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One of my best guy friends who calls me all the time (like literally every 2 minutes) well my best friend told me that he likes me but i didnt believe her and then he told me he did and i just thought of him as my friend so i was like no and then he got a girl friend and it hurt me and i think i'm just in denial cuz i do have feelings for him. Do y'all think I have feelings for him?

yes, yes I do. Hint around to tell him that your interested, or whether he's interested. If you know he's interested still, tell him. Then he can make the choice whether he wants to dump his girlfriend, or stay with her. You'll never know till you put it out there.

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well i am a male and i am 15 i have a problem with my love life.... I am a tennis player and this 1 girl i was playing with i sorta like. I never talked too her... she seems nice... and she is pretty.. im sort of a shy guy though when it comes to me talking to a girl. I dont know y though. I am afraid of rejection. that is a maid reason i am afraid to talk to her. How do I get over my fear and work up the courage to talk to her?

Haha I'm the same way with guys. What I find works is you think up something really random to ask her, like I dunno, where the bathroom is, or where the vending machine is. Do that a couple of times, but make sure you dont ask the same thing twice then she'll think your an idiot. Eventually, ask her about tennis, it's a common intrest you already know. If the conversation flows keep going, if it doesn't, try again, or try something else

hope i helped!
~SOME_GIRL

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Hey!
What are your favorite names for guys and girls??

Middle names are always appreciated too!!

:)

Thanks!
*(no worries, Im NOT having a kid anytime soon!)*

*-KeLs-*

noah for guys, and madison and abigal-call her abby for girls!

c ya
some girl

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help i get so depressed some times im starting to drink and i dont want to go any depper into alchohol. can you help me please i hate my new school im so unhappy

moving sucks. I know i moved 8 times before I hit puberty. I know you've heard it a million times before, but just get out there and meet some people. Join clubs, and stuff

alchohols fun once and a while at parties, but don't go over board. take care.

some girl

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14/female
A lot of people at school thinks my life is perfect. it is far from it. i wont get into too much detail and make this too long but i have a few good friends that i love but there are so many morons that get mad because i get good grades or whatever. i just wanted to know does this go away in high school? or will people still asume my life is great because i get good grades?

thank you

Wow, your me. People see me the same way. But thats thier fault. They don't take the time to get to know you just see good grades, decent friends, and think PERFECT!

It didn't go away completely for me in high school. You have to get to know someone a lot before they relize that you're not the person they thought. The best thing to do is find a few REALLY good friends. Then get to know people, by the end of high school, I wasn't miss perfect anymore. I was just one of the class

hope i helped!

~some girl

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I'm in a family low on money (my mom and dad have low income jobs) well I was supposed to sign up for spring league basketball($40) or cheerleading($65) and couldn't because we have no money. Now everyone thinks I'm poor and is making fun of me even my BFF. What should I do?

Firstly, what jerks. If they can't accept your financial situation it's thier problems. Show them that your independaant and that you can hold your own. Walk with your head high, and try not to show any pain when they make fun of you.

As for missing out for your sports, that sucks. I did cheerleading camp a few years ago, what a blast. Why don't you try picking up sum babysitting jobs, or something, make a few bucks so you could go?

Hope I helped

~some girl

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Hey guys! i just started going out with this boy who is absolutly amazing... he's perfect for me, and is soooo sweet and increible i love him !lol.. we've only been going out for a month but already i've like fallen for him. But i was wondering, what are some tips to keep it going realy well? becuase i don't want to loose him. He also likes me a lot too, but i just want little things that could make him more attachted or somthing. Thankss

If your looking for something long term, be yourself. If you start being fake, it's eventually going to come and bit you in the ass. Show him that you care, Give him a smile, a hug, a kiss. Don't take him for granted and your set!

~some girl

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ok what should i do i mean i like this guy well were together but he always is tryin to make me pissed off and crap and is a total suck up with my mom and when he comes over all he wants to do is be with my mom and brother and totally ignore me and if i dont do what he says he gets all pissed off and threatens to leave and break up with me? help! what should i do?!!
Thanks Kayla Ann!

First of all, you can be happy that he's at least trying to like your parents. I've brought boyfriends home, who say hi, then just wanna go downstairs and make out. But, he's going too far. Remind him that hes dating YOU not your family. Try going out with him instead of staying in. Or try talking to your family, to tell them to back off your boyfriend. If I were you though, I'd probably get fed up.

Plus if he's getting mad at you because your not doing what he says, you may want to dump him. He might have some control issues that could get worse as your relationship wares on.

~some girl

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I just want to know what are some things you can say to a girl to charm her and make her like you. Such what are some things i could say to the girl i like to just slowly make her like me. Are there anythings that girls like to hear that charms them. Thanks any help is pretty much appreciated

Girls are always scared that you don't like them. At least I am, if I start to fall for a guy, I want to know that he likes me too. So, show it. Make eye contact, smile at her, let her catch you looking at her while shes looking away, then pretend you weren't doing it. If you sit next to her, sit close, and try to keep a steady conversation going. Be outgoing, but don't scare her away.

Lastly, if she clearly isn't into you, back off. Theres more of a chance of her eventually falling for her on her own then you trying to pressure her. It makes us uncomfortable, and uneasy. Good luck
~some girl

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Recently my boyfriend and I moved in together. Afterwards I found out he has been making new female friends and not telling me. He never talks to them when I'm arond and only on his cell phone (never our home phone)and calls have been made and recieved all hours of the day and night even as late as 1:00-3:00am. I am ok with his previous female friends, the ones he had before we met, but don't like the new ones. He said he wouldn't do this anymore, if I was uncomfortable with it and stopped talking to them for a few weeks. I recently found out he has a new female in his life and again didn't tell me. Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be bothered by this?

okay, so i agree, a new friend thats a girl isn't that big of a deal. You need to give the guy some space. Yet, he's lying to you. Thats where he made the wrong turn. I say, you confront him, make sure he's clear that he's not dealing with a jealous girlfreind, but a girl that is sumply tired of his lying, that could invlolve cheating.

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