pockets's advice column

askpockets

advice column ask question view feedback favorite columnist advicenators

Q: hey u guys. this is going to sound a little strange. i have intimate feelings about having sex with my sister. i know its wrong but i cant stop thinking about it. somebody please help me.

The person below me is weird for even suggesting that you date or marry your sister.

It's strange, but you're probably just a horny hormonal kid. I don't know if you're a guy or a girl, but just get a boyfriend or girlfriend and see if it helps.

Q: okay so i need the facts: someone told me its good to wear a bra to sleep when your devloping because it helpss to shape them and when your already developed it prevents sagging. but then someone else told me it deforms your breast if you wear a bra to bed? which is true? do you guys wear bras to bed?

thanks in advvv

I don't think anything changes whether you wear a bra to bed or go braless.

Boobs are boobs, they develop how nature intended them to.

Q: Is anxiety a sad feeling or is it a fatal exciting feeling like when you're watching soap opera and you're really excited yet stressed at what's going to happen next?

Because I'm really confused about anxiety pills that anna nicole took..

the dictionary didn't help..

Anxiety is more like a stressful, worried, and panicky feeling. My mom and I both have anxiety disorders. People with anxiety disorders have frequent panic attacks (freaky stuff right there).

The anxiety pills I believe Anna Nicole took were xanax.

Q: I have a dick and I am 14 and I dont have sperm. At what age does sperm come out?

Yeah, I agree with the people below me. You can't see the sperm unless you masturbate and get it out!

Unless you are doing that....and nothing is coming out....see a urologist or something.

Q: Yeah so I was masturbating and when I took it out, there was a tiny bit of red stuff on it. And then I had to pee so I went to the bathroom and it hurt really bad. Is something wrong? I'm really worried. Thanks. [By the way, I'm a female.]

Youuu popped your cherrrrrrrrry.

Q: if i were to visit the bronx, in new york, what would i be able to taste, touch, and small, if i were standing on the street? im talking about the real rough part. thanks.

I once got lost in the bronx. It was frightening, thankfully I was in a car with other people.

It smells like raw sewage. And you wouldn't be able to touch anything because it's dirty as hell.

I'm talking about the rough part though, some sections of it aren't bad at all.

Q: i want to get a tatoo really bad but the thing is my mom CAN NOT see it. Where can i get it so she wont see it? and what should i get i really want oneeee

If your mom ever sees you in a bathing suit, she's gonna see a tat no matter where you put it. Unless you put it on your ass or a little bit above your breast.

Honestly I would just wait until you're 18 (or whatever the legal consent age is where you live) so you can get the tattoo you want exactly where you want it.

Q: Okay, so, a lot of girls like to put up magazine pages on their walls that have like cute clothes and stuff like that and I wanted to do that but I'm not sure what to put them up with. I tried those little tacks that have the big circle top but it looks really tacky (lol pun), and so do thumbtacks. I can't do glue or tape or sticky tack because my wall has those little bumpy things on it. So I was wondering if anyone could tell me how I can get these magazine pages on my wall so that it looks good and everything.

Thanks so much!

If you can't use tacks, sticky tack, glue, or tape I don't know what else there is to use.

You could paint your wall and stick the pages on while the paint is wet. Or get clear tacks. Or glue or tape the pages to a posterboard and hang it on your wall. Or use a corkboard. Whatevv.

Q: theres this guy I like but i dont know if he likes me? theres this guy that has liked me since 2nd grade and wants to go out with me should I?

If you don't know if he likes you, have a friend ask. If he doesn't, that sucks.

If you like the guy who has liked you since 2nd grade, go out with him.

If both guys like you and you like both of the guys, date the one who has liked you since 2nd grade.

Q: what does it mean when someone says, "the small of my back"

The lower back. Sort of has an indentation or a curve.

Why it's called that is beyond me.

Q:

ok my gf is 15 i know thats young but she says she was raped when she was 13 and she thinks she cant have an orgasim cuz of it she can only have one if she or me rubs her clit for a long time shes also really sensitive and says she dosnt feel anything when she fingers herself or i do it oral sex dosnt do it either any one who can help me i love her and i wasnt to give her a really good orgasim pweese help

This is kind of cute in an underaged sexually active relationship kind of way.

Most girls (and guys) who have been sexually abused have a really hard time "letting go" when they're having sex or being fingered and things like that. Think about it, if you were messed with when you were a kid wouldn't sex be kind of creepy to you?

Like said below, she's just really tense and uncomfortable. Try letting her relax, and before you do anything ask her if it's okay. And also...girls usually have a hard time getting orgasms through things other than their clit anyhow.

Q: 14/f/ca sumtimes im walking in the mall and i see this really cute guy and i like wanna talk to him and my friend says come on hilary lets go say hi and im all like NO!! well my question is how can i be more confident when it comes to talking to a cute boy i dont know

thanx in advance

Oh that's perfectly normal. That doesn't really have much to do with confidence, it's kind of akward to start conversation with a random person in general, let alone a hot guy.

But just look your best, when you look good you feel good.

Q: how do u get rid of love handles fast?

Wear jeans that fit your waist correctly, aka jeans in your size that aren't super lowrise.

Also, jogging and side bends.

Q: lol sorry this is really gross. but is this normal? when my poop is like moving through my intestines it like gives me cramps. then itll stop and then itll move again and ill get another cramp. and then once it gets to the point where it can come out, lol yeahhh. and then im fine. is it supposed to cramp like that? y is it?

Yeah, it sounds like IBS.

Try including more fiber in your diet and see if it helps. If it doesn't, see a doctor, it's not embaressing, they hear this stuff all the time.

Q: why does everyone think that sanjaya malakar (one of the finalists in american idol season six) is gay? is it because of his long hair? like some people thought he looekd like a girl.. he doesnt, and never did. i mean nobody really looks at a girl with short hair and thinks its a man. there are other ways you can tell, other than their hair. also, is it that he sounds gay? um he can sing and i dont know too why people think he cant. i dont think he would be in the top 24 if he couldnt sing, since the judges and producers put him in the show in the first place. he just has less experience and such, but he can sing. i mean his performances arent always perfect, usually starting a little shaky and then getting better near the end. still. im getting sick of all these sanjaya haters that make up all these lies. he just doesnt.. seem gay, either. he dresses like a guy too, and in a song he did he danced with paula (the most recent one.. i forget the name of it though but he was wearing a white tux), and in another (you really got me now) at a part he sung to paula too. and in the "bathwater" song he changed some of the lyrics, like the part that was like in the original song that no doubt (well.. gwen stefani) sang, it was "your my kind of man!" sanjaya changed it to "your my kind of girl!". so.. like i dont think hes gay and im confused over this whole big controversy. i dont think hes the worst singer on the show either, but im glad that votefortheworst, even if its not morally good.. gets people to vote for this guy. ughhhhh. what are your thoughts on this? i personally think sanjaya is cute, too. (AND NOT GAY!) :]

13/f

Jesus christ, this is probably the lamest thing i've ever read in my entire 16 years of living.

This is an advice site, not a Try-To-Convince-Everyone-That-Sanjaya-Is-Cool site.

I don't think he's gay either but I still think he's fucking lame. Go on a message board and type this, not here.

---EDIT---
I'm not here for ratings.

Q: How do you get your boobs bigger quicker?

Push up bras. The gel filled ones, they feel real.

Q: Im not sure if this is coincidence or not but do you think the terrorists planned it to be on the day in which the numbers are the same for if you have an emergency (911). The cahnces are 1 in 365 which seems pretty uncoincidental. Any opinions??

I think so.

But maybe not, considering the fact that the phone extension 911 doesn't exist in the middle east. Actually, I don't know that for sure...I just assumed. They might have it.

A coincidence or not, it's still freaky deaky man.

Q: Ok when I get to the gym I start sweating pretty bad and I get major B.O. what can I do to help get rid of this?

It's the gym. Everyone else smells too.

Q: [question#1]will i get a flat stomach and smaller thighs from this:

breakfast: special K cereal
lunch: hot pocket
snack: fruit/vegetable
supper: something not fatty
drinking plenty of water
doing like 300 situps everyday

[question#2]anybody know any THIGH excersices?

Replace the hotpocket with some sort of whole wheat wrap filled with whatever you want. It'll be more food for less calories than the hotpocket, and without preservatives and chemicals.

Q: Is it a turn off for guys if a girl has already had sex? I'm not talking about being slutty or anything, I've only been with one person, and lost my virginity to my first true love. I'm just worried now that I won't be able to be in a serious relationship with someone else.

I'm no guy, but I can assume that it's definitly not a turn off. It's probably a turn on...considering the fact that you're experienced.

Although if the guy is a virgin, he might feel a bit intimidated.