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Q: Does anyone know how to tell when you are going to get your period? I am 13 and I haven't got my period yet. :( ALL my friends have their periods and I am the only one who doesn't? Why me??
hey girl i am 24 year old and i still on pms and hunny its SUCK be glad u don't have it now ur friends have it.. it pain in the butt

Q: My hair gets greasy really fast and no matter what I do, by the time the middle of the day comes my hair is all oily!

Sooooo is there anyone here who can tell my how to make hair less greasy without washing?

I can't be the only one, right?
don't use alot of conditioner. and don't use moistureizers. I have oily hair also. and i wash my hair in shower 2 other days.. and sometimes being in the sun and to much in your hair make it more oily.. and find some oil free shampoo

Q: I feel like i am an impulsive liar..... i sometimes lie for no reason at all. I lie when it would be easier to tell the truth and when if i tell the truth nothing bad is going to happen to me. it is just like i have to make everything different than it is. someone told me this was called "impulsive lieing" but i can't find anything on the internet about that? is it called something else?

am I the only one who does this? :( I don't want to but i don't know how to stop.
Gods don't like liars even if your not religous.
what if somone lie too you it couse you harm.. it would affect your life in many ways.

Q: so its gttin near winter now and it get dark quite early and i like to go out wiht my friends but my parents always say i hae to be in at 5 when my friends are aloud out later nut my parents dont like me in the dark an i carnt see why. has anyone got any ideas on how i could convince them to let me saty out later. and by the way im not one of then teenagers who gets drunk an does stupid thigs like that and my parents no that i think
They trying to keep you out of trouble, sometimes staying out late. there alot of bad drivers and sometimes even drug dealers and plus they probly wan to go bed and they want stay up worry about you.. it not they don't want you to have fun they just want to be better parent and do what best for you.. :)

Q: so i like a sophomore, i too am one as well. i am 80 percent sure he likes me but i want him to come to me. how do i do that? how do i make myself irresistable? he is usually the one to initiate contact but sometimes i do. should i just not talk to him or look at him, then he will come to me and talk? help, please. this guy is so great and i want to do this right!
Guys like it when girls make the frist move..
plus he maybe shy or sometimes guys are not very talkative and yet not everybody there self in school.. trust me I been there and done that

Q: I have long (2 inches past my chest) brown/blonde hair and i really need a unique, wierd, crazy, fun hairstyle. no occasion. no ponytails, braids, or anything with a curling iron or moose or styler. and no cutting my hair or going to the salon. just wacky fun styles that look cute! im 13. it can be up or down or half and half, I REALLY NEED HELP!!!

THNX!
Hey I know real cool site, ever been to www.seventeen.com ? they have HairSolon and like a hairstyle make over, you can upload your own picture and there alot different pictures of hairstyle, and there some funky ones. and there one at ivillage.com I think how it spells.
hope i help
little butterfly

Q: at my school and cheerleading team it seems to me like everyone is so immature. im a junior in high school and im really quiet mainly because im shy but also because i just never know what to talk about or how to respond to people at my school.

i went to a summer program for high school students this summer and i made a ton of friends there and was pretty talkative because we would all have actual real conversations... but coming back here im really quiet and i can't make friends easily because everyone is always hyper and crazy and i just can't relate to them and i never know what to say and it has gotten me depressed lately...

is every high school student like this or is it just mine? and is college going to be different or is it just me that has issues? and how do i start having better social skills and stop being depressed? what do i do about not being able to communicate with them?
I been there and done that..
i know how you feel. but be honest kids at school are not there true self sometimes. they don't act how they do at home and they do there. plus kids talk about everything you know movies or what they did this weekand. tv shows. that how i did. i met a freind all we talk about the tv show we watch everynight.. when you talk to people you don't have to force your self talk about something that they talk about. find something you have in command like how was that test in math class or something like that. but sometime kids don't want to talk about school and work. that why. it funny that way. yeah high school and collage pretty much the same. find somone who quiet to find somone that reading and siting by thre self ask them what they are reading. and just pick any topic to talk about see if person like talking about. like me i like talking about life,weather,sometimes tv shows and movies. and music. oh and of curse guys lol.

Q: okay this might sound kind of disgusting BUT i need to know!

girls shave the hair inbetween their buttcrack, right?
uh no.. you need hair when you bleed and pee and yet poo.. you only shave where people not see your hair on when u were Bikini

Q: will a yeast infection go away on its own
Try Vingener it help the most i tink i spell it right. if your tell your parents they know what it is..

Q: What is leukemia? Is leukemia cancer? Does having leukemia mean you're going to die?
well it is cancer.. my cousin pass away with leukemia

Q: my boyfriend and i are having sex, and yes we're using condoms. but i am aware that condoms are not 100% effective (like everything else in the world) we are not at the financial level to be ready fr a baby if any slip up occurs and if I were to get pregnant i would be all for an abortion. He is not in agreement with me, he wants to keep the baby if something happens despite our lack of money and maturity. what should i do about this delema
well let me ask you. if your parents hase abortion you and you wouldn't have chance have a life.. so why not give the baby the chance? you can put it for adoption..

Q: Im 13 and people come to me saying if i like tommy and i say no but they dont belive me what should i do??
Well then ingore them.. they just try to couse more trouble and problmes. next time they ask just say what not to like then walk away. people your age starting silly games and i think it getting old same old thing been doing on since my grandma's grandma was a kid..
or you know you can say you know that is getting old if next time they ask you if u like tommy. just be like ok this is getting old.

Q: Are there any secret tips to being flexible. I already stretch everyday for around an hour. I hope to be a bit of a contortionist.
Yoga

Q: my boyfriend is expelled from school. Hes now on probation too. Hes still smoking pot and i cant get him to stop. I sound hypocritical because i do it too but im not kicked out of school and in a bunch of shit. How can i convince him to stop while hes on probation? Hes ALWAYS around it and i cant do anything about that because he lives with people who do it and are okay with it.
I think you both need to stop.. Life is not get any better if you guys do that stuff. i mean your hurting your family and friends and people care about you. even people don't know you care about you. why tell him if he want make life better and things better stop doing pot. it not help kids grow and make world better place. thoes things are history. why keep history with us? think about it. tell him you want to stop and not want be around him if he doing it. move on something new and ther alot greater things out then then doing pot and thing that just waste of time and not worth it. think of things you can do just mak it happend and stop doing things to hurt others. if you don't like peopel hurting you don't hurt them..

Q: Ok so not sure what category to put this in sorry! But why in a lot the movies is it guys plans to get a girl to have sex with him when they go to prom together??? is that really what happens at high school proms??? My prom is tomorrow and i was just wondering if thats really what goes down. and if that is what happens why is it prom and not any other dance??? Thanks =]
you know something. ever watch save by the bell? shows like that? do you see that kind of stuff at school? well nothing really happend like that at school what on tv and movies. sometimes when kids watch that stuff they come up with ideas from it.. if kids want to dothat. its like dance that all. and there will be adult there and see who leaving and who there. and plus if you not sure what or where your date taking you. then maybe you ask someone else ride home or something like that. but thing is you sould trust your date. if he end up with that kind of plans then move on. I think it silly anymroe people think to much from tv and movies

Q: What makes you want to open up to someone?
when you can't sleep or can't seem get it off your chest and mind. something you can't hold on to.. sometimes it better to say and let it go.. sometimes you hold something in for long time it will borther you and it will get worst. so it best figure out what you like to say with out hurting or saying wrong things. to say what you want to say to that person.. hoppe that what your asking for.

Q: heeyy..
am a 16 year old female.. nd i already got too tired from life.. i wanna gt away from it.. its all that i want right now..
i just wanna know the best way to do it..
and please answer me as soon as possible.. cuz i wanna do it by next week max..
thnxx all xoxox
HEY!! Your 16 year old.. you got alot in your life look forward to. and god hase great plans for you. i am 23 year old nd i not doing alot. i am teaching litle boy sign lanuage and helping him and i got few jobs and freinds close ones. you always find something you want to do and pray to god ask him what he like you to do. writ down alot thing you want to do in life and try it. can't give up. if you treid you maybe liek it and want to doit. if you don't then you move on something else. stay postive. look up postive thoughts and go to youtube something like that.
you will have it made need to belive in your self. okay..

Q: All my friends have a crush on my boyfriend.Basically my best friend! She already promise that when me and him broke up she would date him.I AM SO PISSED OFF AT HER!!!! She a freak (like a wierdo)like shes puts eyeshadow on her lips.She is trying to break us up by saying lies to us about the other.She even told him I was datin him for a joke!He didnt believe her (I think).she calls him every day!!!What should i do!!!
a true friend wouldn't date your ex
plus you ask her you want a guy come between us? what more inportant our freindship or stabbing me in the back?

Q: how can i be better friends with a new friend that i made recently?
be there for them,
be carring and don't repeat to anyone when she/he tell you. just try think of stuff you guys have in comman you can do together and talk about. be friendly and Postive person.

Q: im a secretive person, and i dont like telling how i feel or basically open up/secrets so i keep stuff to myself. People blabbed my secrets in the past so im really paranoid about it till now. i dont really trust anyone, but i would like to believe some people can be trusted but how can i open up if they cant keep secrets? i keep getting those impressions from other people that they might not be able to keep secrets. But i wanna have a close friendship with my new friends what should i do?
well if they don't share alot with you about other people that be meaning they don't repeat anything.. maybe when you tell them jsut say please don't repeact this anyone.. maybe thing of sone ting you can say see if anyone repeat it. if noat that mean they wouldn't repeat it.. sometimes people can't help it when people repeat it becouse they didn't ask not to or yet sometimes people think it not important to not repeat things. try explain your Reason why you don't like it everyone knows everything and such andsuch.. hope I helP!

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