Well, I'm a serious sometimes funny type of person and usually my problem evolves in my love life :) ain't as lucky as you are.lol. I'm 16 and somewhat emotional. They say one of my assets is being sensitive to the feelings of others and one of my bad habits is playing with my hands while looking for words.
E-mail: phinyf@lycos.com
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Location: Philippines
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Age: 16
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ok well, theres this girl that like hates me and i didnt do anything to her! can anyone think of a reason why she hates me so much? shes really annoying, like shes pissed off at me because my best friend((whos a guy)) like loves me and he calls her a bitch all the time. Also another reason why i think she hates me is because me and her best friend have become really close, and shes mad. what can i do so i dont KILL her?
and also, i feel really bad because the best friend i was talking about earlier, he is sooooo good to me, he always sticks up for me and no matter how mad i think im making him he never gets mad at me, and when i told him i liked him a little while ago he still wanted to be around me. how can i get over it? (link)
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I think she's angry at you coz she's envious because you have a guy bestfriend who really cares for you. Trust me your bestfriend really cares for you. It's up to you if you'll do something about it. You're lucky to have a bestfriend that sticks to you no matter what. What you'll do to the person who's envious at you? Choose between the two. Ignore her or ask her directly what's wrong with her? and tell her what you're feelings are.
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school is full of bitches, i know....this one girl who is my 'freind' walkes around wispering to people. she yells about how she and her bf are on 3rd base. then she critisizes you. she should not be talking...(this is gonna sound soo mean) she is so fat that she takes up 2 bus seats. no boy will go near at her in our school. i think she makes it up. she is acting really bitchy to people w/out boyfreinds, (or people like me who keep them secret) when she found out about my bf. she started being nice to me. she wants me to walk around and.....u kno. i want to get rid of her, but she followes me around. she also asks deatails about my bfs kisses. i really hate her. how do i rid myself?
ps: i am 13, and she is almost 14.. (link)
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Maybe you shouldn't resolve to lying but if it's for the best and it's the only way then maybe it can help. There are many options to choose from 1.) lying to her that you broke up with your bf just to let her away from you 2.) telling her directly that you don't want to talk your personal affairs and tell her to get your own boyfriend so you would know all about kisses. I think you should choose the latter. Tell her gently but firmly these things and maybe just maybe she'll understand what you feel.
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Just as a warning, this will be long. If you have a problem with that, skip on to the next question.
Okay. So my guy and I have been together about 18 months now, and it's been great up until awhile ago.
Now, my boyfriend and I used to have the exact same ideals about sex - we both thought oral was stupid and disgusting, and neither of us was really into the whole manual thing.
All of a sudden, he's asking me for oral all the time - I did that once and I told him I wasn't comfortable with it. He's even asking for "road head" which I always thought only assholes asked for and only sluts gave.
Does he think I'm a slut just because I've had sex?
I feel like he's been taking advantage of me lately and making me feel like a bad girlfriend. I know I'm not, though he makes me feel like it's my fault when we fight, and makes me feel like I'm the one that needs to change, when I believe now that it's him that needs to change.
I really do hope this is just a bump in the relationship - don't most people hit bumps when they've been together awhile?
We were such a great couple for so long, and then all of a sudden, he decided he wanted more sexual stuff than I'm willing and comfortable with giving him. Now, I can understand he may be a little sexually frustrated, as we haven't had sex in like a month, but I told him we'd have to wait a month (due to a medication I ended up on that conflicted with my birth control pill), and he was okay with it. Now he's suddenly not. I'm confused.
He used to be utterly romantic and sweet. Now he's turning into a complete ass.
I really want to ask him right now if he really loves me or he just enjoys fucking me. Recently, it seems like the latter.
We always said that sex was like the icing to a cake in this relationship. He claims this relationship is based on love, not lust, but I'm not so sure about that anymore.
I don't want to break up with him. I want him to realize what he's doing, and I want to fix this between us, hopefully before saturday. Saturday's his birthday, and I went to a lot of trouble to find him a present he wants this year. I'd rather not return it.
But mostly, I just want this to go back to normal. I was so happy with him before...
Help me out?
~Cali~ (link)
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I think he was either influence by his friends, saw a movie that made him like that stuff, was tempted to do that since someone tempted him. Either way, you're right when you decided to amend with him this Saturday. After that, Ask him why he'd change a lot. If he doesn't want to talk about it. Tell him it's important. Ask him also why he did those things to you. If he's willing to compromise then things will be okay but if he doesn't, I think you should let him realize the conseqences before it's too late.
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Alrighty. I like a guy named Dylan. He's not cute. I don't know him. Yet, I still like him. I can't sleep at night because of him, and I feel it isn't fair. I want to do something about it. I want to ask him out. But I have never asked anyone out yet or had a boyfriend, but I think I am now ready and mature enough. My best friend told him that I liked him, and he replied, "I know." Now what? I mean, I want to get to know him, but we are both shy people. How do I get to know him? Then, how do I ask him out? What do I do? (link)
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Maybe he's just waiting for you to act on the basis that you like him. The way I see it, he knew that you like him and you describe him above as shy so I think he's really waiting for you to do something. Since he knew already that you like him, why not talk to him and befriend him. That might be the start of your relationship.
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I really really like this guy named Mitch and he's just the nicest guy I've ever met before. He used to be friends with my older sister. He's been telling me he likes me, and like on aim always makes those kissing faces. Problem is; he's 21! I'm only 15. I know it's a huge difference and it's illegal. I really don't know where to go from now. I tell him I like him back, but I really want to date him, I'm just really not sure of how to tell him that. Any suggestions?
* if you think me dating a 21 year old is bad, please tell me, i'd like to hear other perspectives, too! thanks. =) (link)
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It's not that it's bad to date a 21 yr old guy but you're still 15. In my case, when a 20 and above guy show interest on me, I right away feel uncomfortable but maybe on your part you don't feel that way since you like him. I think you should wait for him to ask you to go have a date with him since he's already 21. He knows what he wants to do. If he ask you to a date, don't right away tell him yes. As soon as now, observe him if he's only playing with your feelings or what. If you think he;s sincere and there's nothing to lose then I guess it's ok. to go with him if he ask you to.
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I've never gone to a dance before. I am going to a dance party next weekend but I don't know how to dance. Don't say "ask one of your close friends" Reply..I rate..thanks (link)
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From now on, start practice dancing. If you don't want to ask your friends about it then maybe you go to the person who's closest to you and the person who knows how to dance. After that, maybe you can have many sessions with her about dancing then you can practice and practice until it'll be perfect. Just have confidence in yourself all throughout the dance and don't be nervous. Hope I helped!
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hey my freind is thinking bout killing himself so do any of yall have the number for the suicide hotline?
thanx!
it truly is my friend not me i like my life (link)
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Try to save your friend. Talk to him and inspire him by anything you say to him. If he'll commit suicide then I think you'll regret why you didn't save him. I think there's no suicide hotline. Lol. Even so, hope I helped!
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well theres this kid that liked me for a couple months, and i never really liked him back until he started liking this other girl and it got me real jealous, does this mean i like him or what. everytime i see them together i just don't know what to do.. its really upsetting me and i really don't know what i`m asking but do u have any advice...plz (link)
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I think you want him to continue liking you but he didn't so you got jealous since his attention is in another girl now. That means you're starting to like his attention to you and maybe you have even small feelings toward him. Ask yourself this if you are jealous just because you want his attention or you're jealous because you like him already or both? Hope I helped!
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i might have one friend that is still a virgin besides me.... i mean when we get into deep converstaions about sex and stuff i can't relate cuz i am still a virgin. every single time i watch a movie with a sex scene in it i get this weird feeling all over my body like i want sex that very minute. could someone please tell me if this is all normal or should i just give in and have sex? (link)
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This is just normal and they're called hormones. We all have hormones but teenagers have raging hormones. Giving in to sex means losing your virginity. Try as much as possible not to be tempted to do that if you want your future husband to have a precious gift from you, your virginity.
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hey , uhm well you see i love my best friends bro . he asked me out . but the only thing is he is 11 and i am 13 . everyone is asking me if i am with him and i dont no what to do cuz i dont wanna get made fun of . please help me make my desicion signed
perfect flaw (link)
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If you really wanted to be with him at the same time not to be the talk of almost everybody then maybe you should regard him as a friend first and not having too much affection in public since this would create curiousity therefore many would ask you things. Start at the beginning. When someone will ask you what is your relationship with him then say we're friends and not that frantic look or whatever look since it'll let them know there's really something you're hiding.
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Okay, so there's this guy that's been my really good friend for a long time. Last October, I got a crush on him. Then in December, he had a girlfriend, but he told me that he'd liked me since October too, and a week later, he broke up with his girlfriend. But he didn't ask me out until a month later, because he 'didn't want people to think he liked me when he liked his other girlfriend'. So we were 'sort of' going out for about a month, but we never actually went on a date. He asked me out to a carnival, but then he ditched me. Then...worst of all...the school dance. He danced with me once, and then went back to his ex girlfriend and was dancing with HER for the rest of the time. I talked to him and he told me he didn't like me anymore, but we decided to stay friends anyways.
Now, about 3 months later...I think I still like him, but I'm not sure. We're still very good friends. I want him to be happy with whatever girl he goes out with, but I'm jealous at the same time. My heart jumps when I had to kiss him on the cheek for this school performance..and when I fell asleep on his shoulder in the movie theater (with other friends there)...and I feel crap when I see the girl he likes sleeping on his other shoulder, or sitting super close to him. What should I do? How do I get over him? Please help! (link)
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I think the guy you have a crush with is having confused feelings also. One moment he likes you the other he does not and I think he still likes his ex-girlfriend. Maybe the best thing you should do is to just remain friends and try to let go of him. I've suffered in a somewhat the same situation but not really that exactly the same. The guy I liked is also confused and therefore I gave him the time to think. Maybe you should give him space also. To let him think the situation over or to let him choose. If he still goes on with his ex-gf then there are ways to get over the guy
1) start dating other guys
2)concentrate on other more important things than love life
3) Do things that you like best to do and forget him.
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hey i need help because my birthday is coming up im turning 14 and i dont no what t ype of party i should have?? i dont want to invite people over my h ouse for a sleepover so any ideas for birthday parties??? ill rate 5s (link)
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It depends as long as you enjoy what you'll be doing. For example, you and your friends can camp near the beach and stay there and have a night swimming. But if you don't want them to be with you all through out or some of them can't come because they're restricted by their parents then maybe you should have a party with a costume theme with lots of fun and games. It really depends on you and your family. Just talk to them about your plan if ever you have one now and don't forget to be happy always on your birthday. And also, Advance happy birthday!
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My grandfather commited suicide in April of this year. And it seems I can't cope with it. I was suicidal for a while and i have been battleing depression. I just feel like I can't be emotional about it because I have to be strong for my family, especially my mother. and none of my friends understand. I guess where I'm needing advice is I was wondering how i can bring the topic up with my best friend where she will listen to me and let me vent instead of turning it around about herself. and is that even the best way to cope with the problem i am having with not being open with it? or should I just continue what I am doing and try my hardest to stay strong? (link)
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Talk to your bestfriend and be open. Everybody deserves to be happy and not be burden with so many problems you know. It'll just get worse if you'll not be open with it. You'll just be standing alone with your decision and no one understands you because you didn't let them. Base on experience, when you let your emotions out then it'll ease your problems and make you more open-minded in deciding the best solution for your problems.
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First off, sorry for wasting a question on something ridiculous. That’s exactly what it is, though. Every girl likes someone, it happens. I try to keep it from happening to me though, because I believe it will never work. I can't get into a relationship even if I wanted to, like I won't allow myself. I never cared really, I figured it was for the best. But of course, someone I could actually see myself being with has stumbled along. However I'm still having so much trouble with the idea of a relationship. I’m 16, almost all of my friends have had some sort of relationship. I’m not saying based on age I should be right with them, but perhaps a close friend wouldn't hurt. We both like each other, but being close to a person is something I don’t do. He is an open kid, I don't think the two of us would be comfortable with how I am. I should also mention I’m moving several states away in the near future. Which was also my decision, that I can no longer change. So its my fault I like him.. I shouldn't have let myself get into this.. and I also can't stay here to try it out. Some talk of a long distance thing has been mentioned. He could do much better girlfriend wise, me leaving the state would totally be perfect for the entire world to tell him that. I know I shouldn't even be interested in a guy that will let other's opinions alter his, but if people are constantly nagging you for something that’s not even that rewarding, why would you continue with it? I guess i have a few questions. Should I give a shot anyway? How can I go about facing him everyday without him mentioning it? [we have the same friends, we all hang out everyday.] Also, if we were to try it, how could I not be so freaking uptight? Sorry again, and thanks. (link)
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Hope I'm not too late to answer your question. I think once people have an interest on someone, they usually do the same thing. They get uptight. I'm telling this base on my personal experience. I think, whenever he's around, just do the normal actions you do with your other friends. Try. I know it's hard because in my part last time it's also hard but the results would be rewarding. Ofcourse you can't stop your heart beating fast and all that stuff :) but at least you can control your mind. I think you should give it a shot. I mean nothing's wrong with giving it a chance, is it? and also I think you should let him know too your feelings, because i'm sure when you're away from him, that's the time you'll always think if what you did was right and what if you told him your feelings?
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I have this friend, and i really like him more than a friend. But i dont know if he feels the same way about me. He talks to me sometimes, but out of school like at sport he usually talks to me. He is kind of rude, he calls me dumass (lol) and tells me to shutup. But he only said that once.
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I think you both are still in the get-to-know stage. Whenever he talks to you or he is with you, just notice closely if there are signs that he likes you too. For example, if he acts strangely infront of you while the others he doesn't. As for the rudeness, maybe you told him something that he doesn't want to talk, know or simply he doesn't like what you said or did. It's okay if it's just once but if it'll go on. Don't let him do that to you ok? As for now just get to know each other first. Hope I helped!
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I'm not going to prom b/c i have an AP physics final test two days later and i don't want to get distracted. But, my friends are mad at me b/c they are seniors and its our last year to go to a dance as a big group-their being mean "subtley"-like they'll slip in some mean things-wat do i do? and how do i not feel so miserable? (link)
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Ask yourself. Which do you prefer? Going to the prom or having good grades in the test? But if you have already studied and you're sure that you understood most of it already then why not go there? But if you have not yet understood much then maybe you shouldn't go if the time is lacking for you to study.
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i was with this guy almost 3 months ago and i luved him a lot but he broke up with me 3 days after valentines which broke my heart. he told me if was becuase he was getting bad grades but i didnt belive him so i had my best friend which is one of his ex ask him y he broke up with me and it turns out he got with me to make my friend jelous. im still friends with her but i just cant get over wut he did plz tell me ways i can get over this situation (link)
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Find ways to notice other things. I mean concentrate on other things other than him. Go to the mall and do what you want to do like your hobbies. As time passes by, you'll see you'll get over him. And bear in mind that he broke up with you because he was just using you.
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Ever since my grandpa died, my family started spliting apart. It's full of hate. One of my uncles is very mean and grumpy towards everyone else now because of his job. He especially takes it out on me. When he critisizes me, I have to keep quiet and agree because if I don't he will yell louder and call me disrespectful. I really do not like him telling me how to live my life and yelling at me for the littlest reasons. I can't talk to him because he is very stubborn. I can't avoid him because he lives next door to me. Someone please help..he's making me feel bad and breaking our whole family apart because of his opinions. (link)
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It depends if you are already at a right age. If you're 16 and above, you might help in talking to him just in little ways like why are you always angry? or if he's really wrong in things he's telling you then tell it to him. It helps to let your emotions out. But if you're still like 13 or 14. Just try to avoid him by going inside you room or go out to the mall and other places. Ignore his criticism and find ways to live your life happily.
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15/f ok at night i always seem to get frustraited about something... i dont know what but its starting to bug me. My mom always tells me what to do or if i need help like when im cooking or somthing and its really annoying. I no shes just trying to be nice but it bugs me and i told her too but she still does it! and my lil bro (11) gets all annyoing and clingy and WONT leave me ALONE! and then thoughts of these two guys i like keep poping into my head... its like everything could posibly go wrong at night... what do you think the cause is and how can i stop this negative frustraition?
plz help, sorry this is so long..
i rate (link)
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Try to enjoy yourself and don't think much about problems. Watch a movie or the television. Do the things you usually like and for you is fun. I do that when I get really really annoyed at someone or i'm angry. It helps in letting your mind concentrate after the enjoyment. Hope I helped!
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Alright I am 14 and have been going to my church youth group for about two years now. Luke .. My pastors son. He is 16 and totally cute! And I would love fer me and him to be friends. I would call us friends now, but we make fun of eachother alot. But I wanted to see if anyone can help me find a way to talk to him. I tried to tell him straight out i liked him. But he hates when girls do that. Thanks for the help. (link)
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I think you should wait for a little longer. Get to know each other first before telling him that you like him right away. Know him more and pretend first that you consider him as your friend only so that he won't hate you for being frank and by the process you'll know when's the time you'll speak your heart out. Maybe he might even be the one who'll speak his heart out by the time comes. Hope I helped!
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