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Q: does zyrtec-d lead to liver problems?

You can go here:
http://www.rxlist.com/cgi/generic/zyrtec-d_ad.htm
to see a full account of all adverse reactions to Zyrtec- D. I could not find anything involving the liver, but the list gets pretty lengthy when you get into rare adverse reactions.

Q: hii, uhm i have a problem. my friend is having a pool party towmorrow and i have my period. youd prob all say use a tampon, but i hate using them they hurt me so much. there are also going to be boys at this party who will try to push me in. what should i do?

Pads in the water is a bad idea (Think about those commercials with babies with water bogged diapers on from going into the water). Your period does not stop in the water (refer to ivillage here: http://health.ivillage.com/gynoperiod/0,,3fq,00.html for professional advice), you just don't notice it as much. The reason tampons hurt you is because you're not putting them in properly, or because they're too big. Purchase the smallest size tampons available and have your mom (if available) or another female help you with putting them in the first few times. Also, it's easier to put a tampon in if you're laying down on your back than if you're standing up.

Q: will losing a little bit of weight help get rid of some cellulite?

Depends on how you plan on losing the weight-
To get rid of it you need to lose body fat and improve your muscle tone with exercise. I suggest a sensible eating plan, regular exercise -- including weight training -- and a little patience. This isn't as sexy or as appealing as taking a pill or sitting in a bath (or any of the other wacky treatments out there!) but it's the only way you'll see improvements short of surgery.

Q: when you eat out a girls vagina does it taste bad?

It's not going to have the best taste in the world, but it won't gag you either. Some men really like it and get turned on by it, others... hate the whole idea of tasting it.

Q: I masturbate but i dont squirt, it just comes out like shampoo in a bottle!! is something wrong?? or is this completely natural??

Any info is helpful!!

Thanks

Very little is known about female ejaculation. While it is believed that the vast majority of women have the ability to ejaculate ("squirt"), only a small percentage of women have actually accomplished it. So, no, nothing is wrong.

Q: hey I really need help on this one!!So theres this guy whitch im really interested in and he seems interested too.the problem is that hes looking for a one night thing but id like it to last longer :(..what can I do to turn a one night thing into a summer thing?? or oh well make it more than just a one night stand?
thx in advance

Rarely can you convince someone who isn't looking for commitment to commit. So what can you do? Don't give it all up on the first night. But honestly, is he really worth it? Even if you don't give in on the first date, how do you know he isn't just sticking around for the sex later on?

Q: what is the difference between french kiss and like a makeout?

Making out is a form of intimate kissing that usually involves french kissing but is not limited to french kissing.
A french kiss is an open- mouthed kiss in which one participant's tongue is inserted into the other's mouth.

Q: does anyone know where i could get some hair dye like maybe blue,red,pink, or any other color?

Most of your local chain pharmacies will have a selection of them. And, Sally's Beauty Supply chain will definitely have something for you.

Q: Here's the situation. I lost "it" to my first boyfriend [[*we'll call him michael*]]back about 7 months ago. we ended up breaking up and my parents found out all about our relationship and it started a huge family feud and no trust with me and my new boyfriend (who was actually a good friend of mine for 2 years and now we're together and we'll call him Scott). well we worked it out and everything is fine. Scott assured me he wasn't like that and in fact he's a virgin and wanted to wait till marriage because he wanted it to be something special and with the one he knew he was going to marry. well, with our previous history, and we've been together a few months, tonight we were home at his house alone and things just got really hot and heavy and to make a long story short we ended up having sex and weren't protected cuz we weren't expecting it and he doesn't have condoms on hand since he wasn't expecting to ever need them.

now i'm scared to death that i might get pregnant. with michael, i actually was pregnant at one point, but i had a miscarriage [[*not an abortion*]]. and i swore i would change after me and him broke up, but me and Scott just got caught in the moment and didn't realize till it was too late. i feel awful about it and now i'm terrified. is there anyway i can do something to ensure i don't get pregnant?! we're not gunna do that again and. . .if i get pregnant again, i'm no way in heck going to have an abortion, but i just don't know what we'd do! we're both financially unstable right now AND i just patched everything with my parents. i really need advice ya'll!!!

i'm 17 and he's 18

There is no absolutely positive way to ensure that you are not/ will not be pregnant. You can go to your local drug store and purchase plan B. It is largely effective, reducing the risk of pregnancy up to 89%. Plan B can be taken up to 3 days after intercourse, after that, it will not be effective. You cannot purchase it because you are underage, however, your boyfriend can purchase it. Call your pharmacy before going there to make sure they actually stock plan B as some do not. If you cannot get plan B over the counter, you can get a prescription for it from your primary care physician or your gynecologist. But it must be done within the next three days.
If you cannot access plan B and you are late for your period, wait until you are two weeks late to take a pregnancy test. I do not know where you are on your menstrual cycle, but you may not have an egg present right now to be fertilized. Ovulation (the release of the egg) occurs two weeks prior to the start of the menstrual period. Your most fertile time is usually just a couple days prior to ovulation.

Q: Hey. Well, just simply-would you all rather buy a Coach bag or a Marc Jacobs bag?

Here's a Marc Jacobs bag I'm comsidering. What do you think of it?

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2939291/0~2376779~2374605~6007363~6007366~6007371?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6007371&P=1

Thanks

I think it's more about what your preference is. I prefer coach bags because they transfer from day to evening much more easily- but if they don't fit your style you wouldn't want to buy one. I would never buy the marc jacobs bag above because I think it looks tacky, but that's only my personal taste. I have always preferred something softer looking.

Q: ok i want to re-do this question.. if thats ok with you.

I'm currently using Fructis sleek and shine shampoo and conditioner and I don't know why but I don't want to use it anymore. I want a change. Before, I asked you what brands you think are best. Well after reading some of the answers, i did research and changed my minds on some of them.

Pantene IS bad for your hair because they put chemicals in there, and after you use it awhile, your hair starts to turn bad.

Suave is NOT good because it dries out your hair and is cheap

Herbal Essences- Doesn't really do much except make your hair smell nice.

sooo that leaves me hanging by Dove and Sunsilk.

I NEED HELP! if you think that any of the information i've given is wrong, then please explain to me! I don't know why i've become so interested in shampoos but I really want to know what brand is healthy for you and what brands are not.

Any other brands that you want to tell me about that you think work great.

All i'm looking for is something that can make my hair less frizzy, smooth, shiney, soft and great smell.

my hair is straight but sometimes it can be a little wavy, it's allways frizzy.

Well dear, in all truth they are all bad for your hair. Every last one has added chemicals and the big no no, alcohol. I order my hair care products from melaleuca at melaleuca.com

Q: Tomorrow is the last day of school and I really want this boy i really really like to be my bf.
He said he liked me but now he is flirting around with another girl. Like a lot.
I may or may not see him in high school next year... but yeah

Suggestions on what i could do?? THANKS

Well, you can't force him to be your boyfriend. But, you have nothing to lose by admitting you like him and asking him out.

Q: im dating my friend's best friend, and he is in love with her. he likes me to, but the only reason he's going out with me is cuz she has a boyfriend. they are friends with benefits, and i dont know if i can share him with her even though shez my friend! what do i do?!?

If you are not comfortable being the girl on the side, then break up with him. You shouldn't have to put up with that. If he would rather be with her, then he can wait patiently, and girlfriendless until she is single again. Stringing you along is just arrogant and manipulative. Find yourself someone better.

Q: Do you think it is safe if me and my friend both go to NYC together? We're 15 and we live in NJ but it's kinda close & we can get there by bus.

We've gone to NYC like a lot of times but never by ourselves.. & We know how to get around, but it's like.. do you think we will get kidnapped or something? I haven't really heard of that happening & with so many people why would they take us..? But idk, what's your opinion?

This is one to discuss with your parents. The answer will have to do with if you are mature enough to be in the city on your own. And don't discount predators. A busy city is an ideal place to take a child. With people yelling and scuffling everywhere, cars on the streets, horns blowing, who's going to notice two young girls being taken from a crowd? Or, if they notice, will they want to get involved (Recall the '64 Kitty Genovese case)?
It is good that you know your way around, but do you know how to handle an emergency?

Q: ok well i babysit my naybors who live next door and they have a pool. and the first week that i started babysitting for them i had my period and i just told them that i left my bathing suite at my friends house. then when i finally brought my bathing suite they we werent evan able to go in the pool cos it was really cold. well i have my period right now, and im really afriad to use a tampon. like idn im very squimish and stuff and i dont even wanna swim the first time i wear a tampon cos i dont know how comfortable ill be. so i was just wondering if i wore a pad under and shorts, would anything happen? like i know ill have a lot of discomfort but the kids really want me to swim and i feel bad you know

I wouldn't suggest that. Pads were not made to go into the water and after only seconds of being in the water you would find yourself in a rather uncomfortable position. The pad would soak up a large amount of water and you would not be able to take the pad off without walking through the house, dripping water from the pad everywhere. I understand that you are uncomfortable with tampons, but they are designed to be worn in the water. Have a close female friend or your mother help you out the first couple of times. When they are in properly, you don't even notice them.

Q: what's the grudge girl's real name?

Which girl? Sarah Michelle Gellar?
Go to imdb
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0391198/
if you think I have the wrong person

http://www.thebiglug.com/images/grudge_large.gif
Her Real Name is Yoko Maki

Q: 15/f
i have a tongue condition called geographic tounge and its pretty bad because i get painful red patches in my mouth and sometimes i'm very self concious of it.

so tommorow i'm prob going to the movies with this guy and hes probably going to try to makeout with me. i'm scared his tounge is going to feel one of the patches and get freaked out so i've been trying to do EVERYTHING i can to shrink them and make them go away by tommorow.

PLEASE ANSWER IF ANYONE KNOWS ANY HOME TREATMENTS

I doubt the young man will notice, but if he does, just tell him about geographic tongue. According to the mayo clinic there are no at home treatments for geographic tongue, which I'm sure your doctor probably already told you. However, it may be helpful to eliminate hot, spicy, and acidic foods from your diet. If you smoke or drink alcoholic beverages you should eliminate those from your diet and avoid toothpastes containing whitening agents, tartar control additives, and heavy flavoring.

Q: This is a bit random but is it ok to chew gum? I dont mean instead of a meal but between meals and etc.

Im wondering because since they're sugar-free they have sucralose (sp) and aspartame in them. I have heard both good and bad things about those sweetners. Is it ok for your health to chew 1-2 pieces a day (like Orbit), they wont make you gain weight or anything?

Thanks in advanced.

1 to 2 pieces won't harm you. As to your sweetner concerns, here's the deal:
Sucralose (Splenda) is FDA approved and harmless
Aspartame is on the edge of FDA approval because it causes serious headache and migraine issues in a great many people.
Alcohol Sugars (Xylitol) are FDA approved but they are still sugars. If you are on a strict sugar free diet, foods containing alcohol sugars are not for you.

Q: Okay, I've been living with my seeing things and a slight fear of the dark and almost any noise you could possibly imagine for the last few years. Lately though, it's getting worse and my paranoia has reached amazing levels, I also tend to be more aggressive about it. I've talked to my friends James, Casey, and Travis about it. Travis & Casey know alot about mental disorders and suggested that I am schizophrenic. Lately it's all getting worse. I'm frightened all the time, of almost everything, and not just at night either. Someone give me some advice? Anything would help. Thank you so much.

-15/f

Schizophrenia is rare in people of your age. Age of onset is usually young adulthood, ages 18 to 23. Talk to your family doctor about it, and if he/ she has any suggestions on a good psychiatrist you can see. A psychiatrist will be able to accurately diagnose you. It is more likely that you have paranoia than that you have schizophrenia.

Q: 16/f

How big of a chance do I have of getting pregnant considering I had sex the day before my expected period? Like, I had sex last night, but he didnt go but theres still pre-cum, but whats the chance of me being pregnant? I usually get my period between the 20-23 of every month, so far I haven't gotten it and I know I can't be pregnant that soon. So what are my chances?

Truthfully, it's pretty unlikely that you are pregnant. While fertilization can occur from pre- come, it is less likely than from ejaculation. Additionally, ovulation typically occurs two weeks prior to your period, so you may not even have an egg there to fertilize. Wait two weeks from the date you expect to have your period. If you still do not have it, take a pregnancy test. Taking a pregnancy test the first time you urinate after sex (as suggested before me) is a waste of your money and a test. The hormone the test is designed to detect does not have enough time to build up in your body using that method. Waiting two weeks after your expected period allows enough time for this hormone to build up in your system if you are pregnant.