper it, or sometimes shout at him to go away in the name of Jesus Christ. No one can force you to be a satanist and if you truely believe it's wrong and you don't want to do it you can break free of the devils bond. This all sounds like some dumb sermon or something but its the truth. Please email me at Natileexox@aol.com or IM me: Natileexox. I really want to help.
idk wat to really say but theres this guy i really like alot and hes 2 years older then me but i think he likes me cuz in the halls in stuff hell say hi and stuff and once he asked for my number but then his friend came up or something and he got distracted idk if he does or not tho but i hate makin first moves, any advice?
Well, he definately likes you if he asked for your number, and seeing he hasn't pursued the number since he was interrupted shows that he is just as shy to make the first move as you. My advice is to just talk to him and casually ask him if he wants to see a movie or something. You don't even have to make it sound like a date, just ask him like you are friends, and I'm sure he will say yes and you two will have a great time! good luck!
Alright well me and this kid have gone out twice fer about 2 months each tyme and we kinda broke up fer a month and we both went out with different people! so then he asked me to hang out with him and we hung out all this week and it kinda leaded to us having sex.. but i didnt think it was a big deal becasue he always tells me he loves me and stuff but everytime were together his ex-girlfriend calls him and it really makes me mad and then he kinda tells everyone were just friends but then he tells me were in love but i dunno what to do?
I hate to tell you this, but he just wants sex. I would dump him if I were you. I know that you may feel like he is the only guy for you or that he loves you..but if he isn't commited and just takes the sex you had lightly, then I don't think that he wants you for you, but for what you put out. I know that sounds horrible and mean, but its the God-aweful truth. I hope things turn out okay.
I'm 15, female and I have been dating my bf for almost a month now. I am a cutter but none of my friends know about it. My bf and I were talking about one of our friends being a cutter and he asked me if I was. I lied to him and told him I wasn't. Now I feel terrible about lying to him. I afraid of how he will react if I tell him. Do you think I should tell him the truth?
I think that you should see how he feels about the subject. Maybe bring up the girl that you were talking about who is also a cutter. Then, once you see his reaction to her cutting, tell him that you lied. BUT ONLY TELL HIM THIS IF YOU CAN TRUST HIM. It's very important that he doesn't go telling the world about you cutting and I'm sure you would agree. If he is a good boyfriend, once you tell him he will most likely suggest that you get some help, and this would be a good idea. No matter how much is going on in your life, there are other ways to release your pain/anger/fear or whatever is going on. I have never experience cutting, but some of my close friends do. It's difficult to know that they are hurting themselves and I'm sure that anyone close to you (like your boyfriend) is very concerned and wants you to stop hurting yourself. I know that life can be difficult, trust me. I have had a pretty screwed up life too, but I'm alive, and that's all that matters. I have air in my lungs and tomorrow is a new day and only I decide how I deal with what the future brings.
Theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.
But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM. Which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.
The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.
So what I would like to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)
I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)
Well, first of all...if he has hurt you so much, why are you even still bothering with this guy? I'm sure that there are PLENTY of other guys out there dying to date you. Don't waste your time on this guy if he is just now noticing you after being a jerk to you!
ok my mom like dosent trust me 1 bit at all and i really need to ask a questio on here but.. my mom puts like these tracker things on my computer she can read everything i do on here anything i type and stuff like that anywhere i go on the computer.. so .. i want to ask everyone a question on here but if i asked my mom would read it and i would get in sooo much trouble i really need an answer thought but i still dont want to get in trouble
You should go talk to a school counciler or a pastor at your church. I know that sounds lame, but what else are you going to do? And about your mom not trusting you..I know how you feel. I have never done anything to EVER make my mom not trust me, and yet she doesn't. I bet your mom is just worried about you and is holding on to her "baby girl." She doesn't want you to get hurt. If it seems like she doesn't trust you even though you havn't done anything bad, then she is probably not concerned that YOU will do anything bad, but that others will and you will get in trouble or hurt for others mistakes. If you want to talk more contact me at Natileexox@aol.com . I don't konw if your mom can read your emails but if not then feel free to talk! (and my mom has parent controls on my screen name too..so your not the only one!! lol) bye.
my mom said i cant have a sweet 16 party with my friends bc my sisters didnt get one..do u think this is fair or no?
I personally don't think it is fair. What the situation or reason was in the past that made it so your sister couldn't or just didn't want to have a sweet sixteen is most likely different from the situation right now. I would sit down and talk to your mom about the differences in the situations between your sisters 16th birthday and your own. To make your argument more convincing, ask your sister if she doesn't mind you having a party even though she didn't and if she says its fine then make sure your mom knows what your sister thinks. Lay all of your feelings out on the table and say things like "But mom...this will be a moment in my life that I will want to treasure for the rest of my life!" and other corny stuff lol. good luck!
ok well theres 2 guys Jake and keith. well yeah im going out with Keith but before i went out with Keith i really im mean really liked Jake and i think Jake is going to ask me out agian and i dont think i will be able to say no but im not going to break up with Keith because i like him alot to and cheeting is not an option for me because i aways tell the truth (to my BF'S) and i dont kno if i still have feelings 4 Jake or not because he asked me out once before and i had said no because i needed him to meet my mom cuz he waz older then me like 3 years well he meet my mom and i dont kno what to do i like Keith so much but i like Jake to i just dont kno how much Help plz....
I'm going to have to agree with Crazy Girl on this one. I believe that your best bet is to stay with Keith for the time being. I'm sure that Jake will understand if you just tell him that you are with Keith and don't want to screw that up by cheating on him. If Jake is a good guy, then he will understand and respect your decision. And who knows..things might now work out for you and Keith in the future and if so, then see where your feelings with Jake still stand.
So like...I dont have a pet...but like all my friends do. And it like really makes me sad. Like, what should I do?
well friend...i believe there is a special place in the heaven (ehhem..to be politically correct: the afterlife) for animal lovers like you. if you really want a pet that bad...keep in mind that our school has plenty of nice, heathy rats/mice to choose from. How do I know they are healthy? because they ate my lunch one day and it was a very healthy lunch indeed. well..i hope that answers your question. Please feel free to ask away any time of night or day...yes that was a slogan. (copy right: me..11:15pm Feb. 11)