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Q: im 13 and a female. me and my family might be moving away and i told my best friend (hes also my crush) and he started crying and told me that he loves me. i had him over to play the next day and whenever we were alone we huged and kissed but we arent going out because we both have other people. after the holidays we both said that we are going to dump our boyfriend and girlfriend. im afraid he might ask me out. what if he does i really love him but if i move it isnt that far and ill be able to talk over msn but it would be weirder... please help me!
**sleepiesheep**
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If you really like him and you are breaking up with your boyfriend, then that would be a good thing if he asked you out right? Why are you afraid? If you really like him and he likes you then that is a wonderful thing. If you move and it isn't that far, then things shouldn't be that much different. Good luck =]. Ask me if you have any more questions!
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Q: Could you date someone who had very different or totally contrary views to your own. For example, if you were a dedicated Democrat and they were a Republican, or if you were quite religious and they were an atheist. Would those sort of things be a dealbreaker for you or would you still want to see them?
Do you think relationships like that are doomed or are disagreements like that healthy?
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I don't think that it would be much of a problem. If you guys are truly ment to be then it shouldn't matter. Some of the most compatible people in the world have totally different opinions. Good luck with your relationship! =] If you have any other questions don't be afraid to ask!
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Q: I'm 14. I'ma girl and I've been smoking for 2 years. Im a smoker and I like it and I know I'm not going to quit. I'm tired of hiding it and I want to smoke in the house with my mom like she does. I just dont know the best way to tell her. Should I just say it or should i write her a letter.
**K8e
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First of all I hope you know the dangers of smoking. There are terrible diseases that can come from it. Such as lung cancer, and alot more that can destroy your health and the health of others (example would be second hand smoking). Also I hope you know that smoking is illegal for somebody your age, just like drinking is. If you are prepared to suffer the consequences of smoking then that is your choice. But if you really want to tell your mom then I suggest telling her in person, to her face, because writing a letter seems very immature and impersonal. If you want her to take you seriously, as an adult, then tell her directly. (Even though you are not an adult and should not be smoking). I am also 14 and understand that you may like it, I just want you to understand the consequences.
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I don't agree with what he said below me. But here is my advice: look them in the eyes and smile at them. Don't break eye contact for atleast 3 mississippi seconds. And make sure your smile isn't like a spaz would smile..just a kind little smile. A conversation starter would be, which school do you go to? Just remember that you are beautiful so you have no reason to be shy. And most of all, have fun =).
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Q: I really don't like to eat -- I think it's a waste of time and I have always thought that. I eat the bare minimum to survive. Sometimes I get problems (headaches, mental confusion, memory loss, hysteria) because of my blood sugar dropping to nothing because I haven't eaten. I don't think I'm fat or anything, and my weight, which is within normal limits, has been basically the same since I was 14 (I'm 20 now, and female, incidentally). There are only about 12 foods I like and maybe another 12 I can eat but don't like -- the rest I will not touch no matter how hungry I am. Oh, and when I do eat, about half the time I get really sick later, not on purpose, very painful and embarrassing diarrhea and gas problems.
I honestly don't think it's that big a deal, I'm used to it, but my friends are disturbed by my behavior when they eat with me, or rather when they eat and I pick at my food. Do I have an eating disorder or is it just a quirk?
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My sister is the same way. She is 22 now and weighs 100 pounds. The same as me, and I am 14. Our family has always had very fast metabalisms. We just don't eat very much. My sister and I onlky eat because we know we have to. However, we don't feel sick after we eat, unless we eat too much. If you are having sicknesses then mabye you should try visiting a doctor. Otherwise I don't think it is such a big deal. =] hope i helped.
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Q: Is it healthy for a short 14 year old to weigh 100pounds? and is there any way other than pills to get rid of a stomach? Specific exercises? foods? anything.
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Yes that is perfectly normal =]
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Q: I just began goin out with this girl. I have never liked someone so much, the problem is I don't have alot of cash these days. What is a gift that she might like but won't empty out my wallet? We're both fourteen.
Thanks,
Jeff
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I am 14 and what I am hoping to get from my boyfriend for Christmas is a stuffed animal. I think this would really be special because I could sleep with it everynight, look at it everyday and remember that he gave it to me, and keep it forever. It is just a nice gift that any girl would love.
good luck =]
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Q: I'm 15/f and really shy. I can't phone people, answer the door, buy things from shops, talk to people I don't know well.. and basically stuff like that. Everyone else can do normal things like that easily but I can't.. my hands start shaking and my stomach goes all tight, I blush and I just wanna run away when that happens. I think I'm scared of people judging me or something. I know people won't really care if I make mistakes but I worry about things so much anyway that I can't talk to people.
I can't even apply for college because you have to have an interview! I probably won't ever get married or get a job and I'll be a huge failure just because I'm shy! I don't know if I can get counselling because how would they be able to help me when I can't even speak to them? It's ruining my life. People just say 'snap out of it' or 'get some confidence'.. well it's not that easy, you can't buy confidence. My dad calls me a coward because I hate walking past people in the street.. which I suppose I am, but he thinks I'm pretending to be shy or something.
How can I get over it without seeing a counsellor? Are there medicines that work? Thanks xx
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Aw, ok listen. Medicines will not help. It may seem like an easy out for now, but trust me, they end up making things worse. If you go on medication then it will ruin your body. For example, it may mess up your stomach and inable you from having children. I had the same EXACT problem last year! This problem has to do with being self-conscious..overly self-conscious. I actually considered going to a therapist. But then somebody told me a wonderful way to overcome this: You go to the mirror and look at yourself. And well, since everybody only sees the bad points about themselves when they look in the mirror, only look at the good points. Like, if you have beautiful eyes, be like, "wow, my eyes are so pretty...nobody I know has eyes like mine." Tell yourself you are beautiful and that anybody would be lucky to talk to you. When somebody walks by you, and they look at you, they are looking at all your good points. You are just viewing it as if they are looking at your bad points because thats the only thing that you see when you look in the mirror. I followed this advice because I didn't want to be shy anymore before going into my first year at high school. Now, I am really popular and one day I asked my friends, "hey do I come off as the shy type to you guys?" And when I told them I used to be so shy that I couldn't talk to people they couldn't believe it. I wish you the best of luck =]
-Josi
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Q: 14/f...Tomorrow me and my friends (2 guys, 2 girls including me) are going to hang out a park all together. My crush, Alex, is also going to be there because one of the guys is friends with him. I don't really know my crush that well because I've only talked to him a few times before. I kind of want him to get to know ME and I don't know how to do that if we're all in a group. Like I think we would be playing football or some type of sport. I don't know how to act around him so that he could get to know me. I don't want tomorrow to turn out being a day where I didn't talk to him at all. Any ideas? thanx
I RATE HIGH!!!
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Trust me, just be yourself. If you try to pretend to be something your not you are going to end up looking like a total spaz. Believe me, I know, I have learned =]. Just be yourself and he will notice you. When he shows up, you can be like, "Hey alex" but let him know that you aren't trying to get him to notice you. Like, be aloof. But don't go hang around your other friends and act like you can only talk to them, because it will show. And remember, just have fun =].
-Josi
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Q: Is there anything that promotes you to get out of bed in the morning? I always feel so miserable getting up, and I need something to jumpstart my mornings.
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go to bed earlier so your body can get more sleep =]
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Q: OK..I need hElp! im a girl ok and im 15 and so theres this boy i've liked since the end of the summer and he knows i like him because my friends always be like she likes u and so and so..but i don't know he's very complicated, it seems like he likes me cuz he calls me every night and we fall asleep together and its sooo cute! Everyone thinks that we would be a cute couple..but he just doesn't asked me out. I've asked him awhile ago but he was like i dont know and i dont wanna presure him and think im a crazy person I just don't know what to do!
Please help
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Mabye he just needs some friends who are girls right now. There is nothing wrong with having guy friends. They are the best people to talk to. They are blunt and tell you the truth without trying to make it sound good =p. This sounds like a great relationship. Good luck!
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Q: I'm starting to throw up my dinner each night. I know this isn't good, but i cant stop myself. What should i do?
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Your right, this is not very good. I would go see a doctor if this continues. Also, if you are eating way too much, this could be causing you to throw up. Try eating a little less, but make sure you get a reasonable amount of food in you. =] Hope I helped!
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Q: can your body treat strep throat with out antibiotics? i need this asap.it is for school
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Yes it can. Just make sure that you drink alot of fluids (water is best), not sugar (because viruses feed on sugar), and get plenty of rest. It will only turn into something worse if you do not follow these things. Hope I helped!
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Q: If you had a choice would you get a BMW or Corvette?
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BMW! Corvettes look really cool but BMWs are so much safer. If you get into a crash in a Corvette, your car will be totally ruined. In a BMW, it has extra saftey precautions.
hope i helped =]
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Q: okay. i really need my braces off. like i got them in 6th grade. and im now a freshman! i dont wear my elastics, and if i wear them they'll come off. and to those that have already had elastics and braces, approx. how long will it take for my teeth to not have an over bite anymore? i really need my braces off!!!!
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I had my braces for one year. I will tell you this right now...if you don't wear your elastics, it won't fix your over bite, and they WON'T take your braces off. So my advice is to wear your elastics, and make them stay on. The longer you wait to wear them, the longer you will have braces. =] hope i helped
oxo Jo
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Q: I'm wondering, I'm only 14 at the moment, but girls my age seem to go for the bad guys and the biggest jerks. Why is that? I am a gentleman and I am as nice as can be and they always tell me that but why do they go for the jerks?
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im 14/f and sooo many people have asked me that question. it is actually very simple. the bad boys are spontanious and arent afraid to express their feelings. honestly...think about this question. When you want to tell a girl you like her, do u think about it for a long time or just go out and say it? Well chances are, if you are a gentleman, you would think about it for a LONG time and make sure she likes you back. A "bad boy" would just go out and tell her, and girls like that, they really don't like to wait around for a guy to come up to her and tell her that he likes her. But i think that IT IS GREAT that you are a gentleman. Gentleman are the ones who will succeed in finidng a marriage and long term relationship later in their life. It may not seem like it now, but you will find a girl that loves you for who you are, and your personality. Mabye you could just try to be a little more bold. Take little steps. For example, if you like a girl, go up to her and say, "hey..i like you, i think your awesome and beautiful, would you want to go out with me sometime?" it may seem hard to get it out, but go in front of the mirror and look at yourself. look yourself in the eye and say, "i am so handsome. any girl would be lucky to have me. i will ask this girl out with confidence. if she says no, then i will know one thing about that girl, she doesnt deserve me..because I am the best guy out there.
=] i hope i helped!
-Josi
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Q: There's this one guy named john in 2 of my classes and i dont sit near him in any of them. He's really cute and i want to get to know him. The only problem is that ive never really talked to him..i'm to afraid to. does anybody have any ideas on how to start a conversation with him?
and i dont feel comfortable with just going up to him randomly and saying something to him. i feel like that would be weird; just coming up to a guy that u have never talked to and just introducing myself.
any other ideas?? please help..
thanx
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what might work is if you make yourself noticiable in class. answer alot of questions or start a debate that would catch everyone's attention. that would get him to notice you. or you could ask him for help in an assignment. hope i helped!
--Juliet
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Q: okay this is kind of embarassing, and it may seem like i`m worrying over nothing .. but i need help in figuring this out.
All my life i`ve been scared of being alone with guys for some reason.. and ive always had this HUGE fear of getting raped by guys and stuff...like i get petrified if i have to be alone in a car with a man i don't know.. and im also terrified of getting locked into rooms which is also kind of weird..
another thing, when i was ELEVEN years old, i had a girl doctor, and all she did was stick her hands up my shirt for a physical, and i mean it was no big deal, but i started BALLING MY EYES OUT, saying "you didnt ask me first!" and stuff, and i mean i could understand myself just getting a little pissed, but i was crying and everything, and i felt so violated and used, and i dont know why because it wasnt a big deal at all!
I`ve always questioned myself like if i was raped or touched in my past somehow.. but it never added up ,i mean my mom wouldnt ever do that, and my dad is AWESOME and he`s really protective so it wasnt him, and i have no siblings...so i just brushed it off...its so weird though like i have this weird obsessive feeling inside me that something happened to me as a kid, which is why i react to things the way i do now..
Well, recently my dad said to me "Did anything weird to you happend when you were at Montessory Pre-school ?" and i said "I dont remember, why?" and he said "Because a long time ago on the news when you were 4 we had to take you out of that school, they closed it because something weird was going on there..like someone was doing sexual things to the kids" and when he said that i just thought to myself "holy shit, i wonder if thats why im like this.. i wonder if that happened to me" but i just asked him "well what else happened" and he said "they dont really know, they just closed and the woman went out of town.. something weird was going on in there though, and they all of a sudden closed"
So.. I was just thinking to myself.. is there a possiblity that maybe i was one of the kids who got touched in weird ways? and even though i dont remember it..could it still be affecting my life now? like if something like that happens to you as a child.. can you conciously feel it sort-of even if you dont remember it?
please help me, i feel so confused.
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Yes it is very possible. My advice to you is to research this. Mabye look up some old news articles on the internet about it. Hope you feel better =]
--Josi
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Q: I'm about to ask out a boy that i like...how do i do it!? ahh!!!
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you could talk to him and casually ask him if he wants to go to the movies with a bunch of people and you on friday. then at the movies flirt, talk a little, then later on (after flirting and hanging out), mabye in a few weeks ask him what you guys are, bf/gf or just friends. i wouldn't rush it!
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bio
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yo. i'm jade and i'm a sophomore in high school and i'm 15. i can really relate to alot of people and i absolutely love to go advice! i'm a very easy going person so don't be afraid to talk to me =)..but i'm not a doormat, i will tell you when something is bothering me. i am a very understand person and will always give people chances. so don't be afraid to just drop by and say hi or ask a question cause i will try my best to help! =)))
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E-mail: Gender: Female Occupation: student Age: 15 AIM: Member Since: July 29, 2005 Answers: 59 Last Update: July 23, 2006 Visitors: 2123
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