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ok, well i'm an 8th grade girl and i really like this 7th grade guy, and he asked me out and i said yes, but i'm wondering if that's weird or not.. idk, i'm just confused, please help me!
~mandy (link)
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Well, a lot of people might think it's weird, but it's not. YOu have feelings for this guy. It's no big deal.. What's the difference if the guy's your age or older? It could be a maturity thing, but there are other guys who are really mature for their age..
So, just follow your heart.. your instinct.. If you really like him, go for it, by all means!! ^____^
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ok well im goung out with this guy but his name wont be reavealed and well he went to this party last nite and he told me before he went that he wants me to kno that he loves me and that no matter wat happens to remember that and i told him i would and today i find out from his sister who also was at the party with him that she had walked in on him and another gurl last nite and im not shurr if he was drunk or not and i juss found this out a few minutes ago and well i dont kno wat to do becuz i dont want to dump him becuz i love him so much but at the same time im not shurr if i can trust him as much as i did becuz of wat he did becuz im not always going to be there to prevent these things from happening and i've never loved anyone as much as i love him and it hurts so much i've never been so upset in my life im more upset now than when my own grandfather died and its creepy becuz i've previously stopped cutting myself and now i keep getting the urge to do drugs again and to cut myself again and i dont want to go bak to doing that but a part of me thinks thats the only way to make myself stop thinking about him but i dont want to stop loving him but a part of me wants to and it's all jus to confusing and frustrating and i need your help becuz i also dont want to try and kill myself like i have done about 5 times plz help me through this!!!!!! (link)
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There are other things that you can do to occupy yourself other than drugs and cutting yourself. *I want to say that doing drugs isn't pleasurable, but I know it is, from research.* Although it is difficult, you must try to look at the bigger picture of things.. If you do drugs, a lot of bad things will soon follow and will shorten your life. *I'm sure these things have been said before, but I really want to emphasize the point.*
Try to engage in other hobbies... Who knows? YOu might discover something you will ultimately enjoy for life! ^___^
If your boyfriend was just talking to the girl, then there might be nothing there at all. But if it's the other...
Well, you should try to talk to him. If you sense that he really doesn't love you as much as you think he does, dump him. *I hope I don't sound too haarsh.*
I'm just curious if you can really love him, if you don't trust him. Or you're not sure if you can trust him..
Basically, trust your feelings. But try to do other things. Don't base your whole life on him, coz if you lose him, then you will feel like you lost everything. Try to loosen your reins on him a bit. Maybe you're depending too much on him. Try other activities. Have fun! If he really cares for you *Let's say you confronted him, and he knows tht you know* , he will go after you. If you always go after him, he might enjoy that and be spending time with other girls so you'll act that way with him...
If you need to talk more, or my advice is a bit vague or if there is any problem at all, drop me a note and we can chat.. ^__^
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ok, heres my problem. im in 7th grade (13 years old). ive gone out with the same guy three times in the past two years, and everyone thinks thats really weird. ive had other boyfriends, of course, but he was always the best. no matter how hard we try, everytime either of us gets a crush on someone else, it only lasts for a couple of weeks, then we realize how much we love each other. i think theyre really might be something between us, but i would feel SO embarrased to get back together with him because everyone at my school would think it odd for it to be the 4th time to go out with him in 2 years!!! but then again, i dont want to loose what i have... hes a REALLY awesome guy! hes a good football player, and hes really hot, but also he has another artsy side to him. he can find beauty in almost anything and aif your in a bad mood, he makes you feel like youre the most amazing person on the planet. so what should i do? i rate good responses. (link)
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Honestly, I think that if you feel that strongly for him, then you shouldn't question your actions. Follow your heart!
I'm curious, though, if you really think it's a big deal about your friends thinking you weird.. I know how easy it is to say "Just go do it!" but much harder to actually do it, since a lot of things are involved. If your friends' opinion of you change because of the action you took, then you can question if they really are your friends. I think they should respect you and your choices...
I mean, half of the school probably don't know you and you don't know them, so it won't really be that big a deal if they think poorly of you, since you don't even talk. Their opinions shouldn't matter much to you at all...
If you also have a lot of strong feelings, maybe you and him should pursue a more long-time relationship, as opposed to the on-again, off-again relationship you currently have..
If you can give me more details, maybe I can help you better...
ANyway, if you want, drop me a line.. ^___^
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My boyfriend told this girl that i hate that one of her friends is hott and hes denying it but i know he said it cause he always says stuff like that what shold i say or do help!!
from Jess (link)
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If it's normal for your boyfriend to do this, you should tell him that it bothers you... If he usually says it, are you only bothered because he said it to the girl you hate? Or are you really bothered by that particular trait of his?
SOme might actually think it's normal, since boys think a lot of girls are hot, but don't really like them for a girlfriend or something..
It could just be a physical thing... I mean, my friend's boyfriend says that "this girl is really good looking" and my friend doesn't mind because she knows that they're in love..
If you feel secure about your relationship with him, then there is no need to worry, but if you think his comment could mean something more, you should definitely talk to him about it..
Also, if he lied about that, then he could be lying about a lot of things, so you could watch out...
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Well i used to dance when i was 4-7 but then i quit because of the teacher who used to pick on me. I REALLY wanna' dance, i might become a perfessional dancer if i will make it.. But i think its too late to start dancing? What is the best group to start if i start now and want to be a hip-hop dancer? Do i start hip-hop straight away or ballet or what? I'm so cunfussed plus mum thinks its a 5 minute thing for me.. she is like "No your go for 5 minutes and want to quit!" just because i done that will girl scouts, art club and other clubs but i know i want this.. I want it bad but she dont believe me! How can i make her believe me that i want it!!
Please answer my 2 or 3 questions i rate ***** 5 ***** (link)
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It's never too late to start to dance, especially if you had experience already. It depends on what kind of dance you're especially attracted to. What you're interested in, that is. Or, if you like every single form of dance, you might want to pick one that you're already familiar with.. ^__^
Or, you can incorporate dance with your other hobbies or interests.. For example, you like martial arts, there's a kind that's like dance martial arts *Capuera, or something.. Sorry, I forgot the spelling.. ^__^;*
If you want hip-hop, you can check it out first and see if it really is your style and maybe try it out a few times.. Or, if you feel a bit uncomfortable with hip hop right away, you can restart on your previous dance lessons..
There are some teachers that believe some combinations don't mix. I used to do ballet, then I did Jazz and Fad, but they usually discouraged it for some reason.. SO maybe you can try to search the net or something.. ^__^
You can try to prove your mom wrong by committing to more responsiblities or just doing little things to prove that you are getting more responsible... The little count, coz they add up to something much bigger..
Much luck and continue your passion.. It's a really nice one.. *I speak from experience.. ^_^*
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hey! im doing a project for school and i need to collect some data about things some teens do that they realy dont want to just to fit in. if u could tell me all the things that u did just to fit in, it would help. thanx
ps: annyone who ansers will get a 5 rateing unless they r joking or being rood or whatever (link)
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-Well, I didn't do this, but a close friend of mine took *and still takes* brain pills and overdoses himself on purpose because in our school, it's kinda cool to be smart.. *which, i know is weird*
-change attitude
-change looks
-go on crash diets
-diss other people to be in the "in crowd"
-ignore old "uncool" friends
-smoke
-sex
-cheat
-have gfs/bfs to be cool
Note: Most of these things I didn't do, but a few of my friends did *and they told me.. ^__^;; *
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A few days ago this guy (guy A I think...) called me and asked me out. I said yes and I knew he'd liked me for ages. But I haven't told that many people about me and this guy. But I have this male friend (Guy B!!) and his sister says he really likes me. I was at his house the other day and she was making jokes, so I very quietly told her about me and guy A and asked her to stop with the jokes. She was really shocked and kept saying "But 'B' really likes you!" and everything. Now she is accusing me of leading him on because I haven't told him about guy A. I don't want to lose any of their friendship, and I don't want to lose my boyfriend!
What should I do? (link)
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Well, I don't think you were leading GUy B on, since you don't like him as more than a friend *if my opinion counts at all ..^__^* You had your personal reasons for not telling a lot of people about you and Guy A and Guy B's sister should respect that..
You just have to try to set Guy B straight as to whom you really like... Try to tell him that you really do value your friendship...
Oh, and good luck to your relationship with GUy A.. ^___^
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I rate ***** 5 *****
Well dont laugh but i want to be a dolphin trainner/And move to america/I live in the uk right and was gonna' move to florida last year but begged mum not to because my of my life back here. When i am older id like to be a dolphin trainner.
But to be that i need to study and learn about them and other things. I have no clue what i need to learn though.. anyone can tell me like what i need to study?
Then in grade 8 i need to pick my subjects that i have to do coursework on.. well i dont know what subjects will get me to being a dolphin trainner or even an author..?
So any help and i rate ***** 5 *****
lush me x (link)
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Actually, I think that being a dolphin trainer is a cool profession.. ^___^ *Reminds me of Ian from Survivor Palau*
Anyway, like the others said, I suggest the course of marine biology.. You'd definitely have to do well in subjects like biology and such.. Sometimes, the school looks at your middle school and definitely the high school records, and it wouldn't hurt to be good at the other subjects, too..
Research in the net and the library about the subject will also help. Maybe you'd also like to check out colleges and universities and their tuition costs and stuff, to see if you need to save money or whatever..
As for the author thing, just try to keep on writing. Believe me, sometimes you just feel as if you suck worse and worse, but in reality, you're becoming better, you just don't realize it.. ANd don't quit. IN writing *and a lot of other things*, some part of it will not be easy, but it will just help you develop your skills more. If you want people's opinions, you can either let your friends read, or publish it in the school paper or have other objective people read it..
Let me know if I can help! ^___^
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I RATE 5'S!
***** 5 *****
Well since grade 4 i have been writing books.. yah not long ones that i complete most the time i dont finish them and go onto a next book lool..
Well time i really do want to write and complete a book.. and get it published.
Any tips? I'm into reality writing like teen books, based a bit older than jaqueling wilson and like louise renninson.
How can i make characters base round my friends but not exactly like them etc.
I might write it on my life atm becuase its interesting actually...
I'm a good fan of cathy hopkins and any1 have any tips to write like her?
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AND -- any tips to keep me going and keep writing??
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Any good UK publishers for young people to publish there books?
THANKS I RATE***** 5'S ******* (link)
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Hey! What's up? I'm also a writer and I'm still a teen.
ONe thing my brother always tells me is: "Writing and writing is good, but an unfinished book is like nothing at all. It is not worth anything."
He is actually right. I mean, who wants to read a book that's hanging?
SOme advice I can give is to divide the story into scenes, don't make it too planned and detailed *for you'll feel as if the story's been told and your interest will wane..*, don't make it too vague coz you won't know where you're going. you may even go off track already! Push yourself to write! Try to force yourself, even when you feel like you're at a loss. Let your characters lead you. Sometimes, that's what I do. New twists and turns come up because the character just tells me that he or she wants to do this and has to do it... So, there may be conflict and such, that will add to the plot.. ^___^
whatever works for you... Some of the things may actually not work for some authors while some do..
As for the character thing, well, first off, you can change their names. Second, you can base your characters on some of their personalities, but not 100%.. Just plant maybe 1 or two things that are really distinct about them. That way, you can write about them but it won't really be them, if you get my drift..
As for the other questions, I'm sorry, but I can't provide any satisfactory answers.. :(
I hope, though, that I've helped a bit.. ^____^ GOod luck!
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this girl named bethany has asked me to borrow my clothes, come over to my house, go to the movies, the mall and suddenly im her friend. i dont have a problem with it but i was on a 3 way call with my friend monique and bethany was on to only she didnt kno i was on. I had to get off the phone because my brother had to use it. I called monique back and asked her what bethany said. Monique said that everything she said about me in the conversation was a lie. ( the things were all good things about me) and now i just hate her im going to talk to her tomorrow i dont kno if i should trust her or when i confront her shes just going to lie. PLEESE HELP!! (link)
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Well, try not to judge her. Maybe in her eyes, the things that she mentioned about you were actually true. *Unless you're absolutely sure that they aren't true*
With the conversation you heard when you were still on the phone, was she lying then?
How much do you trust Monique that you're so sure that she's telling the truth? Maybe, she isn't. *Then again, I'm not that sure since I don't know your situation.*
For the time being, don't trust her. Try to confront her first. If she can explain it, it's all well and good. If she can't, drop me a line or something if you want to talk more! ^__^
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Ok im sorry if it long but I just dont know what to do.
I met this girl (Sarah) she waas new in the beggning of the year. We turned out to be best friends. We did everytihng sleepovers, movies mall everything. All along there was this girl(Julie) who for some reason really badly wanted me to just leave so she could move in and take my spot as bff with Sarah. Ok so i ahd to miss school for 6 days right b4 april vacation. When i came back i saw SArah i nthe hall and expected a OMG YOUR BACK and stuff but she ignored me wehn i ran up to her to say hello. I was shocked!The hole week Sarah woyld leave Julies side. SArah would talk about hoe she hated the wa JUlies makep was and know she wearing it the same way. THat left me with no one, i eventually started to hang out with other people but still miss SArah as a friend ot talk to and hang around with. She not the same. I dont no what happend during those 6 days. Now about 2 or 3 months later whe ni tohught evrything would pass it didnt. I know it been a long time but i dont know.
Sorry its soo long
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Well, first, I think you should talk to her. Ignoring her like there was nothing wrong will not solve anything. It will just make you miss her more since there's more time for you to dwell on your friendship.
Maybe you should try to make it a threesome with Sarah and Julie. I mean, it might turn out that you and Julie have a lot in common, so you might really hit it off. Also, you can spend time with Sarah besides.
If that doesn't work, I really think you should talk to her. If she doesn't talk to you, then it might mean that your whole friendship didn't mean as much to you as it did to her.
If you won't try to change the situation you're in, you might regret it. It's not necessarily your fault, but you'd still blame yourself, thinking again and again, "What could I have done to change this?"
If nothing works, and you've tried your very best, then she's not worth it. YOu might have fun with her but trust me, you'll have more fun with other people who like you for who you are and not just because they can't find another friend. You'd enjoy someone who chose you for you, and not because she had no other friend for the time being.
Hope everything works out!
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ok im having my sweet 16 in a couple of months. I made my guest list and came up with about 40 - 44 girls and only about 33 guys. I want to kind of make it a ratio but i dont want to invite just anyone so its even! my one friend invited a bunch of people to her party and some threw the invites on the floor. i dont want to be dissed..but at the same time i kind of want it even. SHould i leave my list as it is..invite more guys...any experiecnes where guys to girls wasnt even but the party was still good? (link)
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As the others said, it's no big deal if the ratio of boys and girls aren't even.. Why do you want to make it an even ratio? I mean, I've been to tons of parties that don't have an even ratio.. Heck, there even was a party that I went to that had the ratio of 2:1.. That's girl:boy. It was still fun, though.. ^__^
So, relax. Everything can't be planned out. THere might be something that will go wrong, but at least you tried your best. Well, at least you'll have a fun sweet sixteen with the friends you like and all your other loved ones.
Even if they really think that the ratio is important, if they're your friends, they will put it aside for the night..
Also, like the others said, some might not come. Others might want to being friends... Maybe you can try to let them RSVP if they're coming..
GOod luck to ya! ^_____^
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somehow, a friend of mine found out that my best friend and i and two other guys were going somewhere next week and she invited herself to the double date and already told her date. i cant just not invite her because she is a good friend of mine nad i don't want to be mean, but i want it just to be the four of us. what do i do? what do i tell her? (link)
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Like the others said, you should tell her. If she really is your friend, she will understand. She and her date can probably find something else to do. You can suggest another time or place that the six of you can get together or maybe just you and her with your dates.. Whichever works..
Hope you get everything straightened out!
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I babysit for an hour and a half everyday.
Lucky me, I get the hours when the youngest baby wants to go to sleep more.
The parents keep asking me to try and keep her awake till they come home cause if not she won't sleep at night.
I always fail and she always ends up falling asleep then the parents have trouble getting her back to sleep in the middle of the night.
So I need tips on keeping her awake. She's 8 months old. Don't just say ''Play with her'' because I keep trying but she just crys then I pick her up and she falls asleep.
Oh and I also babysit her sister who is 3 years old so anything that they could both do would be good, I don't want to leave any of them out.
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I'm currently guessing that talking to the parents won't work. So, why don't you try field trips of some sort.. Walking the baby with her sister or something.. Also, you can try to find out things the baby find amusing.. You never know. I mean, to some, leaves might be totally interesting while others might get upset at it...
Like the previous poster said, babies should sleep at that age and forcing her to stay up might stifle her growth... If you really can't find a way to let her stay up, maybe you should ask some suggestions from her parents. They should know what things she might find interesting.. ^__^
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