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i need help on getting her to have an orgasim
ok my gf is 15 i know thats young but she says she was raped when she was 13 and she thinks she cant have an orgasim cuz of it she can only have one if she or me rubs her clit for a long time shes also really sensitive and says she dosnt feel anything when she fingers herself or i do it oral sex dosnt do it either any one who can help me i love her and i wasnt to give her a really good orgasim pweese help
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maybe she is not ready to have sex again. It brings back horrible memories and feelings, this is not something that wears away quickly. The first thing is not to focus on how she can get a orgasm, you should focus on helping her emotionally getting over this traumatic event. Sure it has gone 2 years, but that might not be enough. I have some horrible experiences with sex and now evetytime i do it i can't keep it out of my head and one time i even started crying (not big turn on...). So all i'm saying is get your friend to take a little break from sex and talk more about how she feels.
good luck!
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This is kind of cute in an underaged sexually active relationship kind of way.
Most girls (and guys) who have been sexually abused have a really hard time "letting go" when they're having sex or being fingered and things like that. Think about it, if you were messed with when you were a kid wouldn't sex be kind of creepy to you?
Like said below, she's just really tense and uncomfortable. Try letting her relax, and before you do anything ask her if it's okay. And also...girls usually have a hard time getting orgasms through things other than their clit anyhow.
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Duplicate question? I'm re-posting my answer.
I don't normally answer these questions, but...
she's probably really incredibly tense and worrying a lot. She's probably worried that she'll get hurt again or something. Try to make her more comfortable, her muscles tensed up, most likely.
Also, if she never saw a therapist, it might be helpful to her. Even one session can make a huge difference, and she's had a very traumatic experience.
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I don't normally answer these questions, but...
she's probably really incredibly tense and worrying a lot. She's probably worried that she'll get hurt again or something. Try to make her more comfortable, her muscles tensed up, most likely.
Also, if she never saw a therapist, it might be helpful to her. Even one session can make a huge difference, and she's had a very traumatic experience.
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