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Grandfathers death
My grandfather commited suicide in April of this year. And it seems I can't cope with it. I was suicidal for a while and i have been battleing depression. I just feel like I can't be emotional about it because I have to be strong for my family, especially my mother. and none of my friends understand. I guess where I'm needing advice is I was wondering how i can bring the topic up with my best friend where she will listen to me and let me vent instead of turning it around about herself. and is that even the best way to cope with the problem i am having with not being open with it? or should I just continue what I am doing and try my hardest to stay strong?
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Get your self some Niacin you can get it at any GNC or vitamin shop.
It is why suicidal patients get better. Look it up.
Its your only option Most people will be totally cured from depression im a matter of weeks.
I have tried every thing there is and this is the only thing that works.
Dont stop taking it. With out Niacin it is impossible to get better.
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Well you do need to stay strong but I write peoms and my thoughts and feelings down on paper. Maybe you should do that and talk to your mom cuz shes feeling the same way and you guys need to be there for each other and talking about it helps with the pain even if you do cry or hurt its better than keeping it all inside
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Out off all the suicidal emo idiots on this site, you are the smartest.
You'll get over it, from the sounds of it, you're a stuipd teen. Wait.
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What you need is not your friend. From what you are saying she can't handle your grandfather's death any better than you. This is why she redirects the conversation. Don't fault her for it, this is a defense for herself, not a denial of your friendship. In fact it means she really care about you and can't deal with the amount of pain you need to pour out. Look on the internet for grief couceling in your area. MAny are free group meetings where you will meet others who have been through your same sorrow and can give you the support you need and help you find a means to cope. You can't do this on your own, but your friend is too close to your pain to help you. You need to speak with someone who can listen to you objectively and give you the hard truths you need to grasp to face the days ahead. May you find the healing you need.
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Maybe your best friend is not the person to talk to this about. If every time you try to talk to her the subject always returns to her, then she is sort of selfish, wouldn't you say? It would be good to talk to someone who is experienced in grief counseling. Sometimes it is better to talk to an adult about death, rather than a kids. Adults have more experience with death. You are strong, just the fact that you have managed this long is proof. I don't know enough about you, or where you live to direct you somewhere. There is a kid's hotline you could call, it is the Covenant House Hot Line and they always talk to kids, they take in runaways and they are used to dealing with kids who are runaways, or who are depressed or have contemplated suicide. their number is 1-800-999-9999. It's free and available 24 hours a day. THEY WILL TALK TO YOU. You can check out their webs site. www.covenanthouse.org
I hope this helps
Michele
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The fact that you're staying strong for your mother is nice of you. I'm sure that she needs that. But you need to let your feelings out too. If you don't think that you should do it with your mom then that's fine stay strong for her but talk to your friend. You need to tell her that you need to talk and let things out because it's not good to keep things bottled up inside of you. When you're alone with her try saying that things have been really hard because you are depressed about your grandfather but you don't want to talk about it with your mom because you want to be strong with her. Tell her that you really need to talk to her and that you need her to just listen to you so that you can let your feelings out. She's best friend she should understand. If you are unable to vent to your friend try writing about it. Sometimes when I'm depressed about things I try writing it down. You could also lock yourself in your room and just let it all out. Staying strong for your mother is a very mature thing to do and I'm sure that she appreciates but you need to let your feelings out.
Good luck and I hope that things get better for you
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Thats what friends are for. To lean on in bad times and laugh with in good. I think she is being pretty selfish if she won't let you talk it out with her. I think you need to tell her that you want to discuss your grandpa and you would really like it if she would listen without changing the subject.
Your family can also be of great help. Don't feel that you can't discuss it with mom. Maybe you'd be helping her as well. You don't have to be real strong in this situation. Everyone is grieving. So, I think you need to talk with mom too. Sorry about your grandpa, let yourself grieve for him. :)
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Talk to your bestfriend and be open. Everybody deserves to be happy and not be burden with so many problems you know. It'll just get worse if you'll not be open with it. You'll just be standing alone with your decision and no one understands you because you didn't let them. Base on experience, when you let your emotions out then it'll ease your problems and make you more open-minded in deciding the best solution for your problems.
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