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my boyfriend and i are having sex, and yes we're using condoms. but i am aware that condoms are not 100% effective (like everything else in the world) we are not at the financial level to be ready fr a baby if any slip up occurs and if I were to get pregnant i would be all for an abortion. He is not in agreement with me, he wants to keep the baby if something happens despite our lack of money and maturity. what should i do about this delema
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If you are not financially prepared for having a baby, dont do anything that could cause you to become pregnant!! Abortion is never the answer. It is not just a fetus inside of you, but a person. By the tenth week of pregnancy, it will have all ten toes, and all ten fingers. It will also have finger nails! It is a person, dont get abortion
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No one should have sex unless they are fully ready to accept the resonsibility for their actions. Regardless of what precautions you take, there is ALWAYS a chance of becoming pregant.
If you were to become pregnant, that baby would be just as much his as it would be yours. He should have a say in everything regarding that baby's life, including whether or not he or she lives. I am anti-abortion, so of course I am going to tell you not to have sex if you are willing to so easily throw away a human life.
If you continue having sex with this mindset, please make the decision to be put on birth control, and take it correctly every time so you hopefully never have to be faced with this situation.
If you were pregnant, ultimately the life of that baby would rest in your hands. Like someone else said, you would be the one carrying it for 9 months, and would most likely be the primary care giver. Just remember that baby is only half yours. You did not conceive him or her on your own, so you should let your boyfriend have a say regarding this.
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If you were to get pregnant and want an abortion, your boyfriend is both legally and morally not in the right to stop it. For nine months, that fetus would be a part of your body.It is you, not him, that would have to carry it in your body with all the physical effects. Regardless of how much he would want you to have that baby, without you it is nothing, ergo the decision falls to no one but you.
If this bothers him, he is frankly being a little controlling of your body, the thing that would be incubating this potential baby in the first place.
In any case, to actually keep the baby, forgoing both adoption and abortion, would not seem to be the most responsible decision. Keep in mind also that it is one thing to say these things, another to be faced with this kind of dilemma.
Talk to him again, in the meantime, it never hurts to get some back-up protection. Spermicides are easy to find (ie the vcf strip), or you could talk to a doctor about going on the pill. As well, most of condom slip-ups are caused by user failures (ie, using a non-water-based lubricant, using two condoms), and if the condom does slip off, there is always plan B.
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I kind of had to laugh at orangebutterfly's answer. That's a lot of help! *rolls eyes*
If you are 100% sure that you do not want a child right now, then get on another form of birth control. If you are on an oral or other contraceptive as well as using condoms, you make it a lot safer. The chances of sperm making it past both are slim to nil. If you do end up getting pregnant, this could ruin your relationship, based on your polar views on keeping the child. Yes, birth control can be expensive.
You are obviously mature enough to recognize the risks, and to recognize and admit to yourself that you are not in a position to raise a child. For that, I salute you.
My fiance and I were at the opposite point; I wanted to keep the baby if I got pregnant, and he didn't. It took until fairly recently for us to agree on our views, so we were extremely careful until then.
Abortions are not "Plan B". It's hard on your body and your emotions. Have another safeguard in place until you can both agree on handling the consequences of a mishap.
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well then dont do it. wait until you are ready then do it. or use birth control and condoms. But thats still not 100 percent.
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well let me ask you. if your parents hase abortion you and you wouldn't have chance have a life.. so why not give the baby the chance? you can put it for adoption..
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